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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

Not about me specifically atm, so no hugs needed, but do you ever feel that you're just hanging on in life, just holding in there ?

How do you deal with these moments?

If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?

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By *egDaySkipperMan
19 weeks ago

Many times actually.

Whether it was because of my job, or anxiety or decline in social relationships.

Normally it would just pass sometimes, but other times I would talk with my sisters, not even about what I'm going through but just having a general chat with them.

Going to the gym also was something that helped me, gave me goals to work towards a sense of achievement

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By *egDaySkipperMan
19 weeks ago

I would recommend speaking to someone OP, even if it's just chit chat, there's plenty of services out there where people will listen to you judgement free.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
19 weeks ago

North West

"Not about me specifically atm, so no hugs needed, but do you ever feel that you're just hanging on in life, just holding in there ?

How do you deal with these moments?

If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?"

Yes. Constantly.

Advice? Don't acquire a disability. Don't sign PoA for anyone. Don't be the female child/family member. Always floss

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
19 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?"

Just say to yourself 'tomorrow will be better'.

It might take time but eventually you'll be right. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
19 weeks ago

your head

Yep. I just keep trying to put one foot in front of the other until things settle again. I'm lucky enough to have a good group of friends and family that help hold me up when needed as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I've had many of those times. For a long time, I didn’t deal with them very well, but I’ve since learned to ask for help, whether from friends and family, my GP for medication, or through therapy. Remembering to do the things I know are good for me, like eating well, mindfulness, and getting outside (it's easy to fall out of good habits). I’ve also learned to remind myself that these moments do pass and to focus on what I can influence rather than what I can’t. Gotta love the Stoics.

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By *parkle1974Woman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm going through something at the minute and I honestly don't know how I'm still going.

Someone asked me the other day how I was all I could say was I can't take anymore 😪

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By *ust want fun 888Man
19 weeks ago

nearby

I did have thoughts in the past, when diagnosed I would go blind but as it turned around, it has improved me because most things are a challenge and that’s what I love, that’s what keeps me going

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
19 weeks ago

North West

If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?

Just say to yourself 'tomorrow will be better'.

It might take time but eventually you'll be right. 🤷‍♂️"

But that's the thing. I won't ever be right and actually, getting worse by the year.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
19 weeks ago

Cannock

This probably won't be any use to anyone but I hated my 30s, rough time, relationship issues, feeling my age, just everything got on top of me. I was go8bgb through testing to be diagnosed with fibromyalgia and my consultant told me there's no cure, ask they can do is treat the symptoms and the best thing I can do for myself was to find things that made me happy.

Turns out that what me me happy was to fuck with gender expression for ten years end eventually come out as officially trans.

It's literally a new start and I'm so much more happier and more confident. I'm literally a different, BETTER person now.

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By *arialoueWoman
19 weeks ago

Doncaster

I find I can cope with the loneliness better if I have no contact with anyone, than if I spent a day with a friend coz that when I really feel the loneliness

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By *midnight-Woman
19 weeks ago

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I try to make myself busy and then I focus on things that fill my soul with joy... Walking in nature, being near the sea / water, dancing, listening to music

Most importantly I lean on my friends for support - i tell them that I am feeling low and ask them to check in on me.

I try to surround myself with positivity - finding 5 things to be thankful for each day and writing them down is a great exercise for your mental health

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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

Thank you everyone for sharing. I won't reply individually as I think this a thread for people to speak for themselves.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
19 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Every day for the past 50 years.

If I didn't have the love of my amazing wife I don't think I would be here.

Every day feels like a chore and I question my existence.

Then I remember my wife and kid's and grandkids and then balance is restored.

Dealing with lifelong depression has taught me to appreciate the small things,take a moment to savour something beautiful no matter how seemingly insignificant it may be, today was a very happy looking dog looking at me as I walked past his house wet nosey pressed against the window,tail wagging.

Tomorrow could be a child laughing a bird tweeting, a beautiful lady with amazing norks

Because it's the small things that get you through the day.

We always tell eachother we love eachother before bed and work, hugs and kisses.

Coz the black cloud of depression follows you everywhere and sunshine is the only way to beat it.

Peace and love.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

At the moment every day is just about getting through the day without any damage and trying not to be too hard on myself.

Do things to pass the time and hopefully enjoy but know they are part time activities and not an answer.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
19 weeks ago

Teesside

I want to contribute but I can’t articulate it as well as others, constant self reassurance most the time, refusing to let the dark in and looking for ways to distract myself. Friends help more then they know but I’m a private person so a lot of the time I reason with myself, I’ve also learning to accept that’s how I feel right then can be ok and I know it will pass.

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By *inxy777Woman
19 weeks ago

essex

I have more good days than bad now, I just take one day at a time, and my children help me a lot. X

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By *ellinever70Woman
19 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Very occasionally and for relatively short periods. I focus on all the good things to get me through

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By *obilebottomMan
19 weeks ago

All over

Lots having a hard time it seems and many of us go through difficult times. Sometimes others have it much worse. Lots of love to everyone to get through their tough times as best as they can and hopefully with the support of all those around them. As was said earlier, sometimes is just the little things that get you through the day till things get better or learn to manage.

