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"is being on FabSwingers a lifestyle choice or a hobby or something completely different??" It's actually a public traded entity. Like Facebook. | |||
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"Whenever people ask how long we have been “in the lifestyle” we are keen to point out that we aren’t. We visit clubs or play with others whenever the mood takes us but it’s not a lifestyle. We have so many other interests that this is low down the list. " So it’s more a ‘hobby’ you do when you have the time and the energy  makes sense!! I’ve had a convo recently where we both said it’s not like you’re scanning rooms full of strangers trying to pick out ‘swingers’ just because we are on FAB lol - it’s more just looking to connect with like minded people for me so a ‘hobby’ way more than can be called a lifestyle | |||
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"is being on FabSwingers a lifestyle choice or a hobby or something completely different?? It's actually a public traded entity. Like Facebook." The meaningless Sydney University text on profiles always make me laugh too  | |||
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"It’s not a lifestyle for us, I wouldn’t even class it as a hobby. For us, it’s just something we enjoy doing together when the mood takes us Donna" So not even a ‘hobby’ - that’s interesting As I guess it’s just how much importance we actually put onto meeting or attending clubs aswell - some more than others And how often plays a part too for me | |||
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"I've always said that being on this site has never been anything more than a hobby. In all the years I've been here I've never been interested in networking etc and I'm definitely not a swinger. I don't even like the words "lifestyle" or "scene" when used on here because depending on context it often sounds elitest. " I like that I’m with you as a ‘single’ guy in that I don’t even class myself as a swinger - just a sexually active and confident guy using the app to connect with like minded women and couples | |||
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"A hobby but one I’ve enjoyed all my adult life " Nice - I think hobby is definitely looking like being more a relevant description than ‘lifestyle’ | |||
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"I don't think of it as anything - either a hobby or a lifestyle. I'm not a swinger. It's a place for me to meet a few women and engage in sensualities. And... probably the odd group social thrown in for occasional libations." So just a casual thing that you can take or leave?? That’s interesting - as I often wonder if ‘addiction’ is not far away from peoples attitude to sex on the app - a healthy sexual appetite is the norm obviously but I do wonder if we are all a little more ‘active’ than most for whatever those reasons may be | |||
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"I go to swingers clubs, to me that side of things (clubs etc) is just a hobby. Chosing non-monogamous relationships is a lifestyle choice for me. It's how I chose to live my life and structure my relationships. " That’s really interesting to me that being upfront about your future relationships you are confident and comfortable to include your lifestyle choice including FAB for example - which makes perfect sense when compared to people who say things like exclusivity monagomous from the off etc as a societal norm (which is perfectly fine too by the way) Makes me wonder why more people don’t do like you do
My initial thoughts were club life is more a lifestyle choice - I like all our differences - it’s cool
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"Its definitely more a hobby for us. Some like playing golf, we like having sex with other people. " I can relate to this - it fits nicely with me to be an enjoyable pastime when time allows 😂 Also I guess it doesn’t require a commitment in that we can and do whenever we please - rather than regimented and taking over etc | |||
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"For me it's a lifestyle as hobbies I can pick up and drop. Though I guess hobbies can eventually become a lifestyle like people into golf who join a golf club that their social life eventually mostly revolves around. If it is only two married couples then I'm screwed. I may be in 3 romantic relationships but I'm not marrying any of them. Edit to add: I mean being a swinger. I drop into this site rarely these days to have a nose of the forums. When I say its a lifestyle, I meant more club events and the friendships and connections I have through that that extends beyond any sexual relation or even the events themselves." So basically it’s blurred and probably a bit of both for you?? maybe the whole label thing is the problem in itself - because really nobody cares lol I’ve a couple of ‘friends’ now from the site that I’ve played with but also can meet socially without the expectation of sex (which obviously always happens but ahem lol) be it a drink together or round at mine for a brew - so that for me leaks into lifestyle Whereas if I just arrange meets every now and again for the physical that then seems more like a hobby again 😂 And for me personally I don’t think of myself as a swinger at all - funny things aren’t we | |||
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"Interesting first thread OP.
