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"I say if you need to justify going with a man with all this dictionary definition etc it says more about you! Your bi, so what? " I don't go with TV or TS just saw a few other straight guys getting blasted for "looking" for them or they just forgot to uncheck that box and just wondered what other people's views on the subject were. Not trying to justify anything. And if I was bi I'd say I was bi not try to cover it. "I am what I am and what I am needs no excuses" lmfbo | |||
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"I'm bi and reasonably upfront about it insofar as it's clear on my profile. I don't think I've ticked tv/ts option so will have a look. There's a couple of very convincing tv's on here. Couple of convincing men too " Ive seen some convincing women too | |||
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"I'm bi and reasonably upfront about it insofar as it's clear on my profile. I don't think I've ticked tv/ts option so will have a look. There's a couple of very convincing tv's on here. Couple of convincing men too Ive seen some convincing women too " Lots of those! It's why I'm here | |||
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"Thou can have as many TVs as you want.... But there's still sod all on on a Saturday night.... " And I don't do CD's anymore. It's all downloads. Anyone wanna get my load down? | |||
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"op, you put this on another thread exactly word for word, dont think theres any need to repeat yourself, and the point been raised on the other thread is that he states straight ( definition been attracted to the opposute sex) but seeks tvs and it was a point raised in reply to the guy asking what he can do to improve his profile." Didn't want to derail his thread, never been one for thread jacking and Yes It's a copy and paste of what I put there why fix that which isn't broken, I don't see what the big deal is TBH. This thread was asking for views on the subject and I gave my own, do you have a problem with that? As you had nothing of any worth to add to the subject. | |||
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" So if you are happy to meet a TS, to me, that still means you're still straight but with an understanding of that person that some couldn't understand. Correct? " But surely if a man is specifically searching for sex with a TS he must have some attraction to the fact the TS still has male genitalia otherwwis he'd just serach for sex with women... Correct? ha | |||
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"Here Here... TV and TS are very different to each other both psychologically and potentially physically. A post op TS might want to use the title and be honest. It also covers M2F and F2M. TV is male in female clothing. They are totally different terms. " Eh!,,, But surely a post-op TS has had their gender corrected and is no longer a TS… I'm pretty sure I'd be quite pissed off if I was still refereed to as a TS if I'd undergone full gender reassignment.... | |||
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"The labels would only be complete if they then included pre op and post op etc. The men that get 'blasted' for saying straight, yet looking to meet with tv/ts usually are not just advertising for meets with tv/ts but have 'personal' veri's from the same, in my experience. As with any issue. If it is that obvious that the profile is dishonest, it gives me the impression that the person behind the profile is of the same mindset." Exactly. I feel that (and its not the case sadly) being on a site like this and into the lifestyle/hobby that we are as grown mature adults we should all be happy with ourselves and our sexuality, that surely is one of the first things to swinging. However this also includes being completely honest with yourself, and ideally to a degree with the people you want to swing with. Now I don't mean you need to tell a potential meet your life history and your work history and your bank balance. However as far is sexuality and likes and dislikes we should at least owe each other the courtesy of being open and honest and happy in your own choices. That said being on a Swingers site although a large social aspect to the lifestyle unless the profile says will meet TV/TS for social only then lets face it its usually to meet them for more. Sadly pretty sure most guys on here know their own sexuality (some may be in denial) but putting straight and wanting to meet TV/TS or even men usually means they are at least Bi Curious and covering all bases to get as many meets and put as few off as possible. Yes I do agree the TV/TS category is not correct they should be split as one is basically a fem and the other is in basic terms a male dressed as a female (whether good or badly) and at the end of the day people on here deserve the chance of a well informed choice. ie this is what i like and do or will do.. and then if they are okay with it go for it, if however they are not thats their choice and you need to move on and find someone who is. Its the ones that say straight and insist on it but have a veri from a guy saying how lush they were in the bedroom and when pointed out that their veri says otherwise.. bingo that veri is hidden and they still insist on being straight.. Sadly its ones like these that end up tarring all with the same brush. It should be, be honest and each to their own. but that's never going to happen | |||
