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"Is it to hard to say thank you " Do you find men are better at accepting compliments? | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it?" Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual." It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂" My point, which you missed, is that a thanks isn't necessary if you wanted simply to express something complimentary to someone. You've done what you wanted to do. | |||
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"Yes, yes it is. On here, too many men use it as an in. How this goes. (This is not an exact conversation) "Oh, thank you" "So when we gonna fuck?" "I'm sorry? I was just thanking you" "Ungrateful slag I was just trying to make you feel good and you won't even fuck me. I bet you're a diseased whore who can't get any in real life" *_naswingdress blocks the crazy* *Crazy posts statuses and forum posts bemoaning how ungrateful women are* (I have no specific crazy in mind)" You can say thankyou then if they say when are we going to fuck you ignore or block lol | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂" Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol" I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? " They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol" On the street, you can leave and probably never see them again. On here, saying thank you opens your message filters so you have to block them to get rid of them. And for every ten "I would never, it's just a compliment" men, half of them are lying, and there are at least ten men who absolutely only give compliments because they think it's a guaranteed shag. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way " So if a man said to you. Hello just wanted to say you look very nice today. Have a good day. Your going to be creeped out 😂 | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol" Depends on the compliment and the way it's delivered. I've never thanked someone for catcalling me. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way So if a man said to you. Hello just wanted to say you look very nice today. Have a good day. Your going to be creeped out 😂" Yes. 100% | |||
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"Yes, yes it is. On here, too many men use it as an in. How this goes. (This is not an exact conversation) "Oh, thank you" "So when we gonna fuck?" "I'm sorry? I was just thanking you" "Ungrateful slag I was just trying to make you feel good and you won't even fuck me. I bet you're a diseased whore who can't get any in real life" *_naswingdress blocks the crazy* *Crazy posts statuses and forum posts bemoaning how ungrateful women are* (I have no specific crazy in mind) You can say thankyou then if they say when are we going to fuck you ignore or block lol" Maybe you can display manners by observing the rule in the FAQ that no reply means no thank you. Imagine coming into a space and demanding that their years-long rules be changed just to cater to your feelings. How rude and entitled. It's what you're doing. | |||
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"As lovely as it is to receive a compliment it’s just not possible to respond with a ‘Thank you’ to every message……it’s not being rude it’s just being realistic. I would have thought it’s best to give a compliment should you wish to but not expect anything in return xx " I understand but they have the time to open the message. Thanks takes 2 secs to write and 2 secs to open the message lol | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way So if a man said to you. Hello just wanted to say you look very nice today. Have a good day. Your going to be creeped out 😂" Really depends on the context. It's really very possible to do that in a creepy way. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way So if a man said to you. Hello just wanted to say you look very nice today. Have a good day. Your going to be creeped out 😂 Yes. 100%" I wonder how a man gets your attention then if he can’t even say hi to you without being creeped out lol | |||
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"As lovely as it is to receive a compliment it’s just not possible to respond with a ‘Thank you’ to every message……it’s not being rude it’s just being realistic. I would have thought it’s best to give a compliment should you wish to but not expect anything in return xx I understand but they have the time to open the message. Thanks takes 2 secs to write and 2 secs to open the message lol" The time scales involved would vary wildly depending how many unread messages you have. Many people have hundreds, the time involved in replying to all of them would be crazy! Xx | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol" Oh i absolutely would blank them and walk off... I didn't ask for anyone to bestow their opinion about me on me. | |||
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"As lovely as it is to receive a compliment it’s just not possible to respond with a ‘Thank you’ to every message……it’s not being rude it’s just being realistic. I would have thought it’s best to give a compliment should you wish to but not expect anything in return xx " I'm surprised a lot of people still don't understand how many messages single women and couples get inundated with. Given the amount of threads about it on the forums | |||
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"Isit to hard to say thankyou " Breathe it in I know it's a lot The hair, the bod When you're staring at a demi-god What can I say except, "You're welcome" Is that better? | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners." So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious | |||
