FabSwingers.com forum: lazy lover or pillow princess?

By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

I've heard the term pillow princess, the definition I saw was, someone who does not do oral but loves to receive.

Originally I think it was coined by lesbians but I kinda of adopt the expression to mean anyone who just lays there during sex and isn't very involved.🥱

So I'm curious, are there any other expressions you have for these "lazy"or selfish people?

Also what would they have to do or not do in the bedroom to be called a lazy lover by you?

Any experiences? 😘

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By *ellinever70Woman
12 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I prefer people to be active and engaged in general. But if someone regularly just wants to lie back and enjoy it and someone else wants to provide that, cool beans. They can go do their thing and I don't need to think about any of it 💜

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Lazy lady.

Mattress Maddam

Captain Comfy?

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Snoozy Floozy.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
12 weeks ago

Manchester

What quantifies that someone is lazy in bed? Doesn't do oral (giving)? Will only do missionary? Or isn't willing to try 10 different positions in the space of half an hour? I am always confused by what makes someone lazy.

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By *a LunaWoman
12 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I assumed a pillow princess was someone who just lay there.

I’m no pillow princess but I’m no gymnast these days either.

And when I suck cock I sometimes like to scoot down the bed and have my face right by his pecker so I can flop it into my mouth so I’m not leaning on my arms so much. However that is not lazy, just practical

Not heard any other terms. Just pillow princess.

Some guys can be a pillow princess to. The “climb on and you do all the work” type.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Snoozy Floozy.

A lethargic lothario 💜

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"Snoozy Floozy.

A lethargic lothario 💜"

A chillin’ chic ❤️

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Snoozy Floozy.

A lethargic lothario 💜

A chillin’ chic ❤️"

A complacent comrade 💜

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"Snoozy Floozy.

A lethargic lothario 💜

A chillin’ chic ❤️

A complacent comrade 💜"

A Lounging Lover ❤️

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.

My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.

Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.

Not a term I view negatively.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
12 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

there's a big difference between lazy and selfish I think. There's a balance to be had sharing mutual pleasure and someone can be selfish at any one given moment but knowing they will return with equal effort.

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Padstow

I'm pretty sure you're correct OP, with the lesbians/bi ladies coining the term 'Pillow Princess' for a woman who will hide her face in a pillow, as another woman licks her out? She's happy to partake in that fem-fem sexual contact, but not keen to watch....

Women overall, don't generally 'do' very much themselves during sex, but the term I have for those who exert themselves the least is; 'No Repeat Meet'....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"What quantifies that someone is lazy in bed? Doesn't do oral (giving)? Will only do missionary? Or isn't willing to try 10 different positions in the space of half an hour? I am always confused by what makes someone lazy. "

Like you I think it's difficult to quantify.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually "

"Pillow princess" is a slang term, typically used in LGBTQ+ communities, to describe someone, often a woman, who primarily enjoys receiving sexual pleasure and doesn't actively reciprocate or initiate sexual acts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

Some of these names are great.

Thanks for sharing. X

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Women overall, don't generally 'do' very much themselves during sex"

If I'm not doing much, it's because I'm very much not into it 💜

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By *estructionDollyWoman
12 weeks ago

Manchester

"It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.

My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.

Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.

Not a term I view negatively."

I had a partner who had a massive kink for "decadent/indulgent" women who gave into all their urges and loved pleasure, and it was all about my pleasure for him. He was absolutely more than happy to just please me for hours and have me instruct him on what to do, without receiving anything in return. He didn't view it as selfish either, he loved it. He was my "toy" (the term he wanted).

Its all highly subjective isn't it.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
12 weeks ago

walsall

I always thought it meant a lady who was bi, but was only prepared to receive oral, not give oral.

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By *2000ManMan
12 weeks ago

Worthing

Not into 'subs' sex should be a two way thing.

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By *rdimpsMan
12 weeks ago

Hull

An ex of mine used to lay on her front and say "just do me".

Once I put headphones on her a gave her the live version of "Brighton rock", about 20 mins while I hammered into her from behind.

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By *rdimpsMan
12 weeks ago

Hull

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.

My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.

Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.

Not a term I view negatively.

Its all highly subjective isn't it. "

There is part of this that is completely connected and you are fully engaged in the sex.

You're directing and enjoying. I think I'm leaning towards people who appear indifferent during sex. Despite saying that they are enjoying it. Just there. I'm probably not explaining it very well.

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
12 weeks ago

kendal

"Not into 'subs' sex should be a two way thing. "

By subs do u mean bdsm submissives? Are yoy assuming they all just lay there and don't do much......

That couldn't be any further from the truth.

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By *onforming_deviantWoman
12 weeks ago

Hull

"Women overall, don't generally 'do' very much themselves during sex

If I'm not doing much, it's because I'm very much not into it 💜"

Exsactly this! I like to be a bit man handled. But sometimes the domineering just shuts me down and it feels transactional,, in their service, not mutual

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By *orny PTMan
12 weeks ago

Peterborough

"I assumed a pillow princess was someone who just lay there.

I’m no pillow princess but I’m no gymnast these days either.

Not heard any other terms. Just pillow princess.

Some guys can be a pillow princess to. The “climb on and you do all the work” type. "

Spoons, not just an affordable pub!

