FabSwingers.com forum: disillusioned with this

By (user no longer on site) OP
5 days ago

I'm not really sure what I do wrong. I've messaged hundreds of people on here and just get blown put

I'm not ugly, told I have nice big coxk and just can't get anyone to beinterested.

seems that colour seems to be a problem unless your abbc.

I've changed my profile several times put up pics but to no avail.

does someone want to restore my faith before I give up!

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By *vaRose43Woman
5 days ago

Forest of Dean

Is it the getting people to chat stage you’re struggling with or once you’re chatting are people just not committing?

Most people won’t connect, in fact you’ll appeal to so few because that’s what life is. Most people won’t be attracted to you and vice versa.

I will say it’s nothing to do with your ethnicity. You haven’t asked for feedback on your profile so i can’t give constructive criticism but I’ll be honest if you messaged me from the profile you’re using it would be an auto delete.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
5 days ago

To be honest if your profile is the best you can do then maybe here is not the right place with you. I do know lots of men who are very successful on fab, and none of them have a BBC so I really don't think skin colour is your issue.

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By *s-two-75Couple
5 days ago

club meets only

Our advice would be go to a club, try a hosted event from for forums, that way normally membership won’t be required for that one night and sometimes you may get some introductions from the host.

For us we although on here, like many would only meet someone through a club for a social first.

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By *eddedwandererMan
5 days ago

Swindon

I'm no expert or have no desire too offend, lately I do not speak for anyone else. Just my thoughts.

This site works best when fully embraced. The quality people on here don't just stick to the site. Or if they do they have spent years building up trust and relationships.

If you're serious about this live style and site then you need to truly break the ice.

Hey involved with the Social side and go to clubs to meet others of similar minds set.

If you're treating it just as hook up site you will struggle.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
5 days ago

in Lancashire

"I'm not really sure what I do wrong. I've messaged hundreds of people on here and just get blown put

I'm not ugly, told I have nice big coxk and just can't get anyone to beinterested.

seems that colour seems to be a problem unless your abbc.

I've changed my profile several times put up pics but to no avail.

does someone want to restore my faith before I give up!"

Plenty of people don't meet black guys, if your serious that you think that's what's stopping you getting as many meets as you thought in the short time you've been on here you are wrong ..

Positivity and an attractive outlook shine through from the guys who are enjoying this site..

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By *orseman82Man
5 days ago

Marlborough

"I'm not really sure what I do wrong. I've messaged hundreds of people on here and just get blown put

I'm not ugly, told I have nice big coxk and just can't get anyone to beinterested.

seems that colour seems to be a problem unless your abbc.

I've changed my profile several times put up pics but to no avail.

does someone want to restore my faith before I give up!"

Make the effort to write a bio, get some

Photos on your profile and get into the forums.

You reap what you sow. It’s not just a case of turning up and people will start throwing themselves at you.

People are naturally cautious.

There are also a load of people catfishing on here, People who are not genuine, and ones who can be pretty unpleasant. Give people time to know you.

Maybe if you are prone to taking things personally, fab may not be the site for you.

Hope this helps and keep your chin up. For someone, you would be their absolute ideal. ☺️

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
5 days ago

Manchester / Cardiff

OP rather than wait for a dozen or so comments on this thread (some of which are just going to take the p***), go to the search option and look up 'wrong', 'give up' or 'leaving' and you'll find 1001 threads all written by folk in your position. There you'll find an abundance of guidance, help and suggestion (and more piss taking).

Then it's up to you how you apply what you may learn...

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By *rookedsmileMan
5 days ago

Derbyshire

Morning OP, what's your usp, how can you engage someone, what makes you stand out? your profile says nothing about you or gives any clue.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
5 days ago

Essex

Hey Ben, may we say that we can help but think this is a late April fools joke. You’ve been on the site just 5weeks. If you’re new to this lifestyle, then you’re forgiven for the misconception that everyone on here will screw literally anyone. Some will, because that is what gets them off “thing” but they are by far the smallest demographic.

If you have been on the scene for a while and this is a new account then, I doubt anyone can help you more than the advice given by EvaRose.

Your profile, in its current state is simply one of the laziest we’ve seen. You have spent more time checking boxes for the things you want to do with others then writing why about yourself, giving people a reason to want to do any of those with you. …our advice is to search these forums for the bazzilion other thread by people in similar situations, then take another look at your profile and ask yourself.. would I want to play with the person this is selling?

Add a great profile picture that grabs attention and creates interest. Make people want to click through.

Add some but not too many pictures of you, cropping out or obscuring your face using an app is better than no pics at all.

Your cock is less important than you think, so show it less than your humour, charm, wit, intelligence, caring, sharing, fun side

Write your profile like your sexlife depends on it - because on here it does. Don’t write what you think about yourself, Write what your wingman would write!

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 days ago

Belfast

Part of the problem is that you have messaged hundreds of people in the 5 weeks you've been here.

I haven't messaged hundreds in the 9 years I've been here.

When you send so many messages it's usually obvious to those you are sending them to that you haven't put much effort into each one.

Most will look say your profile before opening the messages anyway and they will be put off by the lack of effort there also.