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"Also, any woman who's been on here five minutes knows damn well that at least half of the men here are lying. Last time I had my filters open I got so many "hot pics love, you're the sexiest woman on earth" bilge. My public pictures are my hair, along with a hint of sexy sexy forehead, and a wonky parsnip. Oh baby. Oh baby. "Did the parsnip get plenty of compliments? | |||
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"Isit to hard to say thankyou Breathe it in I know it's a lot The hair, the bod When you're staring at a demi-god What can I say except, "You're welcome" Is that better?" Brilliant 😂😂 now off to watch moanna | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious " I'd be fuming. Gen. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol Oh i absolutely would blank them and walk off... I didn't ask for anyone to bestow their opinion about me on me. " Yeah. I'm out there looking for painkillers or milk or something and a man has to intrude and let me know that his aesthetic preferences matter to my day. Bore off  | |||
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"Also, any woman who's been on here five minutes knows damn well that at least half of the men here are lying. Last time I had my filters open I got so many "hot pics love, you're the sexiest woman on earth" bilge. My public pictures are my hair, along with a hint of sexy sexy forehead, and a wonky parsnip. Oh baby. Oh baby. "I had to look at the 'wonky parsnip' 🤣 since you mentioned it | |||
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"As lovely as it is to receive a compliment it’s just not possible to respond with a ‘Thank you’ to every message……it’s not being rude it’s just being realistic. I would have thought it’s best to give a compliment should you wish to but not expect anything in return xx I'm surprised a lot of people still don't understand how many messages single women and couples get inundated with. Given the amount of threads about it on the forums " My messages have calmed down a lot because I've been here years and blocked/blanked a lot of people. If I got one new message a month, and it was a "slip a compliment in so I can trick my way into your bed" message, I'd want fewer messages. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way So if a man said to you. Hello just wanted to say you look very nice today. Have a good day. Your going to be creeped out 😂" That's right. It's an imposition on someone's personal space. I don't know if you realise the extent to which women experience unwanted advances. A compliment is often an opening gambit. I remember as a kid seeing my older sister made very uncomfortable by a couple of guys "complimenting" her while we were in town, and I've never forgotten it. Ask yourself how often you see women offering unsolicited compliments to random men. They'll sometimes do it to other women, but not often men. There's a predatory dynamic that they own themselves up to with things like that, and it's odd to me how man men don't get that.  | |||
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"OP, what would your next move be should they replied „thank you”?" Well, anyway let me say, "You're welcome" (you're welcome) For the wonderful world you know Hey, it's okay, it's okay, you're welcome (you're welcome) Well, come to think of it, I gotta go (hey) | |||
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"Also, any woman who's been on here five minutes knows damn well that at least half of the men here are lying. Last time I had my filters open I got so many "hot pics love, you're the sexiest woman on earth" bilge. My public pictures are my hair, along with a hint of sexy sexy forehead, and a wonky parsnip. Oh baby. Oh baby.
I had to look at the 'wonky parsnip' 🤣 since you mentioned it "It looks like legs and a cock. It came out of my veg box: I laughed and said "that's going straight on Fab" 😂 | |||
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"What if the site generated an automated 'thank you' for every message sent? Would that help? " Bloody lazy broads not bothering to write me a personal letter. Back in my day... | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious " I said if a man said you look pretty, have a nice day. Not a man being a weirdo there’s difference lol Women have complimented me that I don’t know calling me handsome and I’ve said thankyou and gone about my day. If she said to me oh look at nice bulge in your trousers or something weird out of nowhere then course I’d blank and walk away. But if you have the time to open an honest compliment then you can have the time to say thankyou. If it’s weird then obvs you don’t say anything lol. Common sense | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious I said if a man said you look pretty, have a nice day. Not a man being a weirdo there’s difference lol Women have complimented me that I don’t know calling me handsome and I’ve said thankyou and gone about my day. If she said to me oh look at nice bulge in your trousers or something weird out of nowhere then course I’d blank and walk away. But if you have the time to open an honest compliment then you can have the time to say thankyou. If it’s weird then obvs you don’t say anything lol. Common sense " You 1 million percent would not blank a woman who complimented your bulge. And I speak as a man. | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious I said if a man said you