FabSwingers.com forum: Heartbreak

By (user no longer on site) OP
7 days ago

How do you get over that shit?

Other than crying.

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By *ron100Man
7 days ago

leyland

Kick fuck of her new boyfriend 😬👀

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By *layfullsamMan
7 days ago

Solihull

"How do you get over that shit?

Other than crying. "

Time

And somethings you never get over it just gets easier

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 days ago

East London

Distraction. I used to go to my mum's for tea and a chat. I'd never tell her my problems though.

She's gone now, so I try to spend time with other family members as much as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 days ago

Rum

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

Give yourself a week to wallow in self pity then pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on

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By *ant3Man
7 days ago

la cucina

"Kick fuck of her new boyfriend 😬👀"

Awaiting the impending forum ban 👀🍿

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By *ron100Man
7 days ago

leyland

"Kick fuck of her new boyfriend 😬👀

Awaiting the impending forum ban 👀🍿"

Again 🙄

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By *exyScientistsCouple
7 days ago

Castlebar

Crying works well for me 💔 and talking to someone you can trust

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
7 days ago

near you...

Time and masturbation. Or finding someone new to fuck. Or lots of new people.

(This is not an offer.)

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By *ron100Man
7 days ago

leyland

"Time and masturbation. Or finding someone new to fuck. Or lots of new people.

(This is not an offer.)"

Ya fuck her best m8 or get a massive loan and pretend uve won the lottery her loss m8

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By *vonne5exMan
7 days ago

Doncaster

"How do you get over that shit?

Other than crying. "
Time, no other way, you'll find yourself thinking less and less then realise you haven't thought about them for a week or more

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By (user no longer on site)
7 days ago

I’m a bit of a cold fish, I forget about whatever it was/is that broke my heart pretty damned quickly. I can’t be arsed with all that crying malarkey.

It/they become a distance memory in very short order.

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By *vonne5exMan
7 days ago

Doncaster

"Kick fuck of her new boyfriend 😬👀"
Why, be the bigger man and ignore them both

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

"I’m a bit of a cold fish, I forget about whatever it was/is that broke my heart pretty damned quickly. I can’t be arsed with all that crying malarkey.

It/they become a distance memory in very short order. "
Same for me, took exactly three weeks for me to get over the end of my marriage.

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By *vonne5exMan
7 days ago

Doncaster

"Time and masturbation. Or finding someone new to fuck. Or lots of new people.

(This is not an offer.)

Ya fuck her best m8 or get a massive loan and pretend uve won the lottery her loss m8

"
I took 2 of her best mates at different times to quest and fucked a third

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By *midnight-Woman
7 days ago

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Time, distraction.. leaning on friends.

Filling your diary as much as possible

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By *alcon2Man
7 days ago

North

I get introspective and examine mistakes made and choices on my part.

A lot of the time I conclude I shouldn't have indulged in the first place.

Ideally, therapy would be useful to iron out childhood issues and avoid repeating patterns. (For me.)

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By *alcon2Man
7 days ago

North

And get out in nature too.

The wilderness, trees...and less concrete..

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By *urvelover87Man
7 days ago

London

Copious amounts of alcohol, some good friend to vent to, and some more alcohol.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
7 days ago

Leeds

You don't, just gradually let it turn you cold and heartless.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

are we talking about the end of a relationship here or another kind of heartbreak

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
7 days ago

North West

"are we talking about the end of a relationship here or another kind of heartbreak"

Important distinction ❤️

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By (user no longer on site) OP
7 days ago

"are we talking about the end of a relationship here or another kind of heartbreak"

The end of a relationship.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

"are we talking about the end of a relationship here or another kind of heartbreak

Important distinction ❤️"
Yes I jumped in a bit quick without kmowing

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

"are we talking about the end of a relationship here or another kind of heartbreak

The end of a relationship.

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In that case what I said still stands

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
7 days ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Copious amounts of alcohol, some good friend to vent to, and some more alcohol.

This lol ... Plus Bridget Jonesing it for a bit, crying into a tub of ice-cream 🤣

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 days ago

Chichester

chalk it up to life experience and take the knowledge from that as an advantage ... one door shuts more doors present themselves going forward in life ..

its a frame of mind if you choose to allow yourself to be mournful for too long over things that have passed / happened .

Choose going forwards in life its much better than dwelling on the past

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By *ot MediterraneanCouple
7 days ago

Bedfordshire

Move on

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
7 days ago

Glasgow

Give yourself time to heal and move on x

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By *a LunaWoman
7 days ago

South Wales

Depends on the reason for the heartbreak.

Romantic heartbreak? Have a good cry, listen to sad songs, cry some more, indulge in self pitying behaviour for a bit, then start playing strong women music (like Lizzo!) and raise yourself (and your broken heart) from those ashes like a majestic phoenix and fly high once more!

🦅

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By *exyScientistsCouple
7 days ago

Castlebar

"Time and masturbation. Or finding someone new to fuck. Or lots of new people.

