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"Get some restraints do some research and have a go or if the idea doesn't do it for you put your big boy pants on and talk to her about it " Oh I like the idea, and I have some restraints 
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"Get some restraints do some research and have a go or if the idea doesn't do it for you put your big boy pants on and talk to her about it Oh I like the idea, and I have some restraints
Just wondering what the best way is to move to using them. Just asking, "can I tie you up now?" just seems un-sexy "You don't ask you do that's kinda the point maybe get on top of her hold her hands against the pillow whilst you kiss her then reach for the cuffs and slip them on before you tie her by her wrists to the bed then her ankles job done and she's yours to do as you wish 😁😉😋 | |||
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"Show her your profile, she may tie you up and spank you  "🤣🤣🤣🤣 fair!! | |||
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"Show her your profile, she may tie you up and spank you "Good answer!!!🤣 | |||
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"Get some restraints do some research and have a go or if the idea doesn't do it for you put your big boy pants on and talk to her about it Oh I like the idea, and I have some restraints
Just wondering what the best way is to move to using them. Just asking, "can I tie you up now?" just seems un-sexy
You don't ask you do that's kinda the point maybe get on top of her hold her hands against the pillow whilst you kiss her then reach for the cuffs and slip them on before you tie her by her wrists to the bed then her ankles job done and she's yours to do as you wish 😁😉😋"Thanks, that's helpful | |||
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"Get some restraints do some research and have a go or if the idea doesn't do it for you put your big boy pants on and talk to her about it Oh I like the idea, and I have some restraints
Just wondering what the best way is to move to using them. Just asking, "can I tie you up now?" just seems un-sexy "But she has already said she wants to try being tied up ? So surely you just say...you mentioned you would like to be tied up, I got these...which ones would you like to try ? And suggest she chooses a safe word. | |||
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"Show her your profile, she may tie you up and spank you "👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 | |||
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"Just get the ol' gaffer tape out the tool box. Seduce her, restrain her and then tell her you're of to the pub for a few! I guarantee she will want to fuck you good style when you get back!!🤣" 😂 | |||
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"My girlfriend wants to be tied up, and possibly hit with a crop. I've never done it before, how do I transition from kissing etc to spanking or tying her up? " I cannot stress enough how much I would recommend finding a local munch in your area. Many are full of kink-friendly people with decades of experience and contacts in the scene. Newcomers are always welcome in my experience. . As you ease in to the scene, you'll learn about rope safety (because inappropriate use can harm someone.). You'll learn about consent. Scene-planning. You never stop learning to be honest. . A lot of munches organise play events and some arrange workshops for new folks. Or know folks that do. . What I do caution against is watching some videos with "play scenes". They "might" be instructional on a scene, but they are often framed and enacted by people who are appropriate to that scene's play style. I'd caution against copying someone else entirely. Evolve your own style with your partner once you've had a chance to speak to others, and you both approach this fully cognisant of the risks and rewards. . And before you even travel down that route, the first question must be... . Why does she want to be tied up and impacted ? What drives that need and desire. What does she anticipate from it ? How do you feel about it ? . If my partner asked me the same thing, there would be a very in-depth chat. And I would make notes, because this is a journey for 2 people and communication throughout the journey is key. . I wish you all the best. | |||
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"My girlfriend wants to be tied up, and possibly hit with a crop. I've never done it before, how do I transition from kissing etc to spanking or tying her up? I cannot stress enough how much I would recommend finding a local munch in your area. Many are full of kink-friendly people with decades of experience and contacts in the scene. Newcomers are always welcome in my experience. . As you ease in to the scene, you'll learn about rope safety (because inappropriate use can harm someone.). You'll learn about consent. Scene-planning. You never stop learning to be honest. . A lot of munches organise play events and some arrange workshops for new folks. Or know folks that do. . What I do caution against is watching some videos with "play scenes". They "might" be instructional on a scene, but they are often framed and enacted by people who are appropriate to that scene's play style. I'd caution against copying someone else entirely. Evolve your own style with your partner once you've had a chance to speak to others, and you both approach this fully cognisant of the risks and rewards. . And before you even travel down that route, the first question must be... . Why does she want to be tied up and impacted ? What drives that need and desire. What does she anticipate from it ? How do you feel about it ? . If my partner asked me the same thing, there would be a very in-depth chat. And I would make notes, because this is a journey for 2 people and communication throughout the journey is key. . I wish you all the best." Very well said | |||
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"My girlfriend wants to be tied up, and possibly hit with a crop. I've never done it before, how do I transition from kissing etc to spanking or tying her up? I cannot stress enough how much I would recommend finding a local munch in your area. Many are full of kink-friendly people with decades of experience and contacts in the scene. Newcomers are always welcome in my experience. . As you ease in to the scene, you'll learn about rope safety (because inappropriate use can harm someone.). You'll learn about consent. Scene-planning. You never stop learning to be honest. . A lot of munches organise play events and some arrange workshops for new folks. Or know folks that do. . What I do caution against is watching some videos with "play scenes". They "might" be instructional on a scene, but they are often framed and enacted by people who are appropriate to that scene's play style. I'd caution against copying someone else entirely. Evolve your own style with your partner once you've had a chance to speak to others, and you both approach this fully cognisant of the risks and rewards. . And before you even travel down that route, the first question must be... . Why does she want to be tied up and impacted ? What drives that need and desire. What does she anticipate from it ? How do you feel about it ? . If my partner asked me the same thing, there would be a very in-depth chat. And I would make notes, because this is a journey for 2 people and communication throughout the journey is key. . I wish you all the best. Very well said " This this this!!! | |||
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"Get some restraints do some research and have a go or if the idea doesn't do it for you put your big boy pants on and talk to her about it Oh I like the idea, and I have some restraints
Just wondering what the best way is to move to using them. Just asking, "can I tie you up now?" just seems un-sexy
But she has already said she wants to try being tied up ? So surely you just say...you mentioned you would like to be tied up, I got these...which ones would you like to try ? And suggest she chooses a safe word."For a safewords the traffic light system is good, Red = STOP, yellow = take it a bit easier, green means on you go. It's intuitive and easy to remember. And remember, in the bdsm world "stop that you bastard" isn't a safe word | |||
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