FabSwingers.com forum: Long distance relationships

By *ackdaw52 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Do they work? What are people's experiences?

I, that is, my friend matched with someone on Bumble because her location was reasonably nearby.

But then she moved back to her native Argentina and we're stuck texting and video calling.

It's pretty rare that I find someone worth the effort, and even rarer someone thinks that I am. But I just can't see this being a fulfilling relationship for either of us.

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By *iker JackMan
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

As ex military and offen away for up to 6 months at a time I can vouch they most definitely can work

You both have to want to try and there are many ways to stay connected.

I used to letter write. So much nicer to do and to receive than a text or an email.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Chichester

Very difficult to maintain imo

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By *oorman 2025Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

"Very difficult to maintain imo "
I agree I tried it once was too hard in the end so I ended it

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
2 weeks ago

"halja"

6 months and still going strong yeah we have moments but to be fair we did meet each other from this site but we both know what we want as rei wifey for life

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Long distance relationships suck. But we wouldn’t do it if they weren’t worth it. Some people are just *right* for you, and where they live shouldn’t stop you.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
2 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Not for me, to much of my time is taken up with faceless texts, I like face to face too much

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I certainly wouldn't initiate a long distance arrangement.

If there's an established relationship and it's a temporary distance I'd be willing to give it a try in the interim for someone special.

But I'm a very tactile and present minded person. I would definitely struggle 💜

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By *leep walkerMan
2 weeks ago

Caerphilly

I had a relationship with a Norwegian woman I met on holiday in Turkey.

She came over a few times and I went over there for a fortnight.

But not seeing each other for sometimes 3 months at a time was difficult. I never fucked around while we were an item.

That was really hard work, even though when we did see each other the sex was amazing.

In the end we had to call it quits but are still really good friends and video call each other a couple of times a week.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

little house on the praire

My late partner lived quite away from me but I saw him every week so no problem.

Couldn't be in a relationship where I didn't see someone for weeks on end No matter how wonderful they where it just wouldn't have worked for me.

Did know a married couple where he lived here and she lived in America and it worked for them

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By *mithy63Man
2 weeks ago

Ipswich

They definitely can work, I've experience of this.

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
2 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

It can… I was seeing a guy who lived in America… and it went pretty well, he’d come over for a week or two, go home… come and stay for a bit…. Until he stopped wanting to go home and it all went to shit 😂

But if the dedication and want to see each other is there, it can very much work”

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Friends with benefits though is different as I wouldn't need to see to much of them

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
2 weeks ago

Wales/ All over UK

From personal experience I have found that it actually works a lot better if it’s an open relationship.

By this I obviously mean that both parties are aware and fully on board with having other sexual partners when you’re not together (and possibly when you are!)

This can help lessen the frustration that both of you can feel, especially if you’re able to openly discuss your adventures with each other

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By *edSirenWoman
2 weeks ago

magic mountain

Long distance relationships can work if you both are willing to make the effort. I was in one for 2 years. Eventually moved down here to be with him… it was only afterrrrrr I moved in with him it didn’t work 😂 but that took another year or 2 for us to figure out 🙈

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I couldn't form a close relationship with someone I very rarely saw

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
2 weeks ago

Next Door

I wouldn't mind another long distance relationship, seeing each other most weekends.

Quality time together.

During the week, with life/work/household chores i find it hard to meet someone most evenings and I'm not looking to move in with someone.

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By *opman121Man
2 weeks ago

stoke on trent

Yes and no travel is the problem and cost it’s a better now with a mobile phone face time etc

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By *ucka39Man
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

They can work it's all down to how much each other wants it to work and effort made. One of my relationship wasn't as far as yours but was in Scotland and ended up moving up lasted 5 years would've lasted longer but that was down to her drinking etc

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

They can definitely work but it can be difficult to cope with the lack of balance - the all or nothing.

My ex husband and I were both serving and we made it work. We stayed together through numerous deployments including him doing 2 years of 3 months at sea/a month at home.

S and I see each other most weeks. We manage the tough bit in between with regular video calls and by making plans to look forward to. Good communication helps too.

