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"I like to fill females with spunk also we have so mutch in common mel😬" Oh we do. I've never spoken to another man on here that also likes that. You're a rare breed. | |||
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"Oh that's not unfair from my perspective there's very little more appealing than a woman who exudes the desire to have it all for herself, right now... give it to me I want it." Well, I suppose I was thinking more... women don't have to recharge* in quite the same way as men do? Obviously it varies person to person but on the whole, in my experience, men need a bit longer as they leave their Spring years behind. *please note how delicately I describe this. Thank you. | |||
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"If I'm meeting different people then I'd say a week or two. Mainly for the reason you gave, it seems disrespectful turning up empty so to speak. But also because I wouldn't want anyone feeling I've left one meet and gone straight to another. I'm older, wiser and not as cock-led as I once was. I like a break in-between sessions to decompress and really enjoy that time when it comes back around. That said, if I was regularly meeting the same person then 2 or 3 days break but I'm nothing if not chivalrous so I wouldn't say no if occurences were more often "Yes! It's the turning up empty, not being quite sated, various things surrounding it. I'm not sure it's disrespectful as such. More... an incompatibility that people overlook or don't. Do you think it's age/out of the sweetshop related? If you had the opportunity for that frequency with a range of people, would you not take it? | |||
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"Oh that's not unfair from my perspective there's very little more appealing than a woman who exudes the desire to have it all for herself, right now... give it to me I want it. Well, I suppose I was thinking more... women don't have to recharge* in quite the same way as men do? Obviously it varies person to person but on the whole, in my experience, men need a bit longer as they leave their Spring years behind. *please note how delicately I describe this. Thank you." AHH there's that 'meets' word again. And yes thank you for protecting my fading virility. Personally, the time-between can be substantially reduced by two factors - Keeping the embers burning through attuned touch that conveys the aforementioned desire - an acquired skill through intimate connection. I can be talked back into the zone by the right voice and level of deviancy. - Ice cream e.g. Belgian Chocolate HD or Spicy food, lots of cold sugary drinks. Mango or Pineapple Juice is good. I agree with you in my experience most partners have been back in the saddle with little more than a pause for breath many times over, before the days riding was done. My most recent partner is the exception to the rule, it left me a bit shell-shocked the first time. | |||
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"If I'm meeting different people then I'd say a week or two. Mainly for the reason you gave, it seems disrespectful turning up empty so to speak. But also because I wouldn't want anyone feeling I've left one meet and gone straight to another. I'm older, wiser and not as cock-led as I once was. I like a break in-between sessions to decompress and really enjoy that time when it comes back around. That said, if I was regularly meeting the same person then 2 or 3 days break but I'm nothing if not chivalrous so I wouldn't say no if occurences were more often
Yes! It's the turning up empty, not being quite sated, various things surrounding it. I'm not sure it's disrespectful as such. More... an incompatibility that people overlook or don't.
