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why do so many men put they are straight on their bio but are clearly either gay or bi?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
11 weeks ago

why not just put gay or bio on your bio? i dont get it

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By *atcherwankerMan
11 weeks ago

Birmingham

Why do so many men care so much about who other men are sleeping with?

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By *naswingdressWoman
11 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because many women won't engage with men who have sex with men.

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By *allandathleticMan
11 weeks ago

Asgard


"Why do so many men care so much about who other men are sleeping with?"

Rejection. 🤣

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
11 weeks ago

Chatham

Basically if you are looking for bi men you keep getting views and messages from straight men, and waste time to find out the bi.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London

Maybe they don’t see themselves as gay or bi.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
11 weeks ago

greenock


"Why do so many men care so much about who other men are sleeping with?"

You'll be one of the "why do we have labels" champions.

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By *naswingdressWoman
11 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Why do so many men care so much about who other men are sleeping with?

You'll be one of the "why do we have labels" champions. "

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

In the hope a hot woman will fuck them x

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By *elloWoman
11 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"why not just put gay or bio on your bio? i dont get it "

interesting question, can't believe it isn't asked weekly

Why do you have to get what other people put on their profile, it's their profile. You don't like or agree with it then move on

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

It’s the same as not having a transgender woman on their profile when they’ve been with them they think that a hot woman’s gonna be put off

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

It’s pathetic really, and it’s bored out of transphobia and homophobia

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By *allandathleticMan
11 weeks ago

Asgard

Because

"I like vaginas"

Wasn't an option.

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By *aulupforitMan
11 weeks ago

Corbridge

I am a proud bi man and states that on my profile

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By *reative-mindMan
11 weeks ago

exeter


"Maybe they don’t see themselves as gay or bi. "

I'm neither straight or bi..... I'm basically a slut.

Now if fab had that as a section for men I'd be happy and save so much confusion I think.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London


"Maybe they don’t see themselves as gay or bi.

I'm neither straight or bi..... I'm basically a slut.

Now if fab had that as a section for men I'd be happy and save so much confusion I think. "

I think a lot of men would be ok with this section

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

I’ll say it once and I’ll say it again.

There is straight straight and then there is only straight in front of the lads straight.

The mr

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By *hunky GentMan
11 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Tbh - it doesn't matter what you put.....

My profile says I'm 'straight straight, not Fab straight' and I still get messages from guys asking for a meet.

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By *oiluvfunMan
11 weeks ago

Penrith


"Because many women won't engage with men who have sex with men."

Same as many men won't engage with women who engage with men who have sex with men

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Central

Forum bingo card filling nicely, early in the week

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By *ora the explorerWoman
11 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Forum bingo card filling nicely, early in the week "

🤣

I may do a “is it piss” thread

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By *parkle1974Woman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

Because it puts a lot of women off...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
11 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Doubt the gay ones do. Why would they??

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
11 weeks ago

belfast


"Because many women won't engage with men who have sex with men."

That's the reason. I tend to not answer straight men who message me.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
11 weeks ago

belfast


"Because

"I like vaginas"

Wasn't an option."

Bet that sounded funny in your head.

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By *oveActually!Man
11 weeks ago

Sompting

I have ‘bi curious’ on my profile as am happy to fondle a willy (and that’s as far as it goes) in a mixed-gender group. However, I’m absolutely NOT interested in anything that involves only another guy or guys.

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By *asmine 72TV/TS
11 weeks ago

Stowmarket

I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality. I am a gay guy who is only interested in men, love women but not sexually. These men will happily play with my dick while fucking me but if I was just myself as a gay man they would run a mile. Each to their own as long as they treat people with respect

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
11 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

I think that’s what it starts out with see how hard it is to get any meets then try bi just to get a meet with anyone 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *aulupforitMan
11 weeks ago

Corbridge


"Tbh - it doesn't matter what you put.....

My profile says I'm 'straight straight, not Fab straight' and I still get messages from guys asking for a meet. "

If it was straight on your profile,I would take you as staight.

I have guys message me wanting fun and because it is straight on profile I am not interested as what else could they lie about if they can not even get a profile right.

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By *urry BlokeMan
11 weeks ago

Gay men have a fascination with straight guys

Bi guys prefer other bi guys over gay guys

So, by stating you are gay you severely reduce your audience

As an example, I have always made no secret of my bi-sexuality

I have always been open about the fact I am not single

I have always, when asked, disclosed that my life partner is male

I would say 8 (possibly 9) times out of 10, guys will lose interest pretty much immediately on that disclosure

Like suddenly, I'm not bi enough

Almost as if you can only be bi if you have a female partner - or shag more women than men

I could point out somewhere between 75 & 100 blokes on here who live fully gay lives yet are listed as bi - or even straight

There is a mix here of

- denial

- internalised homophobia

- outward homophobia

- kiddology

- role play / acting

And when I talk about the 'phobes' I point my finger at many a gay bloke who won't let a simple tick box option get in the way of how much cock he might attract

I think that truly straight people are way less phobic than their bi and gay counterparts

So, that's why!

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By *allipygousMan
11 weeks ago

Leicester


"It’s the same as not having a transgender woman on their profile when they’ve been with them they think that a hot woman’s gonna be put off "

But you've got straight on your profile and you're looking for men 🤔

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By *wimmingbadgerMan
11 weeks ago

Leicester

i block all straight men who message me

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By *im le2Man
11 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

I've been having gay sex with a str8 mate for the last 30 years. I think his wife knows but doesn't say anything I let him do the things she doesn't like doing.

