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By (user no longer on site) OP   
19 weeks ago

So this maybe a bit controversial and I’ll hide after posting it

I see a lot of posts asking for preferences such as

Cut or uncut

Puffy nipples or not

Height

Is my dick big enough

And more

What do these actually achieve. If someone puts a preference to cut and I’m not and I’m supposed to get circumcised?

There are parts of us we can change if we want to and is safe to do so such as weight up or down, but, seeing so many posts that ask the same questions every day does anyone actually think they’ll undergo a surgical change to get a fuck

Preferences are just that. You either fit them or you don’t

Anyway this grumpy biker is signing off for a bit

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By *sWyldWoman
19 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I see preferences as a good thing. If I'm not what someone wants that's ok.

I'd rather know and find someone who genuinely does want me and all that I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
19 weeks ago


"I see preferences as a good thing. If I'm not what someone wants that's ok.

I'd rather know and find someone who genuinely does want me and all that I am. "

Preferences are great and needed

Maybe it hasn’t come across right

It’s the perpetual posts on them as if we can change what we have

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
19 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

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By *allySlinkyWoman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't think it implies you must change. If someone says they prefer BBC they are not expecting you to grow one, they will look for someone who already has one.

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

It's like the question around beards which I know isn't as radical as what you've mentioned but is asked almost every day.

I've been told by women and couples to lose the beard or fuck off. Bearing in mind they contacted me and that was their introductory message I have to assume there are many who are happy to do whatever they think will get them a fuck because these were all very well verified profiles.

I refuse to change anything about myself just for sex and I wouldn't even engage with anyone who thinks it's acceptable to instruct others.

However I would be amazed if anyone on here expected others to have surgery in order to meet a broader range of preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
19 weeks ago


"I don't think it implies you must change. If someone says they prefer BBC they are not expecting you to grow one, they will look for someone who already has one. "

But that for me is different

Imagine being in bed with someone and they see you naked and say

“Sorry your nipples are too puffy, not big enough”

Or

“You’re half an inch too small/big”

But my point is the constant posts on it. What do they achieve apart from being divisive

We all have a preference, maybe a deal breaker, but posting daily and potentially making people inadequate I don’t get

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

For me it simply helps me decide if I should message or not

Not really different to age.

Or maybe I missed the point sorry.

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By *ellinever70Woman
19 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Most of it is fetishisation

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By *all me FlikWoman
19 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away


"I don't think it implies you must change. If someone says they prefer BBC they are not expecting you to grow one, they will look for someone who already has one.

But that for me is different

Imagine being in bed with someone and they see you naked and say

“Sorry your nipples are too puffy, not big enough”

Or

“You’re half an inch too small/big”

But my point is the constant posts on it. What do they achieve apart from being divisive

We all have a preference, maybe a deal breaker, but posting daily and potentially making people inadequate I don’t get "

Think of them as advertising...this is what I want, this is what I don't want. It's a way to attract people who fit their preferences.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
19 weeks ago

Teesside


"So this maybe a bit controversial and I’ll hide after posting it

I see a lot of posts asking for preferences such as

Cut or uncut

Puffy nipples or not

Height

Is my dick big enough

And more

What do these actually achieve. If someone puts a preference to cut and I’m not and I’m supposed to get circumcised?

There are parts of us we can change if we want to and is safe to do so such as weight up or down, but, seeing so many posts that ask the same questions every day does anyone actually think they’ll undergo a surgical change to get a fuck

Preferences are just that. You either fit them or you don’t

Anyway this grumpy biker is signing off for a bit "

I often think those posts are more about the OP wanting validation from others. It usually becomes apparent after a couple of posts which are the opposite to the OP. I also find them tedious so don’t even open them. Enjoy your break,this place can feel more serious than it is at times!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London


"So this maybe a bit controversial and I’ll hide after posting it

I see a lot of posts asking for preferences such as

Cut or uncut

Puffy nipples or not

Height

Is my dick big enough

And more

What do these actually achieve. If someone puts a preference to cut and I’m not and I’m supposed to get circumcised?

There are parts of us we can change if we want to and is safe to do so such as weight up or down, but, seeing so many posts that ask the same questions every day does anyone actually think they’ll undergo a surgical change to get a fuck

Preferences are just that. You either fit them or you don’t

Anyway this grumpy biker is signing off for a bit

I often think those posts are more about the OP wanting validation from others. It usually becomes apparent after a couple of posts which are the opposite to the OP. I also find them tedious so don’t even open them. Enjoy your break,this place can feel more serious than it is at times!"

A good point about the validation. Accurate in a lot of instances.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I agree with this, everyone has there needs and wants if you don’t fit the bill I’m sure there is someone out there that you do fit the bill for, don’t change who you are, just be you and keep it real

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By *rdere OpusCouple
19 weeks ago

Brum - ish


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I often think those posts are more about the OP wanting validation from others. It usually becomes apparent after a couple of posts which are the opposite to the OP. I also find them tedious so don’t even open them. Enjoy your break,this place can feel more serious than it is at times!"

Absolutely agree. It’s also about drawing attention to their profile and sometimes it’s the thirsty trying to draw in the type of person they find attractive.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
19 weeks ago

kent

I don’t engage with those threads. We are all far more than the sum of our body parts, and while preferences are natural, they are also limiting. Imagine how many beautiful people would never enter your orbit, if you discard everyone who doesn’t fit a specific criteria.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Puffy nipples are not something I have ever thought about until I read this thread. Are they permanently puffy or do they become stiff on arousal ?

