FabSwingers.com forum: Can women be just as abusive when ignored or message is deleted?

By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

Or is it mostly a single guy thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Ya m8 had a woman call me a dickhead and to get the msg and stop msging her everyday how rude 😬

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
20 weeks ago

Yorkshire

To be fair we've not received much abuse from anyone

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By *exxyyDy11Man
20 weeks ago

North West

I imagine some women are abusive. I've had a few give me abuse and blocked me when I didn't reply soon enough or within their own imaginary time frame. As for being a single guy thing, well there's more single guys on here, so the chance of guys being abusive is higher.

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By *a LunaWoman
20 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I’m sure some women can get a bit lairy if they message and get rejected.

But, block and report if abusive.

No excuse for it.

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By *B..Woman
20 weeks ago

Wiltshire

No not my style

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By *icecouple561Couple
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20 weeks ago

East Sussex

Probably. I happens less because there are fewer women and even fewer who are turned down

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By *estructionDollyWoman
20 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

No, because us women are perfect in every way

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Ignoring and deleting messages from women

Is that allowed

But we've got the boobies, how are you able to refuse/reject/ignore.

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Covent Garden

From experience, yes.

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By *ortyairCouple
20 weeks ago

Wallasey

Ignore me? Ignore me? How very dare you... 🤬😡🤬

Haha, who cares? Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"To be fair we've not received much abuse from anyone

Neither have we majority of messages we’ve had are fine we don’t have messages from single guys on full time but when we do we’ve never really had any problems.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
20 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I’d think so, yes. Pretty sure men don’t have a monopoly on being abusive.

Mrs TMN x

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By *avexxMan
20 weeks ago

cheshire

nope never been sent any abuse,,, yet

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
20 weeks ago

in Lancashire

What..

Do you mean some women can be like some men..?

Similar in personalities etc..

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By *layfullsamMan
20 weeks ago

Solihull

I think in life in general a % of women and men can be just as bad as each other.

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By *ellinever70Woman
20 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Some men find the most innocuous of comments to be abusive

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Some men find the most innocuous of comments to be abusive "

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Don't worry, we're talking about the more malignant ones, of which ·some women· have a natural flair for.

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By *ayOrwell1984Man
20 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I've seen some women, not recently start threads because they can't believe they've been turned down. One women said because she was universally attractive

What I've been told by friends some women can be bat shit crazy in messages.

Ive only ever had three abusive messages from men in all the years I've been here

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By *illy IdolMan
20 weeks ago

Midlands

I've had some quite shocking messages in the past from women in the past for this type of stuff, so yes.

Foul behaviour isn't limited to a gender.

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By *adeiteWoman
20 weeks ago

Stafford

I recon there will be but it's less likely to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

As soon as women get the same sort of power that men have they abuse it in exactly the same way. Everyone's always shocked when it happens, too.

Men are more abusive more often because it's more effective and they're less likely to see any repercussions. But on the occasions that women can be nasty really effectively, and also aren't likely to see any repercussions, they seem to take the opportunity at the same rate as men.

In terms of fabs I've seen some real nastiness towards s from women but especially women in couples. I guess in their head they can be as mean as they like and their husband will protect them from any blowback.

Blocking without engagement is very effective 👍

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Percentage wise I find couples and women are more likely to get aggy if I ignore them.

Men are at least used to it 💜

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By *an8iMan
20 weeks ago

Bilston

Id love to get a message first

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I'm going to say something that will probably upset people and put me in the bad books but.......

I think fab has an ability to give some women over inflated egos. These women then think that they are God's gift and absolutely everyone wants them.

They develop a superiority complex.

When their ego is threatened I can see them getting arsey and downright rude about it.

I did say some women, not all.

It is far less common among women in general but does happen and shouldn't be ignored or tolerated, the same way it isn't tolerated from men.

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By *ayOrwell1984Man
20 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

YES.

Some women are very disrespectful and abusive after being ignored or rejected on Fab.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
20 weeks ago

Didsbury

A while back I’d chatted with a faceless account, just a few messages. I told her I needed an attraction to meet so she sent a photo, my reply was “Sorry, you’re not for me.” She lost it. Kept sending messages demanding I tell her why. It’s easy to understand why women are quick to block.

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By *ryingitout19Man
20 weeks ago

Wales

I actually had this earlier this morning! Had a message, replied back saying thanks for the message, hope you’re well but not my type etc and was told I was a rude c**t and I should be grateful for the message

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

The truthful answer is yes

The sad answer is it’s common on all sides.