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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

Nell earlier mentioned the Stoics and reading that philosophy and also Tao philosophy has helped me a lot in dealing with the day to day grind, and finding good perspective. Not for everyone of course but might help some.🤷‍♂️

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By *edSirenWoman
19 weeks ago

magic mountain

"Not about me specifically atm, so no hugs needed, but do you ever feel that you're just hanging on in life, just holding in there ?

How do you deal with these moments?

If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?"

It’s easy to not see the positive in a shit situation. But it’s always there.

Nobody can change the fact that sometimes life sucks. But we can change how much of a lasting impact it has on us, and what that impact will be. So embrace every negative experience as a chance to learn more about who you are, to grow as a person. Whether it’s learning to trust your gut more, knowing how not to act in a situation going forward, or a lesson in letting go. Focus on what you’ve learned for it, not what you’ve lost.

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By *leep walkerMan
19 weeks ago

Caerphilly

"Not about me specifically atm, so no hugs needed, but do you ever feel that you're just hanging on in life, just holding in there ?

How do you deal with these moments?

I survived a house fire 2.5 years ago, even though I burnt 85% of my back. When they dragged me out, I had no pulse or heartbeat. They had to shock my heart to start it and then put me on a ventilator to keep me breathing. I was in a coma for 32 hours with a 50/50 chance of survival. I made it. My point is that I feel as if I've been given a 2nd chance and intend to cram as much fun into my remaining years as possible. A good sense of humour helps. Mine helped me get through, even though I lost everything I owned. So whenever you feel that down, realise that it could be a lot worse. Hang in there dude. Things do get better in time.

If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?"

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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

"Lots having a hard time it seems and many of us go through difficult times. Sometimes others have it much worse. Lots of love to everyone to get through their tough times as best as they can and hopefully with the support of all those around them. As was said earlier, sometimes is just the little things that get you through the day till things get better or learn to manage.

Wise words MB. When we feel overwhelmed by the big things it can work to break life down into the small things and focus on small wins. ❤️

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
19 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

"Not about me specifically atm, so no hugs needed, but do you ever feel that you're just hanging on in life, just holding in there ? "

To a degree, every day mate. Some days are better than others and I present a happy and positive face to the world, but it can waiver. After a tough year last year, the angst can hit me out of the blue sometimes.

"How do you deal with these moments?"

I got two tattoo's to celebrate/commemorate two separate walks with the black dog. The one is a positivity mantra I like to focus on. I also have a beautiful granddaughter who can light me up just by the hugs she gives me.

"If you've come through these tough times what advice would you have for others ?"

Much as everyone has said already; time is a great healer, things that may seem important today will be forgotten in a month/year/whenever. But if anyone feels it's TOO much, I can only implore you to talk to someone/anyone. It does help.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
19 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

"I'm going through something at the minute and I honestly don't know how I'm still going.

Someone asked me the other day how I was all I could say was I can't take anymore 😪"

Hope you are getting support. Small steps, hold your head up. Keep moving forward and remember it can't rain all the time x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
19 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I have severe mental health problems. I spend a lot of time just hanging in there and keeping myself well from doing anything stupid. Sometimes I don't succeed. The blessing is when I am feeling well I appreciate every little thing around me and take joy in things others take for granted. I have amazing friends and my mum is my back bone

I have to take an awful lot of medication. But I'm 60 and I'm still here but it's been a constant fight since I was 13

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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

Thanks again for everyone who shared.

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By *oughmanMan
19 weeks ago

Sunderland

Yeah, more than a few times. I've sat in silence with my own demons more times than I care to remember.

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By *rystalsswingCouple
19 weeks ago

Up the Road / Galway/ Midlands

Oh I need hugs today!

And if I don't see St.Patrick for another 12 months il be happy 😁

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By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Maybe not hanging on but… rudderless?

Like where am I going / what’s my objective before I’m too old to function properly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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19 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think we've all been there.

I just put my head down and keep pedalling.

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By *0CC72Man
19 weeks ago

Preston

I feel blessed to be able to take life's challenges and keep going but appreciate that many people aren't as fortunate.

Thoughts with anyone struggling.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

"I have severe mental health problems. I spend a lot of time just hanging in there and keeping myself well from doing anything stupid. Sometimes I don't succeed. The blessing is when I am feeling well I appreciate every little thing around me and take joy in things others take for granted. I have amazing friends and my mum is my back bone

I have to take an awful lot of medication. But I'm 60 and I'm still here but it's been a constant fight since I was 13"

Apart from the medication can relate so sending hugs

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By *idssissyTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

"Oh I need hugs today!

And if I don't see St.Patrick for another 12 months il be happy 😁"

Have some Irish hugs

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By *allnHandsome12Man
19 weeks ago

Teesside

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
19 weeks ago

Next Door

Last week, i felt i was just holding on with my finger tips. I've had a few big hard changes in my life in the past few weeks, and it finally hit home on top of recovering from an illness at the end of last year.

