FabSwingers.com mobile

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Opening lines which instantly turn you off?

Jump to newest
 

By *urvyLady4BlackMen OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Norwich

What instantly makes you dry?

Mine are:

Oi oi

Hey

Your tit's look really good

Or anybody who has not read my profile or ignores my preference.

Call me old fashioned but I do like an introduction a bit about them and why they contacted. Is that too much?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *_Mia_XTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Ilkeston

Meet now?

Shag?

If i meet you no one can know (happens more often than you would think)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair

It's not what they say that puts me off, it's what they ·don't· say which irks me.

Throw crass at me if you like but at least prefix it with "How do you do?" or "Charmed, I'm sure", "Salutations...'...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bitofaslutWoman
19 weeks ago

Cannock

"daddy"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyLady4BlackMen OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Norwich


"Meet now?

Shag?

If i meet you no one can know (happens more often than you would think) "

I've had the are you discrete question too.

I guess they're married or in a relationship which is an instant turn off.

Like who would you tell anyway? So odd.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

19 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Hi.

Hey.

How's you?

And anything graphic that gives straight into sex chat.

*obvs on the couples profile. This one doesn't get much mail. 🤷‍♂️😂

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyLady4BlackMen OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Norwich


"It's not what they say that puts me off, it's what they ·don't· say which irks me.

Throw crass at me if you like but at least prefix it with "How do you do?" or "Charmed, I'm sure", "Salutations...'..."

I agree, it's just common courtesy.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arriedminxCouple
19 weeks ago

here

"imagine I walked into your house....."

"want me to do xyz...."

These in particular really annoy me! and always get a rather terse response!

Minx.x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lym4realCouple
19 weeks ago

plymouth

Same as you anyone wh says they have or implies they have read our profile or just a message with a todger pic attached asking for ...or how are we ? or any plans ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *estructionDollyWoman
19 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

"you look filthy"

"you're so much sexier than my wife"

"having a wank over you right now"

🥱🥱🥱

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *_Mia_XTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"Meet now?

Shag?

If i meet you no one can know (happens more often than you would think)

I've had the are you discrete question too.

I guess they're married or in a relationship which is an instant turn off.

Like who would you tell anyway? So odd. "

Exactly the chances of me knowing the same people are slim and even if we did what benefit is there to tell everyone

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *_Mia_XTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Ilkeston

The fake doms are always fun too

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *awpleasureMan
19 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ad NannaWoman
19 weeks ago

East London

On a dating site recently I was asked if I'd modelled.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elly and daveCouple
19 weeks ago

gateshead

1) Hey.

2) How's u.

3) Do you wanna fuck.

4) I'd make you moan.

God how long have I got?...lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ad NannaWoman
19 weeks ago

East London


"On a dating site recently I was asked if I'd modelled.

"

And will I wear nylon pop socks for a coffee date.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elloWoman
19 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Can I call you auntie/mummy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eoBloomsMan
19 weeks ago

Springfield

Can you last 2/3 hours ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Men saying that they can always “drive to mine’s as they work in my area”!

And asking if I like BBC or WBC!!

Or calling you “Mamma”

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss DevilWoman
19 weeks ago

Bedford

[Removed by poster at 18/03/25 12:29:19]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss DevilWoman
19 weeks ago

Bedford

Anything with text speak!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rettCoolMan
19 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Daddy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Wuu2

I've got a female friend who can join us.

What size are they or they look big.

Hi hun/dear/babe etc.

Can I ask you a question...

Mmmmmm.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r SensualMan
19 weeks ago

London

Looking for *insert any dehumanising or fetishising term*

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icevicebabyWoman
19 weeks ago

Dublin North

Can I ask you something?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
19 weeks ago

Darlington

We had someone demanding to be breast fed in his first message. Needless to say it didn't go down well

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ildTimes.Man
19 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

You've probably heard this before ....yep almost guaranteed 🥪

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
19 weeks ago

Reading

I've had a few this week that started off

Hey baby - no

Hey darling - no

Hi sweetheart - no

Hey bbe - no

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *irsSubCouple
19 weeks ago

Darlington

Our personal favourites are:

"you want to be impregnated by Kurdish" - thanks for offer pal, not sure how the ethnicity would make it better or worse.