look pretty, have a nice day. Not a man being a weirdo there’s difference lol Women have complimented me that I don’t know calling me handsome and I’ve said thankyou and gone about my day. If she said to me oh look at nice bulge in your trousers or something weird out of nowhere then course I’d blank and walk away. But if you have the time to open an honest compliment then you can have the time to say thankyou. If it’s weird then obvs you don’t say anything lol. Common sense " You've been given many reasons why your logic might not apply. Have you considered any of these, or do you think that the eighteen trillionth thread on "women are so rude and don't answer my messages" will change a norm that's existed for at least a decade, and pre-existing dynamics between men and women which have existed since at least the time of your grandparents' conception? | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious I said if a man said you look pretty, have a nice day. Not a man being a weirdo there’s difference lol Women have complimented me that I don’t know calling me handsome and I’ve said thankyou and gone about my day. If she said to me oh look at nice bulge in your trousers or something weird out of nowhere then course I’d blank and walk away. But if you have the time to open an honest compliment then you can have the time to say thankyou. If it’s weird then obvs you don’t say anything lol. Common sense You 1 million percent would not blank a woman who complimented your bulge. And I speak as a man." I’m not desperate so a random woman looking at me in that way and telling me on the street is weird and I wouldn’t entertain it | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way "  | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂 Why are you sending compliments to profiles with long lists you don't agree with? They could be a beautiful woman which An amazing body and you r just giving a complement but everyone should have manners. So if a man came up to you and started complimenting parts of your body, say 'i love the way your bum looks through those trousers' how would you react? Just curious I said if a man said you look pretty, have a nice day. Not a man being a weirdo there’s difference lol Women have complimented me that I don’t know calling me handsome and I’ve said thankyou and gone about my day. If she said to me oh look at nice bulge in your trousers or something weird out of nowhere then course I’d blank and walk away. But if you have the time to open an honest compliment then you can have the time to say thankyou. If it’s weird then obvs you don’t say anything lol. Common sense You 1 million percent would not blank a woman who complimented your bulge. And I speak as a man. I’m not desperate so a random woman looking at me in that way and telling me on the street is weird and I wouldn’t entertain it" Just to be clear to all the women here. I WOULD entertain it. Feel free to look at my bulge. THANK YOU  | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way So if a man said to you. Hello just wanted to say you look very nice today. Have a good day. Your going to be creeped out 😂" Yes because it's a weird thing to do. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way "I might thank them if I thought I needed to soothe their ego so I could make an escape without it coming to blows. This is not a situation anyone should aspire to, but it happens. Lie - soothe ego - escape hopefully unscathed. | |||
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"I'm so bored of men telling me how to manage my time or my inbox, how I should respond to messages, how to show gratitude for something I didn't ask for. " But men know much better about how it is to live as a woman. Clearly | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol I would most definitely walk off without talking to them, can't think of anything more creepy and threatening than that happening. Thanking someone for creeping them out and scaring them , no fucking way
I might thank them if I thought I needed to soothe their ego so I could make an escape without it coming to blows.
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I might thank them if I thought I needed to soothe their ego so I could make an escape without it coming to blows.
This is not a situation anyone should aspire to, but it happens. Lie - soothe ego - escape hopefully unscathed.
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I might thank them if I thought I needed to soothe their ego so I could make an escape without it coming to blows.
This is not a situation anyone should aspire to, but it happens. Lie - soothe ego - escape hopefully unscathed.
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Nah man. I owe myself not getting injured.
There's a definite subset of "women being nice to men" which is "how do I get out of this without getting hurt". I don't think a lot of men realise this."1 million percent with you. Scary. It isn't genuinely scary for genuine men too. You become overtly sensitive and ask permission just to be absolutely certain. | |||
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I might thank them if I thought I needed to soothe their ego so I could make an escape without it coming to blows.
This is not a situation anyone should aspire to, but it happens. Lie - soothe ego - escape hopefully unscathed.
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Nah man. I owe myself not getting injured.
There's a definite subset of "women being nice to men" which is "how do I get out of this without getting hurt". I don't think a lot of men realise this.