Do you think it's age/out of the sweetshop related? If you had the opportunity for that frequency with a range of people, would you not take it? "Do people turn up empty? What's the point in that | |||
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Recharge time is important for men, but some penises have mind's of their own. | |||
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"Once a week for a very long session would be ideal for me but unlikely to happen. I too want them aching and a little needy when they arrive " Aching and a little needy is the perfect description, thanks Eva! | |||
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"What would be your ideal time between "meets"? Whether that's your own, or those you're meeting. Personally (with men mainly which I think might be a bit cockcentric and unfair on them) I like people when they're full of spunk and desire for me." I love being full of spunk and unloading on a girl, so a few days between meets would be great. | |||
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"Last year I had 4 meets in the space of 5 days. That was possibly a bit exhausting. I think a week is probably best. " Four in the space of five does sound rather exhausting - did you enjoy it though? | |||
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"What would be your ideal time between "meets"? Whether that's your own, or those you're meeting. Personally (with men mainly which I think might be a bit cockcentric and unfair on them) I like people when they're full of spunk and desire for me." Hi Mel I’ve got gallons of the hot stuff so more than happy to shower you whenever | |||
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"AHH ffs Meli... I am a cumslut how long does it take until your balls are full? 75% fairly linear proportionate rise within 24 hours 95% within 48 100% within 72." Oh don't. I really regret saying full of spunk now, when I was typing it I was amusing myself but now... I don't want to be filled with actual come (99.25% of the time).  | |||
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"A week or so if it's the same person 2/3 weeks if meeting someone else. I'd be happy with once a month though, commitments and distance on both sides can make it tricky. " Yeah time commitments can make it tricky to organise things. Have them align just so. I get why people make the most of their free time when they can. | |||
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"AHH ffs Meli... I am a cumslut how long does it take until your balls are full? 75% fairly linear proportionate rise within 24 hours 95% within 48 100% within 72. Oh don't. I really regret saying full of spunk now, when I was typing it I was amusing myself but now... I don't want to be filled with actual come (99.25% of the time). "🤣 The appliance of science. Never fails. | |||
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If its different partners then I'd say 2-3days to be respectful.... (that time frame would be great and is completely wishful thinking | |||
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"Last year I had 4 meets in the space of 5 days. That was possibly a bit exhausting. I think a week is probably best. Four in the space of five does sound rather exhausting - did you enjoy it though?" I did. ☺️ But it left me feeling rather drained for about a week.  | |||
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"Just to add to the discussion, a lady who I was in bed with recently remarked how I had an erection at 5 in the morning, whilst asleep. She likes to grab me down there, funnily enough I was dreaming about work
Recharge time is important for men, but some penises have mind's of their own."I think most people understand that. Would like to think they do.  | |||
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"Point of clarification please - does the recharging mean for the sploshing or for the desire? The desire should be quick, we should be able to get to the stage of having to rip each other’s clothes off within an hour. Recharging the sperm takes 2-3 days but that’s only a part of it, decent hydration can make things much quicker. Apologies for the interruption." The sploshing. Beautiful, Adam. Really beautiful. I did read it as splurging the first time so I guess it's not *that* bad. I think it's more an energy thing? Like you can tell when someone is out of fucks. | |||
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BUT sometimes life isn't perfect and if the only opportunities occur for you to meet up with a smaller gap between a previous meet then I wouldn't turn it down. I just know it might not be as good!
But at a club I will play more than once at an event and enjoy it each time with different people but I think it is a different experience in that environment it isn't as intense and intimate anyway and many people don't cum at clubs. | |||
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"I think ideally I like at least a week between meets to build the anticipation and desire, I like to put myself on a masturbation ban for a few days before a meet so I feel more worked up, and I like it if he isn't running on empty when we meet up either. I very much enjoy draining a guy dry and getting a few loads out of him so the more he's saved up the better
BUT sometimes life isn't perfect and if the only opportunities occur for you to meet up with a smaller gap between a previous meet then I wouldn't turn it down. I just know it might not be as good!
But at a club I will play more than once at an event and enjoy it each time with different people but I think it is a different experience in that environment it isn't as intense and intimate anyway and many people don't cum at clubs. "Exactly 👍 are we in club mode ie on a mission or are we on quality meet mode | |||
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"Point of clarification please - does the recharging mean for the sploshing or for the desire? The desire should be quick, we should be able to get to the stage of having to rip each other’s clothes off within an hour. Recharging the sperm takes 2-3 days but that’s only a part of it, decent hydration can make things much quicker. Apologies for the interruption. The sploshing. Beautiful, Adam. Really beautiful. I did read it as splurging the first time so I guess it's not *that* bad. I think it's more an energy thing? Like you can tell when someone is out of fucks." The thing about words is you can tell when they’re explicitly wrong or right. I knew sploshing was wrong but hoped it was so far wrong it comes out the other side again. If someone is out of fucks, it would be nice to do other things together, and the desire return. That seems like a rather spiffing way to spend time. | |||
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"I think ideally I like at least a week between meets to build the anticipation and desire, I like to put myself on a masturbation ban for a few days before a meet so I feel more worked up, and I like it if he isn't running on empty when we meet up either. I very much enjoy draining a guy dry and getting a few loads out of him so the more he's saved up the better
BUT sometimes life isn't perfect and if the only opportunities occur for you to meet up with a smaller gap between a previous meet then I wouldn't turn it down. I just know it might not be as good!
