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By (user no longer on site) OP   
14 weeks ago

Are you guilty of stereotyping someone either by their look, car they drive, job they do or any other reason

I met someone for a social the weekend. They said “for a biker you’re actually really nice and really clean”!!

What does that mean? I thanked them for their comment and said we don’t all roll around in engine oil and if I do then I do have something called swarfega and a shower

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By *eoBloomsMan
14 weeks ago

Springfield

I think almost all of us do it sometimes, even if unconsciously. It actually can be better to recognise this than to believe we never do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I think most people do even if subconsciously.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Yeah I hate to admit it but I think I do this myself, and I think it’s usually based on someone’s appearance or the way they present themselves as a whole and I really shouldn’t as that’s wrong of me to do. But like other people have already said I think subconsciously the majority of people see or hear something about someone and have a preconceived idea about that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

People stereotype themselves, just because you like a certain thing doesn’t mean you need to dress that way to show you like it, you’ll never see me in public camo’d up.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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14 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Yeah I hate to admit it but I think I do this myself, and I think it’s usually based on someone’s appearance or the way they present themselves as a whole and I really shouldn’t as that’s wrong of me to do. But like other people have already said I think subconsciously the majority of people see or hear something about someone and have a preconceived idea about that person."

These days I'm less likely to subconsciously stereotype anyone based on appearance and more likely to make those initial mental thoughts based on what I hear or see them write.

I've seen too many high level professionals and academics covered in ink, riding bikes, at festivals or partying at swingers clubs, and equally some exceptionally well dressed brickies and forces on nights out. The days of being able to second guess someone's job by what they wore and did outside of work are long gone.

Sure, there's still the Stone Island clad stereotypical football hooligan or two knocking back pint after pint of Stella that encourages avoidance on a night out or the fake designer wearing teens on holiday in Magaluf (yep, there's me stereotyping again) that immediately put ideas in your head, but largely there's less 'tribalism' in clothing these days.

But I'll admit openly that words and statements said out loud do create pigeon holes in my head based on life experience and people I already know that share the same opinions and attitudes. That I think is natural human behaviour and in some way an important tool to have - so long as you're open minded enough to adjust initial thoughts where necessary.

It can be a useful filter though in identifying at pace who you wish to devote your time and energy to. If it looks like a duck and acts like a duck, it's likely a duck. It may turn out to be a goose or even a pigeon in disguise, which is fine. But if you really don't like ducks then are you wiser to invest more time seeking out and spending time with other feathered friends? 🤔🤷‍♂️

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By *vaRoseWoman
14 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I think we’re all guilty of it to some degree; we subconsciously carry biases and make assumptions. I do try to check myself when I notice it happening, and I’m always quietly pleased when those assumptions turn out to be wrong in a positive way.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I think it’s inbuilt in us to some degree and we all have types or someone we take an instant dislike too at first glance

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By *ellhungvweMan
14 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"People stereotype themselves, just because you like a certain thing doesn’t mean you need to dress that way to show you like it, you’ll never see me in public camo’d up. "

I agree with this. The reality is that people often end up trying to act out the character they are playing, at least to a degree, whether they know it or not and you can often guess what their initial responses are going to be based on that.

Their subsequent responses might show the real them but you often don’t get that far in most interactions.

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By *rHotNottsMan
14 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

That’s a really horrible comment to be honest. It’s like some of the comments watching Quadrophenia which is based in the 50s and Made in 70s.

I do not, and I resent it when other people constantly say we all do it now we fucking don’t order it. You do it. Speak for yourself, I consciously choose not to judge people by how they look, thier weight, skin color, their background what music they listen to etc

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By *ealitybitesMan
14 weeks ago

Belfast

I've had comments thrown at me on here and in real life about not being a true Irishman because I don't drink at all and never have done.

I'm guilty of stereotyping anyone making those comments as an idiot.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Oh yes, I get stereotyped because of my looks, height (5ft. 4, although I guess women prefer taller men in general) and if I keep my responses straight to the point. The only thing I can control is my looks which is why I’ve invested in the gym before I show myself again on here

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
14 weeks ago

Always on the move

Everyone does it. Whether they admit it or not.

For example, if you drive an Audi, I automatically assume you're a bit of a wanker. It used to be BMWs, but all the wankers seemed to have migrated to Audi

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes, yes I am but I'm a grown up who has been around the block and I know to ignore the stereotype unless they demonstrate that they fit it. There are exceptions such as a hooded figure following me on a dark street. You can be darn sure I'm going to stereotype them and get the hell away.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
14 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

I wrap people up in cliches and stereotypes all the time. Sometimes it’s mostly for humour, but it’s harmless.

I understand probably am judged before someone gets to know me, and I’m fine with that.

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