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"Yes, is the short answer. Good looks absolutely come with some privilege. Luckily, I’m a handsome bastard." Just kidding. I wasn’t one of the good looking kids, and I was a properly awkward teen. And I watched ‘conventionally attractive’ friends sail through life. Not all beautiful people though. Not by a long shot. Obviously it’s not that simple. Nothing is. | |||
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"Yes, is the short answer. Good looks absolutely come with some privilege. Luckily, I’m a handsome bastard. Just kidding. I wasn’t one of the good looking kids, and I was a properly awkward teen. And I watched ‘conventionally attractive’ friends sail through life. Not all beautiful people though. Not by a long shot. Obviously it’s not that simple. Nothing is." My best friend (she still is) was beautiful and I was the one who always got the not so good looking mate 🤣 | |||
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"I've never considered it as a way of having doors opened or creating opportunities. As far as it being a privilege I think that may be how others see it rather than the person themselves. It wouldn't be the first conversation suggesting that someone only got that job because of how they look rather than the fact they had all the relevant skills. Looks can sometimes be a curse rather than a privilege because people can't see beyond the book cover. I would say with confidence that quite a few good-looking people have had doors closed by those who only see the aesthetically pleasing face and assume they are shallow and unsuitable."  | |||
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"I wonder how these people who rely on their looks cope when their looks fade and others no longer find them attractive" A lot of people don't cope well. | |||
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"Fashion and style makeup has alot to do with looks these days strip that away I love a natural women especially in the morning " We all love the smell of eau de naturel in a morning  | |||
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"Also good looks attract the haters who are jealous of them" That is definitely true. Also the implication that good looking people must not be such nice people as some kind of karmic justice, which is obviously nonsense. | |||
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"I also think it could have something to do with confidence in some cases (not all). If you think you look good you are more confident and outgoing. I know that’s the case with me. I am a different person when I’m not overweight and I feel good about myself. " Hit the nail on the head there Nora. I've landed a couple of jobs over the years, not because of looks (like when is that ever a prerequisite ...OK, unless you're a model or something) or my abilty to do the job, but because I bullshitted my way through it with faux confidence and charm. | |||
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 it just means society looks more favourably on conventionally attractive people and it's pretty pervasive. | |||
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"Yes I think it is. I also think weight is. I think fat people are looked at differently in society. " That's just because they're just harder to see past 🥪 | |||
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"I have no idea what is considered good looking anymore. From what I read on here, it's all just about preferences." I certainly think my perception of good looking (or not) is skewed! I seem not to agree with the media outlets who tell me Such-and-such-a-body is handsome etc. | |||
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"Yes I think it is. I also think weight is. I think fat people are looked at differently in society. That's just because they're just harder to see past 🥪" Yes. We do indeed make better doors than windows 👍🏻 | |||
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"I have no idea what is considered good looking anymore. From what I read on here, it's all just about preferences. I certainly think my perception of good looking (or not) is skewed! I seem not to agree with the media outlets who tell me Such-and-such-a-body is handsome etc. " Same here Mrs KC. I’ve never really gone for the ones everyone else seems to think are good looking. Same with celebs. George clooney, Brad Pitt etc. I just can’t see it | |||
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"I have no idea what is considered good looking anymore. From what I read on here, it's all just about preferences. I certainly think my perception of good looking (or not) is skewed! I seem not to agree with the media outlets who tell me Such-and-such-a-body is handsome etc. Same here Mrs KC. I’ve never really gone for the ones everyone else seems to think are good looking. Same with celebs. George clooney, Brad Pitt etc. I just can’t see it " I was reading earlier about the "heartthrobs" cast in the forthcoming Beatles biopic. I felt MYOPIC. I must need my eyes testing 🧐 | |||
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"Pretty privilege absolutely exists. Obviously, that doesn't mean that attractive people get absolutely everything they want in life with no problems it just means society looks more favourably on conventionally attractive people and it's pretty pervasive. "This | |||
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"Also good looks attract the haters who are jealous of them" I used to go out with a girl who was hated by some women because of her looks and friendly personality, she never saw how pretty she was to be honest, just a down to earth person x | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide?" Online, possibly. | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide?" It's more than a train of thought; there's tons of research showing the dating and mating advantage of men being tall. Leo Blooms, 6ft 5.🦒 | |||
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"I've been rejected so many times on here because I'm a cd,every time I look at somebody I like,there profile says I'm blocked due to my sex,it does affect your mental health, and confidence, I feel like scum on this site." Why on earth do you stay if its having that affect on you | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide?" I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 | |||
