FabSwingers.com forum: Will fill in later

By *carletts OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Harpenden

What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed

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By *uri00620Woman
19 weeks ago

Croydon

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

Do those pretty much amount to the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

A bit of both

But then people say many don’t read the bio so may be a cunning plan to make people ask for more info

That said if I see it I don’t message, then I don’t message anyone anyway so…

What a waffling answer🤣

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By *carletts OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Harpenden

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed

Do those pretty much amount to the same thing?"

Probably

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By *oeBeansMan
19 weeks ago

Derby

That's usually my opening message to women on Fab

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By *obilebottomMan
19 weeks ago

All over

I just ask them when

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Profile less than a week old - excited, not good with words, forgot.

More than a week, less than a year - not a good look.

Over a year - I won't consider this person.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
19 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"
mostly a 🙄

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Plenty seem to do alright from it, sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words OP

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By *elloWoman
19 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I'll answer this later

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By *carletts OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Harpenden

"I'll answer this later

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By *_Mia_XTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Ilkeston

Depends how long the profile has been up more than a couple of months i will ignore

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By *rdere OpusCouple
19 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I assume they think creating a profile is all they need to do to be knee deep in offers.

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By *ynamicnatureMan
19 weeks ago

Doncaster

"Profile less than a week old - excited, not good with words, forgot.

More than a week, less than a year - not a good look.

Over a year - I won't consider this person."

💯👍

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
19 weeks ago

little house on the praire

It tells me they haven't got the intelligence to string a profile together

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
19 weeks ago

Voldsøy

"That's usually my opening message to women on Fab

👏🤣 Touché!

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By *ildTimes.Man
19 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

If they're hot I don't care 🥪

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By *oughmanMan
19 weeks ago

Sunderland

I see it a fair bit. My first thought is lack of time. But if it's been a more than two weeks, they just can't be bothered. I won't engage with them either way. It doesn't give me anything to engage with anyway.

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By *oughmanMan
19 weeks ago

Sunderland

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By *oughmanMan
19 weeks ago

Sunderland

"I'll answer this later

😆😆😆👍

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By *B..Woman
19 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Both really

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By *bi HaiveMan
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19 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Profile less than a week old - excited, not good with words, forgot.

More than a week, less than a year - not a good look.

Over a year - I won't consider this person.

💯👍"

Even if it was a day old I wouldn't be interested. I've always actively avoided even looking at new profiles, to give them a chance to settle in and get acquainted with the site. But it's common sense to at least write a bit about yourself even if you update it later.

No doubt if a single woman's profile they'd still be bombarded with mail from men looking to be first in the queue even with no words and no photos. 🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

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By *orthern StarsCouple
19 weeks ago

Durham

Laziness without a doubt.

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By *illy IdolMan
19 weeks ago

Midlands

If you're not fussed about meeting or just like to attend clubs then it's perfectly fine.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
19 weeks ago

Durham

"If you're not fussed about meeting or just like to attend clubs then it's perfectly fine."

I would write a sentence in my profile to explain that.

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By *illy IdolMan
19 weeks ago

Midlands

"If you're not fussed about meeting or just like to attend clubs then it's perfectly fine.

I would write a sentence in my profile to explain that."

That's too sensible!

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By *ustAnotherMan
19 weeks ago

brumish

Alot of the time I think lazy, sometimes I think cloned profile fake

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By *egDaySkipperMan
19 weeks ago

Can't really comment as my profile is very short. But normally I wouldn't message them unless they had a profile status I could message about

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By *orthern StarsCouple
19 weeks ago

Durham

"If you're not fussed about meeting or just like to attend clubs then it's perfectly fine.

I would write a sentence in my profile to explain that.

That's too sensible!"

Sorry, it's an age thing perhaps

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By *eo PublicMan
19 weeks ago

Lincoln

No doubt if a single woman's profile they'd still be bombarded with mail from men looking to be first in the queue even with no words and no photos. 🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️"

You mean that tactic doesn't work, that explains a lot

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?"

•

My viewpoint is that women, unlike the gentlemen on here, posses the inherent inability to conjure sufficient prose and narrative for their flimsy profiles.

Their target audience live with eternal hope that something of substance will fall through the cracks and embed itself in their profile. Alas, there is more content in the vacuum of Space than in the average women's profile. And there are plenty of average women on here. Do not even tempt me with the mediocre ones.

🏃🏻‍♂️💨💨💨

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

Lazy and clueless

Lacking in empathy for what others might need

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By *carletts OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Harpenden

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By *carletts OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Harpenden

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

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My viewpoint is that women, unlike the gentlemen on here, posses the inherent inability to conjure sufficient prose and narrative for their flimsy profiles.

🏃🏻‍♂️💨💨💨

Are you saying men are just desperate?

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By *itygamesMan
19 weeks ago

Fake profile mostly...