Maybe controversial but my honest opinion is that the more popular seem in forums the more abusive they become when you don’t respond in a way that they want

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site

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By *ohn 66Man
20 weeks ago

South Birmingham

It's not a male v female thing. Dickheads behave like dickheads, good people behave like good people.

Treat people nicely, and judge them as individuals, not based on your preconceived ideas

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
20 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site"

That's really sad to read

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site"

Like ganged up on the forum or harassing with private messages? I'd think either could have been reported and put a stop to to let him carry on in peace 💜

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site

Like ganged up on the forum or harassing with private messages? I'd think either could have been reported and put a stop to to let him carry on in peace 💜"
It was both. He had mental health problems and it really affected him so he left for the good of his health. Was about three years ago now

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By *electableicecreamMan
20 weeks ago

The West

My personal experience would indicate that women are more likely to turn on you behind your back when spurned.

I've never had abuse to my face after turning someone down but I know that on more than one occasion women have gone on to try and damage my reputation in other ways including straight up telling other women not to meet me.

Hell hath no fury like a woman spurned.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"My personal experience would indicate that women are more likely to turn on you behind your back when spurned.

Hell hath no fury like a woman spurned."

Ah yes, that's a bit of a classic and is always dressed up in the language of keeping women safe (which obviously undermines genuine attempts to keep women safe).

Happens a lot in BDSM communities; very hard to navigate who is genuine and who is just pursuing a vendetta (especially since people can very easily do both).

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By *rgasmatron1970Man
20 weeks ago

Bromley

I got informed that I looked like a drug dealer of all things 😶

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
20 weeks ago

Reading

Hashtag NotAllWomen? 😂

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By *ewildered01Man
20 weeks ago

Elburton

I was body shamed last year out of the blue

I hadn’t even messaged her or even looked at her profile

Which was rather shitty of her

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
20 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"I was body shamed last year out of the blue

I hadn’t even messaged her or even looked at her profile

Which was rather shitty of her

Sorry to read this - especially as you have some really stunning pics on your profile,

S xxx

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By *host63Man
20 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

No i have found women are just as abusive. Especially when they are turned down Tring to con you into giving them money or pay for their site support fee.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Hashtag NotAllWomen? 😂"
It's not all women but this thread just shows some can be nasty little fuckers it's not just the men

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"I'm going to say something that will probably upset people and put me in the bad books but.......

I think fab has an ability to give some women over inflated egos. These women then think that they are God's gift and absolutely everyone wants them.

They develop a superiority complex.

When their ego is threatened I can see them getting arsey and downright rude about it.

I did say some women, not all.

It is far less common among women in general but does happen and shouldn't be ignored or tolerated, the same way it isn't tolerated from men."

Yep

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By *ewildered01Man
20 weeks ago

Elburton

I see this also ☝️

Not all but quite lot

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By *ealitybitesMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

"I'm going to say something that will probably upset people and put me in the bad books but.......

I think fab has an ability to give some women over inflated egos. These women then think that they are God's gift and absolutely everyone wants them.

They develop a superiority complex.

When their ego is threatened I can see them getting arsey and downright rude about it.

I did say some women, not all.

It is far less common among women in general but does happen and shouldn't be ignored or tolerated, the same way it isn't tolerated from men."

I met a woman about 5 years ago. Her very first words to me before she even said _ello were "are you nervous about meeting me?"

It never went beyond that single social but she was seriously pissed that I chose to meet someone else and for the next 18 months or so made everything I did on fab about her.

So much so that she did everything she could to drive a wedge between my best friend and me with lies and tall tales and when none of that worked she shared our personal details with others.

I found it all very sad that a grown adult needed that level of validation in the first place but also that my rejection of her could become such a vendetta for so long.

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By *ealitybitesMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

"My personal experience would indicate that women are more likely to turn on you behind your back when spurned.

Hell hath no fury like a woman spurned."

I can confirm that this happens as does the warning men off other women who they see as direct competition.

I have been told that certain women are horrible, hideous, vindictive, unclean and should be avoided at all costs.

The funny thing is that those very same accusers then display shiny new verifications from those awful individuals and verify them in return as lovely ladies.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I don't know if it's still going now but I know years ago there used to be a chat group that blacklisted guys in the north

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
20 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"I don't know if it's still going now but I know years ago there used to be a chat group that blacklisted guys in the north"

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By *ealitybitesMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

"I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site"

I passed on a woman once in a kiss, fuck, pass thread and had messages from her friends asking if I was an idiot or telling me how stupid I really was and did I not know I was digging a hole I would never get out of?