1 million percent with you. Scary. It isn't genuinely scary for genuine men too. You become overtly sensitive and ask permission just to be absolutely certain."It's a delicate balance, but tbh I appreciate that men appreciate that it is work for us and try to alleviate our concerns. | |||
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I might thank them if I thought I needed to soothe their ego so I could make an escape without it coming to blows.
This is not a situation anyone should aspire to, but it happens. Lie - soothe ego - escape hopefully unscathed.
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Nah man. I owe myself not getting injured.
There's a definite subset of "women being nice to men" which is "how do I get out of this without getting hurt". I don't think a lot of men realise this.
1 million percent with you. Scary. It isn't genuinely scary for genuine men too. You become overtly sensitive and ask permission just to be absolutely certain.
It's a delicate balance, but tbh I appreciate that men appreciate that it is work for us and try to alleviate our concerns."It's concerning for all. Thank you for replying to me. | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol Oh i absolutely would blank them and walk off... I didn't ask for anyone to bestow their opinion about me on me. Yeah. I'm out there looking for painkillers or milk or something and a man has to intrude and let me know that his aesthetic preferences matter to my day. Bore off
Bore off is a kind way of putting it. "I remember going to Boots in my twenties. I had the kind of headache that made me want to curl up in a ball and puke/die, repeat. This guy came up to me and kept repeating "you have blue eyes" Yes. It's been observed since 1985. Wtf? He kept following me, telling me I had blue eyes. I kept ignoring him. I was in excruciating pain and all I wanted was that sweet sweet codeine. He kept following me! If anyone knows Market Street in Manchester, it took from Primark to Boots on a crowded day to get rid of him. | |||
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Bore off is a kind way of putting it.
I remember going to Boots in my twenties. I had the kind of headache that made me want to curl up in a ball and puke/die, repeat.
This guy came up to me and kept repeating "you have blue eyes"
Yes. It's been observed since 1985. Wtf?
He kept following me, telling me I had blue eyes.
I kept ignoring him. I was in excruciating pain and all I wanted was that sweet sweet codeine.
He kept following me!
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol Oh i absolutely would blank them and walk off... I didn't ask for anyone to bestow their opinion about me on me. Yeah. I'm out there looking for painkillers or milk or something and a man has to intrude and let me know that his aesthetic preferences matter to my day. Bore off
Bore off is a kind way of putting it.
I remember going to Boots in my twenties. I had the kind of headache that made me want to curl up in a ball and puke/die, repeat.
This guy came up to me and kept repeating "you have blue eyes"
Yes. It's been observed since 1985. Wtf?
He kept following me, telling me I had blue eyes.
I kept ignoring him. I was in excruciating pain and all I wanted was that sweet sweet codeine.
He kept following me!
If anyone knows Market Street in Manchester, it took from Primark to Boots on a crowded day to get rid of him.
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"For the women and couples replying on this thread. Have the guys who have sent you a compliment turned nasty when you've either not replied or replied and then told them you're not interested, when they've started to pester?" It often leads to unwanted conversations and interactions that take up valuable time. | |||
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"Great thread this. Just wanted to see people’s opinions A lot of 🎣 going on lol But I’ve never had a woman walk away creeped out from me in person giving them a genuine compliment Always a thanks Read the messages OP and read them carefully. Women do often respond in a nice way in person, you are stood in front of her and she's looking for a safe way out. She has no idea who you are or what your intentions are. We are nice while we work out how to get away from you. Try other ways to start a conversation without the creepy compliments. " Exactly. Thank you + seek route for escape = soothe ego so shit doesn't get scary. The fact that a lot of men can't tell the difference is good. It keeps women safe. | |||
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"For the women and couples replying on this thread. Have the guys who have sent you a compliment turned nasty when you've either not replied or replied and then told them you're not interested, when they've started to pester?" Not too often but probably because as this is a couples account they don’t know who they’re talking to. It’s more the persistence that’s stops me responding with a ‘thanks but no thanks’, it’s more that it starts a conversation that I’m not looking to have with that particular person xx | |||
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"I someone has asked for something and received it then they should say thank you. If someone has been given something they didn't ask for and didn't even want then why should they feel forced to thank. If it's something they didn't ask for but are happy they received it then probably is polite to thank but that's up to the individual. It’s not even feeling forced. If someone gave you a compliment on the street which you didn’t ask for. You’re not going to look them dead in the eye blank them and walk off. You will say thankyou atleast lol" But that's exactly what I would do. Its fucking creepy. | |||
