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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

What is it about this dynamic that draws so many people into it? Why is this often the starting point for couples, so much so that most clubs had their busiest night based around this dynamic?

Thoughts folks…

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By *aomilatteCouple
6 weeks ago

Midlands

Is it because there will be two pairs of boobs? In our experience you don't get many single fems go to the couples nights, many more go to the nights that allows guys.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
6 weeks ago

North West

So many thoughts on this. It was what B and I thought we wanted when we first started to explore. First things that spring to mind...

It's way more acceptable, encouraged in fact, for women to be bi.

*Some* men are less willing to see their partner with another man than another woman and an MFF panders to the stud fantasies.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say because it's so many mens fantasy to see two women together.

I often see in bios "he'd love to watch her with another woman."

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By *iss KinkWoman
6 weeks ago

North West

I’d hate to be someone’s fantasy

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By *isskxxyvWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

Adding a woman is a completely different dynamic from adding a man.

I guess especially for newbies, a woman being added is deemed as easier. Less likely there’s going to be too much dominance or point scoring etc.

Plus what man doesn’t want 2 women?😝

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By *ezandCCouple
6 weeks ago

Telford

It’s all about the boobs for kez, gets her so hot

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By *he Filthy Gorgeous OnesCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Most men couldn’t handle two women anyway.

They can just about handle one.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

What's your thoughts tea?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

It was never the starting point for me most of my lesbian sex was done one to one.

When I did involve a woman in our relationship it was always to fulfil my partners fantasy which worked well as we all ended up having an amazing time.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"What's your thoughts tea? "

My thoughts tend to revolve around fragile masculinity and fear of being replaced. Another woman eases that, plus it plays into the male fantasy of virility.

I feel that the traditional unicorn hunting dynamic is deeply problematic and unethical

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By *vaRoseWoman
6 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I think there are three motivators. The first is that it seems much more accepted by society as a whole for women to be bi, the second is that for many guys the ultimate fantasy is to be in the middle of two hot women, and the 3rd is that so many men are afraid of their masculinity or virility to be performing in front of another man.

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Watermouth

"I think there are three motivators. The first is that it seems much more accepted by society as a whole for women to be bi, the second is that for many guys the ultimate fantasy is to be in the middle of two hot women, and the 3rd is that so many men are afraid of their masculinity or virility to be performing in front of another man. "

I would say that is a big part of it. Sometimes the husband wants other women, but does not want the wife to have men.

One lady I knew said that was how she started, her husband bringing women to bed with them, she left him, and had more fun withour him.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We just love threesomes regardless if it another lady or gent.

With ladies, we can all just enjoy each other.

With gents, it’s all about C getting full attention. I go through phases of enjoying MFM more than FFM.

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think for a lot of guys it just feel safe, that and society allows women to have greater sexual liberation with same sex than men, so it’s easier all round. Personally much prefer Mmf that mff

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think for a lot of guys it just feel safe, that and society allows women to have greater sexual liberation with same sex than men, so it’s easier all round. Personally much prefer Mmf that mff "

Why does it feel safe and why do people prefer MFF?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really "
O do think things can be over thought

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really O do think things can be over thought"

I honestly think that every single time I come on here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really O do think things can be over thought

I honestly think that every single time I come on here. "
If I ever stopped to think why i liked certain things I'd have driven myself nuts. I did what I did cause I liked it and that is that

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really O do think things can be over thought

I honestly think that every single time I come on here. If I ever stopped to think why i liked certain things I'd have driven myself nuts. I did what I did cause I liked it and that is that"

You don’t think that understanding yourself is important?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really "

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Standard one penis policy reasons I guess.

Women touching women is just hot. If it's guys touching guys it's gay.

Your girlfriend having sex with another man means she might fall for him and leave you, but girl relationships don't count. If there's no penis there's no threat 💜

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really O do think things can be over thought

I honestly think that every single time I come on here. If I ever stopped to think why i liked certain things I'd have driven myself nuts. I did what I did cause I liked it and that is that

You don’t think that understanding yourself is important? "
No not at all. If I stopped to think why I enjoyed some of the things I did I'd probly have given myself trauma. In general yes I think it's important to understand yourself but not sexually. Everything I've ever done I've done simply because I've enjoyed it. Some might want to find physiological issues. I prefer to remain ignorant, I don't always think thinking to deep is a good thing

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really O do think things can be over thought

I honestly think that every single time I come on here. If I ever stopped to think why i liked certain things I'd have driven myself nuts. I did what I did cause I liked it and that is that

You don’t think that understanding yourself is important? No not at all. If I stopped to think why I enjoyed some of the things I did I'd probly have given myself trauma. In general yes I think it's important to understand yourself but not sexually. Everything I've ever done I've done simply because I've enjoyed it. Some might want to find physiological issues. I prefer to remain ignorant, I don't always think thinking to deep is a good thing"

Personally I think that understanding myself sexually is just as important as anything else. It’s all part of the same thing.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy? "

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Standard one penis policy reasons I guess.

