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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West

Do you feel part of society?

Answers on an SAE or by carrier pigeon please ✉️🐧

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By *obilebottomMan
13 weeks ago

All over

A small subset I'd say.

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By *naswingdressWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think society has been dismantled.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West

I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
13 weeks ago

Trowbridge

No, I’m so withdrawn & staying in my own bubble more & more each day

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society. "

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By *obilebottomMan
13 weeks ago

All over


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society. "

The dispeakable rhetoric of the last few days can't have helped I assume

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By *elloWoman
13 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I have surrounded myself with a group of friends who are equally unique and we have our own society

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society.

The dispeakable rhetoric of the last few days can't have helped I assume"

Correct. It was enough just trying to navigate the inaccessible world and workplace but now apparently it'll all just be better (for the taxpayer, of which I am one) if I just worked a bit harder.

I'll tell my body it's not trying hard enough, maybe that'll help?

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"I have surrounded myself with a group of friends who are equally unique and we have our own society "

I did try that, but turns out disabled is also a hierarchy and I'm not disabled enough for some

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By *obilebottomMan
13 weeks ago

All over


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society.

The dispeakable rhetoric of the last few days can't have helped I assume"

Dispicable even.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I live in a bubble world and rarely leave the house I prefer to live in ignorance

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Geek, goth, immigrant, TV.

I've never fitted into mainstream society. 🤷‍♀️

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By *obilebottomMan
13 weeks ago

All over


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society.

The dispeakable rhetoric of the last few days can't have helped I assume

Correct. It was enough just trying to navigate the inaccessible world and workplace but now apparently it'll all just be better (for the taxpayer, of which I am one) if I just worked a bit harder.

I'll tell my body it's not trying hard enough, maybe that'll help? "

I am ashamed with some of that. I know people who nearly took their life last time and already the last few days has made them extremely ill. I made my feings clear on another thread of what I think of this and the peoe that supports systems and processes that are blantantly a direct attack on tbe vulnerable just and try to justify as fair as might catch a few people out. Sorry you made to feel that way. We are not all like them. Also O am sorry but will no longer comment or read other comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"I think society has been dismantled."

THIS..

We no longer live in a society nor a civilization. What we have these days you can't even class as a civilised society.

What we have is a society of civilians claiming to live in a civilised society yet can't agree on basic fundamental principles to live by to even come close to be able to claim we are even close to being civilized.

😲😲😲

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"Geek, goth, immigrant, TV.

I've never fitted into mainstream society. 🤷‍♀️"

I've always been a bit weird but now I think I've reached my freak show era.

Do the circuses still employ disabled folks?!

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By *JB1954Man
13 weeks ago

Reading

What is society ? Conform to most peoples ideas way of life ?

My thoughts are yes due to my age . People were more say friendly . Where I grew up ( council house housing estate ) People in road knew each other. ( only thirty houses) Large families . Largest had ten children.

Yet house I live in now , road for forty two years. Yes neighbours have moved , passed away. But yes may get a wave , _ello but that is all . My next door neighbour yes who lived next door all the time since moving in . We do speak ensure all ok. New other neighbours . As said hardly see or speak with.

So is this new society ?

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By *utteredBreadMan
13 weeks ago

Manchester

I feel like you've gotta be a bit of a misfit to be on fab in the first place. So why, all of us here don't fit into society to some extent.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
13 weeks ago

Bedfuck

I find trying to fit into a group, clique, organisation is not as beneficial as some may think. They carry alot of baggage.

Gay rights and Pride organisations have baggage , political issues going back over hundred years. I don't go on Pride marches and don't champion gay rights and I still have a happy fun life.

If I'm not someone's cup of tea I move on. Life's too short. I find more friends by my my personality as opposed to imposing myself.

Yeh I've suffered setbacks and blows but there's alot more in a worse state.

It doesn't stop me fighting my corner, however, if I need to.

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By *ags73Man
13 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society.

The dispeakable rhetoric of the last few days can't have helped I assume

Correct. It was enough just trying to navigate the inaccessible world and workplace but now apparently it'll all just be better (for the taxpayer, of which I am one) if I just worked a bit harder.