Feeling more positive this week, the sun is shining again, have a few job interviews lined up, and have a lovely weekend to look forward to.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
19 weeks ago

Next Door

"Oh I need hugs today!

And if I don't see St.Patrick for another 12 months il be happy 😁"

Handover hugs are great

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By *onbons_xxMan
19 weeks ago

Bolton

It’s very rarely an upward straight line for me or anyone, my coping strategies tend to also fluctuate from exercise (or just movement), nature and food, sometimes wanting to be alone and other times craving people.

Hugs to anyone that may be having a bit of a wobble.

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By *parkle1974Woman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

"I'm going through something at the minute and I honestly don't know how I'm still going.

Someone asked me the other day how I was all I could say was I can't take anymore 😪

Hope you are getting support. Small steps, hold your head up. Keep moving forward and remember it can't rain all the time x"

I have never felt more alone than I do right now. It's a battle I'm tired of fighting...I have nothing left to give x

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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

"I'm going through something at the minute and I honestly don't know how I'm still going.

Someone asked me the other day how I was all I could say was I can't take anymore 😪

Hope you are getting support. Small steps, hold your head up. Keep moving forward and remember it can't rain all the time x

I have never felt more alone than I do right now. It's a battle I'm tired of fighting...I have nothing left to give x"

Sorry to hear this Sparkle. Hope you see a way through. 🤞

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By *ildTimes.Man
19 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

As long as there's, Pizza , Beer and the Gym, with the occasional fab meet, life is good.

Summers just around the corner always good for the mood, chin up people 🥪

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By *ad NannaWoman
19 weeks ago

East London

I think about who needs me.

I'm in a fibro and arthritis flare up at the moment, and I want to stay in bed for a week.

I'm running on fumes, but I'm forcing myself to get up and go.

I'm alive, and grateful for that.

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By *ad NannaWoman
19 weeks ago

East London

"As long as there's, Pizza , Beer and the Gym, with the occasional fab meet, life is good.

Summers just around the corner always good for the mood, chin up people 🥪"

Can you tell Spring to make an appearance soon please.

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By *urFantasy21Couple
19 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"I'm going through something at the minute and I honestly don't know how I'm still going.

Someone asked me the other day how I was all I could say was I can't take anymore 😪

Hope you are getting support. Small steps, hold your head up. Keep moving forward and remember it can't rain all the time x

I have never felt more alone than I do right now. It's a battle I'm tired of fighting...I have nothing left to give x"

Babe you never know your true strength until you are tested. You are bigger than whatever it is and the fact that you are fighting says it is worthwhile. Tough times never last but tough people do.

I don't know you but should you ever want to rant I Will listen.

From one tough lady to another you've got this ❤️

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By *eoBlooms OP Man
19 weeks ago

Springfield

"As long as there's, Pizza , Beer and the Gym, with the occasional fab meet, life is good.

Summers just around the corner always good for the mood, chin up people 🥪

Can you tell Spring to make an appearance soon please.

Yes!🥶🥶 Supposed to be better from tomorrow 🤞🤞

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By *oredanMan
19 weeks ago

Banbury

Feeling like this is almost a constant!

My advice is to do the simple things. For example, brushing your teeth and combing your hair, exercise - even if it’s just a stroll in the sunshine (this helps me a lot!), talk to someone (if you can) your partner, a friend or a professional, having a sounding board and some to listen, even if they can’t immediately help, makes you feel heard and seen.

Do something that makes you happy, for myself I paint toy soldiers!! Silly but focusing on the task and shutting off the world for an hour or two and having something to show for it (eventually!) does help.

Hope this helps someone

Much love xx

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By *yn888Couple
19 weeks ago

Kidderminster

What a question..

For me.. and yes I've definitely been there more than once. Think all men have.

You need to be strong enough to let go and move on of all and anything that creates this feeling. Letting go of negative people and jobs are so important. Next listen to positive people.. so for me it was Jordan Peterson and some other psychologists that talk openly about how to take responsibility for yourself.

Then find the time to do something for yourself and learn to not only love yourself.. but truly value yourself and your time

Start by remembering that life is a. Gift , a short gift and that like anything, you really have to work on yourself to be the version of you you want to be. That means open and honest self awareness. Then build from there.

Good luck

Hope this helped

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
19 weeks ago

North West

I have a tendency to bury my thoughts/feelings and muddle through. I can take a lot of shit and I am rubbish at asking for help which in itself is a huge burden at times. I do however have a friend or two who, magically seemed to sense when I have nearly exhausted my resolve and they envelope me in love and a listening ear. Over a number of years I wouldn’t have been able to function without them and their hugs.

I am trying to break the cycle of emotional eating and getting outdoors more. I like to walk/hike. Something about being with nature and/or near water watching a sunset that I find healing. That and the inner mantra; what would Madonna do?!

Biggest of virtual hugs to all ❤️

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