But at a club I will play more than once at an event and enjoy it each time with different people but I think it is a different experience in that environment it isn't as intense and intimate anyway and many people don't cum at clubs. "This relates to sex with different people btw, with the same person I'd be happier with a smaller break as the desire is still burning. I love spending a whole weekend with someone having sex on and off even if we are a bit spent by the end. With the same person a couple of times a week is my ideal I think. But it is still more fun when he has saved himself for me for a few days. If I'm playing with someone who's a bit sub I like putting them on a touching/masturbation ban before we meet up, while I spend the whole time winding them up of course  | |||
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" Exactly 👍 are we in club mode ie on a mission or are we on quality meet mode " Exactly! Two different but still very fun experiences | |||
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"Depends how into the person you are , once to twice a week would be sufficient I think, at the moment once a year would be a bonus!! 🤣🤣" Oh that's quite sad. 😅 Yeah, on an ideal world the more you're in to someone the more you'd see them. Once a week would be my max. Maybe extended over a couple of nights. | |||
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"I have no set "ideal time". For me it's determined by how long and intensely I glow and feel enraptured from my previous "meet". Typically it's never less than a fortnight, usually longer. (Probably also explains why I write my best verifications during my 'glow period', because the narrative comes from the heart)" Oh I don't know. Veris during the glow period are sort of rose tinted. A snapshot of how you feel postcoitally. I'm not sure they're the best. Perhaps nicest to read for the recipient? It's cute though, Doolittle. Very cute. | |||
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"I have a high sex drive so I'd say 2-3days. Not an excessively heavy cummer but my 'tank seems recharged after that period. My desire though...that's a different story...that is usually ready to go again in about 20 mins.
If its different partners then I'd say 2-3days to be respectful.... (that time frame would be great and is completely wishful thinking "A high sex drive. I wonder how we determine a high sex drive - you know, if we were to make the qualitative quantifiable. What would be those markers? I think my sex drive is quite high but it's not unbearably so. Respectful. Do you think it is a sign of respect? I'm only asking because you're the second poster to mention respect and I'm musing halfarsedly. | |||
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"I refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I may incriminate myself xxx " Ah fuck it. There's no right or wrong answer to this is there? You do what's best for you and as long as it doesn't hurt anyone? It's fine. | |||
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"Meeting, Weekly Spunk replenishment, Weakly" find. Bravo Leo, has anyone told you you're quite funny before? | |||
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" Exactly 👍 are we in club mode ie on a mission or are we on quality meet mode Exactly! Two different but still very fun experiences "Oh yes and 2 completely different time scales Is 30 seconds and that includes a quick re apply of lippy to soon | |||
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"I think ideally I like at least a week between meets to build the anticipation and desire, I like to put myself on a masturbation ban for a few days before a meet so I feel more worked up, and I like it if he isn't running on empty when we meet up either. I very much enjoy draining a guy dry and getting a few loads out of him so the more he's saved up the better
BUT sometimes life isn't perfect and if the only opportunities occur for you to meet up with a smaller gap between a previous meet then I wouldn't turn it down. I just know it might not be as good!
