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What’s an average guy like myself got to do to meet someone

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By *di3491 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Sandbach

Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Your profile doesn't really say much

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

I think you need to bolster your profile as there isn't much way of substance, dear fellow.

I'm not quite sure why two of your photographs are flipped 90°.

I would suggest attending a few group socials and clubs.

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By *di3491 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Sandbach

What else should I put in my profile

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By *ynamite500Man
6 weeks ago

Angus


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere "

Put a plaster cast on your arm, then ask a lady to give you a hand, lifting a sofa into your van! Works a treat!!🤣 ( If you know, you know!)🤣

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"What else should I put in my profile "
make it as interesting and appealing. It's your shop window

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair


"What else should I put in my profile "

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Anything that makes you stand out from the rest of the men, a descriptive that makes you unique, as opposed to making you look 'generic'. What are your interests? What are you passions? What are you looking for? (And don't say looking for "fun" because every man, bitch and dog is looking for that).

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By *ynamite500Man
6 weeks ago

Angus


"What else should I put in my profile make it as interesting and appealing. It's your shop window"

The lady is right!!😉

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
6 weeks ago

mid glam

Did you change anything on your profile since the last time you asked?

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By *di3491 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Sandbach

Yeah I’ve changed it have a look and drop me a message if you see any way to improve

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
6 weeks ago

mid glam

I'll Keep to the forums OP

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"Yeah I’ve changed it have a look and drop me a message if you see any way to improve "
isn't the advice your getting on the thread good enough

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By *andadbodMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

It looks rushed, two photos that are screenshots just advertises laziness, crop them and upload again, your profile text reads like most, one paragraph and no punctuation to be seen, expand that and break it down in to paragraphs, also, you’ve been on the site for just 8 weeks, for some reason you thought you’d be knee deep in clunge well before now, the swinging scene is not as simple as you think, it takes work and lots of it.

Good Luck 👍🏻

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By *outhern77Man
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

This thread appears every day doesn't it?

Sorry OP...

As previously mentioned, Your Profile is Your Shop Window for You..

Have a look around at other Profiles, see what works for those and adapt some for Yours, make Your Photos clear, of You and not all Action/Cock Pics..

Next, with Messaging, Take Your Time, message with comments based on Profile Info and/or questions, not all Woman like a FAF straight off with a Pic of the Little-Man..

Most Importantly.. Have Fun, Persevere and look at Organised Socials/Clubs

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By *hil most chillMan
6 weeks ago

South East & Europe

You need to have an interesting profile, attractive pics, write good messages, and have great timing so that the right people read your messages at the right time. The last part is total luck btw. Personally I don't put much weight in the advice to attend socials and clubs. I've never attended a social and only ever been to a club once (as an arranged meet) and I've pounded loads of vag from fab 👍

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By *vaRoseWoman
6 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Honest answer is I’d delete any message because your profile says lazy and unimaginative. If you wanted to be generic dude on fab you’ve hit every nail except for a pic of your cock over a toilet being measured with a lynx can.

Pics are screenshots, either you’re too lazy to crop your own photos properly or a more cynical part of me is wondering if they’re even your pics and too daft to even try harder to pass them off as yourself. I’m not saying that’s what you’re doing but that it could appear that way.

Your bio looks like it took a few seconds to think of and it tells me absolutely nothing.

It’s got a few of your stats that I can see from the basic profile info and pics already. I know your height as it’s on the profile, I can see you are blonde. Repeating yourself to fill in the bio is lazy and boring.

You want to explore and try new things. Yawn. What new things? Explore what? What’s new to you might be everyday sex to someone else. Leading to something more… more what? Leading to sex? Leading to fuckbuddy? Leading to marriage and a mortgage? Details matter when you make statements like that.

Now I am well aware I’m a fussy bitch and blunter than a hammer. However when I read a profile I want to be a mix of teased, intrigued, and informed. A sprinkling of your personality, an inkling of your intelligence, something that tells me why you’re not just the generic dude typing with his dick in one hand and the idea that joining here will mean he’s drowning in clunge from the get go.

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By *andadbodMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Honest answer is I’d delete any message because your profile says lazy and unimaginative. If you wanted to be generic dude on fab you’ve hit every nail except for a pic of your cock over a toilet being measured with a lynx can.

Pics are screenshots, either you’re too lazy to crop your own photos properly or a more cynical part of me is wondering if they’re even your pics and too daft to even try harder to pass them off as yourself. I’m not saying that’s what you’re doing but that it could appear that way.

Your bio looks like it took a few seconds to think of and it tells me absolutely nothing.

It’s got a few of your stats that I can see from the basic profile info and pics already. I know your height as it’s on the profile, I can see you are blonde. Repeating yourself to fill in the bio is lazy and boring.

You want to explore and try new things. Yawn. What new things? Explore what? What’s new to you might be everyday sex to someone else. Leading to something more… more what? Leading to sex? Leading to fuckbuddy? Leading to marriage and a mortgage? Details matter when you make statements like that.