"Why thank you
I’m just curious on attitudes I guess as it’s such an interesting topic / world
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"I go to swingers clubs, to me that side of things (clubs etc) is just a hobby. Chosing non-monogamous relationships is a lifestyle choice for me. It's how I chose to live my life and structure my relationships. That’s really interesting to me that being upfront about your future relationships you are confident and comfortable to include your lifestyle choice including FAB for example - which makes perfect sense when compared to people who say things like exclusivity monagomous from the off etc as a societal norm (which is perfectly fine too by the way) Makes me wonder why more people don’t do like you do
My initial thoughts were club life is more a lifestyle choice - I like all our differences - it’s cool
It interests me "I actually find fab the best way to meet people I am most compatible with when compared to dating apps etc. | |||
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"I go to swingers clubs, to me that side of things (clubs etc) is just a hobby. Chosing non-monogamous relationships is a lifestyle choice for me. It's how I chose to live my life and structure my relationships. That’s really interesting to me that being upfront about your future relationships you are confident and comfortable to include your lifestyle choice including FAB for example - which makes perfect sense when compared to people who say things like exclusivity monagomous from the off etc as a societal norm (which is perfectly fine too by the way) Makes me wonder why more people don’t do like you do
My initial thoughts were club life is more a lifestyle choice - I like all our differences - it’s cool
It interests me
I actually find fab the best way to meet people I am most compatible with when compared to dating apps etc. "I agree with this, meeting people here of a likeminded persuasion is easier than dating apps | |||
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"For me it's a lifestyle as hobbies I can pick up and drop. Though I guess hobbies can eventually become a lifestyle like people into golf who join a golf club that their social life eventually mostly revolves around. If it is only two married couples then I'm screwed. I may be in 3 romantic relationships but I'm not marrying any of them. Edit to add: I mean being a swinger. I drop into this site rarely these days to have a nose of the forums. When I say its a lifestyle, I meant more club events and the friendships and connections I have through that that extends beyond any sexual relation or even the events themselves. So basically it’s blurred and probably a bit of both for you?? maybe the whole label thing is the problem in itself - because really nobody cares lol I’ve a couple of ‘friends’ now from the site that I’ve played with but also can meet socially without the expectation of sex (which obviously always happens but ahem lol) be it a drink together or round at mine for a brew - so that for me leaks into lifestyle Whereas if I just arrange meets every now and again for the physical that then seems more like a hobby again 😂 And for me personally I don’t think of myself as a swinger at all - funny things aren’t we "See I do think of myself as a swinger, even when I'm not actively engaging in the lifestyle. I feel a connection to the community and I feel we understand each other in ways most people don't. I also consider being a kinkster part of my identity too. | |||
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"I go to swingers clubs, to me that side of things (clubs etc) is just a hobby. Chosing non-monogamous relationships is a lifestyle choice for me. It's how I chose to live my life and structure my relationships. That’s really interesting to me that being upfront about your future relationships you are confident and comfortable to include your lifestyle choice including FAB for example - which makes perfect sense when compared to people who say things like exclusivity monagomous from the off etc as a societal norm (which is perfectly fine too by the way) Makes me wonder why more people don’t do like you do
My initial thoughts were club life is more a lifestyle choice - I like all our differences - it’s cool
It interests me
I actually find fab the best way to meet people I am most compatible with when compared to dating apps etc. "I’ve had chats where the woman openly says she sees it as a dating site in itself - which really surprised me at first but then on reflection made a lot of sense as connection & compatibility are just the same here as on match bumble tinder etc And confidently chatting about sexual preference from the off too as it’s pretty front and central of you’re a user on the app lol - which is healthy too | |||
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"I go to swingers clubs, to me that side of things (clubs etc) is just a hobby. Chosing non-monogamous relationships is a lifestyle choice for me. It's how I chose to live my life and structure my relationships. That’s really interesting to me that being upfront about your future relationships you are confident and comfortable to include your lifestyle choice including FAB for example - which makes perfect sense when compared to people who say things like exclusivity monagomous from the off etc as a societal norm (which is perfectly fine too by the way) Makes me wonder why more people don’t do like you do
My initial thoughts were club life is more a lifestyle choice - I like all our differences - it’s cool
It interests me
I actually find fab the best way to meet people I am most compatible with when compared to dating apps etc.
