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By *weet ass ash OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Ashington

Lost count of the amount of timewasters we have had lately! What’s the point in them saying they’re on way to only ghost you at the time they’re meant to arrive! We’ve even had people totally disappear off the site at the time of arrival.

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By *uzzieboyMan
4 weeks ago

taunton

I’ve had my fair share of time waster on here it’s a piss take need a filter to root them out I say OP

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By *weet ass ash OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Ashington


"I’ve had my fair share of time waster on here it’s a piss take need a filter to root them out I say OP "

Honestly,we have one person at least 2 chances and they still didn’t turn up on the third chance!

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By *uzzieboyMan
4 weeks ago

taunton


"I’ve had my fair share of time waster on here it’s a piss take need a filter to root them out I say OP

Honestly,we have one person at least 2 chances and they still didn’t turn up on the third chance!"

Seriously well if I didn’t live so far away I definitely wouldn’t let you down

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By *aomilatteCouple
4 weeks ago

Midlands

According to some people on here there are no timewasters and no f@ke profiles! Though most actual swingers would say different. Our advice would be to go to a club. People have made the effort to get there and are looking for fun, no pointless message ping pong but real players.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

This is why I'd only do a social initially, somewhere like a cafe or bar. Then I can have a coffee or drink, I'd take a book, so if they stand me up, I haven't lost anything.

There are people unfortunately on here, who do seem to get off on messing others around.

Always report them to admin too op.

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By *WANDTGCouple
4 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich


"This is why I'd only do a social initially, somewhere like a cafe or bar. Then I can have a coffee or drink, I'd take a book, so if they stand me up, I haven't lost anything.

There are people unfortunately on here, who do seem to get off on messing others around.

Always report them to admin too op.

"

Totally agree with the above, we always arrange a meet where we can go shopping or dine out afterwards or if there's a no show.

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By *orbidden eastMan
4 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

Unfortunately, people bottle it or just here with the thrill of the chase.

And when it comes down to it, actions speak louder than words

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By *ammerdrillMan
4 weeks ago

bristol

They come in all different ways, couple messaged at the weekend to say Hi and when trying to reply 7 minutes later to their message they decided to block me so couldn’t even reply. Which I thought was all a bit strange and a total waste of time sending a message in the first place.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

I'd definitely review how I do things, if I had this experience. Certainly, report all users who are no-shows to Admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

This is so irritating. I have had this twice with the same person and i just think why bother, wastes his time but mine too. Tells me what he is going to “do to me” plans and then radio silence… until he gets bored and gets in touch again big talk, little action.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"I’ve had my fair share of time waster on here it’s a piss take need a filter to root them out I say OP

Honestly,we have one person at least 2 chances and they still didn’t turn up on the third chance!"

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

What's fool me three times?

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By *oughmanMan
4 weeks ago

Sunderland

It's why I wouldn't travel too far. But I don't see why they would do it. All that effort wasted.

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By *chillboysCouple (MM)
4 weeks ago

Warwick


"Unfortunately, people bottle it or just here with the thrill of the chase.

And when it comes down to it, actions speak louder than words "

So true, we get this all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I think on a site like this it’s par for the course. You can’t force people to meet you, but you can do a decent job of getting to know them a bit and working out if they’re a good’un and if you’re all matched. I think lots of people treat others like they’re a walking dick or fanny and then they’re surprised when those people turn out to be exactly that!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

There's a lot people can do to reduce the likelihood of being stood up or let down, but it's personal choice how much due diligence and pre meet preparation people decide to do.

The site has always given some good tips and advice on safe meets and what's advisable/not advisable to do.

If it's a frequent occurrence then it's probably worth reviewing how you approach things and who you're engaging with.

Here's a link to that useful advice.

https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html

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By *ev257Man
4 weeks ago

cardiff

Plenty of time wasters on here, haven't had a meet on my singles profile for well over a year, have had around 10 to 15 meets arranged n then they just disappear n block me.

On my couples account it's also a case of around 50% still no shows, that's even after all the bullshit messengers have dropped out.

once arranged an MFMM meet for me n the wife n only 1 M turned up, very disappointed.