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By *ellhungvweMan
19 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I don't think it implies you must change. If someone says they prefer BBC they are not expecting you to grow one, they will look for someone who already has one. "

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By *obilebottomMan
19 weeks ago

All over

Tbf, I don't care how others express their preferences or any threads they post about it. I don't engage with anyone or any threads that are not to my liking though the length or girth one can of course create much hilarity and sometimes fun to at least observe. If we were of course talking cucumbers I will fully engage as they seem to be shrinking on both accounts as so many things have these days whilst almost doubling in price over the last few years, just outrageous. Back to topic, so many threads and posts are useful to decide whether someone is not really your cup of tea.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
19 weeks ago

Leeds


"If we were of course talking cucumbers I will fully engage"

Do you prefer your cucumber wrapped or unwrapped ?

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By *electableicecreamMan
19 weeks ago

The West

There's a lot of validation going on with these threads.

It's guys with beards that start threads about beards and guys with cut dicks that start threads about cut dicks.

Threads asking if women prefer hung guys are usually started by guys with big dicks.

It's straight up insecurity and validation seeking.

The threads about women's bodies are also usually started by men. BBW love. Big boobs yes please. *Insert body part here*

Guys tryna get get laid innit.

Oh and there's that one guy who kept starting threads related to black men. He's in a league of his own.

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By *eoBloomsMan
19 weeks ago

Springfield


"Puffy nipples are not something I have ever thought about until I read this thread. Are they permanently puffy or do they become stiff on arousal ?"

Isn't Puffy Nipples an incarcerated rapper ?

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By *ildTimes.Man
19 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam


"Puffy nipples are not something I have ever thought about until I read this thread. Are they permanently puffy or do they become stiff on arousal ?

Isn't Puffy Nipples an incarcerated rapper ?"

Notorious BBC 🥪

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By *eoBloomsMan
19 weeks ago

Springfield


"Puffy nipples are not something I have ever thought about until I read this thread. Are they permanently puffy or do they become stiff on arousal ?

Isn't Puffy Nipples an incarcerated rapper ?

Notorious BBC 🥪"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
19 weeks ago

East Sussex

Fab can at times be one huge popularity contest. I don't think anyone realistically expects people to change to fit a preference but some enjoy being appreciated for a particular physical attribute.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
19 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I quite like those threads. Shows me who I may be interested in and who may be interested in me. I like the preference threads

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By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"So this maybe a bit controversial and I’ll hide after posting it

I see a lot of posts asking for preferences such as

Cut or uncut

Puffy nipples or not

Height

Is my dick big enough

And more

What do these actually achieve. If someone puts a preference to cut and I’m not and I’m supposed to get circumcised?

There are parts of us we can change if we want to and is safe to do so such as weight up or down, but, seeing so many posts that ask the same questions every day does anyone actually think they’ll undergo a surgical change to get a fuck

Preferences are just that. You either fit them or you don’t

Anyway this grumpy biker is signing off for a bit "

Inanities 🥱

Lame forum trite devoid of any entertainment or interesting content and ultimately meaningless.

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair


"...What do these actually achieve. If someone puts a preference to cut and I’m not and I’m supposed to get circumcised? "

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I fail to see what the problem is. If there are incompatibilities you simply disregard and engage with people with whom you are more aligned, and those who meet your criteria and vice versa.

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By *uckurcumMan
19 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

We are who we are ..yes we can change some things appearance wise if we choose ...

I have body hair,trimmed where it counts and trimmed hairy crack...I'm not going to shave to new born levels just for a fuck ...

If that's not for you ..fine by me ...

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
19 weeks ago

belfast

Think you're taking it a bit seriously. It's people asking a question. That is all.

There are lots of really ridiculous questions you could have issues with.

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By *leasingmyhubsCouple
19 weeks ago

Holbeach

I thought the whole idea of a profile was to highlight the likes and dislikes of someone.

I've personally lost track the amount of times I've told someone to Actually read a profile before getting InTouch.

If I want a guy 6'2 and fit as fuck I seriously don't expect someone 5'and the size of a gorilla messaging!!

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By *oughmanMan
19 weeks ago

Sunderland

No I don't think you should to change to fit someone else's preference. You're just not what they want. Their loss as you could be an amazing person and tick all their other boxes but that one thing just says don't engage.

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By *viatrixWoman
19 weeks ago

Redhill


"I don't think it implies you must change. If someone says they prefer BBC they are not expecting you to grow one, they will look for someone who already has one.

But that for me is different

Imagine being in bed with someone and they see you naked and say

“Sorry your nipples are too puffy, not big enough”

Or

“You’re half an inch too small/big”

But my point is the constant posts on it. What do they achieve apart from being divisive

We all have a preference, maybe a deal breaker, but posting daily and potentially making people inadequate I don’t get "

It’s your choice to feel inadequate. No one has control on the way you feel about something being said/posted but you.

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By *hil most chillMan
19 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

I see these constantly recycled topics as just a plea for attention from the OP. If they really wanted answers they could search the topic and read the hundreds of posts that came before, but they want THEIR post to be seen and commented on. It's just a way to get engagement on here, as sending messages generally yields a much lower response rate.

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