FabSwingers.com forum: Can you sleep with a friend without having sex?

By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?

I have never had issues sleeping next to friends and havent had sex with them unless it was with a sex friend where you know that it can happen, but with vanilla friends it have never happen, because we have the same intent that nothing will happen, sure you might have wet dreams about it, just because people are sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed doesnt mean they are interested to have sex with each other too

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By *ude LawMan
13 weeks ago

Harrogate

Yes but why would you want to?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes and have many times

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By *eliWoman
13 weeks ago

I've never had a wet dream about it but yes, lots of times I've shared a bed with a friend and nothing has happened.

Even done it with a sex friend and we managed to not do sex. Go us.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

It’s called restraint and respect

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Most married couples do it every night

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I just about put up with sleeping next to someone I have had sex with, I ain't doing it for no reason.

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By *uvs2snogMan
13 weeks ago

Now living in Spain - Vistabella

Yes no problem

Years ago when I was about 20 my brother and I lived together in a 2 bedroom house - one of his female friends was having issues at home and so moved in with us - initially she slept in my brothers bed but after a few months he started seeing someone ( who wasn’t happy with the arrangement) and so she moved into my room - we shared a bed for over a year with no sexual relationship

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By *iceboy200Man
13 weeks ago

east ham

Totally respect

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By *eformed_CharactersCouple
13 weeks ago

round and about

Yeah ive shared a bed with a friend a few times, we don't fancy each other so ...

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
13 weeks ago

Kent/London/Greater London

"Yes no problem

Wow ......That's Amazing......"We shared a bed for over a year with no sexual relationship" 👍 Go You ✌️

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Yes no problem

Great practice for married life

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By *ou only live onceMan
13 weeks ago

London

Is this a trick question? I can do this, but didn't realise it might be considered an achievement.

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By *ellinever70Woman
13 weeks ago

Ayrshire

There are no circumstances where I'd be sharing a bed with a male friend

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By *ceKweenWoman
13 weeks ago

Bolton

Yes… all down to situation and/or boundaries

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I've never had a wet dream about it but yes, lots of times I've shared a bed with a friend and nothing has happened.

Even done it with a sex friend and we managed to not do sex. Go us."
Hi _eli, that is good you have shared a bed with a friend and nothing happened too

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By *ripfillMan
13 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Yes no problem providing a cuddle is ok !

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I went on holiday last year with a female friend and we shared a hotel room & bed. We managed not to have sex but at one point in the middle of the night found ourselves spooning

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes but I’m not 5 anymore, none of that top and tails shit, if you’re uncomfortable with it be an adult and put pillows down middle, or sleep on the sofa.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yes and have many times "
That is good

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By *estructionDollyWoman
13 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Yes, quite easily. I have self control 😂

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"Yes, quite easily. I have self control 😂"

I have very tight underpants

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By *ornucopiaMan
13 weeks ago

Bexley

"Yes but I’m not 5 anymore, none of that top and tails shit, if you’re uncomfortable with it be an adult and put pillows down middle, or sleep on the sofa. "

This is making me think of another dicussion going on about making a sausage barrier to keep baked beans away from your scrambled eggs!

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By *bitransTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Of course

It's just more fun if you do

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
13 weeks ago

Niche

Tbh I don't think there would ever be a reason for me to need to but also, I don't think I would want to. Family yes, any day. Certain girlfriends also yes. Guy friends? No.

I have my boundaries on personal space and intimacy that have nothing to do with sex/prude or discipline/respect type things and everything to do with trust/trauma.

I'd not sleep a wink.

Sidenote to say, I can't understand how people on here can bunk up at events with the opposite sex or sane sex just to save money. Trusting their personal and sexual safety, their wallet, their everything to a stranger. And they are a stranger. Everyone on here is quite possibly lying through their teeth on everything they post/share.

Some post tales of waking up to find themselves in the middle of a 3some that they didn't consent to.