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By *ikesEmBigMan
19 weeks ago

Herts

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

Oh I thought they wanted me to fill them? Completely misread that

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
19 weeks ago

manchester

Not being a wordsmith ant not great at spelling meant our profile had to evolve. We still add, delete and change parts of it

Will fill in later on a new profile that’s been paid for is a not interested from us

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By *ellhungvweMan
19 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t really have an immediate view - I will think about it later.

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By *carletts OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Harpenden

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed

Oh I thought they wanted me to fill them? Completely misread that"

Haha

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By *opping_candyWoman
19 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

I find it's usually on profiles that have been on here for years - outed by a blurry pic they added in November 2019.

I just straight out won't engage.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
19 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Anything which shows a lack of effort - either in pics or profile is a ‘walk on by’.

If you don’t quickly realise you need to sell yourself on here then it’s a great filter.

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By *acavityMan
19 weeks ago

Redditch

"I assume they think creating a profile is all they need to do to be knee deep in offers. "

And if they are a single female, they are right.

Personally I wouldn’t message anyone who makes minimum effort, as they are probably entitled and lazy, in many levels.

Maybe match the energy and “wink”, and if they want a conversation, they can start one.

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Both, it's a delete if a profile like that messages me.

Especially when they've been here months and can't take 5 mins to actually write something more.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

See you later, alligator.

Not worth bothering with.

The mr

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By *adtaffladMan
19 weeks ago

Rhyl

It depends on the age of the profile

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

It's lazy, they can't be arsed, so why should I bother messaging. Then you see the norks and like a moth to light...

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
19 weeks ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

If I see that I'm not interested and block especially if the profile is months old

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
19 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

"I'll answer this later

...three days mind!? I know some of these profiles can leave that there for 'over a year' but c'mon, we wanna know!

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By *estructionDollyWoman
19 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Big turn off. Empty profiles with no bios are my bug bear on here. It's not hard to write a quick paragraph saying why you're here and what you're looking for. It doesn't need to be war and peace. Profiles hook me and messaging reels me in. So if the profile is shit we likely won't even get to the messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Do you need words on a profile if you have Female on the profile?

Guarantee that an empty profile with absolutely no interests, pics or words will get 200 messages in the first hour.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
19 weeks ago

Teesside

I initially thought laziness if it’s more than a few weeks old but objectively speaking, women get so much attention by that time they probably don’t need to update it anyway.

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By *ggdrasil66Man
19 weeks ago

Saltdean

It all depends on how long the person has been a member. Three months or less, fair enough. Longer than that, probably not seriously interested in swinging. Also if there for a long time, could be a man pretending to be fem/cpl…

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

People read blurb?

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By *wingingphil69Man
19 weeks ago

castleford

Not interested as they don’t want to tell you anything about themselves

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By *uriousscouserWoman
19 weeks ago

Wirral

Depends. Are they talking about the profile or are they saying they'll fill me in later?

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By *hunky GentMan
19 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

For me - depends if she's wearing blue underwear.

That will keep me interested.

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By *ark n kimCouple
19 weeks ago

Durham

"Big turn off. Empty profiles with no bios are my bug bear on here. It's not hard to write a quick paragraph saying why you're here and what you're looking for. It doesn't need to be war and peace. Profiles hook me and messaging reels me in. So if the profile is shit we likely won't even get to the messaging."

Totally agree with this.also pics that are over 3 years old.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

A bio is just words. I could write anything in that and it won't be a reflection of my true identity, which goes for everyone else. Likewise the same goes for a bio with nothing on it or "fill in later". I could write that in my bio with an account 5 months old because I'm thinking of a new bio to write.

I've seen profiles with just a single sentence and yet their verifications appear positive (on the surface at least).

It's also worth considering that not everyone is a master class wordsmith. I know many of you may have been misunderstood regarding a topic if discussion because you could have written something more concise and less likely to open to misinterpretation. "Will fill in later" could be short for "I need to write a new bio, I wasn't happy with the old ones and I'm taking my time to put more thought into a new bio for myself"...

You can never be too sure or so quick to judge someone over the Internet. You don't know them.

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By *ibblepilotMan
19 weeks ago

Preston

I use it as a filter - won't engage with them if they can't be arsed to put a simple bio together, whatever their bs reason

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I read man's bio and live in hope they telling the truth about themselves

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By *ibblepilotMan
19 weeks ago

Preston

This.

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By *hunky GentMan
19 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

"I read man's bio and live in hope they telling the truth about themselves "

Speaking for myself - you couldn't make that shit up.

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By *ansoffateMan
19 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think they must be a deep and mysterious enigma, whose company will feel as two souls entwined in a cosmic dance.

It can sometimes be a conceited arrogance, on a sexual level I can appreciate that - if the skills are commensurate. Albeit a rare occurrence.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Chichester

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

Fake profile is my view so I just ignore / delete

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

Well, if they can't be arsed to write something vaguely descriptive, then I can't be arsed to bother with them.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
19 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed

Well, if they can't be arsed to write something vaguely descriptive, then I can't be arsed to bother with them.