"Would love to cum inside you" - we are safe only and make it clear.

"Weird question but do you own a coat with a fur lined hood" - this one appears sporadically with a new account.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *awpleasureMan
19 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield


"Our personal favourites are:

"you want to be impregnated by Kurdish" - thanks for offer pal, not sure how the ethnicity would make it better or worse.

"Would love to cum inside you" - we are safe only and make it clear.

"Weird question but do you own a coat with a fur lined hood" - this one appears sporadically with a new account.

"

Yes because especially those whose English is not that great for whatever reason, look at your pics, see bb and cream pie pics and message you thinking that's what you're offering.

And there's plenty more who can read well but choose not to.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aybeLadyWoman
19 weeks ago

West Dublin

Hi

Can I lick your pussy?

You free for fun now?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyLady4BlackMen OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Norwich


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

"

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oughmanMan
19 weeks ago

Sunderland


"What instantly makes you dry?

Mine are:

Oi oi

Hey

Your tit's look really good

Or anybody who has not read my profile or ignores my preference.

Call me old fashioned but I do like an introduction a bit about them and why they contacted. Is that too much?

"

Dear lord, do people really use those? And they say the art of conversation is dead.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allandathleticMan
19 weeks ago

Asgard

Instant boner killer when I get unsolicited nudes 😬

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *reative-mindMan
19 weeks ago

exeter

"Face pic"

Which normally gets a kind "fuck off" from me and them blocked.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ooDeNimMan
19 weeks ago

Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message."

I think that this is the consistent theme on Fab - it’s highly unlikely that a polite, articulate and friendly opening message which indicates that the author has read the profile of the person he’s messaging (and includes a face pic) will illicit any form of response.

Not making excuses for those who don’t read your profile or observe your preferences of course.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lexm87Man
19 weeks ago

Various


"On a dating site recently I was asked if I'd modelled.

"

To which, I hope you replied, 'mainly the more traditional Airfix ranges, but I need to work on painting'.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Faf

Nice tits

Nice arse

Lucky man/woman

Mrs

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arriedminxCouple
19 weeks ago

here


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message.

I think that this is the consistent theme on Fab - it’s highly unlikely that a polite, articulate and friendly opening message which indicates that the author has read the profile of the person he’s messaging (and includes a face pic) will illicit any form of response.

Not making excuses for those who don’t read your profile or observe your preferences of course."

Not true. I was a single guy on here. A polite and considered message with a friendly nod to her profile landed me my amazing wife!

So it does work.

Mr Minx.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

“Hi, how’s Fab treating you?”

Finger is instantly hovering over the block button… I’ll back off from DefCunt 1 if the hotness / veri index makes me hesitate…

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message.

I think that this is the consistent theme on Fab - it’s highly unlikely that a polite, articulate and friendly opening message which indicates that the author has read the profile of the person he’s messaging (and includes a face pic) will illicit any form of response.

Not making excuses for those who don’t read your profile or observe your preferences of course."

Lovely polite message having clearly read the profile…

…*them reading* “BORING!”

Can’t win 😑

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *2000ManMan
19 weeks ago

Worthing

Hi or Hello...lack of effort.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ortney FoxxxWoman
19 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane


"Hi or Hello...lack of effort."
this why even bother sending a message

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

We’ve only had one message that Mrs really did not like for a first message it was I’d love to fill your cunt with my cum she blocked him instantly

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Also I'm in a hotel 30 miles away, fancy fun later.

Errr no and that's not even local to me, so excuse me for not schlepping straight over to meet some random horny stranger.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urves and MischiefWoman
19 weeks ago

North West

Will you piss in my mouth

I’m in [name] hotel in Manchester, meet now?