Also before anyone says anything, yes the wife knows I have a singles profile aswell, she also knows I'm not getting much luck aswell.

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By *w funwifeWoman
4 weeks ago

near taunton

if you keep getting let down then maybe you need to look at why your being let down, i know some you just cant tell but most give off something to say they are messers,

cant rember the last time waster i had or we had via couples profile

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By *inx000Couple
4 weeks ago

Manchester


"if you keep getting let down then maybe you need to look at why your being let down, i know some you just cant tell but most give off something to say they are messers,

cant rember the last time waster i had or we had via couples profile"

I don't think its any fault of their own why they was let down and its hard to say look at why you've been let down as you don't quite understand why especially when the person you are supposed to meet gives off all the vibes of being genuine by exchanging messages amd voice notes right up until an hour before you are due to meet them which was arranged between the both of you.You then get told that they are on their way and get stood up and then ignored so that is no fault of theirs just rude and inconsiderate of the person ghosting them.It happened to me today sadly!

Glad to hear you don't have many time wasters from your side..you must be one of the lucky ones 👍

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By *antassack889Man
4 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

Only time wasters I deal with are guys pretending to be couples but I tend to stay away now to save the hassle lol

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
4 weeks ago

Norwich

There are an awful lot if time wasters and people who want pics to get off on.

I always have a social very locally so if they didn't turn up it wouldn't be too arduous. I'm yet to be stood up at a social but there's always a first!

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By *ushrangerMan
4 weeks ago

Hampshire

It happened to me. We were messaging for a few weeks. She asked for my number. On the day we were meeting I did not get a reply so thought I'd do a bit of shopping. Anyway I messaged saying what pub I was in again nothing. After an hour her profile has gone. Didn't hear nothing then a few days later I started getting prank calls. Lesson learnt I'm just glad I didn't bother booking a table for lunch in a fancy hotel.

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By *upanovaMan
4 weeks ago

Sheffield

There are definitely a lot of time wasters on here. Not that I have experienced it, but friends have.

I am certainly not one of those, I'd hate it happening to me so would not do it.

Why not meet, if it isn't for you, be polite say goodbye and leave 🤷‍♂️

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By *w funwifeWoman
4 weeks ago

near taunton


"if you keep getting let down then maybe you need to look at why your being let down, i know some you just cant tell but most give off something to say they are messers,

cant rember the last time waster i had or we had via couples profile

I don't think its any fault of their own why they was let down and its hard to say look at why you've been let down as you don't quite understand why especially when the person you are supposed to meet gives off all the vibes of being genuine by exchanging messages amd voice notes right up until an hour before you are due to meet them which was arranged between the both of you.You then get told that they are on their way and get stood up and then ignored so that is no fault of theirs just rude and inconsiderate of the person ghosting them.It happened to me today sadly!

Glad to hear you don't have many time wasters from your side..you must be one of the lucky ones 👍"

yes underestand that maybe its diffent for me as i dont rely on just fab i never put my eggs all in one basket but i also think maybe its because ive been on the scene so long and i also see with many others whom ive known for years very few get let down but i do understand its a battlefield online for men/women/couples alike . but there are alot on here who dont get timewasters its a fact not that it helps anyone else i never said it was anyones fault i was just suggesting maybe it needs to be looked at from a different angle/way and yes some lie so good that we all will get caught out at some point just i havent for quite a while same with many others.

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By *inx000Couple
4 weeks ago

Manchester

Well that's lucky for them and yourself but not always the case for most on here.I get what your saying that you don't just rely on fab for meets bur sometimes that's all people have as it's a lot harder trying to organise meets and socials outside of fab which is why people turn to fab which is meant to be a hook up site aswell as having the chance to make new friends and meet new people but sadly it isn't what it used to be anymore.

