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"Better taste in men?" Yes! Doesn't it make you appreciate the decent men that bit more though? Hope the cliché is true. | |||
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"I'm quite happy to be less than mediocre. I couldn't handle men becoming obsessed with me and wanting to meet again and stuff, sounds draining. " Because I really want to keep up - are you liking sex currently or "hating" it and "not" having it? There's a grey area between being obsessed and wanting to meet again. It's a good area. | |||
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"I have zero ability to identify when someone is interested in me. Improving that would be good " I hope you're able to, even a little bit. People aren't the easiest to read though, are they? | |||
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"Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete. " Snap  | |||
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Something I'd like to get better at is Shibari. I've never done it so betterment can't be hard but I'd love to learn it and hone the craft. | |||
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"I'm quite happy to be less than mediocre. I couldn't handle men becoming obsessed with me and wanting to meet again and stuff, sounds draining. Because I really want to keep up - are you liking sex currently or "hating" it and "not" having it? There's a grey area between being obsessed and wanting to meet again. It's a good area. " I'm not entirely sure myself, it changes daily. For a serious answer it would actually to learn to be more 'sexy', I have never had sex in the last few years where I haven't been questioning and narrating every move in my head. I never 'let go'. I should watch frozen more. So yeah, to not over think during sex, I'll have that please. | |||
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"I'd like to be better at orgasms. I don't know if it's a physiological or psychological thing, but it takes me flippin' ages." Mrs can be the same, usually it's because shes got something troubling her but doesn't actually know what,after a chat to unpack what she's feeling it usually works and she squirts her stress away 🤣 | |||
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"Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete. Snap "Haha at least we aren't alone in our struggles! | |||
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"I wish I had a bit more of a raw, animalistic side to me. Ripping clothes off, aggressive kissing, hands grabbing everywhere, hard and rough sex as well as the tactile and passionate side." Is that because you think women want that or because you want to develop that side more? That sounds bitchy but it's not meant to, Joe! I've sometimes wondered if I wanted/enjoyed something because it's expected. | |||
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"I’m awful at conversing over text, might be why I get no messages here "That's something that can be worked on though! If you want it to be. | |||
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"I have zero ability to identify when someone is interested in me. Improving that would be good I hope you're able to, even a little bit. People aren't the easiest to read though, are they?" Certainly are. If I know then it's much easier but having had 'you were well in there' and I was completely oblivious is a little frustrating | |||
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"I’m awful at conversing over text, might be why I get no messages here
That's something that can be worked on though! If you want it to be."Haha I’m certainly trying! | |||
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"I'd like to be able to avoid the jelly legs. It's not a stamina issue there's still plenty of strength and movement in them. But once I have too good an orgasm they won't listen to instructions from the brain and just do their own thing. I love being on top. And I can usually make it past the first two up there. But I'd really like to be able to ride someone to their completion 💜" Oh jelly legs! I like what happens to get to that stage... not too keen on them though. Here's to your successful riding Prey, it'll happen. 🖤 | |||
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"I'd like to be better at orgasms. I don't know if it's a physiological or psychological thing, but it takes me flippin' ages." Was very tempted to start a thread on orgasms but thought better of it! It might be Gimli rather than a *you* thing if that helps? "Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete" Are you able to when solo? | |||
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"We talk a lot about things we enjoy, great sex, all of that; is there anything you'd like to be better at when it comes to sex? Anything you're not great at? P.S It doesn't have to be a sex act." I wish we were better at making time for sexual adventures. Not just with each other, but with friends as well. We’ve somehow engineered a life where almost every waking hour is accounted for, and we rarely have time to indulge our sexual, playful selves. This might be the only ❌ in an otherwise uniform row of ✅ when it comes to being older parents. | |||
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"I wish I had a bit more of a raw, animalistic side to me. Ripping clothes off, aggressive kissing, hands grabbing everywhere, hard and rough sex as well as the tactile and passionate side. Is that because you think women want that or because you want to develop that side more? That sounds bitchy but it's not meant to, Joe! I've sometimes wondered if I wanted/enjoyed something because it's expected." Oh it didn't come across as bitchy at all, it's a good question! I guess I like the idea of being able to do everything and adapting to who I'm with so I guess the answer is that I want it, in order to meet certain expectations if that at all makes sense 😅 | |||
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"I'd like to be better at orgasms. I don't know if it's a physiological or psychological thing, but it takes me flippin' ages. Was very tempted to start a thread on orgasms but thought better of it! It might be Gimli rather than a *you* thing if that helps" Poor Gimli! It's very much a *me* thing. | |||
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"I wouldn't mind being better at getting it, does that count?
