FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for a bit of advice

By *S-cardiffians OP Couple
14 weeks ago

cardiff

How do I get my husband interested again?

Seems to have totally lost the desire and lust to play and it’s getting me down xx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
14 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"How do I get my husband interested again?

Seems to have totally lost the desire and lust to play and it’s getting me down xx"

Well talk to for starters.

Maybe have a break from the site for a bit.

And respect his wishes as much as would be expected if it was the other way around.

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By *entlemanJay39Man
14 weeks ago

Northampton

There will always be a reason, as to why this has happened.

Hopefully he will able to communicate that.

Some people do lose that with ages, but from your profile that seems but premature.

Maybe he needs a break from here, if that's his choice, it's probably best to respect that.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Chatham

What has he lost interest in, sex in general or the swinging side?

If it's the swinging side maybe a confidence issue. Dial it back and have a clothes on chat.

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By *viatrixWoman
14 weeks ago

Redhill

Mine lost it completely, as if a switch had been turned off. Sorry you’re going through this.

We had talking, lots of talking. Lots of tears on my behalf. Lots of time and £££ in counselling. Until he reluctantly agreed that I could not be celibate forever. So he knows I am on here. But it’s so hard to actually find someone worthwhile to meet nowadays that I pretty much just use Fab as social media now hahaha 😂😂😂 but I am also hitting menopause so my drive has come down.

People will tell you to “talk about it” you can talk until the cows come home but if they’re mot interested, they’re not interested….

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By *tlanshiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Chatham

Ah, it sounds like this post is from the woman of the couple.

But if the message in my inbox from the OP is anything to go on, it sounds like the man trying to get women who respond to play with him.

The message reads "perhaps you can turn him on for me."

I could be wrong but this website got me jaded.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
14 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Ah, it sounds like this post is from the woman of the couple.

But if the message in my inbox from the OP is anything to go on, it sounds like the man trying to get women who respond to play with him.

The message reads "perhaps you can turn him on for me."

I could be wrong but this website got me jaded.

Oh dear that's not good, let's hope you're wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Maybe the excitement of has worn off as your the one getting all the attention and as your desire for it has gotten stronger he maybe feels your needing others attention more than his

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By *S-cardiffians OP Couple
14 weeks ago

cardiff

"Ah, it sounds like this post is from the woman of the couple.

But if the message in my inbox from the OP is anything to go on, it sounds like the man trying to get women who respond to play with him.

The message reads "perhaps you can turn him on for me."

I could be wrong but this website got me jaded.

I think you seem to have different experiences from this website to me xx

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
14 weeks ago

Next Door

"Mine lost it completely, as if a switch had been turned off. Sorry you’re going through this.

People will tell you to “talk about it” you can talk until the cows come home but if they’re mot interested, they’re not interested…."

I'm the same as you, menopause has killed my sex drive and rarely find anyone now who excites me either nowadays.

I had the same issue with my long term ex partner, we very rarely had sex and talked but nothing helped or changed.

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By *ellinever70Woman
14 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Ah, it sounds like this post is from the woman of the couple.

But if the message in my inbox from the OP is anything to go on, it sounds like the man trying to get women who respond to play with him.

The message reads "perhaps you can turn him on for me."

I could be wrong but this website got me jaded.

That is wholly unsurprising

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

"Mine lost it completely, as if a switch had been turned off. Sorry you’re going through this.

People will tell you to “talk about it” you can talk until the cows come home but if they’re mot interested, they’re not interested….

I'm the same as you, menopause has killed my sex drive and rarely find anyone now who excites me either nowadays.

I had the same issue with my long term ex partner, we very rarely had sex and talked but nothing helped or changed.

Very sad to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

"How do I get my husband interested again?

Seems to have totally lost the desire and lust to play and it’s getting me down xx"

Could be low test?

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
14 weeks ago

Reading

"How do I get my husband interested again?

Seems to have totally lost the desire and lust to play and it’s getting me down xx"

Possibly stress and/or depression.

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By *ik11Man
14 weeks ago

Worcester

Hi OP

May be harmone issue testrone go low nd it's effecting sex desire as well

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By *umagain58Man
14 weeks ago

London

We know couples who have had this issue. Can be many reasons but most important thing is to talk about any issues. We have helped some couples as well and was great to see them get over this. Sadly not all though.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
14 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

When we first started we both agreed that if either one of us wanted to stop we both would, we have reached a point where we have both got fed up and disinterested and I think we are close to calling it a day.

The only thing I'd struggle giving up is the forum but for me that's a non sexual thing.

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By *rHotNottsMan
14 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s not uncommon OP, it’s a rarely talked about but lots of guys in the established relationship lose the desire for sex with their partner, I’ve met lots of them on here & at parties a

D some of my friends and very often they don’t want it with other women either. I don’t understand the reason, but they seem very content without sex, having golf weekends with mates and whatever . Maybe they are just too comfortable and happy and lose that edge.. I would suggest he get his bloods done and take a shot if needed his Mojo might come back. Or maybe you can extreme kink him back into it with something really outrageous.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
14 weeks ago

Ryde

Some people would say that love is the answer, but in these cases, it's not even part of question, as there's no doubt about the strength the relationship.

Depression is a bastard for this, and while there mightn't be anything mechanically wrong, it can effect the sex drive. You have to be careful about just going for anti-depressants, as they can make the problems worse through inhibiting the mechanics themselves.

From experience, it might help get things going if you were to let him do one thing which you might not ordinarily have even considered. We're not talking applying peanut-butter to your unmentionables, getting on all fours, calling in Fido and letting nature take its course, but try out something which is a little risky but (way!) within the law.

I won't mention the play we engaged in, but do something different to shake things up. It's not exactly a revelation, as Cosmo has been banging on about it for decades, but never rule out the power of taboo.

Kindly forgive this waffling crap!!

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By *S-cardiffians OP Couple
14 weeks ago

cardiff

Thanks for all the advice xx

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
14 weeks ago

Okehampton

Zinc deficiency?

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Is it just here that he isn't interested in, fab meets and such? Or sex as a whole?

To be honest fab for me just puts me off more than anything 90% of the time, we aren't meeting at the moment as a couple or singles I'm just not feeling it however me and the husband still enjoy a great sex life.

We've agreed if one of us wasn't into it we'd leave fab, let's face it there's much more to life than fucking strangers.

If he's off the whole sex maybe pop to the gp and get his hormones checked.

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By *issmorganWoman
14 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If he's gone off sex in general, maybe he needs to get checked out by his gp, just to make sure nothing is going on.

If you mean he's lost his mojo for swinging that happens to men and women. Is he stressed, on any medication etc.

I have no desire to meet at all at the min, if my other half wanted to, he has my full blessing to though.

If it's just not wanting to meet others, I think you have to try to be patient and accept that he doesn't want to for now.

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