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By *awyer2025 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

How can I stand out on Fab if I don’t like sending graphic pictures and sending generic messages, I understand sending personal messages should get attention, but in my experience they don’t tend to, so what is the secret?

Any advice would be really appreciated, as would the secret sauce

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

You’ve not asked for profile advice so can’t give it

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
13 weeks ago

land of overweight munters


"You’ve not asked for profile advice so can’t give it "

Damn you beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I don’t know many people who like graphic pictures with early stage messages. Just be yourself and you’ll eventually find likeminded folks who are interested in you

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By *ude LawMan
13 weeks ago

Harrogate

You should rap more now than you do.

Always helps me - it might help you.

And when you've gained your shaggin' crew

There'll be no need to say boo hoo.

Word.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
13 weeks ago

North West

I automatically delete all messages from a silhouette profile. I don't imagine I'm alone in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"You’ve not asked for profile advice so can’t give it

Damn you beat me to it"

Quick draw Magraw

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Wear a hi viz

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
13 weeks ago

Stoke

Op you have a silhouette profile 🤦‍♂️

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By *awyer2025 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

Did I have to say “Simon Says” before I get profile advice?

Any advice will do either general or profile, I am hoping for sage wisdom.

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By *awyer2025 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

Is that a bad start? What is acceptable whilst also being discreet?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"You’ve not asked for profile advice so can’t give it

Damn you beat me to it"

You can if its relevant to the question asked by an OP, which in this case it would be.

You don't stand out necessarily via the messages and photos you send, you stand out by how you construct your profile. Like any advertising you want to do the best job possible to appeal to your target market.

But it has to be real and about you, not cobbled together based on feedback of others.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

Target only the ones who fit what you are looking for and you fit their criteria. This should be common sense but from most of my messages men think they can talk me around. They can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"How can I stand out on Fab if I don’t like sending graphic pictures and sending generic messages, I understand sending personal messages should get attention, but in my experience they don’t tend to, so what is the secret?

Any advice would be really appreciated, as would the secret sauce

"

Some of the best profiles on here don’t have any graphic photos men women and couples

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By *vaRoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

OP

What makes you message someone? I’m going to bet it’s a combination of both their profile bio and their photos.

For attraction to be reciprocal you need to offer the same back. I’m not suggesting you put your face in your public gallery but for the majority of people they won’t recognise a tasteful teasing body shot, or some nice clothed pics from the neck down with a blank wall behind you.

A message from silhouette profile is generally going to end up being deleted without even being read, especially if there are no public photos.

Your bio also doesn’t really tell me much. It doesn’t tell me what you’re looking for or what you bring to the table. It’s generic, boring and frankly stale.

I understand you value discretion, and if photos and filling in your bio about yourself are hard limits I think you’re going to struggle here.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
13 weeks ago

scunthorpe

I think a profile picture is a must for a lot of people to even open a message.

Also, a selection of pictures for people to see a bit about you would help too. They don’t need to be graphic or of your face. Tasteful pictures can work wonders.

Donna

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By *oiluvfunMan
13 weeks ago

Penrith


"How can I stand out on Fab if I don’t like sending graphic pictures and sending generic messages, I understand sending personal messages should get attention, but in my experience they don’t tend to, so what is the secret?

Any advice would be really appreciated, as would the secret sauce

The ‘Secret Sauce’……….

Grow some tits! Your inbox will overfloweth soon after.

So long as you post some titty pics…..

"

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By *awyer2025 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Tamworth


"OP

What makes you message someone? I’m going to bet it’s a combination of both their profile bio and their photos.

For attraction to be reciprocal you need to offer the same back. I’m not suggesting you put your face in your public gallery but for the majority of people they won’t recognise a tasteful teasing body shot, or some nice clothed pics from the neck down with a blank wall behind you.

A message from silhouette profile is generally going to end up being deleted without even being read, especially if there are no public photos.

Your bio also doesn’t really tell me much. It doesn’t tell me what you’re looking for or what you bring to the table. It’s generic, boring and frankly stale.

I understand you value discretion, and if photos and filling in your bio about yourself are hard limits I think you’re going to struggle here. "

Thanks for the pointers, any good examples of profiles that stand out?

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By *awyer2025 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Tamworth


"I think a profile picture is a must for a lot of people to even open a message.

Also, a selection of pictures for people to see a bit about you would help too. They don’t need to be graphic or of your face. Tasteful pictures can work wonders.