I'll tell my body it's not trying hard enough, maybe that'll help? "

The green paper announcement and the thinking behind it are warped in my opinion and lives of disabled people and carers are hard enough under current systems.

Fraud under PIP was 0%, there were bigger issues with DWP errors paying people than anyone cheating the system.

I don’t understand why a Labour government that was elected on ‘change’ is being worse to elderly and disabled people than the preceding government.

I do hope that response to green paper and the impact assessment when it finally appears are enough to bin this horrible idea.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West

If anyone is sending their answers by SAE, please don't forget that first class stamps will soon be £1.70 each!

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By *icolerobbieCouple
13 weeks ago

walsall

That’s life under the Labour Party for you. Socialism at its finest.

We all voted for change and this is what we got!

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"If anyone is sending their answers by SAE, please don't forget that first class stamps will soon be £1.70 each! "

I'll send a runner with a cleft palate...

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"That’s life under the Labour Party for you. Socialism at its finest.

We all voted for change and this is what we got!"

I could see the cut of their jib well in advance.

I voted Green (for all the good it did).

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By *riar BelisseWoman
13 weeks ago

Holibobs


"I no longer feel like I'm welcome in mainstream society.

The dispeakable rhetoric of the last few days can't have helped I assume

Correct. It was enough just trying to navigate the inaccessible world and workplace but now apparently it'll all just be better (for the taxpayer, of which I am one) if I just worked a bit harder.

I'll tell my body it's not trying hard enough, maybe that'll help?

The green paper announcement and the thinking behind it are warped in my opinion and lives of disabled people and carers are hard enough under current systems.

Fraud under PIP was 0%, there were bigger issues with DWP errors paying people than anyone cheating the system.

I don’t understand why a Labour government that was elected on ‘change’ is being worse to elderly and disabled people than the preceding government.

"

Because they are absolutely shite at greasing the palms of potential investors in the uk, tories made shady deals, but they were never made to scrape the barrel and tax the poor and needy. The wealthy dont support labour, they are blue through and through, next election will be a landslide blue victory, we just need to hope labour hasn't fucked it up too far by then

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

No and I like it that way, I’ve never been one for following the crowd. Or in societies.l case the clown.

The mr

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

There is no society there are individuals and there are families.

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By *onbons_xxMan
13 weeks ago

Bolton

I’ll just sit in my corner trying to surround myself with people on the same wavelength but that’s just because to me it’s just fragmented all over the place. Most places I look for society’s views jar, and it’s a bit sad in terms of how we got here, but maybe it’s me

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By *ools and the brainCouple
13 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.


"Do you feel part of society?

Answers on an SAE or by carrier pigeon please ✉️🐧"

No, fuck em they are all a bunch of assholes anyway.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
13 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Not really.

I mean, I pay my taxes. But at the end of the day I own my own business & answer to nobody

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"No, I’m so withdrawn & staying in my own bubble more & more each day"

Snap! My choice snd prefer it that way

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By *ellinever70Woman
13 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Yes I do

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I feel part of the part of society I choose to be in

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

No, I never have, but I've always managed to find other misfits to connect with so I'm not completely isolated. Most of my friends are ND and have ND children. The cuts to disability benefits and plans to have us all working more has us all very afraid for our children.

I can't help but wonder how the people supporting these cuts will feel when their disabled co-workers push themselves to the point of illness, only to be signed off work, leaving them with even more to do 🤷‍♀️

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
13 weeks ago

rochdale


"There is no society there are individuals and there are families.

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Is that you Maggie?

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By *_Mia_XTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Ilkeston

Every day i feel further and further from it. All you have to do is look on any social media platform and the rhetoric that get said about me and my community is enough to make you feel that no matter what i do it will never be enough. The hatred spread is so much and deep that its soul destroying at times and makes me often question whats the point if the world wants to turn is back on me in my time if need.

It’s a very strange phenomenon being hated by people you’ve never met. Some journalists just seem to hate me and everything I do, and it’s disconcerting because I’ve never met this person.”

— Moby

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

Less than I used to, but still got my tribe.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Chichester


"Do you feel part of society?