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Watermouth

"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually

Just learned something, please keep me away, I want interaction.

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.

My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.

Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.

Not a term I view negatively.

Its all highly subjective isn't it. "

You are speaking my language.

If the relationship has that kind of quality then I'm usually quite open to accepting their name for me. Toy is certainly well within that comfort zone, It's felt delightful to be someone's 'toy' on several occasions.

I pulled decadent in as a fresh term to describe the feeling in the moment I was recalling. I am not sure I'd describe the woman as decadent per se, but she certainly had an appreciation for it. At other times it would lead into something more primal and toy became something slightly different, but equally exhilarating.

It's how fluidly those phases can transition that calls to me. When the tone takes over the talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"I've heard the term pillow princess, the definition I saw was, someone who does not do oral but loves to receive.

Originally I think it was coined by lesbians but I kinda of adopt the expression to mean anyone who just lays there during sex and isn't very involved.🥱

So I'm curious, are there any other expressions you have for these "lazy"or selfish people?

Also what would they have to do or not do in the bedroom to be called a lazy lover by you?

Any experiences? 😘

I thought a pillow princess just *didn't like getting on top.

I prefer giving oral over receiving.. but I don't like riding.. does that mean I'm just lazy? I quite liked the pillow princess label

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By *ora the explorerWoman
12 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m not sure they’re lazy and selfish. It may be a thing for some people. Most certainly not for me though.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

So basically your saying a woman should concent to do what ever the man wants sexually if women doesn't want to do it she has every right to say no oh no let's put all these labels on her

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"So basically your saying a woman should concent to do what ever the man wants sexually if women doesn't want to do it she has every right to say no oh no let's put all these labels on her "
you do realise that you talking about actual human beings with their right to say no don't you

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually "

This.

There's days I enjoy giving and days I enjoy laying back and receiving.

I generally prefer both to get enjoyment though but there are times I just want the Mr's jizz on my face 😂

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually

This.

There's days I enjoy giving and days I enjoy laying back and receiving.

I generally prefer both to get enjoyment though but there are times I just want the Mr's jizz on my face 😂"

Cum & Coffee lover. ^

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"So basically your saying a woman should concent to do what ever the man wants sexually if women doesn't want to do it she has every right to say no oh no let's put all these labels on her "

Absolutely not saying that.

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By *argetMan
9 weeks ago

Romford

Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.

For myself, it's about focusing on the woman pleasure rather than your own. For example a massage, some caressing, fingering and oral. It doesn't make her lazy, it is just a way of showing appreciation to an attractive woman, you wanting to tend to her needs first (giving a zen experience). It's a lush experience people don't knock it till you try it😈

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By *each needs some creamWoman
9 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.

But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?

If not then they are a pillow princess.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

You learn something new everyday

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By *argetMan
9 weeks ago

Romford

"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.

But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?

If not then they are a pillow princess. "

If a woman body isn't responding, to my actions I'm definitely not doing a good job🤣🤣

But as I mentioned previously there are different concepts of the term pillow princess, for me I'm sexually generous. So I'll go out of my way to hit every explore every inch/ angle it what I like I guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.

But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?

If not then they are a pillow princess. "

Yeah, everyone needs feedback.

I've had it before where I thought I wasn't doing a good job between her legs, I changed my technique and got a swift "what the fuck" 😂

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
9 weeks ago

Norwich

I love mutual pleasure.

However, I have been in a very fortunate position, where I have given nothing in return.

I only get that because a man has suggested it and wants it to happen. It's always volunteered and I don't actively seek it out.

It's not lazy or controlling in any way as that's what he wants and gets pleasure from it. So for those men and I it's a win, win situation.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
9 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.

But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?

If not then they are a pillow princess.

Yeah, everyone needs feedback.

I've had it before where I thought I wasn't doing a good job between her legs, I changed my technique and got a swift "what the fuck" 😂

The fact that you got a response would suggest she was not a pillow princess.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
9 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

I’d like to use the inside of a princess thigh as a pillow right now 🔥

Rest my head, and who knows where I might want to start kissing. 😏

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By *dalisqueWoman
9 weeks ago

land of make believe

"Snoozy Floozy.

A lethargic lothario 💜

A chillin’ chic ❤️

A complacent comrade 💜"

Loafing lover 🩵

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.

The fact that you got a response would suggest she was not a pillow princess. "

Completely agree. Xx

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By *orny PTMan
9 weeks ago

Peterborough

I've edged a couple of willing 'victims' before today, for over half an hour and turned her brains to mash and legs to jelly. So on those occasions it's forgivable, as I had drained her tanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Where I from they’re referred to as “ a sack of spuds “

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By *ubberDucky75Couple
9 weeks ago

Durham

"Where I from they’re referred to as “ a sack of spuds “ "

Or a bag of spinach!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I've edged a couple of willing 'victims' before today, for over half an hour and turned her brains to mash and legs to jelly. So on those occasions it's forgivable, as I had drained her tanks!"

Humble brag xx

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By *r.EdibleMan
9 weeks ago

Fraserburgh

"Where I from they’re referred to as “ a sack of spuds “ "

Haha, I haven't heard anyone being described as a "sack o tatties' for years

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