I agree with this, meeting people here of a likeminded persuasion is easier than dating apps"But do socials then become ‘dates’ and would you say that openly to the person across the table?? I’ve had this very chat - interesting isn’t it that FAB can also be a little taboo in saying ‘oh yeah that’s the app we met off’…. But there would be no issue namedropping bumble etc | |||
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"For me it's a lifestyle as hobbies I can pick up and drop. Though I guess hobbies can eventually become a lifestyle like people into golf who join a golf club that their social life eventually mostly revolves around. If it is only two married couples then I'm screwed. I may be in 3 romantic relationships but I'm not marrying any of them. Edit to add: I mean being a swinger. I drop into this site rarely these days to have a nose of the forums. When I say its a lifestyle, I meant more club events and the friendships and connections I have through that that extends beyond any sexual relation or even the events themselves. So basically it’s blurred and probably a bit of both for you?? maybe the whole label thing is the problem in itself - because really nobody cares lol I’ve a couple of ‘friends’ now from the site that I’ve played with but also can meet socially without the expectation of sex (which obviously always happens but ahem lol) be it a drink together or round at mine for a brew - so that for me leaks into lifestyle Whereas if I just arrange meets every now and again for the physical that then seems more like a hobby again 😂 And for me personally I don’t think of myself as a swinger at all - funny things aren’t we
See I do think of myself as a swinger, even when I'm not actively engaging in the lifestyle. I feel a connection to the community and I feel we understand each other in ways most people don't. I also consider being a kinkster part of my identity too."That’s a persuasive observation actually - the community DO get us and we do feel the ‘same’ in so many ways Maybe the lifestyle is not switching - so for example is a single guy on here who is actually married and his wife doesn’t know - still a swinger / or still enjoying his lifestyle choice - or is it pure and simple infidelity The lifestyle choice is an actual embrace at all times and it’s who we are | |||
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"Interesting first thread OP.
Why thank you
I’m just curious on attitudes I guess as it’s such an interesting topic / world
What are your thoughts on hobby v lifestyle?? "Definitely not a lifestyle for me. Have never regarded it as a hobby but that's probably a fair label - it's an occasional enthusiasm for me. More interesting than train spotting although not as dirty as metal detecting. | |||
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"Definitely a lifestyle for us, we are very immersed in it x Mrs x" So fully immersed becomes part of daily life and a social thing too as well as the physical?? Would the lifestyle even merge into say holidays abroad for example?? I think it’s really interesting how some live it every day in life - and some nip in and out because real life gets in the way | |||
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"Fantasy in my case lol" Often the fantasy is better than reality anyways 🤣 | |||
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"Occasional hobby for us , Too much going on in our lives to make it a lifestyle .." | |||
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"Occasional hobby for us , Too much going on in our lives to make it a lifestyle .." Interesting that real life gets in the way to some to others they are so immersed it is real life I guess there is no true definition to ‘swinging’ per say as there is no set rule for what that actually means to ALL people | |||
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"Interesting first thread OP.
Why thank you
I’m just curious on attitudes I guess as it’s such an interesting topic / world
What are your thoughts on hobby v lifestyle??