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"Being a handsome, sexy, funny, tall, charming, modest, ripped sex god I'm one privileged MF! They hate us , cos they ain't us 🥪" Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? It's more than a train of thought; there's tons of research showing the dating and mating advantage of men being tall. Leo Blooms, 6ft 5.🦒" 😮 Do you even know where your feet are at any given moment? | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? It's more than a train of thought; there's tons of research showing the dating and mating advantage of men being tall. Leo Blooms, 6ft 5.🦒 😮 Do you even know where your feet are at any given moment? " One of them is usually in my mouth.🙊 | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 " Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous  | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous "No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins! 🤣 | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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"Definitely not a privilege. Just helps you get what you want in life faster and sex quicker,than someone less fortunate who has to put in more effort to achieve the same results. " Is that not exactly what privilege means? 🤔 | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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But he's got the hair "Kick a man when he's down, why don't you! | |||
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"Definitely not a privilege. Just helps you get what you want in life faster and sex quicker,than someone less fortunate who has to put in more effort to achieve the same results. Is that not exactly what privilege means? 🤔" No Speed and privilege are different One's quick One's guaranteed | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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But he's got the hair
Kick a man when he's down, why don't you!"Punching down seems to be a national sport these days | |||
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"oh well, I can't miss something I never had" Same here, not ugly but not had any good looking privileges either. | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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But he's got the hair
Kick a man when he's down, why don't you!
Punching down seems to be a national sport these days "More height jokes
Sick of being bullied on here. | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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But he's got the hair
Kick a man when he's down, why don't you!
Punching down seems to be a national sport these days
More height jokes
Sick of being bullied on here."Tbf, I'm shorter than the shortest king while I'm seated ♿ Mr KC, on the other hand... | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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But he's got the hair
Kick a man when he's down, why don't you!
Punching down seems to be a national sport these days
More height jokes
Sick of being bullied on here."You’re a while 1” taller than me if that helps. | |||
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"Definitely not a privilege. Just helps you get what you want in life faster and sex quicker,than someone less fortunate who has to put in more effort to achieve the same results. Is that not exactly what privilege means? 🤔 No Speed and privilege are different One's quick One's guaranteed " Fast results without effort sounds like privilege to me. 🤔 | |||
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"Attractive pepple will always and always will have a head start in any profession they choose because unfortunately "thats life" I've seen attractive women get seriously over promoted simply because they are very "easy on the eye"......fact." I've seen men get promoted way beyond their ability because the only (much more suitable alternative) was a woman. | |||
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"Attractive pepple will always and always will have a head start in any profession they choose because unfortunately "thats life" I've seen attractive women get seriously over promoted simply because they are very "easy on the eye"......fact. I've seen men get promoted way beyond their ability because the only (much more suitable alternative) was a woman. " Same. Same. | |||
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"I think others see it as privilege but I‘ve always viewed it as just another of the crosses I have to bear "But you have a cool name, Noddy... My real name is one people forget & I have to spell most of the time. | |||
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"Definitely not a privilege. Just helps you get what you want in life faster and sex quicker,than someone less fortunate who has to put in more effort to achieve the same results. Is that not exactly what privilege means? 🤔 No Speed and privilege are different One's quick One's guaranteed Fast results without effort sounds like privilege to me. 🤔" In your opinion of course | |||
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"Definitely not a privilege. Just helps you get what you want in life faster and sex quicker,than someone less fortunate who has to put in more effort to achieve the same results. Is that not exactly what privilege means? 🤔 No Speed and privilege are different One's quick One's guaranteed Fast results without effort sounds like privilege to me. 🤔 In your opinion of course " It's my opinion as well, I'm really not getting what you say | |||
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"Definitely not a privilege. Just helps you get what you want in life faster and sex quicker,than someone less fortunate who has to put in more effort to achieve the same results. Is that not exactly what privilege means? 🤔" Yep | |||
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"You're a nice looking man, so yes I do believe that those looks may have opened doors for you That said, there is a train of thought that links height in men to success (both sexually and professionally) So, does your not being tall cancel out some of the privilege that your looks provide? I was going to make a similar point, OP. You're also not white, so minus a privilege point there too! Never mind privileged, you're practically oppressed! Yours in solidarity, YOLO 🤣 Poor Falcon, you guys are obviously just jealous
No, no, I am short and brown too. Falcon and I are practically brothers. He just got the looks - like Arnie in Twins!