Women touching women is just hot. If it's guys touching guys it's gay.

Your girlfriend having sex with another man means she might fall for him and leave you, but girl relationships don't count. If there's no penis there's no threat 💜"

I do tend to agree with you. It’s not possible to feel threatened by another woman

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does. "

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Standard one penis policy reasons I guess.

Women touching women is just hot. If it's guys touching guys it's gay.

Your girlfriend having sex with another man means she might fall for him and leave you, but girl relationships don't count. If there's no penis there's no threat 💜

I do tend to agree with you. It’s not possible to feel threatened by another woman "

Oh I mean that's the logic they seem to apply.

It's not how I feel about it 💜

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really O do think things can be over thought

I honestly think that every single time I come on here. If I ever stopped to think why i liked certain things I'd have driven myself nuts. I did what I did cause I liked it and that is that

Personally I think that understanding myself sexually is just as important as anything else. It’s all part of the same thing.

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and that's great that it works for you but it wouldn't work for me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man "

Not really relevant. He’s not bi. So it wouldn’t be a bi thing anyway

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man "

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject.

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By *inx000Couple
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Because its something we both enjoy,with another lady involved we can all enjoy each other and as a couple there is no better feeling than being able to share that experience together and knowing the lady is enjoying it just as much is an amazing feeling.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Dartford

We only play this way, I was the one that wanted to join the lifestyle as I came out to my husband and hadn't been with a women before. I had no idea how much I would enjoy seeing my husband with another woman whilst joining in. It's very hot and very naughty. I love the mff dynamic x

Mrs x

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject. "

I apologise, I’ve never said that about you

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject.

I apologise, I’ve never said that about you"

Over my knee

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

Not really relevant. He’s not bi. So it wouldn’t be a bi thing anyway "

Does an MMF always have to be bi for people to enjoy it?

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject.

I apologise, I’ve never said that about you

Over my knee "

Is that ethical?

If it is….can I watch?

If it’s not,….can I still watch?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject.

I apologise, I’ve never said that about you

Over my knee "

As much as I might be kinky, sadly that’s not my kink

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

Not really relevant. He’s not bi. So it wouldn’t be a bi thing anyway

Does an MMF always have to be bi for people to enjoy it? "

No. That was my point. You said how I feel about man on man. It wouldn’t be like that. But it still doesn’t appeal.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject.

I apologise, I’ve never said that about you

Over my knee

Is that ethical?

If it is….can I watch?

If it’s not,….can I still watch? "

😂😂

The only person that’s watching me be spanked is my mum, when I was 3

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By *inx000Couple
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"What's your thoughts tea?

My thoughts tend to revolve around fragile masculinity and fear of being replaced. Another woman eases that, plus it plays into the male fantasy of virility.

I feel that the traditional unicorn hunting dynamic is deeply problematic and unethical "

Unethical?Everyone is entitled to their own opinion about this but don't judge people by their dynamics or what it is that they are looking for especially when you've asked the question!It is common for couples to want a unicorn to join them..I don't see how it would be problematic or unethical?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

I don’t like this comment. People who don’t know me will take it that I’m homophobic. Men together does not turn me on. That’s all I’ve ever said on the subject.

I apologise, I’ve never said that about you

Over my knee

As much as I might be kinky, sadly that’s not my kink"

Ha. Mine neither. You’re safe

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

Not really relevant. He’s not bi. So it wouldn’t be a bi thing anyway

Does an MMF always have to be bi for people to enjoy it?

No. That was my point. You said how I feel about man on man. It wouldn’t be like that. But it still doesn’t appeal. "

You don’t like the idea of two guys worshipping you and pleasuring you?

