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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

“When someone is properly grounded in life, they shouldn’t have to look outside themselves for approval.”

Think it really fits this site well. Over the last few days, I was so damned close to getting a hookup with a hot woman but the timing didn't work out near the end & she fucked someone else & it hit me hard. I tried everything & was shown the door. Attempting to move on. Has anyone else been in this boat?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

To be fair, I was probably the 'someone else' 😉

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By *olo180Man
17 weeks ago

Greater London

This site can be ruthless and cold and even the most grounded of people can feel the knock back.

You need a thick skin for here but it doesn’t mean you can’t feel a bit crappy when things go wrong.

Have faith and you will bounce back 👊🏻

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Nah man- it was someone actually with a smaller dick than me, which is why it was painful 😄

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By *eroLondonMan
17 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Has anyone else been in this boat?"

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Unfortunately yes. I was planning on meeting {profile name redacted} for a clandestine encounter many moons ago but she changed her mind and rendezvous'd with Fabtastic Mr Fox.

The shards of my porcelain heart are kept in the Fåb Årchives.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Not sure you should let yourself get upset on a site like this. By its very nature its a site to have sex with different people

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By *uke olovingmanMan
17 weeks ago

Gravesend


"Nah man- it was someone actually with a smaller dick than me, which is why it was painful 😄"

Surely you mean less painful

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Thank you so much mate, I'll take your advice & guidance with great understanding. I'll try to get thicker skin next time & I think I should just try to move on

Thank you so much for your words

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By *iSoloCouple
17 weeks ago

Tamworth


"To be fair, I was probably the 'someone else' 😉"

Brilliant

Was she good

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago


"“When someone is properly grounded in life, they shouldn’t have to look outside themselves for approval.”

Think it really fits this site well. Over the last few days, I was so damned close to getting a hookup with a hot woman but the timing didn't work out near the end & she fucked someone else & it hit me hard. I tried everything & was shown the door. Attempting to move on. Has anyone else been in this boat?"

I'm sorry but doesn't sound like you were about to form a deep and meaningful relationship, it sounds like a chance meeting so surely if you can't make it someone else will be able to? Not sure why you'd feel like that in this scenario?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"Nah man- it was someone actually with a smaller dick than me, which is why it was painful 😄"
which just goes to prove size isn't everything

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By *ongAndThick123Man
17 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

Put it all in perspective. You said it yourself “the last few days”. You’ve not known this person long enough to be attached.

And don’t worry about “attempting” to get over it. You have no choice. You will get over it.

It’s natural to feel emotional, but you have to trust that it will pass a lot faster than you realise.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Nah man- it was someone actually with a smaller dick than me, which is why it was painful 😄"

Erm, it was cold and I had been swimming in the sea.

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By *olo180Man
17 weeks ago

Greater London


"Thank you so much mate, I'll take your advice & guidance with great understanding. I'll try to get thicker skin next time & I think I should just try to move on

Thank you so much for your words "

🙏🏻

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Thank you mate, you're so right 👌

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"To be fair, I was probably the 'someone else' 😉

Brilliant

Was she good "

A bit fumbly to be honest.

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Fair enough 😆

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Still a better love story than Twilight. 🤷‍♂️

Seriously though....there's little to move on from surely? You chatted, timing didn't work out, she met someone else (it does tend to happen on swinging sites) and it's highly likely that for most people the majority of conversations don't lead to meets.

If its hit you that hard maybe don't put to much expectation into chats early on. And if you were shown the door after she met someone else because of any subsequent conversation then maybe it's something that was said.

*I wasn't the someone else BTW......

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
17 weeks ago

North Somerset

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Very true, you're so right

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Oh it was haha

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Thank you, you're correct here

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Thank you, you're correct here"

Doug, move your eyes bottom right and hit 'reply and quote' me old fruit. Otherwise I'll steal your next meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago


"Thank you, you're correct here

Doug, move your eyes bottom right and hit 'reply and quote' me old fruit. Otherwise I'll steal your next meet."

You won't do that if you've been snared

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London


"Thank you, you're correct here

Doug, move your eyes bottom right and hit 'reply and quote' me old fruit. Otherwise I'll steal your next meet."

Got ya! I appreciate you buddy, I'm actually aiming to get legs like yours, you to 15k steps a day right now

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Thank you, you're correct here

Doug, move your eyes bottom right and hit 'reply and quote' me old fruit. Otherwise I'll steal your next meet.