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"Here Here... TV and TS are very different to each other both psychologically and potentially physically. A post op TS might want to use the title and be honest. It also covers M2F and F2M. TV is male in female clothing. They are totally different terms. Eh!,,, But surely a post-op TS has had their gender corrected and is no longer a TS… I'm pretty sure I'd be quite pissed off if I was still refereed to as a TS if I'd undergone full gender reassignment.... " I agree! | |||
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"I say if you need to justify going with a man with all this dictionary definition etc it says more about you! Your bi, so what? " | |||
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"Honestly?? I find it really hard to get my head around the whole thing. I watched that lady boys of Bangkok programme the other day, an ex pat was in a relationship with a lady boy. 'She' had boobs, dressed, spoke and looked like a woman and even in a bikini you couldn't tell coz she taped her cock underneath! But surely when the clothes are off and your getting down to the nitty gritty there's still a cock there at the end of the day?? Lol. " Agree there's still a cock there. Which would make me think bi sexual. | |||
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"op , i was bringing to light the fact that you said he was getting slated, whereas he actually wasnt he was been given advice, and as for the attitude you gave me, i dont have any problem i will post on what i want when i want ok, maybe you need to calm down a bit." I wasn't on about just that one thread. I've seen many threads like it. And how do we know they just don't uncheck that box because they would be happy to meet a Transsexual but not a transvestite. As I said there is only the one option for both even though they are very different. That's the point I'm trying to make here, but it seems the more time I spend in the forums the more I think some on here can't be asked to read things properly anyway. And no you wasn't "bringing to light the fact the guy was getting slated" all you said was I already said this elsewhere "word for word" and gave a description of what that thread was about. | |||
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"If it turns you on, why worry about labels? " ^This | |||
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"op at the end of the day if you want to meet men and call yourself straight thats upto you (each to there own) but when people ask for advice, if i can and if i want to then ill give it (each to there own)." Still not getting it are you? Lmfao. | |||
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"If it turns you on, why worry about labels? ^This " ^That | |||
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"If it turns you on, why worry about labels? ^This ^That " ditto and worry not about how others use the site or the forums.. use it for what you want.. | |||
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"Here Here... TV and TS are very different to each other both psychologically and potentially physically. A post op TS might want to use the title and be honest. It also covers M2F and F2M. TV is male in female clothing. They are totally different terms. Eh!,,, But surely a post-op TS has had their gender corrected and is no longer a TS… I'm pretty sure I'd be quite pissed off if I was still refereed to as a TS if I'd undergone full gender reassignment.... I agree! " That's a very good point, and one which I hadn't considered until reading this. The word 'Trans' means in the process of moving (eg. 'in transit'). Once a TS has had the full operation and is a 'complete woman' (and that is not intended to be derogatory in any way) then surely the trans-sexual 'label' no longer applies? You are no longer 'in transit'. You are at the end of your journey... in one sense.. | |||
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"Not sure why the OP is getting flack he asked a perfectly respectable question and explained his reasons for doing so. " Because too many people don't understand what healthy and open debate is, Hottie... | |||
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"If it turns you on, why worry about labels? ^This ^That " How about a bit of the other | |||
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"I say Why do we have to label people Live and let live " | |||
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"Here Here... TV and TS are very different to each other both psychologically and potentially physically. A post op TS might want to use the title and be honest. It also covers M2F and F2M. TV is male in female clothing. They are totally different terms. Eh!,,, But surely a post-op TS has had their gender corrected and is no longer a TS… I'm pretty sure I'd be quite pissed off if I was still refereed to as a TS if I'd undergone full gender reassignment.... I agree! That's a very good point, and one which I hadn't considered until reading this. The word 'Trans' means in the process of moving (eg. 'in transit'). Once a TS has had the full operation and is a 'complete woman' (and that is not intended to be derogatory in any way) then surely the trans-sexual 'label' no longer applies? You are no longer 'in transit'. You are at the end of your journey... in one sense.." A post-op TS is male or female, not trans. Op I like your post. I also like 'lmfbo'. I will use that phrase from now on, hope you don't mind. People will be blasted forever and always. I'm kind of at the end of discussing certain things anymore. Some people will understand, some won't. X | |||