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By *viatrixWoman
2 weeks ago

Redhill

Nowadays some people actually get married and live in different countries. They visit each other and the (sometimes very long distance) doesn’t seem to be a problem.

My husband and I had a 2 year LTR in the early 2000s. It was a 12-hr flight if we wanted to see each other. We used to chat on ICQ or videocall on MSN Messenger and he’d read Harry Potter or Lord of The Rings to Me

but after a while we decided to get married, a relationship so far away wasn’t sustainable long term. The sorting out of visas etc was an absolute nightmare and the weather could be better but it’s been an okay 22 years for me in this here green and pleasant land.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"… it’s been an okay 22 years for me in this here green and pleasant land.

❤️ you, you old romantic.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
2 weeks ago

Holibobs

As fwb, sure I can handle that, but only seeing a romantic partner twice a year is not for me.

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By *ikeHawkenerMan
2 weeks ago

I’ve done it and it can be difficult when things are stressful and you just want to be there for each other, the key is keeping regular contact and with technology now it’s easy

Also made the time together better with the build up etc and appreciated each others company more

Don’t regret mine and I’d do it all again every time

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
2 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Someone told me they’d like a long distance relationship with me, they said the further the better

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By *ceKweenWoman
2 weeks ago

Bolton

Go for it… you’ll only regret it if you don’t try 😊

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

The only long distance relationship I had was when I was 18 and moved away for college leaving my boyfriend (who couldn't understand why I needed to go to college at all, clue to potential success of relationship right there 🤔) behind. It lasted two months I think.

We were young and it wouldn't have lasted anyway but I think if both people are serious about making it work and given the ease of communication nowadays it's possible. It wouldn't be for me though I like a partner to be physically present as well as emotionally and I think that's something to consider quite carefully

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By *viatrixWoman
2 weeks ago

Redhill

"… it’s been an okay 22 years for me in this here green and pleasant land.

❤️ you, you old romantic.

Lol, I’ve adapted well to the British way of life…

“It’s been not that bad…” 😂😂😂😂😂

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
2 weeks ago

N. Wales

If I wasn't married and/or seeing other people, it would not fulfil me at all. I need a regular physical connection.

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By *2000ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

Invest in a decent webcam and microphone!

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By *ell GwynnWoman
2 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I thought I was about to read about a couple separated by a 3 hour drive, not a UK/Argentina divide 😬

I've had long-distance relationships where we saw each other once a fortnight. It's tough at times, but manageable. I wouldn't be able to cope with less contact than that.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

A long distance relationship wouldn't be preferable but you can't help who you fall for. With a fwb I'm happy to wait longer to see people, but if I'm in a relationship I'd need once a month physical contact as a minimum I think. Anything less would be really hard and I'm not sure how happy I would be.

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

That’s quite a distance

I’m not sure I could maintain that interest for that long for that sort of distance. U.K. based is at least doable but I wouldn’t entertain further

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By *rbane PlayerMan
2 weeks ago

London

I remember having an important (at the time) relationship with someone in Milan. Then I would can could write letters up to three times a day. It filed an emotional hole or need in me at the time. Three decades later I have a close bond with someone abroad but not a closed relationship as it was then. For me, it cannot work.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Most definitely can work.

If both people are willing there is no reason as to why it won't work.

If things were going great I'd even consider relocating.....

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By *isskxxyvWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I think when you find someone you click with.. and everything else is right. Your mind thinks ‘fuck the distance’ because you know you’ll do anything to be with your person ❤️

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
2 weeks ago

Reading

"Do they work? What are people's experiences?

I, that is, my friend matched with someone on Bumble because her location was reasonably nearby.

But then she moved back to her native Argentina and we're stuck texting and video calling.

It's pretty rare that I find someone worth the effort, and even rarer someone thinks that I am. But I just can't see this being a fulfilling relationship for either of us."

160 miles between us, we're together once a month, both have challenging careers, and family with health challenges. Add in each others respective hobbies, it can take a bit of working out.

Coming up for our 4 year anniversary and going strong.

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By *esiGalGuy123Man
2 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

Can definitely work if both are willing to put the effort in!

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
2 weeks ago

Hounslow

In the long term they don't work unless one of you makes the sacrifice and moves.

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