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By *w funwifeWoman
4 weeks ago

near taunton


"Well that's lucky for them and yourself but not always the case for most on here.I get what your saying that you don't just rely on fab for meets bur sometimes that's all people have as it's a lot harder trying to organise meets and socials outside of fab which is why people turn to fab which is meant to be a hook up site aswell as having the chance to make new friends and meet new people but sadly it isn't what it used to be anymore."

i know what fab is ive been here from the very begining as well as the other big sites before fab and the old chat group system i guess we are all different and have different ways of doiong things .

the site has changed since covid its attracted alot who are here just dor the pics n vids the sheer number ofr guys and the number of couples and women has gone down with many being club or private parties only and alot just giving in full stop leaves the site perdomitly just men that was never going to be a good thing for swinging.

anyway enough from me as its coming across that im the only one who dont get timewasters

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By *istr3ssWoman
4 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees


"I’ve had my fair share of time waster on here it’s a piss take need a filter to root them out I say OP

Honestly,we have one person at least 2 chances and they still didn’t turn up on the third chance!"

I only give people 2 chances. After that they get blocked

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By *erkshire8299Man
4 weeks ago

slough

The are plenty of time wasters and fakes...a hotel meet with a couple around a month ago...a couple of things felt a bit odd...so I just said can you send a photo of the Mrs sitting on the bed at the hotel , fully clothed is fine .

Nothing arrived and then silence, but at least I didn't make the 45 mins journey .

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By * MRS ShyButNotShy MRSCouple
4 weeks ago

Stoke

I agree. Timewasters and fakes. I completely understand people get cold feet but a quick sorry I have changed my mind will do.

also when asked for photos. No reply at all. A quick you aren't our type is all it takes. 🙄

Saying that though have met a few great people off here

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By *ripfillMan
4 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

I make it a point of replying if the filters permit (fab is becoming more ageist)

I always arrive on time if not mins before hand, scrubbed with a gift of something home made

If it’s planned and you have made a commitment then meet ! … why let people down !!

It’s disgusting not too meet - after all the lady / couple put so much much effort into their side of the meet too

The preparation is vital but deliver !!! Make some pleasurable memories.

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By *orseman82Man
4 weeks ago

Wiltshire


"Lost count of the amount of timewasters we have had lately! What’s the point in them saying they’re on way to only ghost you at the time they’re meant to arrive! We’ve even had people totally disappear off the site at the time of arrival."

There definitely seems to be a lot of people of fab but only a few active in the lifestyle. The majority just want to share pics of themselves.

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By *DAnnetteTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Brighton

There is a certain type of guy on Fsb who cums in his boxers at just the thought of meeting me. He builds up a rapport and then goes through the rigmarole of accepting an invitation to meet and then, on the day itself it's silence or his profile is hidden or there's a weak excuse not to meet. How many times he shoots his load just thinking about meeting is probably countless.

Wankers!!!

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
4 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

I r listening to count on how many thread I e read about this. It’s getting worse and worse and it wont stop when people are justifying reasons.

It’s just plain wrong.

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By *lix CoxMan
4 weeks ago

CF39

I give people one chance and if unverified zero chance, due to my prev experience on this site. Other than that I just block.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"Lost count of the amount of timewasters we have had lately! What’s the point in them saying they’re on way to only ghost you at the time they’re meant to arrive! We’ve even had people totally disappear off the site at the time of arrival."

That's really inconsiderate of them; I can understand you feeling exasperated.

There's no accountability on here, and that's one of the reasons we chat for a bit first - it tends to out the blue balls brigade and those who lie.

We've been chatting offline with a single guy recently. During our chat, he deleted his Fab profile, came back with another which was exactly the same except he was now bi-sexual. That one has now gone, and he's back with a couple's profile with his long term partner - and now he's straight again! You can't always reconcile other people's behaviours, or motivations unfortunately.

C

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By *adCherriesCouple
4 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

How well verified were they? We have had a few drop out over the last 8 years but all very early on in our swinging experience.

Though, we haven't actually met anyone off Fab for sometime, so our experience may be outdated. We just find clubs / house parties for fun now. Saves all the messaging (which is quite dull to me nowadays).

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 weeks ago

Belfast

I have to assume that the more meets you arrange or the quicker you are prepared to meet without chatting the number of no shows increases exponentially.