Answers on an SAE or by carrier pigeon please ✉️🐧"

Not really no. I exist parallel to general society j find in my world

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By *a LunaWoman
13 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I’ve stopped watching the news. It’s just one bad thing after another.

If I could afford it I think I’d actually consider leaving the UK, but I can’t so not that the grass is always greener on the other side anyway, but it might have been cheaper!

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By *midnight-Woman
13 weeks ago

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I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now

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By *illy IdolMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands


"I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now "

You need to shag little Johnny then.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now

You need to shag little Johnny then. "

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By *lubchuckerMan
13 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

No i don't feel part of society these days from what i see when i'm out and about. All i see is disrespect and laziness, drugs and thieving all going on in plain sight, the local society has evolved into a cesspit of crime with no comeuppance or deterrent from the authorities.

If this is what society has become then i don't want to be part of it.

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By *ildTimes.Man
13 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

No, I opted out once people started wearing masks and social distancing 🥪

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
13 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I do feel part of society but I realise the ever growing gap as I get older. It's not that i have become a witless cottontop overnight it's that people assume you to be one based on age.... it's not too bad though as I am very active in my community and people never suspect it's the nice little old lady that did them wrong .

Swings n roundabouts hey ..... swings n roundabouts.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"I do feel part of society but I realise the ever growing gap as I get older. It's not that i have become a witless cottontop overnight it's that people assume you to be one based on age.... it's not too bad though as I am very active in my community and people never suspect it's the nice little old lady that did them wrong .

Swings n roundabouts hey ..... swings n roundabouts.

"

Do you like swings and roundabouts, Granny? Thornton Hough has a lovely playground.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
13 weeks ago

Brum - ish


"I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now "

With you there. Also, many people assume that you have them too.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
13 weeks ago

furnace


"I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now

With you there. Also, many people assume that you have them too. "

Yes agree with this

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By *layfull pairingCouple
13 weeks ago

Bristol

Always thought I was, but after a “Normal” night out In town to a few bars and clubs for the first time in ages, it seems the world has moved on and off onto some weird tangent and I don’t fit in anymore (which I’m fine with as I didn’t much go a bundle on it anyway)

Mr

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
13 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle


"I do feel part of society but I realise the ever growing gap as I get older. It's not that i have become a witless cottontop overnight it's that people assume you to be one based on age.... it's not too bad though as I am very active in my community and people never suspect it's the nice little old lady that did them wrong .

Swings n roundabouts hey ..... swings n roundabouts.

Do you like swings and roundabouts, Granny? Thornton Hough has a lovely playground. "

Hmmmmm if you are making me choose, I'll swing please. Spinning in it's every form is affected by age

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never given it any thought. Depends what you mean by society?

Society in general or just what is happening around me?

The former is irrelevant if it doesn't influence or affect me directly.

I feel as much a part of the latter as I wish to be.

I'm part of my society of family and friends but I've never been one to follow trends so it's more than possible I don't fit in with some people's definition of society.

I'm part of my local community in as much as I shop locally and eat out but beyond that I'm not actively involved.

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By *avie65Man
13 weeks ago

In the west.

I feel I am being distanced by society since I retired. Maybe some it is my own fault as well though. I can do things whenever I want now and not have to wait until the weekend or holiday periods and as such friends and old work colleagues tend to think you won’t want to do something or forget about you altogether.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
13 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now "

The other night someone in a group I was with started on about their kids and I cut them off mid sentence and said ‘I’m really not interested’, didn’t go down too well.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

No far from it, I feel that the covid lockdowns really disjointed society. I don't feel comfortable in mainstream society, it's almost as if I'm invisable. I like smaller groups of friends who get me and who appreciate me.

I actually love interacting here on the forums, people are nice chatting and always seem to respect your opinion even if not agreeing

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By *olinOfBathMan
13 weeks ago

Corsham

'Society' has always been a myth.

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By *entfootloverMan
13 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

Only in as much as I'm being sucked out of tax money.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"'Society' has always been a myth."

How so?

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By *olinOfBathMan
13 weeks ago

Corsham


"'Society' has always been a myth.

How so? "

If it means nothing more than a collection of animals occupying the same space, 'society' exists. Maybe. Once you start to go beyond that, even by refining it merely to mean humans, it falls apart.