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By *a LunaWoman
5 days ago

South Wales

It’s not Instashag. You have to play the loooooong game.

If you’re that horny and want sex NOW then there are other sites that cater for that sort of thing.

In the meantime, if you’re stopping on Fab, have some patience.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
5 days ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Oh c’mon 🙄

There’s TONS of ladies profiles that say they want Caucasian or White British men only.

Why is it only an issue when black men are preferentially fetishised?

I stress….FETISHISED

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
5 days ago

Leeds

"You're not ugly and have a nice big cock"

Unfortunately that doesn't get you meets alone, plus no one can see that so it's no excuse.

When someone messages the 1st thing I do is read their profile before I decide if I'll reply, you've zero pics, you have a black silhouette profile pic, I'd ignore.

Now it's not people's preference that you can't get a meet because that's only some people's preference.

You've messaged hundreds of people, that's enough to put me off, are you seriously attracted to all those profiles or just messaging in mass in the hopes of getting your dick wet?

Most want to see the person they are going to meet, want to know if they are on the same page, if someone doesn't put any effort in their profile or message I assume they are as lazy in the bedroom.

Maybe reflect on your approach, many men do have success here many don't.

If your expecting to be knee deep in pussy you are in the wrong place.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
5 days ago

Essex

another OP choosing to leave the site instead of listen & learn 🙄

*Small town boy meet big wide world and realises it’s not run by Andrew Tate

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By *iss DevilWoman
5 days ago

Bedford

"another OP choosing to leave the site instead of listen & learn 🙄

*Small town boy meet big wide world and realises it’s not run by Andrew Tate "

He will be back. Will make exactly the same mistakes, then throw his toys out of the pram and leave again, until next time.

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By *orseman82Man
5 days ago

Marlborough

"another OP choosing to leave the site instead of listen & learn 🙄

*Small town boy meet big wide world and realises it’s not run by Andrew Tate "

🤣🤣

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By *oiluvfunMan
5 days ago

Penrith

Well OP, there’s a woman fairly local to me just had a gangbang with 7 black guys, so you can’t say skin colour reduces the chances of getting meets in Fab….

Attraction, and opportunity are generally the watchwords in here. There’s no ‘one size fits all’ way to craft a profile, just be yourself and go with the flow.

When you return that is……

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By *end1Man
5 days ago

southend on sea

The OP has left the building 😂😂

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By *exxyyDy11Man
5 days ago

North West

Noticed the OP has left the site. Seems more and more common on the forums lately that a lot of single guys are complaining about not getting meets or replies. Women and other guys give tips and advice on how to succeed on here. However seems like it falls on deaf ears.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
5 days ago

Paradise, Herts

I’d never give anyone any tips. If people can’t even do a bio themselves and choose which photos to post then I’d really not want to meet them. Annoys me when people do tell them what to do as they’re not portraying their true self then.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
5 days ago

Leeds

"Noticed the OP has left the site. Seems more and more common on the forums lately that a lot of single guys are complaining about not getting meets or replies. Women and other guys give tips and advice on how to succeed on here. However seems like it falls on deaf ears. "

Because some effort is required and they can't be arsed with that, they just expect the vagina to flock and cry when it doesn't.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
5 days ago

Essex

"I’d never give anyone any tips. If people can’t even do a bio themselves and choose which photos to post then I’d really not want to meet them. Annoys me when people do tell them what to do as they’re not portraying their true self then. "

Wise words - we think we’ll adopt this attitude too. If you need babysitting then you’re just not mature enough for this lifestyle 🤣

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
5 days ago

Oldham

If we are still replying to this, we are all just throwing our opinions to each other , so here’s mine.

Ugly is each others perspective, I’m ugly to some, and I’m an absolute handsome son of a gun to the other 99 percent

Colour has nothing to do with it, you either are attractive to those that think you are sex on toast, or your not. #fact.

Stop changing your profile often….or are you trying to speak to everyone? - top tip.

Should have stuck around, there’s some pretty groovy people on fab, and there’s lots of open minded people that try to change your negative outlook, maybe you’ll see things differently asking good questions.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
5 days ago

little house on the praire

cam see by his post why he's struggling. Why would you message 100s off women surely you can't think your compatible with them all. Then blaming it on the fact "All" women want bbb.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
5 days ago

Oldham

"cam see by his post why he's struggling. Why would you message 100s off women surely you can't think your compatible with them all. Then blaming it on the fact "All" women want bbb. "

Even if women wants a black guy to take his black cock, what’s the problem? Lucky guy!

The same if a woman likes taller men, or a guy with blue eyes ( I have blue eyes by the way… just saying

) and other things that attract people.

I don’t know why someone’s type is going to make me less attractive to someone.

I do however make it a priority to never stand next to Henry Caville or Jason Mamoa.

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By *oiluvfunMan
5 days ago

Penrith

"cam see by his post why he's struggling. Why would you message 100s off women surely you can't think your compatible with them all. Then blaming it on the fact "All" women want bbb. "

Can’t see which part of the UK he was from, now he’s UNLOS, but I’d love to know where all these 100’s of women are in here……

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