Definitely not a lifestyle for me. Have never regarded it as a hobby but that's probably a fair label - it's an occasional enthusiasm for me. More interesting than train spotting although not as dirty as metal detecting."Metal Detecting surely comes under the deviant umbrella 🤣 An occasional enthusiasm - I like that phrase a lot!! | |||
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"It's both I think. Our actual participation in swinging and going to clubs, parties and events is a hobby. However the desire and freedom we have in our relationship is a way of life. Mr" That’s so interesting an answer - love it Also proves it can be both if not something completely different I personally am not a swinger I feel - but I do feel I’m ‘in’ a swinging community if that makes sense…. I guess if there is enjoyment at all times hobby or lifestyle labels are irrelevant anyway | |||
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"I don't think of it as anything - either a hobby or a lifestyle. I'm not a swinger. It's a place for me to meet a few women and engage in sensualities. And... probably the odd group social thrown in for occasional libations. · So just a casual thing that you can take or leave?? That’s interesting - as I often wonder if ‘addiction’ is not far away from peoples attitude to sex on the app - a healthy sexual appetite is the norm obviously but I do wonder if we are all a little more ‘active’ than most for whatever those reasons may be " • Sort of... I would say it's more than casual because it's my only conduit for sex (putting it bluntly). I'm not on any other apps or sites and therefore Fab is invaluable for me. I have my needs for intimacy and sensual tactility to sate my healthy appetite but it's not to feed any addiction. | |||
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"It's not fun enough for it to be an encompassing lifestyle. It can be annoying, and frustrating, and disheartening for large parts. At least if it's a hobby, it's something I can put away and pick back up when I want to." Interesting answer that the fun element removes it from being lifestyle - for me even hobbies can be annoying 🤣 For me it’s taken with a pinch of salt (the app) but I always respect the people (friends) | |||
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"Unfortunately not a lifestyle for us as the "fun" part is extremely few and far between for us... its definitely more of a hobby that we puck up and run with when we have the opportunities to explore more "Yes I guess a hobby can be not fun and dropped - whereas a lifestyle would mean putting up with fun and not so fun regularly because you are committed I’m guessing Time constraints definitely play a factor too - as real life in the case of time is ‘winning’ rather than playing | |||
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"It's not fun enough for it to be an encompassing lifestyle. It can be annoying, and frustrating, and disheartening for large parts. At least if it's a hobby, it's something I can put away and pick back up when I want to. Interesting answer that the fun element removes it from being lifestyle - for me even hobbies can be annoying 🤣 For me it’s taken with a pinch of salt (the app) but I always respect the people (friends) " Yeah it probably says more about me because of the hobbies I drop when they get annoying 😅😂 | |||
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"I don't think of it as anything - either a hobby or a lifestyle. I'm not a swinger. It's a place for me to meet a few women and engage in sensualities. And... probably the odd group social thrown in for occasional libations. · So just a casual thing that you can take or leave?? That’s interesting - as I often wonder if ‘addiction’ is not far away from peoples attitude to sex on the app - a healthy sexual appetite is the norm obviously but I do wonder if we are all a little more ‘active’ than most for whatever those reasons may be • Sort of... I would say it's more than casual because it's my only conduit for sex (putting it bluntly). I'm not on any other apps or sites and therefore Fab is invaluable for me. I have my needs for intimacy and sensual tactility to sate my healthy appetite but it's not to feed any addiction. " Makes total sense to me and not dissimilar to my experience / situation however I am more inclined to ‘swinging’ with regular FWB’s than just fukc and go meets - which I’d put down to my age and change in sexual attitudes as I’m more experienced and active on the app recently due to a difficult divorce | |||
