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Over a year and still not 1 meet :(

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead

Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
7 weeks ago

Middle England

I'll get in there first.

Go to a club.

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead

But I'm nervous going to a club for the first time on my own, I don't have a clue what to expect lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"But I'm nervous going to a club for the first time on my own, I don't have a clue what to expect lol x"

Your nervous, try going out as a dressed TV to a club on your own for the first time, then you can talk about nerves lol

Just take the plunge, remember to be polite. Speak as you wish to be spoken to, no means no, and women are not a piece of meat as a woman

And above all just engage in normal conversation and hey who knows someone may catch your eye and vice versa

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By *ynamicnatureMan
7 weeks ago

Doncaster

Please get yourself to an organised social, no pressure environment and a great way to to meet people irl

You're welcome,😊

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead

Thank you for that, I am just going have to go and see what it's all about

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 weeks ago

little house on the praire

organized socials are a good way to start less pressure than going to a club

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead

How do I find an organised social x

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈"
your attractive man

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"How do I find an organised social x"
in the meets and party section. If you scroll through the forums you will come to it

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈your attractive man "
your profile negative in parts of your bio

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead


"Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈your attractive man "

Aww thank you, and you are absolutely stunning, shame I can't message you though x

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead


"Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈your attractive man your profile negative in parts of your bio "

Please tell me what I need to change x

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead


"How do I find an organised social xin the meets and party section. If you scroll through the forums you will come to it"

Ok thank you for the help x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

Everyone will only be mutually compatible with a tiny minority of people. This means that if you take the responsibility on, to sell yourself well and to find that minority, you're doing all your can

You say you've been in the scene for some time, so perhaps continue to use your swinging club experience to good effort. Atlantis is on your doorstep - have you been? Stokies are some of the best people around. You've other clubs not too far away too.

Every single man here needs to use his profile to best effect. He needs to use his photo allowance, so others can easily see how he looks and to know how well they may fancy him. He can also read the tips here, to ensure he's potentially making best use of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈your attractive man your profile negative in parts of your bio

Please tell me what I need to change x"
last 3 paragraphs think you should delete tbh

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead

Is that better ? And do you want to send me a message beaut, I do love an older woman and you are 🔥 x

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By *orthern StarsCouple
7 weeks ago

Durham

Go to an organised social or a club. It's no good sitting behind a screen and hoping something will happen. Be pro-active. Effort in often equals rewards reaped.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Pop along to an organised social or club, yes it's nervous going to a club alone, if I can do it anyone can.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Is that better ? And do you want to send me a message beaut, I do love an older woman and you are 🔥 x"

Might be wrong but you seem to approach every conversation at little desperate to please and straight away looking to chat up the first lady that pays you attention.

I'm no meeting expert but have been on and off here for over 10 years. If you're serious about a meet then you need to start relaxing and not worry about forcing the meet. Enjoy the company and speak to people as naturally as you can.

Of course you'll be nervous the first time. But, a social is a sure for easy of meeting people and the more you do the more likely you are too be invited to more and hence meet more people.

I'd recommend chatting to some of the single guys with verifications and experience, near you and asking them for a bit of advice. See if any will meet you for a pint and talk through what you could expect etc.

Again I'm no expert but I am confident only a very small percentage of people on here like the pandering, almost desperate approach.

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By *r Bond.Man
7 weeks ago

Moving Around the Midlands


"But I'm nervous going to a club for the first time on my own, I don't have a clue what to expect lol x"

I’m going to a club for the first timeon Saturday. On my own.

If you want to make friends or connections you have to put the effort in.

Good luck if you do decide to go to a club or social.

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By *outhern77Man
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

As others have said, get to a Social or a Club..

A long shot but try putting a Meet-now request up (via meets,events tab) looking for a Social.. I've heard a couple of people get some meets that way and it doesn't have to be sex all the time, see if You can build a connection as well

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By *oiluvfunMan
7 weeks ago

Penrith


"But I'm nervous going to a club for the first time on my own, I don't have a clue what to expect lol x

I’m going to a club for the first timeon Saturday. On my own.

If you want to make friends or connections you have to put the effort in.

Good luck if you do decide to go to a club or social.

"

Are you going completely on your own, or have you lined up friends inside?

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Is that better ? And do you want to send me a message beaut, I do love an older woman and you are 🔥 x"
yes that's lot better yes you can message me ☺️

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By *otsofFun69Cool OP   Man
7 weeks ago

holyhead


"Is that better ? And do you want to send me a message beaut, I do love an older woman and you are 🔥 xyes that's lot better yes you can message me ☺️"

I'm unable to message you, I think it may be your age range, I am 30 xx

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Is that better ? And do you want to send me a message beaut, I do love an older woman and you are 🔥 xyes that's lot better yes you can message me ☺️

I'm unable to message you, I think it may be your age range, I am 30 xx"
I change it

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By *ilverfox for youMan
7 weeks ago

Hull

Same problem mate ! I put mine down to my age !

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By *ansoffateMan
7 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Another one..?

It's almost as if this could be some kind of cultural/social issue and simplistic dispositional explanations are insufficient.

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By *oiluvfunMan
7 weeks ago

Penrith

I’ve not had any new meets for a year either. The curse of the single guy profile in Fab lol……

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I just messaged lots of women and put an effort in, l probably sent about 60+ and received about 10 saying no thanks, 2 were interested and the rest didn't hear anything back.

Of the 2, l got a meet and lve had 3 more in a year.

So persevere, you'll get there!

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By *akedMMan
7 weeks ago

Witney

Been on here since 2022 not had a meeting. But still hoping

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Been on here since 2022 not had a meeting. But still hoping "
he fine he got his BBW Friends with benefits think he was just begging for attention

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By *outhern77Man
7 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Is that better ? And do you want to send me a message beaut, I do love an older woman and you are 🔥 xyes that's lot better yes you can message me ☺️

I'm unable to message you, I think it may be your age range, I am 30 xxI change it "

Can't fault You there, Broaden or Tighten Your ranges for conversation or fun .. Done that a Couple of Times as well

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
7 weeks ago

Coventry


"Hello everyone, I need some help haha. Iv been looking for a meet with woman or couples for over a year and had no luck at all. What am I doing wrong? Am I really that bad looking haha 🙈"

We'd been here years before our first meet earlier this year. Now obviously that's a bit disingenuous based of our verifications. However they've all been through people we've met in clubs and wider scene events. Our first and only meet from fab it's self was this year. So I guess my point is that for some clubs, parties, organised socials work really well (so well that you don't even need fab to find meets). So maybe worth giving them a try? After all some of us come across far better in real life than online.

It's really hard as a single male on fab. I know because I was one. It's hard to give any advise on top of try clubs and all the other stuff that has been said over and over again on the forums for years. I would say take the points on board (as I'm sure your are) and persevere (providing you see the prize as worth the effort). It can take a bit of time to get momentum and sometimes some people just don't I guess. But it's a good life if you can get the ball rolling. I've had many good encounters and met many good women in my time as a single male. And that is also how I met Mrs Misfit, on here all those years ago. So you never know where it will lead.

Mr

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

OO - a lot of men overthink what a club will be. I think they're best thought of as a bar that give you the chance to meet some people who share interests. Stoke and the north are pretty social places, so you're able to have light social engagement, if you don't hound people due to sexually oppressive behaviour. If you can walk into a pub, you can walk into a club.

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