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"Are you saying op that women should express gratitude for attention from a man? " · I think they should do more than that: they need to apotheosize the men and put them on a dias, like a divinity. ✝️ | |||
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"For the women and couples replying on this thread. Have the guys who have sent you a compliment turned nasty when you've either not replied or replied and then told them you're not interested, when they've started to pester?" Our filters are usually up, unless it's for forum stuff, so some slip through the net. Luckily, I can probably count on one hand when someone's pestered and I had to block. So far, most take a "thanks but we're not looking for new" quite well and move on. I delete "hi, u ok?" messages because that's usually the start of a very boring interaction. *Touch wood* I've not had abuse for that yet. | |||
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"Are you saying op that women should express gratitude for attention from a man? · I think they should do more than that: they need to apotheosize the men and put them on a dias, like a divinity. ✝️" Im working on it Nero, I really am. Alas I fail miserably | |||
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"Are you giving a compliment for the purpose of giving a compliment? Or are you giving a compliment for their reaction to it? Just simply a compliment nothing else but some women can’t even say thankyou but then got a book long list of what they want in the profile 😂" If it’s not for a reaction then why are you bothered about getting a reply, because surely that’s a reaction…… To think you deserve a reply from random people on here or off here is bizarre, nobody owes anyone anything and from the abuse that I’ve seen women get from men on here it’s no wonder they choose to ignore it I know a lot of messages like that start as a compliment and turn nasty when they don’t reply is unbelievable, I totally get why they ignore or delete them It’s not that deep, us men outnumber the women massively and there’s a small minority of men who think they are entitled to replies and request and that the women do what they want Don’t be one of them | |||
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? " I think you should add a giggle , slap them hard on the shoulder and say 'oh you are awful, but I like you'  | |||
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? I think you should add a giggle , slap them hard on the shoulder and say 'oh you are awful, but I like you' "Careful how hard you slap. Some get a bit excited with that sort of play  | |||
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? I think you should add a giggle , slap them hard on the shoulder and say 'oh you are awful, but I like you' "what programme was that off of again ..... i can picture the character i cant remember the programme | |||
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? " I mean it's not often you see such gorgeous little birds in the city center -maybe he's helpfully pointing them out | |||
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? I think you should add a giggle , slap them hard on the shoulder and say 'oh you are awful, but I like you'
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"Depends if you’ve been brought up or dragged up I’ll give a compliment or fab something that I’m liking right there at that moment if the other person responds that’s kind of cool there’s plenty enough people on here to have a great time with it’d be nice if just people go, “you’re not my type “a little bit more that would be rad but no one should be rude really " See alot of the time when women say sorry your not my type, the replies get a bit angry, only so many times your a fat cow and didnt want to meet you anyway one person can take oh and not to forget 1 guy hoped i got covid and died, so no i wont reply to any unsolicted compliments just to boost a guys ego, a no reply shows im not interested. | |||
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"Isit to hard to say thankyou " No one owes you anything bud, especially an unsolicited comment. | |||
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"Depends if you’ve been brought up or dragged up I’ll give a compliment or fab something that I’m liking right there at that moment if the other person responds that’s kind of cool there’s plenty enough people on here to have a great time with it’d be nice if just people go, “you’re not my type “a little bit more that would be rad but no one should be rude really " In my earlier days I've replied 'you are not my type ' .. it'd followed up with an incessant 'how do you know if you don't chat love' and 99m messages trying to engage me in chat | |||
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? I think you should add a giggle , slap them hard on the shoulder and say 'oh you are awful, but I like you'
thats the one ... for some reason i had les Dawson in my mind... thank you
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"Am I allowed to ignore a guy saying "great tits love" as I pass him in the street or must I thank him? I think you should add a giggle , slap them hard on the shoulder and say 'oh you are awful, but I like you'