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"I don't think of it as anything - either a hobby or a lifestyle. I'm not a swinger. It's a place for me to meet a few women and engage in sensualities. And... probably the odd group social thrown in for occasional libations. · So just a casual thing that you can take or leave?? That’s interesting - as I often wonder if ‘addiction’ is not far away from peoples attitude to sex on the app - a healthy sexual appetite is the norm obviously but I do wonder if we are all a little more ‘active’ than most for whatever those reasons may be • Sort of... I would say it's more than casual because it's my only conduit for sex (putting it bluntly). I'm not on any other apps or sites and therefore Fab is invaluable for me. I have my needs for intimacy and sensual tactility to sate my healthy appetite but it's not to feed any addiction. · Makes total sense to me and not dissimilar to my experience / situation however I am more inclined to ‘swinging’ with regular FWB’s than just fukc and go meets - which I’d put down to my age and change in sexual attitudes as I’m more experienced and active on the app recently due to a difficult divorce "• I'll further clarify: I don't do "fukc and go" (sic) because I try to engage with the same people in order to maintain that chemistry and substance, with a deep-rooted connection and 'feelings'. I'll admit some dates inadvertently end up as one-offs or biannual dalliances because of the vast geographical distances between us. | |||
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"I'd have to say neither as I only do it when I feel like it and don't let it rule my life and it has to fit in around my real world hobbies. I think when I first joined about ten-ish years ago it was more of a lifestyle as I was doing three or four club visits a month and meets but since covid it's sort of become less important and more a chance to catch up with like minded friends and chill that are non vanilla." That’s a good reply - and makes a lot of sense that over time how we engage changes with experience and just life I guess I definitely am different on the app to how I was 7/8 years ago on my first time being a site member Enjoyable pastime I’m calling it | |||
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"I don't think of it as anything - either a hobby or a lifestyle. I'm not a swinger. It's a place for me to meet a few women and engage in sensualities. And... probably the odd group social thrown in for occasional libations. · So just a casual thing that you can take or leave?? That’s interesting - as I often wonder if ‘addiction’ is not far away from peoples attitude to sex on the app - a healthy sexual appetite is the norm obviously but I do wonder if we are all a little more ‘active’ than most for whatever those reasons may be • Sort of... I would say it's more than casual because it's my only conduit for sex (putting it bluntly). I'm not on any other apps or sites and therefore Fab is invaluable for me. I have my needs for intimacy and sensual tactility to sate my healthy appetite but it's not to feed any addiction. · Makes total sense to me and not dissimilar to my experience / situation however I am more inclined to ‘swinging’ with regular FWB’s than just fukc and go meets - which I’d put down to my age and change in sexual attitudes as I’m more experienced and active on the app recently due to a difficult divorce
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I'll further clarify: I don't do "fukc and go" (sic) because I try to engage with the same people in order to maintain that chemistry and substance, with a deep-rooted connection and 'feelings'. I'll admit some dates inadvertently end up as one-offs or biannual dalliances because of the vast geographical distances between us."Apologies if the ‘fukc and go’ was a little crude but I was just implying the opposite of how you’ve perfectly described - wanting real engagement and connection from a meet Time and distance are an obvious factor too in how much effort and engagement we allow ourselves I also wonder how many users of FAB date on ‘typical’ dating apps as well this one | |||
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"As much as we both enjoy 3-somes (or more), our relationship comes way ahead of all of that. Our connection with others is then paramount too. It's a hobby we can't talk about in our everyday lives. We're not prolific players, and neither of us would get anything from building a life around meets with randoms. C" Again another really interesting viewpoint - that it’s something you can do and enjoy together - but can’t say publicly per say - and that the frequency of meets / attending clubs etc pretty much defines your involvement anyway Do you only class the swinging element to be a physical thing with a random though?? | |||
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"I don't invest a lot of my time to swinging as it's just a part of my life, not a hobby just fun as and when I feel like some fun " So just a really relaxed philosophy almost as opposed to a lifestyle Cool answer | |||
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"...we don't even class ourselves as swingers. We just enjoy sharing each other sexually with select friends. We've never actually 'swapped'; we're both kinda 'all in together' or nothing. C" Soft swap full swap etc is again a whole other facet to the scene isn’t it It’s fascinating how we all can look at the app / meet / club / scene from a totally different viewpoint for a hundred different reasons Just interests me - as do people in general | |||