If I repeat what I usually say in these threads about never having a no show or being one in the 9 years I've been here, some people think I'm being smug or a smartarse but it has nothing to do with that.

I've been told I must be one of the lucky ones but luck has nothing to do with it.

Lots of people have commented on previous threads to say they have never had a no show either so it's not just me.

I've never claimed that time wasters don't exist or that there are no fake profiles on fab.

What I have said is that I've never had my time wasted by anyone and I've never once chatted to a fake profile because they are usually so obvious.

Others have already commented here to say that due diligence reduces the chances of no shows but it's like anything else.

If you keep doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different outcome maybe it's time to look at your own approach.

Some people don't like to hear that and say it's a form of victim blaming but the vast majority of people don't have these issues and we only ever hear from the few who post on the forums.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I have to assume that the more meets you arrange or the quicker you are prepared to meet without chatting the number of no shows increases exponentially.

If I repeat what I usually say in these threads about never having a no show or being one in the 9 years I've been here, some people think I'm being smug or a smartarse but it has nothing to do with that.

I've been told I must be one of the lucky ones but luck has nothing to do with it.

Lots of people have commented on previous threads to say they have never had a no show either so it's not just me.

I've never claimed that time wasters don't exist or that there are no fake profiles on fab.

What I have said is that I've never had my time wasted by anyone and I've never once chatted to a fake profile because they are usually so obvious.

Others have already commented here to say that due diligence reduces the chances of no shows but it's like anything else.

If you keep doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different outcome maybe it's time to look at your own approach.

Some people don't like to hear that and say it's a form of victim blaming but the vast majority of people don't have these issues and we only ever hear from the few who post on the forums. "

Absolutely all of this

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By *dalisqueWoman
4 weeks ago

land of make believe


"I have to assume that the more meets you arrange or the quicker you are prepared to meet without chatting the number of no shows increases exponentially.

If I repeat what I usually say in these threads about never having a no show or being one in the 9 years I've been here, some people think I'm being smug or a smartarse but it has nothing to do with that.

I've been told I must be one of the lucky ones but luck has nothing to do with it.

Lots of people have commented on previous threads to say they have never had a no show either so it's not just me.

I've never claimed that time wasters don't exist or that there are no fake profiles on fab.

What I have said is that I've never had my time wasted by anyone and I've never once chatted to a fake profile because they are usually so obvious.

Others have already commented here to say that due diligence reduces the chances of no shows but it's like anything else.

If you keep doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different outcome maybe it's time to look at your own approach.

Some people don't like to hear that and say it's a form of victim blaming but the vast majority of people don't have these issues and we only ever hear from the few who post on the forums. "

I concur wholeheartedly.

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By *orthernRockerMan
4 weeks ago

Bag End..


"Lost count of the amount of timewasters we have had lately! What’s the point in them saying they’re on way to only ghost you at the time they’re meant to arrive! We’ve even had people totally disappear off the site at the time of arrival."

I would arrange a coffee or pub meet first. If they turn up and tick all your boxes great. Give them one chance and once chance only. Too many idiots ruining it for genuine folk.

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 weeks ago

Belfast

I haven't read the whole thread but I'm sure someone has already pointed out that timewaster is a word that gets thrown around here quite a bit but in a lot of cases it's just an insult when someone doesn't get their way.

I've had demanding introductory messages from couples wanting me to drive across the country that night, shave off my beard, play bi and numerous other instructions.

When I say no, they call me a timewaster despite the fact my only interaction was to reply to their message.

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By *inx000Couple
4 weeks ago

Manchester


"I haven't read the whole thread but I'm sure someone has already pointed out that timewaster is a word that gets thrown around here quite a bit but in a lot of cases it's just an insult when someone doesn't get their way.

I've had demanding introductory messages from couples wanting me to drive across the country that night, shave off my beard, play bi and numerous other instructions.

When I say no, they call me a timewaster despite the fact my only interaction was to reply to their message.

"

It's an insult and damn right rude when you've been communicating with them for a while then both arrange to meet up with a time and a place for them to say they are on their way then don't bother to turn up and to top it off they then ignore you..no contact to explain why they didn't turn up.

That is a time waster!

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