Please speak to me

Hey/Hi/Hello

How much to chop off my dick?

Will you breastfeed me?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *a LunaWoman
19 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Can I ask you a question?

No! Feck off!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ddie7XXXMan
19 weeks ago

wigan

Come for me daddy what is all that about 🤷‍♂️

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *otPullingOutMan
19 weeks ago

South East

I really like large full breasts accompanied with succulent dark areola. Hi I'm Norman I have tourertes and I like model making, puzzles and comfortable footwear. How's that?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Oh I forgot one, don't be shy.

I'm not, I just don't wanna talk to you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *moothdickMan
19 weeks ago

stoke

Show us ur cock

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
19 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Hey

Or

How are you?

Ladies complain all the time about the crappy ice-breakers they receive. When they are no better! 😜

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Hello big tit's. Looking for some action?

Richard Richard aka Rik Mayall. R.I.P

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyLady4BlackMen OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Norwich

I literally just got one:

Telegram?

Shakes head disappointedly!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
19 weeks ago

Darlington


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message.

I think that this is the consistent theme on Fab - it’s highly unlikely that a polite, articulate and friendly opening message which indicates that the author has read the profile of the person he’s messaging (and includes a face pic) will illicit any form of response.

Not making excuses for those who don’t read your profile or observe your preferences of course.

Lovely polite message having clearly read the profile…

…*them reading* “BORING!”

Can’t win 😑"

Yeah but people are also not obligated to reply to you just because you are nice or read the profile. Some people just aren't interested and that's completely fine too

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *_Mia_XTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"I literally just got one:

Telegram?

Shakes head disappointedly! "

Funnily enough so did i saying the exact same

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *awpleasureMan
19 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message."

Thanks OP and to the guy messaging to say he met his future wife through messaging, well congratulations to you. I'm not looking for marriage but a reply would be nice

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Hey baby.

When I get my hands on you I'm going to

Insert a self congratulatory erotic story that shows the author skipped a lot of English classes.

🤢

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

Often it's about how little effort has been given. Sometimes, I just get 'Pics' or 'Now!' etc

Nothing to introduce themselves or why they are right for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

How big are u

And what are you into

If people read the profie they would know

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *ooDeNimMan
19 weeks ago

Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire


"No but from a male perspective, imagine writing out a nice introductory message which you've put effort and time into and then it just gets deleted.

Would a man go up to a woman in a club and bend her ear about why he wants to talk to her and tell her all about himself?

Say _ello etc and offer to buy a drink. If she likes the look of you, she might say yes.

Same on here to a degree, does she like what she sees as in the pic enclosed?

I usually put hi, I hope you're well, mention something briefly from her profile to show I've read it and then leave it with if you like what you see and want to know more, reply back. Short and sweet.

Does it work for me? Does it fu-k?

I understand where you're coming from there.

However if guys contact me who have clearly ignored my preference then I will delete their messages.

I'm not sure why your particular messages are getting deleted but don't give up there's always someone out there who would love to get your message.

I think that this is the consistent theme on Fab - it’s highly unlikely that a polite, articulate and friendly opening message which indicates that the author has read the profile of the person he’s messaging (and includes a face pic) will illicit any form of response.

Not making excuses for those who don’t read your profile or observe your preferences of course.

Lovely polite message having clearly read the profile…

…*them reading* “BORING!”

Can’t win 😑

Yeah but people are also not obligated to reply to you just because you are nice or read the profile. Some people just aren't interested and that's completely fine too"

Oh yes that’s absolutely true - there is no obligation to reply or acknowledge at all. I think a big mistake a lot of people make on Fab is coming in with a sense of entitlement and expectation - this is not online shopping and there are no guarantees that the person you’ve message will feel any inclination to reply. My point was that receiving a reply is an unlikely occurrence!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top