thats the one ... for some reason i had les Dawson in my mind... thank you
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"I don't thank companies that send me unsolicited mail.....why should I do the same on here. You chose to send a "compliment"... its not up to you to decide how that should be responded too.... It has nothing to do with "manners" " Couldn't agree with you more. | |||
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"Depends if you’ve been brought up or dragged up I’ll give a compliment or fab something that I’m liking right there at that moment if the other person responds that’s kind of cool there’s plenty enough people on here to have a great time with it’d be nice if just people go, “you’re not my type “a little bit more that would be rad but no one should be rude really In my earlier days I've replied 'you are not my type ' .. it'd followed up with an incessant 'how do you know if you don't chat love' and 99m messages trying to engage me in chat " Online sucks. I'm much better in person. You owe me a chance. Bet I could laugh you into bed. It's just a drink. My god, you're stuck up. Etc etc. You know what's even less my type than not my type? Someone who won't take no for an answer | |||
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"Basically. Treat all ladies how youd like your nan to be treat.... Wait a minute that won't work. BRB need to vomit." Treat women the way you want your sister to be treated. Perhaps. | |||
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"Basically. Treat all ladies how youd like your nan to be treat.... Wait a minute that won't work. BRB need to vomit. Treat women the way you want your sister to be treated. Perhaps." Or just be a decent human being | |||
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"Basically. Treat all ladies how youd like your nan to be treat.... Wait a minute that won't work. BRB need to vomit. Treat women the way you want your sister to be treated. Perhaps. Or just be a decent human being " Oh I agree. But I think some people need to insert a person they care about in order to imagine what that might mean. "Well I'd always say thank you" versus "I know my sister has been pestered and I can understand why she might not, even if the guy is harmless" | |||
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"Basically. Treat all ladies how youd like your nan to be treat.... Wait a minute that won't work. BRB need to vomit. Treat women the way you want your sister to be treated. Perhaps." Having been blessed to of been brought up with a younger sister, I was taught to always watch out for her. Never over crowd, but always have an eye out for her. A mother, whom I still worship to this day. She gave me life. No more needs to be said. My grandmother, who without knowing it, taught me that to be a man, it's ok to tone down masculinity. Be gentle. Be kind. Be caring. But when needed allow it to surge through. I was fortunate to of had/have these 3 fantastic women in my life, as well as many more. | |||
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"I don't really respond to compliments, why? Usually because if I do say thanks, they then expect more and try and move the chat round to meeting or want some sex chat. It's rare someone sends a compliment, without expectation on here. " Or "fancy a chat?" "It's just a chat love, I know I'm in the Outer Hebrides and you won't meet people in the Outer Hebrides, I just want to chat" Even with that point in favour of them having read that in my profile, I'm still not engaging in just a chat. It's never just a chat. | |||
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"As lovely as it is to receive a compliment it’s just not possible to respond with a ‘Thank you’ to every message……it’s not being rude it’s just being realistic. I would have thought it’s best to give a compliment should you wish to but not expect anything in return xx I understand but they have the time to open the message. Thanks takes 2 secs to write and 2 secs to open the message lol" If someone writes a compliment in DM and hasn't taken 2 secs to add a profile pic then we aren't going to spend 2 secs replying with "thanks" but we might spend 2 secs hitting the delete button. That doesn't make us rude, it makes us efficient. | |||
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"Isit to hard to say thankyou " Are you DJT? What's this obsession with saying thank you?! | |||
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"I don't feel the need to be grateful for all the unsolicited opinions of strangers. Especially when I think it's only being said with an agenda 💜" Item one on the agenda - matters arising | |||
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"I don't really respond to compliments, why? Usually because if I do say thanks, they then expect more and try and move the chat round to meeting or want some sex chat. It's rare someone sends a compliment, without expectation on here. Or "fancy a chat?" "It's just a chat love, I know I'm in the Outer Hebrides and you won't meet people in the Outer Hebrides, I just want to chat" Even with that point in favour of them having read that in my profile, I'm still not engaging in just a chat. It's never just a chat." Exactly this. | |||