Something I'd like to get better at is Shibari. I've never done it so betterment can't be hard but I'd love to learn it and hone the craft."100% yes. It's still related to sex, more a general thing but yes it does. Shibari done well is beautiful. Maybe starting with self ties? Or a workshop! There are some really good ones around the UK. | |||
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"I'm quite happy to be less than mediocre. I couldn't handle men becoming obsessed with me and wanting to meet again and stuff, sounds draining. Because I really want to keep up - are you liking sex currently or "hating" it and "not" having it? There's a grey area between being obsessed and wanting to meet again. It's a good area. I'm not entirely sure myself, it changes daily. For a serious answer it would actually to learn to be more 'sexy', I have never had sex in the last few years where I haven't been questioning and narrating every move in my head. I never 'let go'. I should watch frozen more. So yeah, to not over think during sex, I'll have that please. " I really hope you get there. It's far easier to type not to overthink than it actually is to do it. I appreciate your honesty a lot. Do you think part of that is because you're on Fab? | |||
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" Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete Are you able to when solo?" Yes, I need some kind of stimulation to help me get aroused but with my womaniser I can cum in ten mins. I know that's because I am 100% focused and without distraction, I also need constant and repetitive stimulation with a toy. When I am with a partner I am distracted, I get in my head, I over think things, they change things up constantly etc etc. I know my problem is hormonal - contraception fucks with my sex drive and makes my clit less sensitive too. When I'm not on anything my sex drive is ridiculous and I can cum really easily. I have found through a lot of trial and error a way that I have a really amazing orgasm with a partner but it takes me ages to get there and then I start thinking "are they getting bored, they're going to get fed up, why can't I cum, this so so frustrating etc etc" and then I get in my head and it stops me. I wish I could stop pumping my body with hormones but for various reasons that's not feasible so I just have to live with it  | |||
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"Better taste in men? Yes! Doesn't it make you appreciate the decent men that bit more though? Hope the cliché is true." Where are the decent ones? 😭 | |||
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" Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete Are you able to when solo? Yes, I need some kind of stimulation to help me get aroused but with my womaniser I can cum in ten mins. I know that's because I am 100% focused and without distraction, I also need constant and repetitive stimulation with a toy. When I am with a partner I am distracted, I get in my head, I over think things, they change things up constantly etc etc. I know my problem is hormonal - contraception fucks with my sex drive and makes my clit less sensitive too. When I'm not on anything my sex drive is ridiculous and I can cum really easily. I have found through a lot of trial and error a way that I have a really amazing orgasm with a partner but it takes me ages to get there and then I start thinking "are they getting bored, they're going to get fed up, why can't I cum, this so so frustrating etc etc" and then I get in my head and it stops me. I wish I could stop pumping my body with hormones but for various reasons that's not feasible so I just have to live with it "Kink Good men don't get bored, they do enjoy a woman cumming, but they will not give up. A good man will enjoy your journey. X | |||
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" Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete Are you able to when solo? Yes, I need some kind of stimulation to help me get aroused but with my womaniser I can cum in ten mins. I know that's because I am 100% focused and without distraction, I also need constant and repetitive stimulation with a toy. When I am with a partner I am distracted, I get in my head, I over think things, they change things up constantly etc etc. I know my problem is hormonal - contraception fucks with my sex drive and makes my clit less sensitive too. When I'm not on anything my sex drive is ridiculous and I can cum really easily. I have found through a lot of trial and error a way that I have a really amazing orgasm with a partner but it takes me ages to get there and then I start thinking "are they getting bored, they're going to get fed up, why can't I cum, this so so frustrating etc etc" and then I get in my head and it stops me. I wish I could stop pumping my body with hormones but for various reasons that's not feasible so I just have to live with it
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Good men don't get bored, they do enjoy a woman cumming, but they will not give up. A good man will enjoy your journey. X"❤️❤️❤️ | |||
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"Yeah. I can’t really be submissive. I just haven’t got it in me. Maybe someone. One day! " Do you want to be? | |||
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"I wish I was more self confident. I have a great personality and are genuine (I get told that) but I still lack confidence with strangers, making the first move, fear of rejection etc. When I chat with someone for awhile I'm ok." It's not easy to do though is it? I think lots of people don't approach first out of fear of rejection. It's a very real thing. Sadly! Maybe just approach it like you're talking to people for friendship; it's a bit more relaxed then. Less pressure. | |||