(This is not an offer.)"

That's actually a good one too unfortunately you can't do that 24/7

Clean your phone of reminders...photos, messages, delete phone numbers, calender reminders....

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
7 days ago

North West

Crying is such a useful response. It turns out the body creates different tears for different reasons. The ones for upset contain diferrent chemicals than those for something in your eye. So if you feel the need to cry, lean into it.

Also music. I didn't feel like eating when I was heartbroken. I lost a stone in three weeks 😬

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 days ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

We all come into this world through pain, and it is pain not happiness which build us. Why does anyone need to ‘get over it’? Feel it. Sit with it. It is building you and you will be a new, bigger version of yourself when it subsides

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By *zeroMan
7 days ago

Glasgow

Do what I can to focus on other things and keep busy.

Hope all is well Pickle

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By *EAT..85Woman
7 days ago

Nottingham

I haven't experienced it. Sadness yes.

But you can re-program the brain and choose to work towards positivity. It's not an instant fix mind.

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By *eoBloomsMan
7 days ago

Springfield

I am the one who breaks.😎

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
7 days ago

3rd Rock from the sun

Pickles! 😭

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
7 days ago

Manchester / Cardiff

Much of the above. Time, Friends, Rum, new distractions, and even counselling. Not sure why I'm offering advice to an UNLOS 🥺

Hope you're alright out there OP.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
7 days ago

Wales

"Pickles! 😭"

I'm sure he'll still be around on one of his other accounts

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By *liver ThomasMan
7 days ago

Drogheda

I never get over it. Even when I instigated it. I leave a piece of myself in every one and take a piece with me. But hold no grudge and cherish what you had.

That's why it's easier to engage here than in the vanilla world.

Be happy with yourself always.

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By *iHungMan
7 days ago

blackpool

I’m the same.

Great advice too.

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By *eoBloomsMan
7 days ago

Springfield

"Pickles! 😭

I'm sure he'll still be around on one of his other accounts

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

At least he's got his other relationships to help him through it

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By *exyScientistsCouple
7 days ago

Castlebar

"Crying is such a useful response. It turns out the body creates different tears for different reasons. The ones for upset contain diferrent chemicals than those for something in your eye. So if you feel the need to cry, lean into it.

Also music. I didn't feel like eating when I was heartbroken. I lost a stone in three weeks 😬"

Same 🤣

One benefit at least 🙄

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 days ago

East London

"At least he's got his other relationships to help him through it"

I'm not sure it works like that.

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By *vaRose43Woman
7 days ago

Forest of Dean

Oh pickles 😞

Feel what you need to feel, look after yourself and when you’re ready to then you can begin to heal. Until then it’s all feelings and hard to see any light xxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 days ago

little house on the praire

"At least he's got his other relationships to help him through it

I'm not sure it works like that.

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he's mentioned something similar before where he's got support from them

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By *ldNewbie64Man
7 days ago

Bury

Sometimes it takes counselling.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 days ago

Crumpet Castle

Thank goodness he's poly and non committal. I'm sure they will all rally round. It's hard to know someone we all know is in dreadful dreadful pain.

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By *esparate danMan
7 days ago

glasgow

Plenty more fish in the sea old boy

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
7 days ago

North West

Thank goodness he's poly and non committal. I'm sure they will all rally round. It's hard to know someone we all know is in dreadful dreadful pain. "

It's really hard to read tone on the internet. I hope this was sincere as he's really hurting right now.

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By *viatrixWoman
6 days ago

Redhill

Thank goodness he's poly and non committal. I'm sure they will all rally round. It's hard to know someone we all know is in dreadful dreadful pain.

It's really hard to read tone on the internet. I hope this was sincere as he's really hurting right now. "

You know, I know and like Pickles … our friendship was a slow burner but I really grew to like him a lot.

I am truly flabbergasted at the comments that some forumites who are popular on here and apparently who always come up as “kind” and “nice” are making -such passive aggressive comments. I am truly gobsmacked.

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
6 days ago

N. Wales

Thank goodness he's poly and non committal. I'm sure they will all rally round. It's hard to know someone we all know is in dreadful dreadful pain.

It's really hard to read tone on the internet. I hope this was sincere as he's really hurting right now.

You know, I know and like Pickles … our friendship was a slow burner but I really grew to like him a lot.

🫶 Agreed! 👏 Frankly, I haven't known how to articulate it. Maybe I shouldn't be, because it's Fab, but I am shocked.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
6 days ago

North West

Thank goodness he's poly and non committal. I'm sure they will all rally round. It's hard to know someone we all know is in dreadful dreadful pain.

It's really hard to read tone on the internet. I hope this was sincere as he's really hurting right now.

You know, I know and like Pickles … our friendship was a slow burner but I really grew to like him a lot.

🫶 Agreed! 👏 Frankly, I haven't known how to articulate it. Maybe I shouldn't be, because it's Fab, but I am shocked."

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