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"So your saying I have no manners because some random stranger with his dick out sends me a compliment & I don't say thanks? Why should I say thanks? I'm not at all thankful, I didn't ask for a compliment, I didn't ask them to message, I don't reply to my spam emails just as I don't reply to the spam compliments. I am extremely well mannered and I will be polite when things are done right, I won't say thanks for - Hey babe, nice tits! 🙄" Completely agree with you on this. Sadly a lot of people feel entitled and that everyone owes them something…Actually no they owe YOU and ME manners, courtesy and respect…it’s that simple | |||
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"Isit to hard to say thankyou Are you DJT? What's this obsession with saying thank you?! " I think there are people who want to have others bow and scrape in order to feel powerful. Or less of a gaping void inside. It has nothing to do with actual manners. I'm not talking about anyone specific. Well, maybe DJT. | |||
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"Isit to hard to say thankyou Are you DJT? What's this obsession with saying thank you?! " DJT ? | |||
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"Great thread this. Just wanted to see people’s opinions A lot of 🎣 going on lol But I’ve never had a woman walk away creeped out from me in person giving them a genuine compliment Always a thanks " So not only are you an unsolicited compliment giver but you are now a mind reader. Are your compliments statements or are they phrased in such a way as you'd expect a response? If they are purely a statement then this would not require a response. If it is given in the expectation that a response should be given then it's not a compliment, just a linguistic device designed to establish contact. So which I'd it? Mrs x | |||
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"Great thread this. Just wanted to see people’s opinions A lot of 🎣 going on lol But I’ve never had a woman walk away creeped out from me in person giving them a genuine compliment Always a thanks" If you ever needed a sign of the conditioning women learn to keep themselves safe from unknown men. Diffuse, disengage, don't just turn your back on some unknown who has decided they are owed your attention. I will say thanks to people who give me a compliment in person. Because I've already seen how some people react to their unsolicited comments being ignored. And the survival instinct along an entire childhood being taught that boys will be boys and we should just be meek and accept it kick in, whether I approve of that action or not. I can say thank you and be polite and smile and find a suitable excuse to disappear without ever feeling anything approaching gratitude for the situation 💜 | |||
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"Well, if you give a compliment, it doesn't have to reciprocated and if you do get a reaction, be grateful it's not a kick in the plums 🤓" Make sure you say thank you for the gift of a kick to the plums, I know you didn't ask for it or want it but you was given it, so have some manners | |||
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"Well, if you give a compliment, it doesn't have to reciprocated and if you do get a reaction, be grateful it's not a kick in the plums 🤓 Make sure you say thank you for the gift of a kick to the plums, I know you didn't ask for it or want it but you was given it, so have some manners "Will 'ouch' do? 😬🤓 | |||
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"Great thread this. Just wanted to see people’s opinions A lot of 🎣 going on lol But I’ve never had a woman walk away creeped out from me in person giving them a genuine compliment Always a thanks If you ever needed a sign of the conditioning women learn to keep themselves safe from unknown men. Diffuse, disengage, don't just turn your back on some unknown who has decided they are owed your attention. I will say thanks to people who give me a compliment in person. Because I've already seen how some people react to their unsolicited comments being ignored. And the survival instinct along an entire childhood being taught that boys will be boys and we should just be meek and accept it kick in, whether I approve of that action or not. I can say thank you and be polite and smile and find a suitable excuse to disappear without ever feeling anything approaching gratitude for the situation 💜" Absolutely this. | |||
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"Great thread this. Just wanted to see people’s opinions A lot of 🎣 going on lol But I’ve never had a woman walk away creeped out from me in person giving them a genuine compliment Always a thanks If you ever needed a sign of the conditioning women learn to keep themselves safe from unknown men. Diffuse, disengage, don't just turn your back on some unknown who has decided they are owed your attention. I will say thanks to people who give me a compliment in person. Because I've already seen how some people react to their unsolicited comments being ignored. And the survival instinct along an entire childhood being taught that boys will be boys and we should just be meek and accept it kick in, whether I approve of that action or not. I can say thank you and be polite and smile and find a suitable excuse to disappear without ever feeling anything approaching gratitude for the situation 💜" Agreed | |||
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