Donna "

Thanks Donna, that is helpful

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By *awyer2025 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Tamworth


"How can I stand out on Fab if I don’t like sending graphic pictures and sending generic messages, I understand sending personal messages should get attention, but in my experience they don’t tend to, so what is the secret?

Any advice would be really appreciated, as would the secret sauce

The ‘Secret Sauce’……….

Grow some tits! Your inbox will overfloweth soon after.

So long as you post some titty pics…..

"

Ha ha, man boobs count?

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

OP my suggestion is that you be you. The best profiles reflect the person they are portraying. There is no right or wrong but in my experience you do need to make sure that you are writing your profile for the person who is reading it and not the person who is writing it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t think you need to stand out to be successful on fab you just need to have a profile that attracts your kind of people.

I think the main photo is a big one because it’s the first thing people see.

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
13 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

OP I'd take a look at the profiles that have posted here, there's allsorts of good things about them

(I like ninja mode

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"OP my suggestion is that you be you. The best profiles reflect the person they are portraying. There is no right or wrong but in my experience you do need to make sure that you are writing your profile for the person who is reading it and not the person who is writing it."

I get what you’re saying, but personally, I think you need to be really confident & authentic and write what you want to write , not what you think somebody might want to hear. But that’s just my opinion I’m drawn to very authentic personal profiles and put off when I senses any kind of formula or mask.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"OP

What makes you message someone? I’m going to bet it’s a combination of both their profile bio and their photos.

For attraction to be reciprocal you need to offer the same back. I’m not suggesting you put your face in your public gallery but for the majority of people they won’t recognise a tasteful teasing body shot, or some nice clothed pics from the neck down with a blank wall behind you.

A message from silhouette profile is generally going to end up being deleted without even being read, especially if there are no public photos.

Your bio also doesn’t really tell me much. It doesn’t tell me what you’re looking for or what you bring to the table. It’s generic, boring and frankly stale.

I understand you value discretion, and if photos and filling in your bio about yourself are hard limits I think you’re going to struggle here. "

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OP, take this ⬆️ advice to heed, print it off and stick it on your fridge using a magnet. That's the best advice.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
13 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

There’s no way to make a message stand out but there are ways to make your profile appear engaging should your message ever prompt a visit.

First bit of advice is don’t be a silhouette.

Second piece - your pictures don’t have to be explicit

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

The best chance of getting a reply op, is by making your profile the best it can be.

As most of us look at that before decide to reply or delete.

The lack of any pics will be reducing your chances, I delete anything from a silhouette.

Even if they attach a pic in a message, it will often get lost, as I don't always look, just in case it's a it's a pic I don't want to see.

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Also as said above, pics don't have to be graphic in nature either.

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By *vaRoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork


"OP

What makes you message someone? I’m going to bet it’s a combination of both their profile bio and their photos.

For attraction to be reciprocal you need to offer the same back. I’m not suggesting you put your face in your public gallery but for the majority of people they won’t recognise a tasteful teasing body shot, or some nice clothed pics from the neck down with a blank wall behind you.

A message from silhouette profile is generally going to end up being deleted without even being read, especially if there are no public photos.

Your bio also doesn’t really tell me much. It doesn’t tell me what you’re looking for or what you bring to the table. It’s generic, boring and frankly stale.

I understand you value discretion, and if photos and filling in your bio about yourself are hard limits I think you’re going to struggle here.

Thanks for the pointers, any good examples of profiles that stand out?"

By all means have a browse of the profiles on this thread but as wellhung says be you. Please be unapologetically, unreservedly you. You want people attracted to the real you not some copied affair from someone else.

My final piece of advice is if your best mate was writing your profile as your wingman…. What would they say?

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"OP my suggestion is that you be you. The best profiles reflect the person they are portraying. There is no right or wrong but in my experience you do need to make sure that you are writing your profile for the person who is reading it and not the person who is writing it.

I get what you’re saying, but personally, I think you need to be really confident & authentic and write what you want to write , not what you think somebody might want to hear. But that’s just my opinion I’m drawn to very authentic personal profiles and put off when I senses any kind of formula or mask."

I feel that’s what I said but

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
13 weeks ago

Altrincham

Have a profile picture of your eyes, works for me 😁

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
13 weeks ago

Beverley

If there was a way to stand out, we would all be doing it. The reality is, if people are browsing profiles they will click on the thumbnail they find attractive

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