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Just worry less about my partner, relax and assume its all going OK unless they start texting or arranging another meet while I'm balls deep. | |||
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"We talk a lot about things we enjoy, great sex, all of that; is there anything you'd like to be better at when it comes to sex? Anything you're not great at? P.S It doesn't have to be a sex act." I don't think I'm that good a giving ya BJ - maybe I should watch more adult viewings to better my technique 🤷🏼♂️ | |||
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"I wish I had a bit more of a raw, animalistic side to me. Ripping clothes off, aggressive kissing, hands grabbing everywhere, hard and rough sex as well as the tactile and passionate side." Part of me wants to do this, but then part of me thinks that I'll then have to buy new clothes, and the ripped one are going to end up in landfill and that'll give me guilt about waste and fast fashion. Mid-life crisis sucks. | |||
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"A adore being on top however my knees and hips like to tell me enough is enough after only a few minutes would love to get rid of my achy joints "Sex chair??? | |||
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"Better taste in men?" • Perhaps re-train your palate. 😉 | |||
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"Be a bit more comfortable with my tum at ANY angle and not try to hide the jiggly bits with lingerie or a blanket when having sex. He doesn't care so neither should I. def got better at it "Yay! That's a win isn't it? You shouldn't care regardless. Have confidence in who you are and your body. 🩷 | |||
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"We talk a lot about things we enjoy, great sex, all of that; is there anything you'd like to be better at when it comes to sex? Anything you're not great at? P.S It doesn't have to be a sex act. I wish we were better at making time for sexual adventures. Not just with each other, but with friends as well. We’ve somehow engineered a life where almost every waking hour is accounted for, and we rarely have time to indulge our sexual, playful selves. This might be the only ❌ in an otherwise uniform row of ✅ when it comes to being older parents. " Oh George (I'm guessing it's still you)! Not having time is rubbish. I think it's the thing I value most yet lack at the same time. More time for sexual adventures would be wonderful so I get this. | |||
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"One day I hope to give a women an orgasm...🤞 🥪" Aim high, you'll get there. 🤞 | |||
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"I just can't think of sex as something that I'm objectively good or not at There are things I enjoy and enjoy doing and things I don't " It doesn't have to be sexual acts. As other posters have picked up on and commented. I thought I'd said that in the OP but perhaps not. It's good you're in a place where you know what you enjoy. | |||
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"Wish I could relax while having my cock sucked. My tip is sensitive and girthy, which unfortunately means if teeth touch it I'm fucked. " You can't relax at all? It sounds like you've had a toothy experience before - not pleasant unless you're in to that. | |||
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"Just worry less about my partner, relax and assume its all going OK unless they start texting or arranging another meet while I'm balls deep." Ha yes, that's a fair time to be worried. I'd be less than amused if that happened. Until then? Enjoy it mindfully. | |||
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"I'd like to be better at not "being in my head" and worrying how gross I look naked, or how weird my face looks, how I sound, etc... 👀 Ya know, those sort of things. Fwb affirms that I've gotten better with that. So it's a work in progress, for sure "It brings me a lot of joy when I see you type fwb Mrs DS. Yay! You'll continue getting better at it, certain of it. 🩷 | |||
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"I would love to get better at now being such a jealous cow.. for my own sanity 😇" Are you very jealous? How do you manage to navigate Fab? | |||
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"It brings me a lot of joy when I see you type fwb Mrs DS. Yay! You'll continue getting better at it, certain of it. 🩷" Joyful, joyous joy! 🫶 It's been a while since I could type it, tbf. Let's both lap it up 🥰 | |||
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"Yeah. I can’t really be submissive. I just haven’t got it in me. Maybe someone. One day! Do you want to be?" If you are comfortable and want to be, you will find someone, but if you are not, they are abusing you. Don't confuse submissive and domination with abuse. The submissive should always have the power. | |||
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"Being able to cum a bit easier would be delightful 😅 I'm a bit of a puzzle box atm that can take about 3 hours to complete. " Sounds like value for money, so to speak. I mean escape rooms only give you an hour. I'd like to be more flirtatious. The times I want to enjoy the fun aspects of sex but I can feel awkward sometimes. I also like dirty talk but, I am very self-conscious sometimes. X | |||
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