But at a club I will play more than once at an event and enjoy it each time with different people but I think it is a different experience in that environment it isn't as intense and intimate anyway and many people don't cum at clubs. "Ah I was hoping someone in to clubs would post! Yes, I've always thought that club environments it would be different. In my mind people will fuck several through the night and not run out of steam (the most I've done at a club is kiss a couple so I'm not sure how accurate my views are!) I'm similar to you in terms of your first paragraph; I relish the build up, that anticipation. Without it things can feel a bit flat. I love utterly draining a person, that shared postcoital spent state is lovely. I think I'd rather just skip an opportunity though? If there was a small gap that is. Unless of course it was Tom Hiddleston or a beautiful tall man with an accent like mine. There are always other opportunities. | |||
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"I have no set "ideal time". For me it's determined by how long and intensely I glow and feel enraptured from my previous "meet". Typically it's never less than a fortnight, usually longer. (Probably also explains why I write my best verifications during my 'glow period', because the narrative comes from the heart) · Oh I don't know. Veris during the glow period are sort of rose tinted. A snapshot of how you feel postcoitally. I'm not sure they're the best. Perhaps nicest to read for the recipient? It's cute though, Doolittle. Very cute." • I don't share your viewpoint. You've pretty much inferred that the majority of verifications on here are "rose tinted". How many people wait weeks or months to verify someone on the back of a dalliance? I would opine it's usually a number of days afterwards, glow or no glow. | |||
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"As long as they’re not asleep and can get it up, job’s a good ‘un
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged" Energy, mentally, person focus, imagination or is it just OP cum load? | |||
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"What is the ideal? No real ideal for me. I was meeting every day for good few years. There was obviously a days in that where I didn't, but having buddies meant desire my side and from them didn't decrease but increased the more you got to know each other. That was a fair time ago though." Every day for years? That's quite impressive. I do agree that desire increases/changes slightly the more you get to know someone. | |||
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"What is the ideal? No real ideal for me. I was meeting every day for good few years. There was obviously a days in that where I didn't, but having buddies meant desire my side and from them didn't decrease but increased the more you got to know each other. That was a fair time ago though. Every day for years? That's quite impressive. I do agree that desire increases/changes slightly the more you get to know someone." I've never spat imagined tea before. Congrats !!!!! | |||
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"I have no set "ideal time". For me it's determined by how long and intensely I glow and feel enraptured from my previous "meet". Typically it's never less than a fortnight, usually longer. (Probably also explains why I write my best verifications during my 'glow period', because the narrative comes from the heart) · Oh I don't know. Veris during the glow period are sort of rose tinted. A snapshot of how you feel postcoitally. I'm not sure they're the best. Perhaps nicest to read for the recipient? It's cute though, Doolittle. Very cute. • I don't share your viewpoint. You've pretty much inferred that the majority of verifications on here are "rose tinted". How many people wait weeks or months to verify someone on the back of a dalliance? I would opine it's usually a number of days afterwards, glow or no glow." I don't think anyone waits weeks or months deliberately to write a veri. It happens. I don't think that veris being written when you're filled with positive thoughts is a negative necessarily. It happens. I do it. I quite like some that I've written during that time. | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Energy, mentally, person focus, imagination or is it just OP cum load? " surely if you are meeting someone on a one to one you want the best experience possible. Really couldn't imagine someone turning up not fully into it. One guy I used to see used to change his diet and stop wanking for a few days before. I'd consider the meet pointless and a total waste of time. On the other hand if it was multiplies or club meets it was a different thing. Maybe I've always expected to much | |||
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" Ah I was hoping someone in to clubs would post! Yes, I've always thought that club environments it would be different. In my mind people will fuck several through the night and not run out of steam (the most I've done at a club is kiss a couple so I'm not sure how accurate my views are!) I'm similar to you in terms of your first paragraph; I relish the build up, that anticipation. Without it things can feel a bit flat. I love utterly draining a person, that shared postcoital spent state is lovely. I think I'd rather just skip an opportunity though? If there was a small gap that is. Unless of course it was Tom Hiddleston or a beautiful tall man with an accent like mine. There are always other opportunities. "
I agree with the last point and sometimes I will turn down someone when one of us has recently had a meet and I'm feeling like it won't be the best. But I can also be greedy and if I am aching to see someone again I will sometimes take an opportunity even if it's less than ideal and it doesn't have to be a massive fuck sesh I might just want to meet up and have a sensual couple of hours kissing and touching and enjoying eachothers body and company, or doing something more kinky than sexual.
With regards to clubs though! Yes in my experience the sex I am having in a club and sex at home or with someone in private is very very different. Many men who I know from the club scene in particular will take viagra/cialis etc so they can stay hard for long periods and won't cum with every person they play with they will wait til the end. They want to go multiple rounds and stay in the moment. Some couples have an agreement that the partner will only cum with his wife/gf too or when they get home together.