You won't do that if you've been snared "

Steal and give to Nerø 😉

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago


"Thank you, you're correct here

Doug, move your eyes bottom right and hit 'reply and quote' me old fruit. Otherwise I'll steal your next meet.

You won't do that if you've been snared

Steal and give to Nerø 😉"

Thanks for the heads up

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Central

I just bothered a little if someone inconveniences me. The people are totally forgettable as they aren't important. You move on immediately

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire

on the positive op you've only been here 5 weeks and already had a meet so your not doing to bad

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London

Thank you, you're so right

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London


"on the positive op you've only been here 5 weeks and already had a meet so your not doing to bad"

Thank you, you're right - it was nice, I just want to make so much more of my time while I have it by hooking up. You're right

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"on the positive op you've only been here 5 weeks and already had a meet so your not doing to bad

Thank you, you're right - it was nice, I just want to make so much more of my time while I have it by hooking up. You're right"
well just don't have to high expectations This isn't instashag

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By *aphunterMan
17 weeks ago

woking

Sounds like you have a heart mate, I’ve felt like that too on and off fabs. Of that happened on fabs I think you have to take it as part of the process, like others have said fabs for some is not about finding the one, it’s the excitement of the choice and the thrill. Don’t be down hearted mate, there is someone for everyone, on here and off fabs.

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London


"Sounds like you have a heart mate, I’ve felt like that too on and off fabs. Of that happened on fabs I think you have to take it as part of the process, like others have said fabs for some is not about finding the one, it’s the excitement of the choice and the thrill. Don’t be down hearted mate, there is someone for everyone, on here and off fabs. "

I really appreciate that mate, thank you. I'll try to keep Mt head up 👌

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London


"on the positive op you've only been here 5 weeks and already had a meet so your not doing to bad

Thank you, you're right - it was nice, I just want to make so much more of my time while I have it by hooking up. You're rightwell just don't have to high expectations This isn't instashag"

Soooo true, I'm learning

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

It's all about finding self love. Being confident with who you are and what you look like.

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By *iscoDoug OP   Man
17 weeks ago

London


"It's all about finding self love. Being confident with who you are and what you look like."

Thank you! You're so right

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
17 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"on the positive op you've only been here 5 weeks and already had a meet so your not doing to bad

Thank you, you're right - it was nice, I just want to make so much more of my time while I have it by hooking up. You're rightwell just don't have to high expectations This isn't instashag

Soooo true, I'm learning "
That's good, so many come on here think they are going to be knee deep in shags then get upset when they are not

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By *aphunterMan
17 weeks ago

woking


"on the positive op you've only been here 5 weeks and already had a meet so your not doing to bad

Thank you, you're right - it was nice, I just want to make so much more of my time while I have it by hooking up. You're rightwell just don't have to high expectations This isn't instashag

Soooo true, I'm learning That's good, so many come on here think they are going to be knee deep in shags then get upset when they are not"

There is a problem for ladies aswell with abuse from men, when they are aren’t replied to. I think guys need to remember just as you say, fabs isn’t about being knee deep in shags. Just like life, I think people like to be attracted to a wide range of people, with all sorts of presumptions and kinks. Keep surfing and being honest x

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By *ayHaychMan
17 weeks ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

The idea that with the right frame of mind or a perfect way of seeing the world, you will be totally immune to challenging emotions is a total fallacy.

I know a guy who wanted go to therapy to make his mind “bulletproof”. I didn’t think it was the right time to explain that therapy (most of the respected and gold standard models at least) would actually be quite the opposite…

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By *riar BelisseWoman
17 weeks ago

Holibobs


"The idea that with the right frame of mind or a perfect way of seeing the world, you will be totally immune to challenging emotions is a total fallacy.

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It's not about being immune to challenging emotions, it's changing our mindset on how we react and process them. There is lot's of benefit from having a little spirituality in our lives

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By *ellhungvweMan
17 weeks ago

Cheltenham

It’s a meet. That didn’t happen. Not entirely sure what there is to get over.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
17 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"It’s a meet. That didn’t happen. Not entirely sure what there is to get over."

Someone with a smaller penis muscled in on his chick. That's tough and may require hours of self reflection and a grieving period.

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By *ceKweenWoman
17 weeks ago

Bolton

Connections can be made but never go any further than words… I always tell myself, if it’s meant to be it will happen

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