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

1. It’s a couple’s prerogative what they choose to favour. Single men don’t do it for us, especially when they ignore the request on our bio not to contact us.

2. For most couples, a FFM is best since for the F half, another F gives her something that a man can’t offer and for the M half he gets two women which is the ultimate fantasy for many.

That’s the simplest explanation.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

Not really relevant. He’s not bi. So it wouldn’t be a bi thing anyway

Does an MMF always have to be bi for people to enjoy it?

No. That was my point. You said how I feel about man on man. It wouldn’t be like that. But it still doesn’t appeal.

You don’t like the idea of two guys worshipping you and pleasuring you? "

No. I really don’t to be honest. Happy with the one.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"What's your thoughts tea?

My thoughts tend to revolve around fragile masculinity and fear of being replaced. Another woman eases that, plus it plays into the male fantasy of virility.

I feel that the traditional unicorn hunting dynamic is deeply problematic and unethical

I’m not saying that it always is but when so many solo femmes are put off joining couples because of the couples behaviour, their relationship and dynamics, the couples privilege, then yes, it can be very unethical and very problematic for the women.

There are so many bisexual women on this site, yet they’re called unicorns (by couples) because they’re hard to find. Why is that?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"What's your thoughts tea?

My thoughts tend to revolve around fragile masculinity and fear of being replaced. Another woman eases that, plus it plays into the male fantasy of virility.

I feel that the traditional unicorn hunting dynamic is deeply problematic and unethical

There are so many bisexual women on this site, yet they’re called unicorns (by couples) because they’re hard to find. Why is that? "
But that can be said about any scenario, people getting put of by other peoples privalage

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I think the short version is that girls aren't threatening. Girls are just fun. Pretty little playthings of no consequence or importance.

As a single woman on here, I almost never connect with couples, because I dislike a lot of implications in so many of those kind of set ups.

There are exceptions. I definitely have met couples where I didn't feel like some disposable fun thing, but like an actual real human. They're very few and far between though. And I absolutely understand simply not being that interested in extra penii, I know that I'm more than happy with just one at a time. (Though more than one when there are other people as well is all good.)

And even though I'm definitely more interested in having more femme company, I don't ever seek it as a couple with one of my partners. It feels a bit weird and gross to me because of everything I associate with one penis policies and unicorn hunting.

It's not inherently unethical to want an MFF threesome. But the majority of people do seem to lose touch with the idea that the second F is an entire person with their own wants and desires outside of what the primary couple unit decide 💜

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By * and R cple4Couple
6 weeks ago

swansea

It does tend to be more of a mans fantasy to watch 2 women. Even tho I'm bi it's never really been our thing and we've never looked to meet single women.

We have met couples tho where the husband has been more interested in us putting on a show for him. That is quite off putting.

We have met women in clubs but that's been more of a spur of the moment thing. I find watching my husband naturally with another man way more sexy than being a performing seal and putting on a show.

We have met lots of couples where the man doesn't want his wife with another man so thats definitely a reason for some people why they only look for women..

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

A lot of replies seem to revolve around "it's the male fantasy" or men feeling threatened.

What if the female half of the couple is just bisexual and enjoys sex with women and wants to do that more as she doesn't get that within her relationship, and the male partner is supporting her in exploring her sexuality. But they chose to do it together? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Some women just aren't interested in having two men.

It doesn't always have to be problematic or "unethical".

I am what people would call a *unicorn* as I'm a single fem within the swing scene. I have come across my fair share of "unicorn hunters", some of them do just see me as a novelty, a play thing to be used to fulfil their needs and fantasies and then be discarded. But then so do some men?? 😂

I also meet plenty of couples who don't treat me like that.. Who get to know me as a person, who value me and my needs and ensure I enjoy the sex and I am satisfied as much, if not more than them at times. Who spend time with me after and outside of the sex and build friendships.

It doesn't have to be transactional, it can be amazing and fulfilling with the right people. Some couples treat me far better than some single men have. And the ones where I feel like the woman isn't genuinely into it or is just doing it to please her partner, or it's just about them fulfilling their fantasies and they're not really that interested in me, I just try and avoid as much as I can.

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By *orkshire Couple2000Couple
6 weeks ago

Halifax

Blondie is Bi and loves playing g with other ladies. Mr loves watching 2 hot women together

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Because it’s something we both enjoy and if we find a lady who enjoys it too with us it’s amazing.