I think there is a LOT less focus on orgasms in a club environment and it's more about general pleasure, fun and being social. In a club I enjoy being an exhibitionist and being watched in open areas, I also like being voyeuristic and watching others too. That's become a bit of a kink for me. It's insanely hot locking eyes with someone across a room while you're both having sex with other people. I love group play scenarios where everyone is into eachother and just enjoying everything, swapping, touching and watching just drinking it all in. It absolutely isn't for everyone. But I think it's that which keeps me ready to go again and again with a little drink break in between.
If I want one on one, intense, sensual, intimate sex that goes on for hours that is for outside of a club for me. If I want a big group of sexy people all together in a room enjoying eachother that's more a club. | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged" Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens. | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens." That's perfectly exceptable and understandable in a relationship but if it was a meet why don't they just cancel until they are 100% | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged" I can't answer for others I always feel I'm fully charged!! Lol | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens.That's perfectly exceptable and understandable in a relationship but if it was a meet why don't they just cancel until they are 100%" If they are in a relationship and playing separately, I wouldn't expect them to not have sex with their wife for days before meeting me and I feel it would be unreasonable of me to demand it. Sometimes you just have to accept that. I'd rather not be their 3rd swinger meet of the day though. | |||
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"Yes! It's the turning up empty, not being quite sated, various things surrounding it. I'm not sure it's disrespectful as such. More... an incompatibility that people overlook or don't. Do you think it's age/out of the sweetshop related? If you had the opportunity for that frequency with a range of people, would you not take it? " When you put it like that, I probably would take it. Sex for sex sake is fine for a bit but I need to have an emotional connection to a person before I head down the road of (frequent) repeats. So plentiful with multiple partners would have to be select people. At the heart of it, age probably does have something to do with it. I'm a lot more picky about who I spend my time with. I suffer fools less than I ever have before and I value the quality of time spent higher than before (whether sexual or social). What about you OP? Has age changed ypur persepctive or have people changed it or has it not changed at all through the years? | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens." Near thinking the same.. the guy could well change his diet, wait off coming for a month but on day of meet you've had a long stressful day so are either stress, down, distracted, tired.. it waxes and wanes, but if you know each other you either put it it to one side or do what you do. All the prep in the world doesn't stop a bad day. | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens.That's perfectly exceptable and understandable in a relationship but if it was a meet why don't they just cancel until they are 100% If they are in a relationship and playing separately, I wouldn't expect them to not have sex with their wife for days before meeting me and I feel it would be unreasonable of me to demand it. Sometimes you just have to accept that. I'd rather not be their 3rd swinger meet of the day though. " I only met couples in clubs. My one to one was with guys. I never asked him to abstain he just did. Gangbangs, clubs, multiplies I couldn't have cared less but my one on one's where special and wanted them to be as fulfilling to both of us as possible | |||
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" Ah I was hoping someone in to clubs would post! Yes, I've always thought that club environments it would be different. In my mind people will fuck several through the night and not run out of steam (the most I've done at a club is kiss a couple so I'm not sure how accurate my views are!) I'm similar to you in terms of your first paragraph; I relish the build up, that anticipation. Without it things can feel a bit flat. I love utterly draining a person, that shared postcoital spent state is lovely. I think I'd rather just skip an opportunity though? If there was a small gap that is. Unless of course it was Tom Hiddleston or a beautiful tall man with an accent like mine. There are always other opportunities.
I agree with the last point and sometimes I will turn down someone when one of us has recently had a meet and I'm feeling like it won't be the best. But I can also be greedy and if I am aching to see someone again I will sometimes take an opportunity even if it's less than ideal and it doesn't have to be a massive fuck sesh I might just want to meet up and have a sensual couple of hours kissing and touching and enjoying eachothers body and company, or doing something more kinky than sexual.