Wake up the next day to an empty room and money, keys, car gone. What would you be putting on the insurance claim form 🤔 👀

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By *umlover30sWoman
13 weeks ago

Burgess Hill

Of course! Have shared a bed many times with males and females and not had a burning desire to have sex with them x

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes. It's never been an issue.

Unless I wake up to find them riding my cock and then saying I obviously wanted it because I was hard.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Central

It's always been very normal for me to share a bed and not have sex, with people who are just friends.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
13 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

"Yes. It's never been an issue.

Unless I wake up to find them riding my cock and then saying I obviously wanted it because I was hard."

Yikes!!

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
13 weeks ago

your head

Yep! I have loads of friends I don't have sex with. I've never felt an overwhelming urge to jump their bones just because we share a bed. It's really not hard.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
13 weeks ago

North West

It baffles me that this is even a question! Am I in control enough of my libido that I can share a bed without needing to have sex? You betcha, and I'd say it's a fucking low bar.

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"Yep! I have loads of friends I don't have sex with. I've never felt an overwhelming urge to jump their bones just because we share a bed. It's really not hard. "

Exactly. If it's not hard there's no issue.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
13 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

…who do you want to add to your ‘friends’ list op? 😏

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By *hoenix_1Man
13 weeks ago

richmond

Often, with both sexes

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Yes. It's never been an issue.

Unless I wake up to find them riding my cock and then saying I obviously wanted it because I was hard.

Yikes!!

Arousal non-concordance. As I can have freeze response - It's something I have to consider. Sleeping with someone is relatively easy. Sexual dynamics where I relinquish power - that takes a bit of a deeper understanding with a partner.

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
13 weeks ago

Voldsøy

I don't fancy my friends and vice versa, (fwb's not included) so it'd be super easy.

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By *otsossieMan
13 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"It baffles me that this is even a question! "

Yup

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
13 weeks ago

your head

"It baffles me that this is even a question!

Yup"

Same

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By *oelMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?

Yes, you can do anything or not to anything. Folks have self control, and do what is agreed and wanted. It's ok to have a friend, and yes i can sleep by a friend just fine

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By *Silver-Man
13 weeks ago

North Wales

Absolutely, done it many times, we do cuddle though but thats it

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By *icolerobbieCouple
13 weeks ago

walsall

I’d accidentally roll over and cop a feel of his cock and balls. Of course this would be accidental, I wouldn’t intentionally grope him.

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman
13 weeks ago

Cork

I have slept in beds with male and female friends and not had sex with them, there friends not lovers

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By *ykesMan
13 weeks ago

sittingbourne

Yep. Done this loads of times. Friends are exactly that, friends not lovers

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"I’d accidentally roll over and cop a feel of his cock and balls. Of course this would be accidental, I wouldn’t intentionally grope him. "

Fancy a sleepover?

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
13 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yes, I've done it many times and not had sex with them.

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By *43SomeCouple
13 weeks ago

Staines

Would love a FWB’s but yes, I could easily sleep and cuddle someone without sex. So long as they didn’t smell 🤣

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By *oughmanMan
13 weeks ago

Sunderland

Yeah, it wouldn't be a problem for me. I tend to sleep naked though, so that might cause an issue.

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By *ucka39Man
13 weeks ago

Newcastle

Sure, it can't be any different with sleeping with your other half and not getting any

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

If you can't then you've some control issues.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
13 weeks ago

cardiff

I have never found myself to be in a situation where I have had to share a bed with a male friend, nor can I think of one where I would need to.

My female friends, a fair bit as we holiday together, and they are just that, friends.

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By *P_80Man
13 weeks ago

Waterford

If they're my friend then that means there's no attraction there, so yeah. No problem.

And even if I wanted to, she'd have to want to as well. If that's the case then you're more than friends.

The question is worded in a way that may suggest that the friend doesn't get to say no.

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
13 weeks ago

Always on the move

Like lie down and go to sleep? Why would you not be able to do that with a friend? Regardless of gender?