Simple as that really

What is it about that which you enjoy? Why do you prefer another woman as opposed to another guy?

Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Whereas a woman and a man does.

Yes, we know how you feel about man on man

Not really relevant. He’s not bi. So it wouldn’t be a bi thing anyway

Does an MMF always have to be bi for people to enjoy it?

No. That was my point. You said how I feel about man on man. It wouldn’t be like that. But it still doesn’t appeal.

You don’t like the idea of two guys worshipping you and pleasuring you?

No. I really don’t to be honest. Happy with the one. "

Also to add to what I said already. I would never be interested in joining a couple. Even though that would be 2 women and one man. I would only do it with my own man. He wouldn’t have a problem at all to invite another man to join us either. It’s me who’s not keen.

The only women who have joined us are those I’ve met alone and who I know.

But like this thread proves, we’re all different and look for different things

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜"

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

But, some women say they’re bi sexual when it obvious they’re not. So the fact that the unicorn mantle is bestowed upon those women that will meet couple is simply because that are rare, and much rarer than it appears. Just my experience.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

What's rarer than an actually bisexual single woman on fab?

A couple where the woman is actually bisexual 💜

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"A lot of replies seem to revolve around "it's the male fantasy" or men feeling threatened.

It doesn't always have to be problematic or "unethical".

I didn’t say that it always is, just that it often is.

I’m not against or arguing about MFF threesomes, I’m simply asking couples, if that’s their only dynamic, why that is.

In general terms the answer is pretty rote

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

What's rarer than an actually bisexual single woman on fab?

A couple where the woman is actually bisexual 💜"

I don’t remember this question in Trivial Pursuit

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

You can’t move on fab without tripping over a bisexual woman and most of them that I’ve met won’t meet couples because of past experience with couples. Obviously that’s a sample size for consideration but it seems to be a uniform answer.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
6 weeks ago

bradford

Luna is the one that's interested in single women because let's face it why would I want to disapoint 2 women at the same time?

Mr H

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I think unethical and deeply problematic is strong. And I also think it depends on your perspective.

If all you’ve ever known is monogamy, which for most people is the case, then you protect your relationship at all costs. Feelings are a dirty word and to be avoided. I don’t think that’s problematic as long are you are honest with the people you are meeting so they can make an informed choice.

If, however, you’re coming at things from an ENM or poly perspective, then I can see how treating a third person as an add-on could be problematic. But ultimately I think it comes down to open communication between the people involved.

Mrs TMN x

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

Yes, a sample size. Your friends are massively different to mine.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

What's rarer than an actually bisexual single woman on fab?

A couple where the woman is actually bisexual 💜"

I was literally having this conversation earlier today. I have bi-curious ticked on our profile because I consider myself to be “boobs up bi” (a delightful phrase I learned today!) - I love kissing and boob play but that’s generally it. The exception would be when there’s a power dynamic involved, which may change things. But I do feel a bit like a fraud, being very aware of the women in couples who are performatively bi to please their partners. It’s nuanced and situational, for me.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Stockport

We absolutely steer clear of the , I'd love to see her with another lady profiles

And those that say , I'd like to see her put on a show are the same

Mrs j is bi , not fab straight or a pillow princess

She lived in a relationship with a woman and had a girlfriend

It was never a starting point for us

We've met couples , single guys and single ladies

The difference is that we feel the responsibility to see that single ladies feel safe

That's a bit part of us doing so well with them

We treat them as an equal , not an addition

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

What's rarer than an actually bisexual single woman on fab?

A couple where the woman is actually bisexual 💜

There’s far too many just doing it for their partners, in my oppinion.

Whether that’s right or wrong is a different discussion with those that have done this, because isn’t that how we all explore kinky sex? By trying things out of our comfort zone.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I suppose really, it's the same answer as the single men who complain no women here want men.

We do. Just the ones you're approaching don't want you 💜

So what you’re saying is, it’s a preference?

Coz, that’s it.

What's rarer than an actually bisexual single woman on fab?

A couple where the woman is actually bisexual 💜

There’s far too many just doing it for their partners, in my oppinion.

Whether that’s right or wrong is a different discussion with those that have done this, because isn’t that how we all explore kinky sex? By trying things out of our comfort zone. "

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
6 weeks ago

North West

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no."

Close thread.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no.

Close thread. "

Even though I don’t think I answered the original question at all

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no."