With regards to clubs though! Yes in my experience the sex I am having in a club and sex at home or with someone in private is very very different. Many men who I know from the club scene in particular will take viagra/cialis etc so they can stay hard for long periods and won't cum with every person they play with they will wait til the end. They want to go multiple rounds and stay in the moment. Some couples have an agreement that the partner will only cum with his wife/gf too or when they get home together.
I think there is a LOT less focus on orgasms in a club environment and it's more about general pleasure, fun and being social. In a club I enjoy being an exhibitionist and being watched in open areas, I also like being voyeuristic and watching others too. That's become a bit of a kink for me. It's insanely hot locking eyes with someone across a room while you're both having sex with other people. I love group play scenarios where everyone is into eachother and just enjoying everything, swapping, touching and watching just drinking it all in. It absolutely isn't for everyone. But I think it's that which keeps me ready to go again and again with a little drink break in between.
If I want one on one, intense, sensual, intimate sex that goes on for hours that is for outside of a club for me. If I want a big group of sexy people all together in a room enjoying eachother that's more a club. "Damn it, KC, you've just made me really want to try a club! 🥵🤣 | |||
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" Ah I was hoping someone in to clubs would post! Yes, I've always thought that club environments it would be different. In my mind people will fuck several through the night and not run out of steam (the most I've done at a club is kiss a couple so I'm not sure how accurate my views are!) I'm similar to you in terms of your first paragraph; I relish the build up, that anticipation. Without it things can feel a bit flat. I love utterly draining a person, that shared postcoital spent state is lovely. I think I'd rather just skip an opportunity though? If there was a small gap that is. Unless of course it was Tom Hiddleston or a beautiful tall man with an accent like mine. There are always other opportunities.
I agree with the last point and sometimes I will turn down someone when one of us has recently had a meet and I'm feeling like it won't be the best. But I can also be greedy and if I am aching to see someone again I will sometimes take an opportunity even if it's less than ideal and it doesn't have to be a massive fuck sesh I might just want to meet up and have a sensual couple of hours kissing and touching and enjoying eachothers body and company, or doing something more kinky than sexual.
With regards to clubs though! Yes in my experience the sex I am having in a club and sex at home or with someone in private is very very different. Many men who I know from the club scene in particular will take viagra/cialis etc so they can stay hard for long periods and won't cum with every person they play with they will wait til the end. They want to go multiple rounds and stay in the moment. Some couples have an agreement that the partner will only cum with his wife/gf too or when they get home together.
I think there is a LOT less focus on orgasms in a club environment and it's more about general pleasure, fun and being social. In a club I enjoy being an exhibitionist and being watched in open areas, I also like being voyeuristic and watching others too. That's become a bit of a kink for me. It's insanely hot locking eyes with someone across a room while you're both having sex with other people. I love group play scenarios where everyone is into eachother and just enjoying everything, swapping, touching and watching just drinking it all in. It absolutely isn't for everyone. But I think it's that which keeps me ready to go again and again with a little drink break in between.
If I want one on one, intense, sensual, intimate sex that goes on for hours that is for outside of a club for me. If I want a big group of sexy people all together in a room enjoying eachother that's more a club.
