FabSwingers.com forum: Post "meet" in a meety world.

By *eli OP Woman
5 weeks ago

After you've had a successful meet* with someone from here - do you message to say thanks/check they got home safely? Do you like people to message you after?

Do you prefer to stay in touch with some frequency or do you wait until it's close to you seeing them again?

*yep, it's being used. Sorry.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
5 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

Yes

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By *viatrixWoman
5 weeks ago

Redhill

I expect them to message me, yes… saying thanks hahaha I know, I’m entitled. 😂 I get quite switched off if I don’t get that message.

And yes, I definitely want to keep in touch. This is something I had to learn through my time here. Some people really don’t feel they want to- just when the time/opportunity of meeting comes again they get in touch. I used to take it very personally but now I gauge it and if I really want to see the person again and I have the time, etc, I will engage and meet them. Otherwise it was a one off.

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By *eoBloomsMan
5 weeks ago

Springfield

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By *eoBloomsMan
5 weeks ago

Springfield

Possibly naive but I'd hope everyone checks the other person gets home OK.

After that the frequency varies with each person and situation, but generally enough to keep the flame burning but not enough for a restraining order.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester

I always message to say I either got home safe if I'm travelling, or to say thank you I had a great time if they've been at mine. I think it's only nice to acknowledge the time you've just had together and that you enjoyed their company. I don't like "fuck and go" meets.

My preference is always to stay in touch with people I've had sex with to some degree, and to stay friendly and chatty, even if we might not be able to meet up again any time soon (or if ever). That doesn't need to be every day, far from it. But checking in with eachother now and again is nice. I like to make friends.

I don't like to feel like just another notch on their bed post or a name on a list to be ticked off and then be discarded or "done with" once they've shagged me. But some people prefer not to keep in touch unless you're actually arranging meeting up, and if I don't hear from them again it is what it is. I've been here long enough to understand not everyone is here to make friends.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

I'd say thankyou and check they got home OK even if it was an unsuccessful meet* ...well apart from that time that needed a restraining order; they can go rot in a bog. (No, it's not Leo!!)

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By *eli OP Woman
5 weeks ago

"I expect them to message me, yes… saying thanks hahaha I know, I’m entitled. 😂 I get quite switched off if I don’t get that message.

Ha, you're not entitled you just know what you like. That's okay.

And yes, it varies a lot doesn't it? There's not a right or wrong way to do things, just how compatible you are. We're quite similar in the last few sentences; I like reciprocated energy, lust whatever and if that isn't quite there I'll make the effort depending on how much I want to see them but not prioritise in quite the same way.

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By *iss DevilWoman
5 weeks ago

Bedford

If it's someone new, then I do message them afterwards to thank them for turning up and the time we had together. I normally do their verification straight away, unless they asked not to receive one (have not happened to me yet). I do like to receive a message and a verification back. I have to admit I do feel a bit deflated if someone does not return my verification, though I get that we all have life outside of this place.

Communication afterwards - from time to time.

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By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I admit I do like the post encounter chat. A bit of validation maybe .

However it's more important that they are obviously looking forward to seeing me ,pre meet x

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By *a LunaWoman
5 weeks ago

Wherever the wind takes me

I like a bit of communication after, and hopefully it leads on to a repeat meet.

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By *oodmessMan
5 weeks ago

yumsville

Been a long time but I think I used to send a quick text, nothing over the top, just something polite.

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By *aldy321Man
5 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I always ask people to let me know when they have arrived home safely if they have been kind enough to visit me

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"After you've had a successful meet* with someone from here - do you message to say thanks/check they got home safely? Do you like people to message you after?"

Yes, indeed I do. I like to know they're OK, I like them to know that I'm OK. A little "wow, wasn't that awesome when you did xyz, and then I did xyz" etc.

"Do you prefer to stay in touch with some frequency or do you wait until it's close to you seeing them again?"

I prefer a bit of contact every now and then that isn't related to the build up of the next meet. I'm a fWB type, not a FB type.

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By *punk n gushCouple
5 weeks ago

deal

Successful or unsuccessful meet we will always message afterwards

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By *eecha87Man
5 weeks ago

portadown

"After you've had a successful meet* with someone from here - do you message to say thanks/check they got home safely? Do you like people to message you after?

Do you prefer to stay in touch with some frequency or do you wait until it's close to you seeing them again? From me its yes yes yes

*yep, it's being used. Sorry. "

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By *amesB66Man
5 weeks ago

St Peter Port

I always send (and like to receive) a message after a meet. I totally agree, that I don't want to feel as though I'm just a notch, even as a mature man!

If I'd like to keep in contact, I certainly won't wait, I'll initiate any ongoing communication.

Why wouldn't you?

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By *each needs some creamWoman
5 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
5 weeks ago

Brum

I give them three rings.

It’s the way I was brought up.

God bless you nanna

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By *each needs some creamWoman
5 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

If it's a new person then normal there is a "that was good fun let's meet up again" kind of message.

If it's someone I have met a few times then no. The next time we will message is to arrange another meeting.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

No.

They are not my parents.

They don't need to check up on my well being.

If we 'hit it off ' and they are that way out then I don't frown on them saying they had a great time but i'd rather they didn't.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

didn't message me aftewards I mean.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

to check i'm in and to check i'm okay , I mean ..... ffs . I'm not their patient.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

and , 'thanks' wtf is all that about ...... ???

Thanks for what exactly ?

I'm a decent human being every day, not only on fuck days

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I think i've explained me Meli ......

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By *cottish guy 555Man
5 weeks ago

London

Yes I do.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
5 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If it was a successful meet, then yes, as there is a possibility/probability of doing it again, though I don't stalk them

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Yes I do.