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"I'd have to say neither as I only do it when I feel like it and don't let it rule my life and it has to fit in around my real world hobbies. I think when I first joined about ten-ish years ago it was more of a lifestyle as I was doing three or four club visits a month and meets but since covid it's sort of become less important and more a chance to catch up with like minded friends and chill that are non vanilla. That’s a good reply - and makes a lot of sense that over time how we engage changes with experience and just life I guess I definitely am different on the app to how I was 7/8 years ago on my first time being a site member Enjoyable pastime I’m calling it "That's it isn't it, has to be fun and you get out of it what you want. I do find though that socially I spend more time with swingers than I do with vanilla people though strangely. | |||
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"Neither really it's just a case of if and when we fancy meeting someone for abit extra " So basically a nice option - when time allows | |||
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"If it defines who you are, it’s a lifestyle. You can take it or leave for fun it’s a hobby " I’d be in the hobby camp then on that basis How about you guys?? | |||
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"Hi all So my first post on the forums and was just wondering people’s answers to - is being on FabSwingers a lifestyle choice or a hobby or something completely different?? Plus is ‘swinging’ actually only a thing with 2 married couples or is that old fashioned?? " As for being on FabSwingers, I don't think it can be defined in a clear cut way. Many people go onto Facebook and other social media for general chat and exchanging of information which, to me, is very similar to what goes on here but for exchanging sexual discussions. Don't think it can be called a hobby or lifestyle. As for Swinging. In modern usage, a swinger often refers to a person, typically in a committed relationship or marriage, who engages in consensual sexual activities with others outside their partnership. This can include partners swapping with other couples, or one partner having multiple sexual partners similar to ménage à trois. | |||
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"Hi all So my first post on the forums and was just wondering people’s answers to - is being on FabSwingers a lifestyle choice or a hobby or something completely different?? Plus is ‘swinging’ actually only a thing with 2 married couples or is that old fashioned?? As for being on FabSwingers, I don't think it can be defined in a clear cut way. Many people go onto Facebook and other social media for general chat and exchanging of information which, to me, is very similar to what goes on here but for exchanging sexual discussions. Don't think it can be called a hobby or lifestyle. As for Swinging. In modern usage, a swinger often refers to a person, typically in a committed relationship or marriage, who engages in consensual sexual activities with others outside their partnership. This can include partners swapping with other couples, or one partner having multiple sexual partners similar to ménage à trois. " I think you’re right - it’s too complex to label really - it’s a ‘community’ of like minded people mostly which seems to be the general consensus too - but like most things in life is dependant on time and effort given to it to how much importance or emphasis people put into the sexual & social interaction | |||
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"I’ll be brutally honest. I would stop meeting up with someone if they considered me their hobby. " We would never consider anyone a hobby. We play with people we consider friends - people we'd equally be happy going for a drink, a hike, a night out, or weekend away with. Our 'icing on the cake sexploits' are more of where the word hobby can loosely be applied. C | |||
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"Hi all So my first post on the forums and was just wondering people’s answers to - is being on FabSwingers a lifestyle choice or a hobby or something completely different?? Plus is ‘swinging’ actually only a thing with 2 married couples or is that old fashioned?? " I am just here to get laid from time to time. I see it as nothing more than that for myself | |||
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"I’ll be brutally honest. I would stop meeting up with someone if they considered me their hobby. We would never consider anyone a hobby. We play with people we consider friends - people we'd equally be happy going for a drink, a hike, a night out, or weekend away with. Our 'icing on the cake sexploits' are more of where the word hobby can loosely be applied. C" I like that - and as I replied to a similar comment I have now changed to more connected and longer meets with exactly as you say women I class as friends and would happily socialise with without an expectation of sex It’s exciting to me knowing I’m with a like minded person - and so much more than wham bam meet - so I’m with you it’s not a hobby :P | |||
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"Hi all So my first post on the forums and was just wondering people’s answers to - is being on FabSwingers a lifestyle choice or a hobby or something completely different?? Plus is ‘swinging’ actually only a thing with 2 married couples or is that old fashioned?? I am just here to get laid from time to time. I see it as nothing more than that for myself " So a casual pastime for an enjoyable experience Makes sense too!! :P | |||
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