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"I think you've got to balance the costs of hotels against what you're saving by not having your own place. Many of us use hotels as our first choice accommodation choice." Aye that’s my issue, I don’t mind paying for hotels and used a few, however it’s more the actual arranging the meeting, when I say “come round to mine” 4/5 times I’ll get a positive response, but if I say “let’s meet at a hotel” unless it’s a married lady, I rarely get a positive response. It’s a short term issue I guess, just very frustrating  | |||
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"I think you've got to balance the costs of hotels against what you're saving by not having your own place. Many of us use hotels as our first choice accommodation choice. Aye that’s my issue, I don’t mind paying for hotels and used a few, however it’s more the actual arranging the meeting, when I say “come round to mine” 4/5 times I’ll get a positive response, but if I say “let’s meet at a hotel” unless it’s a married lady, I rarely get a positive response. It’s a short term issue I guess, just very frustrating "Maybe instead of jumping to "let's meet in a hotel to fuck" maybe try "let's go for a drink and see how we get on" and then if you click with eachother, they may be more amenable to meeting in a hotel. A hotel, especially if you want to split the costs, mean more expectations I think for a first meet. Me personally, I never guarantee sex before I have met them anyway and we both have an option to step away after a social. And if he has paid for a hotel that speaks to me that he's expecting sex. So I'd rather say let's go for a drink and if we get on, we can organise a hotel after, tajter then pay for a hotel only to meet up and find you have zero chemistry 😬 If he's here for work and the hotel is booked for that anyway then that's fair enough  | |||
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"Split hotel costs. I will never meet in a car, or outdoors. Ever. If they can’t afford their half, tough shit. " This 👐🥰 | |||
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"I think you've got to balance the costs of hotels against what you're saving by not having your own place. Many of us use hotels as our first choice accommodation choice. Aye that’s my issue, I don’t mind paying for hotels and used a few, however it’s more the actual arranging the meeting, when I say “come round to mine” 4/5 times I’ll get a positive response, but if I say “let’s meet at a hotel” unless it’s a married lady, I rarely get a positive response. It’s a short term issue I guess, just very frustrating
Maybe instead of jumping to "let's meet in a hotel to fuck" maybe try "let's go for a drink and see how we get on" and then if you click with eachother, they may be more amenable to meeting in a hotel.
A hotel, especially if you want to split the costs, mean more expectations I think for a first meet. Me personally, I never guarantee sex before I have met them anyway and we both have an option to step away after a social. And if he has paid for a hotel that speaks to me that he's expecting sex. So I'd rather say let's go for a drink and if we get on, we can organise a hotel after, tajter then pay for a hotel only to meet up and find you have zero chemistry 😬
If he's here for work and the hotel is booked for that anyway then that's fair enough "Aye that’s a fair point, maybe I’m too familiar with the meet now type of situations, the WWW has certainly spoiled us in that way. Maybe I do need a different approach for now. Thanks for the advice. | |||
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"You could always just accept that your sex life will need to be on hold until you're settled in your own place " Aye certainly accepted it, but as a horny dickhead who thinks with his cock more than his brain this is very difficult 😂 | |||
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"You could always just accept that your sex life will need to be on hold until you're settled in your own place Aye certainly accepted it, but as a horny dickhead who thinks with his cock more than his brain this is very difficult 😂" See it as a chance to evolve  | |||
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"Hey everyone. I’m currently in the process of buying a house (it’s a nightmare story for another day) but I’ve moved back home temporarily as my flatmate was moving back to London, and thus it was either find a short term rental or move back for a couple of months. Whilst the money being saved is great, it’s really took a hit to my adventures. Before I could match on a dating site and usually able to find a meet that night or that week. However now I’m unable to accommodate, these events have been few and far between. I hate car meets and hotels are killing me as I need to save for new shit for the house. What does everyone do that cannot accom, I know there are clubs, and I do partake in the odd evening, but even then it’s more money as a single lad. Anyone got any secrets or methods, there most be something I’m missing as a lot cannot accom but seem to meet loads." I don't accommodate, I never have, thus is my home, i dont want random strangers ive found on the internet in it, or anywhere near it! I either only meet people who accommodate, or meet in clubs/at parties or hotels. | |||
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"This thread is entirely predicated on a single mindset, consisting of: ….. message, meet have sex, disconnect. If only this theme exists in people’s minds then I completely agree accommodating the ‘have sexy’ stage is an unequivocal dependency (and Yes, I appreciate this is a swinging site). However if the community could see within itself to insert an extra stage of ‘meet say hello and get to know’ prior to the have sex phase I n am sure people would be far more interested in mutually working out how they could accommodate the intimate activities everyone is bemoaning. I for one have practiced this approach frequently and subject to the get to know stage going well (clearly it doesn’t happen every time) have been pleasantly surprised how easy it is to then resolve accommodating each other. From all of a sudden saying I don’t accommodate becomes why don’t you come round to mine? further I have visited a partners friends house who is either accepting or is away and the friend is house sitting. I have met in hotels where costs are agreed and shared upfront. And I have had some unique if not somewhat daring meets in workplaces and otherwise unexpected locations. Everyone to their own I get but I for one am a strong advocate for broadening my horizon and definitely thinking outside the box. " I mean I pretty much said this in my post earlier? | |||
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"This thread is entirely predicated on a single mindset, consisting of: ….. message, meet have sex, disconnect. If only this theme exists in people’s minds then I completely agree accommodating the ‘have sexy’ stage is an unequivocal dependency (and Yes, I appreciate this is a swinging site). However if the community could see within itself to insert an extra stage of ‘meet say hello and get to know’ prior to the have sex phase I n am sure people would be far more interested in mutually working out how they could accommodate the intimate activities everyone is bemoaning. I for one have practiced this approach frequently and subject to the get to know stage going well (clearly it doesn’t happen every time) have been pleasantly surprised how easy it is to then resolve accommodating each other. From all of a sudden saying I don’t accommodate becomes why don’t you come round to mine? further I have visited a partners friends house who is either accepting or is away and the friend is house sitting. I have met in hotels where costs are agreed and shared upfront. And I have had some unique if not somewhat daring meets in workplaces and otherwise unexpected locations. Everyone to their own I get but I for one am a strong advocate for broadening my horizon and definitely thinking outside the box. " My gosh you've invented the social! | |||
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"Hotels. I’m more a won’t accommodate, ever. " yeah agree , I would never accommodate at home now anyway .. when I had my own apartment I did but had a few problems with stalkers so it put me off . now I live at my folks as a full time carer so its not practical for me to accommodate unless its my actual friends | |||
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