Yip! Give me a clue, people.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

Perhaps Fab should have a button that the lazy and clueless could tick, so they don't even need to write fill in later? Fab could add the text for them, alongside a warning that they're probably even worse in person

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Perhaps Fab should have a button that the lazy and clueless could tick, so they don't even need to write fill in later? Fab could add the text for them, alongside a warning that they're probably even worse in person "

They do. "I'm an (age) (gender) and I'm looking to meet (demographics)". That's the default text

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I read man's bio and live in hope they telling the truth about themselves "

I read women's bio and live with the eternal hope that they aren't lying about anything. ✔️

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By *ife NinjaMan
19 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Don't engage. Unlikely to be interesting, or interested in me 🤓

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

depends how long the profile has been around for. If only a few days or weeks sure fine... but months and years, then it's not a good sign.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Pretty much sums up my raised beds atm

Fucking hate gardening

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By *ntrigued888Woman
19 weeks ago

Herts, Beds & Bucks

A lot of people don't bother to update.

It might say something along the lines of I've just joined , but when you look it's gone over the 1 year mark

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"What's your views when you see this on a profile?

Laziness or just can't be arsed"

h doesn’t read profiles

prefer a pic of a banging pair of tits to a boring essay

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By *onnachakeaneMan
19 weeks ago

Dundrum

Judging by your profile I’m fairly sure you’re both knees deep in offers! 😉

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Judging by your profile I’m fairly sure you’re both knees deep in offers! 😉"

bit rich that kid

h spends most his time fighting them off

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
19 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

Lazy profile lazy shag ?

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Lazy profile lazy shag ? "

lol

that made h chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Laziness

I find it's mainly women who do it but I guess men (me included) will message regardless of content

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

They do. "I'm an (age) (gender) and I'm looking to meet (demographics)". That's the default text"

I was thinking Fab could just add the explicit text, that they're lazy and clueless, perhaps additionally to the bare minimum standard text. They could tick the box, to make it explicit and official

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By *unny girl7Woman
19 weeks ago

stoke on trent/cheshire border

"Laziness

I find it's mainly women who do it but I guess men (me included) will message regardless of content

Thats prob because you only see profiles of women???!!

Men do it lots,just means they have nothing to say and are dull and desperate-a bit like them and how their meets would be 🙄

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Laziness

I find it's mainly women who do it but I guess men (me included) will message regardless of content

Thats prob because you only see profiles of women???!!

Men do it lots,just means they have nothing to say and are dull and desperate-a bit like them and how their meets would be 🙄"

Fair point

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By *erdyEstLdner 82Man
19 weeks ago

Ilford

"Laziness

I find it's mainly women who do it but I guess men (me included) will message regardless of content

Thats prob because you only see profiles of women???!!

Men do it lots,just means they have nothing to say and are dull and desperate-a bit like them and how their meets would be 🙄"

It baffles me how men would even contemplate trying this approach, considering how many hoops they need to jump through just to get a message back or even their profile looked at.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
19 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Laziness

I find it's mainly women who do it but I guess men (me included) will message regardless of content

Thats prob because you only see profiles of women???!!

Men do it lots,just means they have nothing to say and are dull and desperate-a bit like them and how their meets would be 🙄

It baffles me how men would even contemplate trying this approach, considering how many hoops they need to jump through just to get a message back or even their profile looked at.

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Some guys are so entitled they think just by setting up an account will get the women flocking, then when it doesn't work they come on the forums calling all women all the names under the sun. Does make me wonder if they've ever interacted with a woman in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

h has a question

anyone like the essay profiles?

bet they bang on and on and on in the real world

each to their own

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
19 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"h has a question

anyone like the essay profiles?

bet they bang on and on and on in the real world

each to their own

"
I used to like a good, well thought out profile expressing their likes and dislikes and a bit of personality so I could judge whether we would be compatible. But we all like different things. But if your profile attracts your type of person then there is no need to change it

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By *rincipessaWoman
19 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

I scroll straight on by. They’re either an excitable schoolboy so thrilled at the idea of seeing free tits. Unable to scroll, wank and fill in a profile at the same time.

Alternatively, if they’re not bothered enough to try and get my interest before sex, how much are they gonna care during or after. It’s clearly all about them

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By *uke_silverMan
19 weeks ago

London

I'd give them the benefit of the doubt - maybe they had one but wanted to change it. I'm biased because I know I've done that although I didn't say will fill in later 😅

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By *opping_candyWoman
19 weeks ago

Huddersfield

anyone like the essay profiles?

bet they bang on and on and on in the real world"

Quite the opposite. Not a chatterbox at all. Actually, part of the reason I try to have a semi decent profile is so that I don't have to keep repeating myself over and over.

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By *tr8MrEMan
19 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Is it later yet?

Or should I wait a bit longer to fill in

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By *aphunterMan
19 weeks ago

woking

I think people probably mean it, I think they are new and that’s ok!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
19 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"I think people probably mean it, I think they are new and that’s ok!"
The ones I see are over a year old

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
19 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

"I think people probably mean it, I think they are new and that’s ok!The ones I see are over a year old"

Yeah those are the red flags, a new profile you can kinda forgive x

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