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"I guess it might be a little bit of 'if I message first they'll think I'm interested in them sexually, when in fact I just want to know where they got the rug in their photo'. " Not speaking for every guy on here but surely they should recognise different between interest and info given how your message is worded? | |||
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"Sorry ladies, but can I ask a question. Consider it old fashioned thinking but is it because most women feel that it's more the done thing for the guy to message first, and your brains are wired as such from hereditary behaviour??" Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway. | |||
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"Sorry ladies, but can I ask a question. Consider it old fashioned thinking but is it because most women feel that it's more the done thing for the guy to message first, and your brains are wired as such from hereditary behaviour?? Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway. " Don't need to, but don't you ever come across a profile which impressed you enough to want to tell them, how much you enjoyed reading their profile. | |||
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"Sorry ladies, but can I ask a question. Consider it old fashioned thinking but is it because most women feel that it's more the done thing for the guy to message first, and your brains are wired as such from hereditary behaviour?? Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway. Don't need to, but don't you ever come across a profile which impressed you enough to want to tell them, how much you enjoyed reading their profile." I can count the number of profiles that have impressed me, on less fingers than the number of years I've been on this site. | |||
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"Sorry ladies, but can I ask a question. Consider it old fashioned thinking but is it because most women feel that it's more the done thing for the guy to message first, and your brains are wired as such from hereditary behaviour??" Fuck no  | |||
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"Sorry ladies, but can I ask a question. Consider it old fashioned thinking but is it because most women feel that it's more the done thing for the guy to message first, and your brains are wired as such from hereditary behaviour??" Not for me. If I thought I was compatible with someone I would send a message in the hope of getting to know them more not directly for sex. Only ever had one guy get cocky and think he was onto a sure thing. I soon blocked him. I always knew what I wanted and wasn't prepared to sit round waiting for it to drop in my inbox. | |||
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"...Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway." · I've been told this a few times over the years. Although quantitative doesn't equate to qualitative. | |||
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"...but don't you ever come across a profile which impressed you enough to want to tell them, how much you enjoyed reading their profile." • I would corroborate this...in my experience anyway. | |||
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"Sorry ladies, but can I ask a question. Consider it old fashioned thinking but is it because most women feel that it's more the done thing for the guy to message first, and your brains are wired as such from hereditary behaviour?? Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway. Don't need to, but don't you ever come across a profile which impressed you enough to want to tell them, how much you enjoyed reading their profile." I'm not looking so that doesn't really apply lol I've maybe seen two or three profiles that impressed me but they've been from forum contributors. | |||
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"...Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway. · I've been told this a few times over the years. Although quantitative doesn't equate to qualitative." Not in any way, shape or form. Rooting out the quality is an art. | |||
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"...Most women don't need to message first because our inbox is flooded anyway. · I've been told this a few times over the years. Although quantitative doesn't equate to qualitative." Oh absolutely, I prefer to actively search out fun, interesting profiles , I don't meet away from clubs so it's not to find meets, it's just to find kindred, quirky folk | |||
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"I find the answers here a little depressing or sad Surely for those that have full inboxes of messages that may not be of the sort they want or the 100s many claim to get and then bulk delete wouldn’t the answer be to message those that may pique an interest, whether sexual or non sexual?" It’s what causes the posts about straight men getting overwhelmed with gay/bi/tv messages (I presume) | |||
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"I find the answers here a little depressing or sad Surely for those that have full inboxes of messages that may not be of the sort they want or the 100s many claim to get and then bulk delete wouldn’t the answer be to message those that may pique an interest, whether sexual or non sexual? It’s what causes the posts about straight men getting overwhelmed with gay/bi/tv messages (I presume)" Maybe. Seems a no win situation then Time to pack the bags and leave | |||
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"I find the answers here a little depressing or sad Surely for those that have full inboxes of messages that may not be of the sort they want or the 100s many claim to get and then bulk delete wouldn’t the answer be to message those that may pique an interest, whether sexual or non sexual? It’s what causes the posts about straight men getting overwhelmed with gay/bi/tv messages (I presume) Maybe. Seems a no win situation then Time to pack the bags and leave " It’s not. People just to use their message filters, and be honest with what/who they’re open to meeting. Simples. | |||
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"Doesn't have to be a someone you find attractive and want to meet, I often send messages in responses to a guy's status of it is something funny or piques my interest and I need more information about it" exactly | |||
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"I find the answers here a little depressing or sad Surely for those that have full inboxes of messages that may not be of the sort they want or the 100s many claim to get and then bulk delete wouldn’t the answer be to message those that may pique an interest, whether sexual or non sexual?" The women I've got in with best from Fab almost all sometimes message men first (not necessarily me) and they seem to have the best experience of the site. I'm definitely less compatible with those who take a passive approach. | |||
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