FabSwingers.com forum: Authentic

By *ea monkey OP Man
17 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Do you feel that you live authentically to your values, that you’re open and honest with others about who you are and what you do?

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
17 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

If I said yes, I'd be lying. I got called a duplicitous cunt once a long time ago, I have to wear that now!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I'm true to my values as for the rest I tell people what I want them to know. Can't see why they need to know everything unless their just being nosey fuckers

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

I pride myself on being a genuine and honest person.

I am 100% honest at all times.

I am 90% open because I have to know someone before I open up completely.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
17 weeks ago

Reading

I'm probably too honest. And I think I know what values I'd like to live to ... but often I fall down on the actuality of them.

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By *issmorganWoman
17 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yes, I think so.

I don't tell friends about fab or give people too much info here though,unless we've met/are friends. I live to my own moral code,both here & in the real world.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
17 weeks ago

Holibobs

Yes I live authentically to my values.

No I'm not open to others, I have trust issues and there are a lot of people who would use information about me to harm me

I share what I don't care about being shared on further...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
17 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I have imposter syndrome always.

I certainly do my best to be a good person and live to the values that I believe are important. Most times I genuinely believe I'm a good human.

But on a bad day I can pick apart my motivations and actions and how I affect other people until I just hate myself and everything I am 💜

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By *oubleswing2019Man
17 weeks ago

Colchester

Absolutely. I'm comfortable and at peace with who am I and what I do. Integrity is vital, as is honesty and transparency. Mrs DS is well aware of my activities on here and meets my playmates from time to time, even if she doesn't play herself. Nothing is done under the radar.

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By *parkle1974Woman
17 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes.

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By *ife NinjaMan
17 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Yes. The only thing I don't let on about is this place 🤓

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"If I said yes, I'd be lying. I got called a duplicitous cunt once a long time ago, I have to wear that now!"

That, my friend is a collectors' item badge of honour right there. What a phrase. Top drawer stuff.

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By *ansoffateMan
17 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes I live an authentic life.

Honesty, openness and authenticity are related, but not identical.

I don't owe everyone every single aspect of who I am or what I believe and I am quite sure not everyone wants to know.

It is possible be too open and that can lead to floodlighting. There's a huge difference between being mindful of others feelings and being deceptive though.

Congruence is the concept I consider to entail both honesty and consideration for others and that is what I strive for in my relations. Especially in those significant relationships with loved ones, friends and family.

I have quite few expectations in relationships, but that is a core value and if it's not there - I won't hang around long. If nothing else I really can't be bothered with the drama that comes with obfuscated communication.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
17 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Probably not. I don’t over share. People don’t need to know everything.

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By *eoBloomsMan
17 weeks ago

Springfield

Everything that we do is authentic to ourselves because we are doing it. If you lie that's authentic to you, in that moment you're a liar, just as much as if you do something more positive.

The idea there is a better, more authentic self is mostly just self flattery. You're always and only you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Probably not. I don’t over share. People don’t need to know everything. "
Exactly this. I have no idea why people have to tell others everything

There are so many people on the forums overshare. Maybe they think they are super interesting If I was interested to know something I'd ask then

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By *ansoffateMan
17 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Everything that we do is authentic to ourselves because we are doing it. If you lie that's authentic to you, in that moment you're a liar, just as much as if you do something more positive.

The idea there is a better, more authentic self is mostly just self flattery. You're always and only you."

I almost perfectly half-agree with that 🤣

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
17 weeks ago

Leeds

Yeah, I dont don’t do bulshit, nor do I see the point In portraying yourself as something your not, you just look like an even bigger bellend when the truth is finally outed.

The mr

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By *estructionDollyWoman
17 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I'd like to think so but when it comes to the work environment the work me and the "home" me are very different and I keep this side of myself very hidden from colleagues and even work friends to a degree.

But I still like to think I am authentic in my values and beliefs.

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By *artorialMan
17 weeks ago

weymouth

I think so

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By *ature male OldhamMan
17 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

Yes... but can switch for fun.. only if asked nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Living authentically and not giving a shit what people think of me is what helped with eliminating my depression. I show appreciation to those who show their respect for me and I give it back, even if they don't agree with everything I say but they're mature and civil about it. Those who have a problem with me, I honestly don't care. I do no harm but I take no shit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Do you feel that you live authentically to your values, that you’re open and honest with others about who you are and what you do? "

I live authentically to my values but I am not completely open and honest with others about who I am and what I do because not everyone needs or wants to know all of me.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
17 weeks ago

from mars

Yes

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By *ature male OldhamMan
17 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

"Living authentically and not giving a shit what people think of me is what helped with eliminating my depression. I show appreciation to those who show their respect for me and I give it back, even if they don't agree with everything I say but they're mature and civil about it. Those who have a problem with me, I honestly don't care. I do no harm but I take no shit."