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"When I want Sausage, I look for Sausage,,, That’s why I like Labels,,,,, it makes shopping easier and allows people to select the right ingredients to create enjoyable meals ,,,,,,,, Which to me, must surely be better than taking pot-luck or risking the possibility of spending hours in the kitchen only to end up with a totally unpalatable mess on my plate….!. " *sneaks round & takes all the labels off soxy's tins* | |||
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"When I want Sausage, I look for Sausage,,, That’s why I like Labels,,,,, it makes shopping easier and allows people to select the right ingredients to create enjoyable meals ,,,,,,,, Which to me, must surely be better than taking pot-luck or risking the possibility of spending hours in the kitchen only to end up with a totally unpalatable mess on my plate….!. *sneaks round & takes all the labels off soxy's tins* " Thats OK...... I have the stacked alphabetically anyway,,,,, haha….. | |||
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"op at the end of the day if you want to meet men and call yourself straight thats upto you (each to there own) but when people ask for advice, if i can and if i want to then ill give it (each to there own). Still not getting it are you? Lmfao. " i get it very well thank you, but i didnt like the attitude you give me earlier on. | |||
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"Not sure why the OP is getting flack he asked a perfectly respectable question and explained his reasons for doing so. Because too many people don't understand what healthy and open debate is, Hottie... " and where did i say it wasnt a reasonable question, i simply stated he had already posted this exact message on another thread word for word, so therefore as he didnt really get the response he wanted he opened a new thread, when did i attack him or give him flack at all. | |||
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"The site already provides all the necessary functions for members to give an accurate and individual description of who we are and what we are looking for !.. (Its called a Profile) By adding more TS/TG/TV/T-Girl/CD/HPW options to the search facility, we simply create more confusion in the same way people do when trying to blur the 3 dictionary definitions mainstream society accept to describe sexual behaviour ….. Homosexual….. Heterosexual ….. Bisexual……… Obviously the inclusion of “Bi-Curious “ is a welcome addition on sites like this and is helpful in drawing potentially compatibility people toward eachother … But surely if a person doesn’t feel inclined to also write an honest profile in a manner that adequately reflects exactly what they offer and expect as a potential swinging partner……. We’ll always get confusion no matter what consensus of opinion manifest from threads this…. OK thats my tuppenceworth.... I'm outta this one,,,, Oh and if anyone doesn't agree with me..... I'm not Bovvered.... So Rasssssssssp too you! " Without the rasp but ^^^^this! | |||
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"I say if you need to justify going with a man with all this dictionary definition etc it says more about you! Your bi, so what? " Bingo! | |||
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"When I want Sausage, I look for Sausage,,, That’s why I like Labels,,,,, it makes shopping easier and allows people to select the right ingredients to create enjoyable meals ,,,,,,,, Which to me, must surely be better than taking pot-luck or risking the possibility of spending hours in the kitchen only to end up with a totally unpalatable mess on my plate….!. " Soxy for PM! Something I've always at when people trot out "we don't need labels" nonsense! What's the first thing you look at when buying clothes? The label. Why? For price and your size is something that fits you. Therefore if you're looking for a sexual playmate you need to know sexually if they "fit" your needs: ergo "labels". Nothing sinister/derogatory in that! | |||
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"When I want Sausage, I look for Sausage,,, That’s why I like Labels,,,,, Soxy for PM! Something I've always at when people trot out "we don't need labels" nonsense! What's the first thing you look at when buying clothes? The label. Why? For price and your size is something that fits you. Therefore if you're looking for a sexual playmate you need to know sexually if they "fit" your needs: ergo "labels". Nothing sinister/derogatory in that! " Hey, I would take the job as PM ,,,,,, But only if they promised to include me in all the cross party whipping parties…. | |||
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"Not sure why the OP is getting flack he asked a perfectly respectable question and explained his reasons for doing so. Because too many people don't understand what healthy and open debate is, Hottie... and where did i say it wasnt a reasonable question, i simply stated he had already posted this exact message on another thread word for word, so therefore as he didnt really get the response he wanted he opened a new thread, when did i attack him or give him flack at all." Ok miss detective. Then did you check the times. Where these threads were posted etc. He was asking for advice on his profile and people were saying most are put off if you claim to be straight and are "looking" for TV/TS I didn't start this thread because I didn't like the response I got in the ADVICE section I didn't even wait for a response as it was just an opinion. But I still felt this subject needed a thread of it's own so posted it in the LOUNGE with this title where more people would contribute without taking over the other guys advice thread, Remember I said I'm not one to thread jack. Go jump to conclusions, put words in people mouths and generally busy yourself elsewhere. (waits for a "i can do what I want, It's a public forum" type of reply) | |||