Fine ........ Thanks and did you get home okay ?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
5 weeks ago

Okehampton

I tend to meet folks on the regular so there are messages going to and from but I don’t expect them to ask if I got home safely (aside from the obligatory 3 rings 😉).

I prefer to meet people I’ve got to know and who I’ve chatted to a lot these days (who am I kidding, I’m not that popular), so the conversations carry on. Sometimes I’ve met people at a social or the like and I’ve thought they were cool and stuff but they’ve not messaged me on here so I leave it, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea x

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By *ifeman8211Man
5 weeks ago

fife

I would ask to let me know when they get it but also would message if they got in okay.

And chat about the meeting, how was it kind

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By *ony MannMan
5 weeks ago

South Newton

It depends, and I may also give them a draft of my verification

There is one I chat to every night,

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By *aizyWoman
5 weeks ago

west midlands

I do msg after, and I prefer to stay in touch doesn't have to be every day but I like keeping in contact whether we are meeting or not.

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By *oughmanMan
5 weeks ago

Sunderland

I'd like to make sure that they got home okay or let them know I did, weather they want it or not. It's just who I am and how I was raised. Anything else is situational. I'd probably like to keep in contact but I'm not going to push it.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
5 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I always text to thank the person for meeting me & that I/hope they got back ok

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By *ake_or_deathMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"After you've had a successful meet* with someone from here - do you message to say thanks/check they got home safely? Do you like people to message you after?

Do you prefer to stay in touch with some frequency or do you wait until it's close to you seeing them again?

*yep, it's being used. Sorry. "

Oh yes, if it went well I send them a message afterwards and try to stay in touch. I tend to want to meet people I can get on with outside the bedroom, so will enjoy chatting to and messaging as well. But I tend to be quite chatty via message anyway.

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By *ife NinjaMan
5 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Yes i do. I'm not a robot. Can imagine the lady would feel like a bit of used meat 🤓

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

I do usually message after either to thank them for a good meet or if it didn't go so well then to wrap it up.

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If it’s someone I’ve not met before then I would message them just so they don’t feel abandoned or anything.

If it’s someone who knows me then they will know not to expect the patronising post sex chat thanking each other and all that, but I do like to pick it up a day or two later and ease back into the normal frequency of messaging.

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By *ife NinjaMan
5 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"I do usually message after either to thank them for a good meet or if it didn't go so well then to wrap it up. "

.....ah, the 'thanks, but fuck right off' message 😬🤓

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
5 weeks ago

Maidstone

Hmm. If it's someone regular then I like to know that they're still interested. If i don't get any of that i assume they aren't. Especially if the way they message you changes. I don't want mills and boon (am I aging myself there??) I just need something to know I'm not wasting my time.

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By *xonman53Man
5 weeks ago

Thame

Only polite to and to check if they are safely home or I have got home dafely

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By *midnight-Woman
5 weeks ago

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I finally had my first social at the weekend and even that involved following up with checking we'd both got home ok and saying how nice it was to meet up.

Sex meets usually involve a lot more post meet check-ins and chat.

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By *onforming_deviantWoman
5 weeks ago

Hull

I haven't 'met' in time. But I would message to thank them for sharing an evening with me, hopes they got home alright. Type thing.

I preferred to stay in contact. I was rarely looking for ons I was always rather hoping it would develop into sporadic fwb

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Yes i do. I'm not a robot. Can imagine the lady would feel like a bit of used meat 🤓"

Curious about this perspective. Why would a woman feel like a bit of used meat after having sex ?

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By *LiamMan
5 weeks ago

Midlands

I usually thank them for their time, but I say that to my friends if I see them too. so It's no big deal

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By *otton Eye JoeMan
5 weeks ago

Grays & London

Always message after, make sure they’re home safe, thank them for the day/evening hopefully have a little funny reminder from the meet.

Keeping in touch part I suppose is a 2 way street to how much of a spark we had.

But I’d rather be straight & say can’t wait till next time or sorry I didn’t feel that spark.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
5 weeks ago

Maidstone

"Yes i do. I'm not a robot. Can imagine the lady would feel like a bit of used meat 🤓

Curious about this perspective. Why would a woman feel like a bit of used meat after having sex ?"

I often feel like I've been feasted upon and rather well done, so i guess so in that respect😈😈

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By *eyond PurityCouple
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We will get in touch and we will keep in touch. We are FWB type people - not FB’s.

We enjoy the post meet chat - hearing the viewpoint from different people.

We enjoy talking about it between us and gets us going again, so it feels like the sex isn’t just over in that moment.

It would feel transactional if they didn’t get in touch afterwards and has.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Yes i do. I'm not a robot. Can imagine the lady would feel like a bit of used meat 🤓

Curious about this perspective. Why would a woman feel like a bit of used meat after having sex ?

I often feel like I've been feasted upon and rather well done, so i guess so in that respect😈😈"
Hmmmmmmm yeah I guess if someone's been spit roasted

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
5 weeks ago

Merseyside

Yes always message to say thanks and to appreciate the time/effort

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By *eli OP Woman
5 weeks ago

"Possibly naive but I'd hope everyone checks the other person gets home OK.

After that the frequency varies with each person and situation, but generally enough to keep the flame burning but not enough for a restraining order."

I don't think it's naive Leo. It's how you'd like to do things, others do things differently. It's very situational isn't it? No right or wrong for this (as long as they're not a throbber), more you can be compatible with some, less so others.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester

I'm quite surprised by the amount of people who seem shocked at the idea of messaging after a meet or checking someone got home okay. It seems so normal to me.

Just goes to show that we all use fab and "do" meets in our own ways.

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By *r fABsMan
5 weeks ago

Northampton

I like to stay in contact after a meet, and also check in. Surely that’s just good manners and etiquette imo

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