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By *oeBeansMan
17 weeks ago

Derby

I suppose it depends on what you consider values. I think they can change and evolve over time and sticking to the same ones rigidly can prevent opportunities for growth perspective on how other values that may look to oppose yours, can help you going forward.

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By *eoBloomsMan
17 weeks ago

Springfield

"Everything that we do is authentic to ourselves because we are doing it. If you lie that's authentic to you, in that moment you're a liar, just as much as if you do something more positive.

The idea there is a better, more authentic self is mostly just self flattery. You're always and only you.

I almost perfectly half-agree with that 🤣"

Cheers Hans, I'll take that 😂

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By *lynJMan
17 weeks ago

Morden

"Do you feel that you live authentically to your values, that you’re open and honest with others about who you are and what you do? "

Live to my values - yes

Open and honest - yes - I think so

I don't openly discuss being on here, but if someone asked I would tell them.

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By *rHotNottsMan
17 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes, doesn’t always make you popular but it’s the only way to be truly happy

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Bradford and Stockport

I try not to be a cunt. I feel that generally speaking it's a better way to live than the alternative.

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By *emorefridaCouple
17 weeks ago

La la land

Yes and no. Realistically am I most authentic self in work, nope. Being so would make everyone else's life more difficult. Everyone tones themselves down in some way or another in certain situations, to think otherwise is naïve.

I don't think being like that changes who you are as a person. You're just adapting to the environment you are in. Plus the majority of us do things and look back and think what was I thinking. Nobody is perfect though often on Fab you'd think everyone was

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
17 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Yes

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By *vaRoseWoman
17 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Hmmmm

Yes, and maybe no. I have walls built up for reasons and it takes time before I’m willing to let people in

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By *viatrixWoman
17 weeks ago

Redhill

Totally.

What you see is what you get with me.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
17 weeks ago

kent

Broadly, yes. We are quiet and peaceful people, and we live a quiet and peaceful life. We mind our own business and respect the privacy of others. We don’t lie if we can help it, we keep our negative opinions to ourselves unless we have no choice, and then we’ll attempt to be diplomatic. It’s pretty simple really.

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By *rHotNottsMan
17 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Yes and no. Realistically am I most authentic self in work, nope. Being so would make everyone else's life more difficult. Everyone tones themselves down in some way or another in certain situations, to think otherwise is naïve.

There’s adapting to the environment and others but authenticity is doing that while staying true to your values & beliefs, especially when under pressure or peer pressure or when it’s just convenient.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
17 weeks ago

North West

Yes. My key value is to treat others how I would want to be treated and I live that day in, day out. I still remember 'Mrs Do As You Would Be Done By' from The Water Babies 😂

In terms of my private life, it's exactly that, private. If someone needs to know that stuff then I will be open and honest with them.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Do you feel that you live authentically to your values, that you’re open and honest with others about who you are and what you do? "

As I'm firmly in the closet, I suppose the answer to that is no.

As far as possible, I just try to be me.

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By *emorefridaCouple
17 weeks ago

La la land

I don't know tbh, there are people I dislike in work for example. Outside of work I'd give them a wide berth but you know you have to be kind of polite in work. Telling them exactly what I think of them would not go down well. Do I pretend to like them in work no, but I do tolerate them and engage in pleasantries yes. To me I personally feel that isn't my authentic self. However, my core values don't change, have gone to complain about a colleague being bullied, even though I wasn't impacted. There's grey areas in my opinion and that's just life

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
17 weeks ago

Leeds

Authentic - not on here no, my vanilla life isn't part of my fab life and doesn't get discussed, I don't walk around in lingerie and I'm not at all confident, on here people assume due to pics some level of confidence which isn't the case.

Mrs

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By *ansoffateMan
17 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Everything that we do is authentic to ourselves because we are doing it. If you lie that's authentic to you, in that moment you're a liar, just as much as if you do something more positive.

The idea there is a better, more authentic self is mostly just self flattery. You're always and only you.

I almost perfectly half-agree with that 🤣

Cheers Hans, I'll take that 😂"

It was authentic, at least. 😁

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