I couldn't wait for the next kiss, fuck thread to do it again.

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By *host63Man
20 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Some men find the most innocuous of comments to be abusive "

Hmm. I would switch it around ro be honest.

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By *outhernC0mfortMan
20 weeks ago

Cumbria

I think thank god for ChatGPT because now after 300,000 years I don't have to do it an AI program can do it which means I can go do something else like spin around a lamppost but if you've seen the hit motion picture The Terminator maybe won't bode well for the future of humanity with the task of trying to chat to women likely what will push it over the edge and cause thermonuclear warfare.

*blocked*

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By *izandpaulCouple
20 weeks ago

merseyside

Not had any problems on the site but had a lady of a couple see her arse because Paul and I decided not to take it any further after a social meet in a pub.

Basically, her husband treated her as a princess and we didn't fall into line.

We thought we were pleasant and engaging during the meet but Paul didn't agree with her when she asked if she was the best looking woman he had met.

But she wasn't....

Sad, but funny.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
20 weeks ago

Herts

"Or is it mostly a single guy thing?"

They have their moments

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site

I couldn't wait for the next kiss, fuck thread to do it again. "

😂😂😂

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By *tr8MrEMan
20 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Oh trust me it isn't just the male gender that has the monopoly on abusive retorts...I've had some despicable disgusting things said to me on here that if they was ever said in public would absolutely get knocked the fuck out over!!

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"I don't know if it's still going now but I know years ago there used to be a chat group that blacklisted guys in the north"

When people talk about "the clique" I do laugh a bit because.. well, there isn't a clique per se, but there are a bunch of telegram groups.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"I had a friend awhile back ganged up on by a group of forum women because he dared to turn one down. He left the site

Like ganged up on the forum or harassing with private messages? I'd think either could have been reported and put a stop to to let him carry on in peace 💜It was both. He had mental health problems and it really affected him so he left for the good of his health. Was about three years ago now "

I had a good friend who had similar happen. It was really sad.

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By *nterracial cpl essexCouple
20 weeks ago

Essex

Only had the one abusive reaction. A couple messaged us and I (f) politely declined. The female half then sent a very long nasty response back. You knew it was her by the way she was saying stuff. She even ranted about how rude we were for not sending our photos to them (why would we when it’s a no?) Definitely took rejection badly. It’s nothing personal, some handle rejection better than others.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Well isn't this thread an eye opener

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By *ife NinjaMan
20 weeks ago

Dunfermline

No abuse as such (except being called an old white cunt), but the occasional snidey remarks about why they think I'm 'ugly' 🤷‍♂️🤓

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By *hat.coupleCouple
20 weeks ago

Kent

"I'm going to say something that will probably upset people and put me in the bad books but.......

I think fab has an ability to give some women over inflated egos. These women then think that they are God's gift and absolutely everyone wants them.

They develop a superiority complex.

When their ego is threatened I can see them getting arsey and downright rude about it.

I did say some women, not all.

It is far less common among women in general but does happen and shouldn't be ignored or tolerated, the same way it isn't tolerated from men."

Sadly we have noticed this too, it's not the rule generally but the attention does go to their head.

Mrs x

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By *tr8MrEMan
20 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"I'm going to say something that will probably upset people and put me in the bad books but.......

I think fab has an ability to give some women over inflated egos. These women then think that they are God's gift and absolutely everyone wants them.

They develop a superiority complex.

When their ego is threatened I can see them getting arsey and downright rude about it.

I did say some women, not all.

It is far less common among women in general but does happen and shouldn't be ignored or tolerated, the same way it isn't tolerated from men.

Sadly we have noticed this too, it's not the rule generally but the attention does go to their head.

Mrs x"

Probably wrong, I'm betting majority of users could compare lists and have a lot in common on them

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By *outhernC0mfortMan
20 weeks ago

Cumbria

Is this all part of research for Sydney university because I haven't put a disclaimer on my profile.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
20 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We've had many a couple throw a tantrum when we say no to their requests.

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By *ewildered01Man
20 weeks ago

Elburton

"I was body shamed last year out of the blue

I hadn’t even messaged her or even looked at her profile

Which was rather shitty of her

Sorry to read this - especially as you have some really stunning pics on your profile,

S xxx"

It certainly shocked me enough to remove all my photos and it took a while to come back to the site

And thank you that’s very kind of you 🙏x

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