FabSwingers.com forum: Going out for a meal with one's parents

By *oubleswing2019 OP Man
17 weeks ago

Colchester

I was mulling over something earlier. A friend and I were comparing notes of yesteryear and we made the following observations.

My mother, if out with me and my wife in a restaurant for example, would always turn to my wife to ask her what she thought she (my mother) should have. Never asked me ! If I made a suggestion, it would be ignored in favour of my wife's choice.

And if I went out with my best friend to a restaurant with his mother, his mother would do exactly the same and ask me what she should have. Never asked her own son.

We both joked about it, although of course it did make us quite cross at the time.

Neither of us can decide whether it was a measure of politeness to seek a guest's opinion, or if it was a subvert form of "control and conditioning - eg, "know your place".

I suspect a little bit of both to be fair.

Do/did others experience this kind of shenigans ?

By *oubleswing2019 OP Man
17 weeks ago

Colchester

"Maybe she didn't trust you to make a good choice"

I'm sure she would have loved a Phaal