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By *andadbodMan
11 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Tbh - it doesn't matter what you put.....

My profile says I'm 'straight straight, not Fab straight' and I still get messages from guys asking for a meet. "

Block single guys from messaging you in your filters 👍🏻

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
11 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

The bit that interests me is 'clearly' ....... how are they CLEARLY gay ?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Chichester


"Because many women won't engage with men who have sex with men.

Same as many men won't engage with women who engage with men who have sex with men "

That’s far far rarer though in reality

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

I've done it and it acts as a filter of sorts. If you say you're straight you don't get as many weird messages from men saying that they want to rim and suck you off.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
11 weeks ago

Cannock


"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality."

I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.

If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?

And let's not even get into the private forum replies.....

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By * WillisMan
11 weeks ago

London ec2


"Because many women won't engage with men who have sex with men."

Was going to say exactly this. If a man’s bi he likes men and women but some women even when they are bi won’t entertain bi men

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By *_Mia_XTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.

I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.

If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?

And let's not even get into the private forum replies....."

This like the number of people who have asked that would hooking up with them make them gay is a lot. Obviously not

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By *issmorganWoman
11 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Some day straight so it doesn't put women or couples off.

Also judging by the threads I've seen, some don't see themselves as bi, even if they do regularly engage in sexual acts with the same sex,because they don't fancy men or have relationships with them.

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By *allipygousMan
11 weeks ago

Leicester


"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.

I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.

If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?

And let's not even get into the private forum replies....."

Just because you see yourself as something doesn't mean everyone else has to join in with the deception. Just accept that some will always see you as a trans woman, not a woman, and engaging with any sexual act with you is not heterosexual.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You do you and let them do them. Or whomever else they fancy doing

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Durham

It's up to everyone to use their profile how they wish.

You can also block messages from any group male/tv etc that you don't want to contact you.

Or you can just leave the filters off and complain about it in the forums x

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By *edSirenWoman
11 weeks ago

magic mountain

It’s a shame that we still feel the need to label our sexuality. I get labels can help with self identity, but I can’t help but feel that they’re being used to discriminate against those who either don’t give a shit to put one on themselves, aren’t ready to publicly confirm it, or are genuinely not sure what they are.

Maybe there should be a category for ‘confused’ or ‘non specific’… or better yet, just make them non mandatory on a profile 🤷🏻‍♀️ time wasters will be time wasters regardless of what their profile labels them as.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
11 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"It’s a shame that we still feel the need to label our sexuality. I get labels can help with self identity, but I can’t help but feel that they’re being used to discriminate against those who either don’t give a shit to put one on themselves, aren’t ready to publicly confirm it, or are genuinely not sure what they are.

Maybe there should be a category for ‘confused’ or ‘non specific’… or better yet, just make them non mandatory on a profile 🤷🏻‍♀️ time wasters will be time wasters regardless of what their profile labels them as."

So out of the labels that are available on here wouldn’t bi curious fit than then?

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By *edSirenWoman
11 weeks ago

magic mountain


"It’s a shame that we still feel the need to label our sexuality. I get labels can help with self identity, but I can’t help but feel that they’re being used to discriminate against those who either don’t give a shit to put one on themselves, aren’t ready to publicly confirm it, or are genuinely not sure what they are.

Maybe there should be a category for ‘confused’ or ‘non specific’… or better yet, just make them non mandatory on a profile 🤷🏻‍♀️ time wasters will be time wasters regardless of what their profile labels them as.

So out of the labels that are available on here wouldn’t bi curious fit than then?"

If there’s still some confusion then maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️ especially when it’s someone who is maybe still coming to terms with it internally doesn’t want to advertise something they’re not even sure about.

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By *rant72Man
11 weeks ago

darlington

Any women who like it , message me , would love gay sex with a woman watching , directing !

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By *bitofaslutWoman
11 weeks ago

Cannock


"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.

I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.

If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?

And let's not even get into the private forum replies.....

Just because you see yourself as something doesn't mean everyone else has to join in with the deception. Just accept that some will always see you as a trans woman, not a woman, and engaging with any sexual act with you is not heterosexual."

Trans women are women. Trans men are men.

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By *allipygousMan
11 weeks ago

Leicester


"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.

I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.

If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?

And let's not even get into the private forum replies.....

Just because you see yourself as something doesn't mean everyone else has to join in with the deception. Just accept that some will always see you as a trans woman, not a woman, and engaging with any sexual act with you is not heterosexual.

Trans women are women. Trans men are men. "

Trans women are trans women and trans men are trans men. Men are men, women are women.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Chichester

I am a trans woman but the majority of people Perceive me as a woman. So that’s on them not me to worry about how one defines their sexuality.

For me it’s simple. I am a trans woman but I live in affect as a generic woman Passport / driving / paperwork etc other than my birth certificate which well frankly I am hardly using for anything

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By *irsSubCouple
11 weeks ago

Darlington

We flat out refuse to meet with guys who have straight on their profile and then claim to be bi. We do it for 2 reasons:

1, a lot of them are clearly happy to receive oral off a guy if it means getting some pussy (big turn off)

2, if we are going to be inviting someone into our relationship we need to trust them so not being on your profile is a massive red flag.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
11 weeks ago

Holibobs

They are keeping all options open

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By *aulupforitMan
11 weeks ago

Corbridge

Or any holes a goal

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By *ildTimes.Man
11 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

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