I think it's been said above, if a person can't, they have some serious self control issues

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By *arolTVTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Norwich

Have a female friend who i have slept with loads of times but never had sex, seen each other naked but never touched, still one of my best friends.

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By *r Bond.Man
13 weeks ago

Moving Around the Midlands

Yes, have done it many times

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
13 weeks ago

Midlands

"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?

Yes I could no problem at all

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?

Yes I could no problem at all

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Hi inquisitivelady, that is good you can do it too

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yes, have done it many times "
That is good

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By *ig1gaz1Man
13 weeks ago

bradford

yes

and with this i have also found some interesting things as well

some will snuggle up to you

some will have there arm over you

but most pinch the blanket

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yes, quite easily. I have self control 😂"
Hi kinkyycurvyy, that is good you have self control too

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By *cottish guy 555Man
13 weeks ago

London

Yep.

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
13 weeks ago

East Sussex

How is this even a question I share a bed with friends loads. It’s possible to be friends with people and not want sex with them

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By *pringbok95Couple
13 weeks ago

Limavady

Yes loads of times I've slept with friends. I had a circle of friends growing up most of them guys. We would stay over at each others house or go camping never thought anything off it. They always slept in there boxers I'd sleep with just my t-shirt.

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By *vonne5exMan
13 weeks ago

Doncaster

Done it loads of times

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
13 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

Yip, went on holiday in feb and shared a bed with my friend… zero happened.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Many times, both male and female

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By *es not the MessiahMan
13 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Depends on if she spoons me and wiggles her butt

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Scarborough

Slept with my sister law l a few times after my wife passed away. It was more mutual support as we were both devastated

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By *tsJustKateWoman
13 weeks ago

London

"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?

Not been able to so far.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Many times, both male and female"
Hi diamondsmiles, that is good you have done it many times, both with male and female too

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By *ools1964Man
13 weeks ago

Swadlincote

Yes, & I have done it a few times

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By *earPaul81Man
13 weeks ago

LIVERPOOL

Yes slept with a friend who in my teens i had a mega crush on, dunno why she wanted to sleep together, when there was a spear be but she did, I was fine with it.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yes, I've done it many times and not had sex with them. "
Hi pollypocket, that is good you have done it many times and not had sex with them

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By *viatrixWoman
13 weeks ago

Redhill

Of course.

I was a permanent resident of the Friendzone when I was younger, so slept with so many men- and yes, only slept.

I was one of the geeky, nerdy computer science/engineering student lads 😂😂😂 we’d stay up all night playing Magic: The Gathering or on MUDs … zero alcohol of course.

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By *mwirralMan
13 weeks ago

surrey

"Of course.

I was a permanent resident of the Friendzone when I was younger, so slept with so many men- and yes, only slept.

I was one of the geeky, nerdy computer science/engineering student lads 😂😂😂 we’d stay up all night playing Magic: The Gathering or on MUDs … zero alcohol of course. "

Love a geek 🤓

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By *orkmanlookingMan
13 weeks ago

York

Depends on the friend

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
13 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yip, went on holiday in feb and shared a bed with my friend… zero happened. "
Hi _ositivevibes, that is good you shared a bed with a friend your nothing happened too

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Yup.

I can sleep with my partners without having sex too 💜

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
13 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Get married op, and you’ll sleep next to a woman like that most nights.

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By *orphia2003Woman
13 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Yes, I can and have done countless times. I've cuddled and snogged friends when we have been virtually naked and it's not led to sex.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
13 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Yes of course

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By *ete hMan
13 weeks ago

Penzance

I do quite regularly tbh. Our friendship started as quite sexual so we've done stuff before, but I quite regularly stay at her's now and we'll just share a bed and cuddle but nothing more. It's nice, it's about comfort and companionship and if anything more we're obvs both cool with it but there's no kinda pressure or anything on it like that. It's genuinely really nice 🙂

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By *hat.coupleCouple
13 weeks ago

Kent

Yep! Next question?

Mrs x

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