What’s the difference? (Of course there’s a line) but seriously, what the difference?

My partner wants to try something, I want to please my partner, so we TRY it.

I don’t ant to try try something, my partner TRIED it.

Either way, we find we like or don’t like it. It’s pushing boundaries. (If that’s what you’re happy doing of course.)

I mean, I want to please my partner. … and I hope they would please me.

Or just - NO seems like it’s not give or take, again. My oppinion.

I like people that try things, I’m prepared if they don’t like it and we don’t need to try it again.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

There’s far too many just doing it for their partners, in my oppinion. "

And how do you know who these are?

I’m here asking questions, which you dislike but then you state something which was pretty much on point.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no.

What’s the difference? (Of course there’s a line) but seriously, what the difference?

My partner wants to try something, I want to please my partner, so we TRY it.

I don’t ant to try try something, my partner TRIED it.

Either way, we find we like or don’t like it. It’s pushing boundaries. (If that’s what you’re happy doing of course.)

I mean, I want to please my partner. … and I hope they would please me.

Or just - NO seems like it’s not give or take, again. My oppinion.

I like people that try things, I’m prepared if they don’t like it and we don’t need to try it again.

What happens when you try something that one of you dislikes that involves another person, is that fair on the other person?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no.

What’s the difference? (Of course there’s a line) but seriously, what the difference?

My partner wants to try something, I want to please my partner, so we TRY it.

I don’t ant to try try something, my partner TRIED it.

Either way, we find we like or don’t like it. It’s pushing boundaries. (If that’s what you’re happy doing of course.)

I mean, I want to please my partner. … and I hope they would please me.

Or just - NO seems like it’s not give or take, again. My oppinion.

I like people that try things, I’m prepared if they don’t like it and we don’t need to try it again.

As with everything, there’s nuance. Your original post about this said there are many doing it just to please their partner, and that’s the critical part for me. If it’s not top of your list but a partner is keen, and you both know that if you don’t enjoy it that’s fine, then carry on. If you’ve been persuaded into something you’re not keen on, or feel if you don’t do it there could be negative consequences, that’s not ok. That’s the difference for me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no.

What’s the difference? (Of course there’s a line) but seriously, what the difference?

My partner wants to try something, I want to please my partner, so we TRY it.

I don’t ant to try try something, my partner TRIED it.

Either way, we find we like or don’t like it. It’s pushing boundaries. (If that’s what you’re happy doing of course.)

I mean, I want to please my partner. … and I hope they would please me.

Or just - NO seems like it’s not give or take, again. My oppinion.

I like people that try things, I’m prepared if they don’t like it and we don’t need to try it again.

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There's a lot of difference, when I was married between us we did a hell of a lot of experimenting. My husband was a dirty bustard and suggested certain things I wasn't into. There's things I've not had to try to know I'm not into. When I said no he respected me for that. But know way on hods earth would I do something simply to please someone else

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Trying things out of your comfort zone, yes. Doing it just to please someone else, no.

What’s the difference? (Of course there’s a line) but seriously, what the difference?

My partner wants to try something, I want to please my partner, so we TRY it.

I don’t ant to try try something, my partner TRIED it.

Either way, we find we like or don’t like it. It’s pushing boundaries. (If that’s what you’re happy doing of course.)

I mean, I want to please my partner. … and I hope they would please me.

Or just - NO seems like it’s not give or take, again. My oppinion.

I like people that try things, I’m prepared if they don’t like it and we don’t need to try it again.

I've had people that desperately wanted me to peg them, but it simply did not interest or excite me as a concept. Then I had a partner that it just felt right with. I actively wanted to fuck him that way. And that's when I first tried it. And it was fucking brilliant.

I don't want to be something someone is only engaging with to please someone else, whether that's me or their own partner or whatever. I want people to do things with me that all involved parties are genuinely excited to do.

I actively dislike pushing boundaries though, so 💜

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By *otally BenettonCouple
6 weeks ago

shropshire

Just for the record; we both love being with hot guys and hot ladies and we both love sharing. I think it’s a fair assumption that it can be a guy led thing but that’s not always the case.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

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There’s far too many just doing it for their partners, in my oppinion.

And how do you know who these are?

I’m here asking questions, which you dislike but then you state something which was pretty much on point.

If your interested, ask this question in the Swingers Forum. Because you might get a more varied answer than the expected responses from your friends in here.

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