Whether it's Socrates through Plato, Comte through Martineau, or any of today's burbling navel-gazers, there's never been consensus on what 'society' is - and certainly nothing approaching agreement on what it can or should be.

Just one of the many areas where Thatch annoyed the chattering classes, by being right, and had to be shot/shut down - mostly, for being Thatch.

Society? Ain't no such thing. Suck it up, move on.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

North West


"'Society' has always been a myth.

How so?

If it means nothing more than a collection of animals occupying the same space, 'society' exists. Maybe. Once you start to go beyond that, even by refining it merely to mean humans, it falls apart.

Whether it's Socrates through Plato, Comte through Martineau, or any of today's burbling navel-gazers, there's never been consensus on what 'society' is - and certainly nothing approaching agreement on what it can or should be.

Just one of the many areas where Thatch annoyed the chattering classes, by being right, and had to be shot/shut down - mostly, for being Thatch.

Society? Ain't no such thing. Suck it up, move on."

By society, I meant the collection of human beings that you share your immediate existence with. Plus all the institutions that surround and underpin your existence in the UK or wherever you live/hang out.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
13 weeks ago

Cannock

Older - check

Unfit to work - check

LGBT - double check (pan and trans)

But I do feel part of society. I live in a historic Tory constituency. They've elected bnp councillors here.

When I came out I expected torches and pitchforks but everyone's been rather lovely. I have more friends than I ever thought possible, people recognise me, miss me, look out for me.

I never had that as a man.

I'm accepted and I try to give it back. I'll always stop for a chat, online I try to be a positive voice and lift up the I can. I want to give back the love and acceptance I've been given.

I guess that makes me part of society.

I don't even know what's going on with benefits even though it'll affect me directly. I'll find out eventually but it's not going to stop me living my life.

Nothing has up to now. Just keep on going.

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"'Society' has always been a myth.

How so?

If it means nothing more than a collection of animals occupying the same space, 'society' exists. Maybe. Once you start to go beyond that, even by refining it merely to mean humans, it falls apart.

Whether it's Socrates through Plato, Comte through Martineau, or any of today's burbling navel-gazers, there's never been consensus on what 'society' is - and certainly nothing approaching agreement on what it can or should be.

Just one of the many areas where Thatch annoyed the chattering classes, by being right, and had to be shot/shut down - mostly, for being Thatch.

Society? Ain't no such thing. Suck it up, move on.

By society, I meant the collection of human beings that you share your immediate existence with. Plus all the institutions that surround and underpin your existence in the UK or wherever you live/hang out. "

Enemies competing for my resources, to be crushed and driven from my land.

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By *ettieAndIrvingMan
13 weeks ago

Derby


"That’s life under the Labour Party for you. Socialism at its finest.

We all voted for change and this is what we got!"

Labour and Socialism are not the same. They're really not.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"I don't have it kids, so instantly feel excluded from most conversations as people just talk non-stop about what little Johnny did, even though he's 29 now

With you there. Also, many people assume that you have them too. "

Lol! People assume all sorts of things about what you should be when you do have a child. When we had our daughter, and went to the malls in Johannesburg, we literally used to get pointed at - the weird goths with a baby in a pink babygro. We were sitting in a coffee shop once, and we could hear people saying "do you think it's theirs?" Like we'd nicked a baby to sacrifice to satan. 🙄

Of course, now she's a goth, too. 😁 🧛🏼‍♀️

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By *ndycoinsMan
13 weeks ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,


"That’s life under the Labour Party for you. Socialism at its finest.

We all voted for change and this is what we got!

Labour and Socialism are not the same. They're really not."

They are worse.'1984' was a warning not an instruction manual.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Depends which society we involve ourselves in

My town is not worth investing my time but I'm a member of big online community on discord, and a number of people from around the world who have listened to me talk about my life and my experiences have approached me seeking help with their mental health and understanding themselves better.

It's a very rewarding and fulfilling feeling to have people look up to me like that and trust me with their life's problems that they otherwise keep private from the wider community. It does feel like a huge responsibility at the same time as I have to be so careful not to give people the wrong advice. But it does give me a sense of purpose within the community I'm in rather than being a passive member

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