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"Here Here... TV and TS are very different to each other both psychologically and potentially physically. A post op TS might want to use the title and be honest. It also covers M2F and F2M. TV is male in female clothing. They are totally different terms. Eh!,,, But surely a post-op TS has had their gender corrected and is no longer a TS… I'm pretty sure I'd be quite pissed off if I was still refereed to as a TS if I'd undergone full gender reassignment.... I agree! That's a very good point, and one which I hadn't considered until reading this. The word 'Trans' means in the process of moving (eg. 'in transit'). Once a TS has had the full operation and is a 'complete woman' (and that is not intended to be derogatory in any way) then surely the trans-sexual 'label' no longer applies? You are no longer 'in transit'. You are at the end of your journey... in one sense.." Hmm, you are right, but I have heard some people post op still keep to the tag. After all, however post you may be, you can NEVER be exactly the target sex you are seeking. You can remove the old, and look very like the new, but sadly for those trapped like that, medical science cannot (yet) complete the job. | |||
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"I say Why do we have to label people " So we can find who we're looking for, a bit like opening a tin of peas and finding beans. fine if you like beans, a p*sser if you don't. | |||
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"Not sure why the OP is getting flack he asked a perfectly respectable question and explained his reasons for doing so. Because too many people don't understand what healthy and open debate is, Hottie... and where did i say it wasnt a reasonable question, i simply stated he had already posted this exact message on another thread word for word, so therefore as he didnt really get the response he wanted he opened a new thread, when did i attack him or give him flack at all. Ok miss detective. Then did you check the times. Where these threads were posted etc. He was asking for advice on his profile and people were saying most are put off if you claim to be straight and are "looking" for TV/TS I didn't start this thread because I didn't like the response I got in the ADVICE section I didn't even wait for a response as it was just an opinion. But I still felt this subject needed a thread of it's own so posted it in the LOUNGE with this title where more people would contribute without taking over the other guys advice thread, Remember I said I'm not one to thread jack. Go jump to conclusions, put words in people mouths and generally busy yourself elsewhere. (waits for a "i can do what I want, It's a public forum" type of reply) " I originally posted on the other thread and really cant understand the fuss People remove certain veri's after they post on the forums, if they get unwanted attention from them..... Thats not new. Why it's spilled over here I do not know but there is a difference between having intimate liaisons with a pre op t/s mtf (Or a mtf that does not want an op) and being dishonest on ones profile, which will get a different response, than being honest and stating bi on your profile. As for the labels within tv/ts/cd I understand each term, as I bothered to learn years ago and have many pre op and post op mtf & ftm friends on another site. Yes the labelling system on here could be better, however having profile text allows for clarification, (should they wish to clarify) | |||
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"well if a post op transexual has a pussy not a willy that person is a female in her own right and should be under female category if you got boobs and still a willy there should be a ladyboy category for them if you have to label ppl at all lol " Hey I like your thinking....and perhaps we can also invent a new sub-category for men who've got big massive Moobs too.... cuz ya know they are gonna feel so left out and someone is bound to complain!!! I'm not sure what it should be called though? | |||
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"well if a post op transexual has a pussy not a willy that person is a female in her own right and should be under female category if you got boobs and still a willy there should be a ladyboy category for them if you have to label ppl at all lol Hey I like your thinking....and perhaps we can also invent a new sub-category for men who've got big massive Moobs too.... cuz ya know they are gonna feel so left out and someone is bound to complain!!! I'm not sure what it should be called though? " Bussy ? | |||
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"well if a post op transexual has a pussy not a willy that person is a female in her own right and should be under female category if you got boobs and still a willy there should be a ladyboy category for them if you have to label ppl at all lol Hey I like your thinking....and perhaps we can also invent a new sub-category for men who've got big massive Moobs too.... cuz ya know they are gonna feel so left out and someone is bound to complain!!! I'm not sure what it should be called though? " | |||
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