Now I am well aware I’m a fussy bitch and blunter than a hammer. However when I read a profile I want to be a mix of teased, intrigued, and informed. A sprinkling of your personality, an inkling of your intelligence, something that tells me why you’re not just the generic dude typing with his dick in one hand and the idea that joining here will mean he’s drowning in clunge from the get go.

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Totally this 👍🏻

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Average is always subjective.

95% of people will never be compatible with eachother and that's often got little to do with looks.

The key thing is to make yourself appear less 'average' and therefore stand out. There's plenty of 'attractive' folk who have average profiles that don't portray themselves well. There's plenty of 'average' folk that put a lot of time and effort into making sure their photos catch the eye and their words generate interest and entertain others.

Everyone can help their own cause if they choose to.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

The average guy gets to meet people by finding compatible people.

This is much easier done online when both sides have a profile that gives an idea of compatibility. Especially as most women are bombarded with messages, so they're not going to ask the questions individually for every profile that doesn't even cover the basic of what they want to know.

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
6 weeks ago

Reading


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere "

"What’s an average guy like myself got to do to meet someone?" you ask...

Don't be average, be interesting.

J

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By *agic.MMan
6 weeks ago

Orpington

Work on yourself and become above average (what ever this means to you) 👀

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By *ikesEmBigMan
6 weeks ago

Herts


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere "
get some cartoon eyes and a moustache

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
6 weeks ago

Hatfield

Be lucky

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
6 weeks ago

Hatfield


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere get some cartoon eyes and a moustache "

Classic

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By *ucka39Man
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

Browse other profiles see how they've created there's for ideas then create something that fits ideally around you

From a little bit about yourself, what makes you tick to what you are ideally looking for on this site that's how you are going to find compatibility and keep your options open if you wish to explore further

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 weeks ago

Leeds


"What else should I put in my profile "

Full stops. Got out of breath reading that

But on a serious note...think of your profile as a shop window (we all know women like to shop)

Would you be enticed to want to look further inside?

No point in telling you what to put because then it wouldn't be you...sell yourself

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

Just wait until there’s less men in here.

I read this somewhere.

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By *layfullsamMan
6 weeks ago

Solihull

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By *rdere OpusCouple
6 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Your profile needs to tell people what you offer and what you’re looking for, your boundaries, your must haves, your must not haves.

It’s the best way to give others an idea of compatibility. If you don’t provide this, people will look for other clues as to how compatible you might be, so show them.

You also need decent photos that show your body shape and give an idea about you. This doesn’t have to mean face pics. And it doesn’t have to mean cock pics either.

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere "

List yourself as bi curious

Or;

Grow a pair of tits

Those are traditionally, the two best options for meets in Fab

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
6 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Average?

C’mon. You’re someone’s 10, I guarantee

Fab has taught me, I’m a total munter to some people

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 weeks ago

little house on the praire

See he's been online and hasn't even bothered to thank people for their advice

I await the new profile

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Men need to add in to their profile, what a prospective partner would need to see, to know whether they fancy you and whether your tastes and preferences are mutually compatible.

Great, clear photos that fully show you are needed.

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 weeks ago

Bedford

Have a profile that states why he should be chosen over thousands of other guys on here. Plus be able to accommodate, as for many, not being able to normally means married/attached and playing behind their back.

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
6 weeks ago

Medway


"Honest answer is I’d delete any message because your profile says lazy and unimaginative. If you wanted to be generic dude on fab you’ve hit every nail except for a pic of your cock over a toilet being measured with a lynx can.

Pics are screenshots, either you’re too lazy to crop your own photos properly or a more cynical part of me is wondering if they’re even your pics and too daft to even try harder to pass them off as yourself. I’m not saying that’s what you’re doing but that it could appear that way.

Your bio looks like it took a few seconds to think of and it tells me absolutely nothing.

It’s got a few of your stats that I can see from the basic profile info and pics already. I know your height as it’s on the profile, I can see you are blonde. Repeating yourself to fill in the bio is lazy and boring.

You want to explore and try new things. Yawn. What new things? Explore what? What’s new to you might be everyday sex to someone else. Leading to something more… more what? Leading to sex? Leading to fuckbuddy? Leading to marriage and a mortgage? Details matter when you make statements like that.

Now I am well aware I’m a fussy bitch and blunter than a hammer. However when I read a profile I want to be a mix of teased, intrigued, and informed. A sprinkling of your personality, an inkling of your intelligence, something that tells me why you’re not just the generic dude typing with his dick in one hand and the idea that joining here will mean he’s drowning in clunge from the get go.

"

You don't mince your words and you're also spot on!!!

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By *vonne5exMan
6 weeks ago

Doncaster


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere "
Go out into town, far easier than trawling through hundreds of doubtful profiles and you get to see who your actually talking to

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith


"Any tips for getting some meetings I’ve been honest and open on my profile but getting nowhere Go out into town, far easier than trawling through hundreds of doubtful profiles and you get to see who your actually talking to "

Absolutely this! There’s far more women out there, in the real world, than in Fab or the club scene!

Always remember; swinging is for couples. Know your place as a solo guy in this scene

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