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But he's got the hair
Kick a man when he's down, why don't you!
Punching down seems to be a national sport these days
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Sick of being bullied on here.
You’re a while 1” taller than me if that helps. "It does. But I bet you're going to wear heels when we go out?! 😉 | |||
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"I think others see it as privilege but I‘ve always viewed it as just another of the crosses I have to bear
But you have a cool name, Noddy...
My real name is one people forget & I have to spell most of the time."I think I know what your name is now by the way. Just need that guessing game to come back on the forum. | |||
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"Looks are only a privilege until you open your mouth. " Agreed. You can be stunning as hell, but if you’re entitled, rude, ignorant and narcissistic behind that… they’ll only get you so far. Nobody likes a cunt (she says on a swingers site 🙈😅😂). | |||
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"Looks are only a privilege until you open your mouth. Agreed. You can be stunning as hell, but if you’re entitled, rude, ignorant and narcissistic behind that… they’ll only get you so far. Nobody likes a cunt (she says on a swingers site 🙈😅😂)." Plus I sound like janet street-porter. | |||
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"Looks are only a privilege until you open your mouth. Agreed. You can be stunning as hell, but if you’re entitled, rude, ignorant and narcissistic behind that… they’ll only get you so far. Nobody likes a cunt (she says on a swingers site 🙈😅😂). Plus I sound like janet street-porter." Ooooft… bet you make all the ladies wet with just a haaaalllllloooo | |||
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"There have been several studies in the US that have shown being “attractive” (as rated by a group) tends to correlate with higher pay and more opportunities. Is that ‘privilege’? No idea." That is pretty much the definition of privilege, yes. | |||
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"It’s amazing how people on screen seem to be easy on the eye. I wonder if doors of opportunity was open for the less attractive women/guy who auditioned for the role.? " Many antagonists in tv/films are "ugly", "strange" looking or have a deformity. I read an article recently decrying how so many James Bond villains have facial disfigurements/disabilities and the perpetuating of harmful stereotypes and "othering". | |||
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"I think being good looking or athletic opens more doors than most other characteristics. " 100% | |||
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"*some* men will accept behaviour from a good looking woman that they wouldn't from a less attractive one. You see it all the time even on here in the 'she wouldn't get a second look in real life why is she being so picky?' comments. Some women will behave badly towards a man they don't find attractive and in ways they never would towards a good looking man. It carries on from there. " Astute behavioural examples, I agree they feature prominently. I don't think it's particular to fab though, more a general social phenomena. It does indeed carry on from there, with all kinds peculiar games and pay-offs. | |||
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"It’s amazing how people on screen seem to be easy on the eye. I wonder if doors of opportunity was open for the less attractive women/guy who auditioned for the role.? Many antagonists in tv/films are "ugly", "strange" looking or have a deformity. I read an article recently decrying how so many James Bond villains have facial disfigurements/disabilities and the perpetuating of harmful stereotypes and "othering". " People with visible disabilities have been used as "baddies" since forever and it doesn't help when the reaction of many adults to things like wheelchairs is to behave like a numpty. Just behave normally* *Though, some people are clearly not normal! | |||
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