Damn it, KC, you've just made me really want to try a club! 🥵🤣"Oops 🤭😁 | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens. Near thinking the same.. the guy could well change his diet, wait off coming for a month but on day of meet you've had a long stressful day so are either stress, down, distracted, tired.. it waxes and wanes, but if you know each other you either put it it to one side or do what you do. All the prep in the world doesn't stop a bad day." I agree with all of this. I'm 60 years of age I understand men. All I'm saying is if your not 100% why not just cancel. I'd have been more than happy for a guy to cancel and just say he wasn't feeling it | |||
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"I only met couples in clubs. My one to one was with guys. I never asked him to abstain he just did. Gangbangs, clubs, multiplies I couldn't have cared less but my one on one's where special and wanted them to be as fulfilling to both of us as possible" Which totally makes sense and is understandable! We all want the sex to be as fulfilling and enjoyable as possible 😊 | |||
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"Realistically, every 6 months. I have neither the time nor the desire to do it more frequently. " You like sex now! Yaaay. That's a win. Happy to read it CoyCoy. 🩷 | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens. Near thinking the same.. the guy could well change his diet, wait off coming for a month but on day of meet you've had a long stressful day so are either stress, down, distracted, tired.. it waxes and wanes, but if you know each other you either put it it to one side or do what you do. All the prep in the world doesn't stop a bad day.I agree with all of this. I'm 60 years of age I understand men. All I'm saying is if your not 100% why not just cancel. I'd have been more than happy for a guy to cancel and just say he wasn't feeling it" I've been with women where you really need to work to get anything out.. others where you walk in and there's sparks 10ft away.. I don't think anyone has said they've not been 100%, and I'd say not being 100% doesn't necessarily mean you've been emptying your bollocks 7 days a week. | |||
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"Realistically, every 6 months. I have neither the time nor the desire to do it more frequently. You like sex now! Yaaay. That's a win. Happy to read it CoyCoy. 🩷" "Like" is a bit strong | |||
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"Realistically, every 6 months. I have neither the time nor the desire to do it more frequently. You like sex now! Yaaay. That's a win. Happy to read it CoyCoy. 🩷 "Like" is a bit strong " You tolerate sex now! Mehhh. | |||
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"But I can also be greedy and if I am aching to see someone again I will sometimes take an opportunity even if it's less than ideal and it doesn't have to be a massive fuck sesh I might just want to meet up and have a sensual couple of hours kissing and touching and enjoying eachothers body and company, or doing something more kinky than sexual. "Yeah I can see that. My greedy is slightly different and whilst I'm happy to kiss/dryhump for hours/an entire night without sex... I want that energy. Less than ideal I'd rather see someone else. Eat some cheese. "With regards to clubs though! Yes in my experience the sex I am having in a club and sex at home or with someone in private is very very different. Many men who I know from the club scene in particular will take viagra/cialis etc so they can stay hard for long periods and won't cum with every person they play with they will wait til the end. They want to go multiple rounds and stay in the moment. Some couples have an agreement that the partner will only cum with his wife/gf too or when they get home together. " Oh I didn't know about the prevalence of it but I should have really. Common sense. There's a pressure surrounding men and their penises being erect for certain lengths of time. "I think there is a LOT less focus on orgasms in a club environment and it's more about general pleasure, fun and being social. " That's how I think "meets" should be. Remove that focus on orgasms. Maybe retain the intensity though, I rather like that.
"If I want one on one, intense, sensual, intimate sex that goes on for hours that is for outside of a club for me. If I want a big group of sexy people all together in a room enjoying eachother that's more a club. " Different settings, different energy. Makes perfect sense to me. It's great to read about someone's experiences that are different from mine so thank you for sharing, it's appreciated. I really hope you don't mind me editing your post down by the way! | |||
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"so, noone answered me. Are guys really going to meets not fully charged Hey DS. I don't think it's intentional, more seize the day. Not everyone is going to be 100% giving it there all all the time. Bodies don't work as we plan or hope. Desire fluctuates. Life happens. Near thinking the same.. the guy could well change his diet, wait off coming for a month but on day of meet you've had a long stressful day so are either stress, down, distracted, tired.. it waxes and wanes, but if you know each other you either put it it to one side or do what you do. All the prep in the world doesn't stop a bad day.I agree with all of this. I'm 60 years of age I understand men. All I'm saying is if your not 100% why not just cancel. I'd have been more than happy for a guy to cancel and just say he wasn't feeling it I've been with women where you really need to work to get anything out.. others where you walk in and there's sparks 10ft away.. I don't think anyone has said they've not been 100%, and I'd say not being 100% doesn't necessarily mean you've been emptying your bollocks 7 days a week." Melissa said something about them being empty. That's what I picked up on. What I'm talking about is regular guys I've known for many years, not first timers or one offs. Ones where we knew each other inside put. If they where not feeling up to it for whatever reason and they could be many reasons I'd sooner them just say sorry won't be over tonight I'm just not feeling it | |||
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