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By *ozier1234 OP Man
20 weeks ago

North Somerset

Hi all… some thoughts please… we all know that women get inundated with messages. As a guy on here it’s tough to know if you haven’t had a reply due to the sheer volume or if you aren’t their type…. Should us guys message again or just leave it??

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By *eoBloomsMan
20 weeks ago

Springfield

Always leave it. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Almost always no reply is not interested OP.

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By *vSaraTV/TS
20 weeks ago

manchester

Max is 2 messages, there is a chance a woman hasn't seen your first one, so if it is unread might be worth a second. If it is read and deleted, don't bother. If it is just read, maybe try I don't know. The most important thing is to read the profile and send a good message that relates to what she is asking for, include pictures in your message and say something nice about them x

Good luck

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I would say it's OK to message again around a month later. I did meet someone of the back of a second message he sent me as I missed the first and I saw him for five years

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Some will say don't repeat message, I say yes do repeat message.

Because some people (I definitely do), do a mass delete of all read and unread messages if the amount in the inbox is overbearing.

However, don't just copy and paste the same message, we can tell.

Don't pester.

Leave it a few days at least.

Always include in the message that you know you had messaged before and it was deleted but you're messaging again because..... And come up with a nice reason not just I thought I'd try again, give a reason why you couldn't forget them and wanted to try again with a different and better approach.

If the second message is read and deleted then don't bother again.

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By *ansoffateMan
20 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

What's replies precious?

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Message them repeatedly. Ladies possess short term memories, women even shorter. You would be assisting them in the recovery of their cognitive abilities.

Leaving it isn't an option. Message them once¹, twice², thrice³, ..., ...

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
20 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

They don't get that many messages. The hot ones get about 3 or 4 a week.

So carpet bomb them like there is no tomorrow. Dick pics as well.

Maybe your first message is just a simple "Hi x" to kick things off. Don't forget the kiss bit too.

By message #6 (all before lunch) you should be asking to fuck them.

Just my tuppence worth, for what it's worth. Good luck. I have a spare shitty stick for you brother.

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By *tr8MrEMan
20 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

I messaged myself then ignore it for days just so I can feel special

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By *olo180Man
20 weeks ago

Greater London

"Hi all… some thoughts please… we all know that women get inundated with messages. As a guy on here it’s tough to know if you haven’t had a reply due to the sheer volume or if you aren’t their type…. Should us guys message again or just leave it??"

I Feel your pain brother…

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Central

No reply is an answer. Don't hassle and waste your time. Move on

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By *ynamite500Man
20 weeks ago

Angus

"Message them repeatedly. Ladies possess short term memories, women even shorter. You would be assisting them in the recovery of their cognitive abilities.

Leaving it isn't an option. Message them once¹, twice², thrice³, ..., ..."

Ooo err. The blue touch paper has been lit!! (Grabs a bag of peanuts and pours myself a pint of Guinness) I'm going to see lots of pretty colours!😁🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Sup

Wana chat

U ok

Night

Morning

Ignorant bitch

U ok

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
20 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

Hahaha. The question that doesn’t and never will have a definitive answer.

You figure this out, and please come and tell me the meaning of life.

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By *exyDiversCouple
20 weeks ago

Surrey / Hants

I agree I get flooded with messages but tend to delete “one liners” guys keep the messages interesting, eye catching, friendly and NO dick picks please …

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By *ellhungvweMan
20 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Only message when you know you are likely to get a reply and make sure they have a real reason to respond. Never chase.

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By *rowsingcarefullyCouple
20 weeks ago

Birminghan

Read the profile and actually message people who are looking for people like you.

The important details like male, female, straight, gay or bi lol!

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By *Silver-Man
20 weeks ago

North Wales

I'll always send a follow up message, plenty of times I've had no reply with the first message, but have recieved replies to my follow up message.

Be confident and dont worry about sending a second message.

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By *upanovaMan
20 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Some will say don't repeat message, I say yes do repeat message.

Because some people (I definitely do), do a mass delete of all read and unread messages if the amount in the inbox is overbearing.

However, don't just copy and paste the same message, we can tell.

Don't pester.

Leave it a few days at least.

If the second message is read and deleted then don't bother again.

This is my philosophy and also appreciate it can be a slow burn process.

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By *rowsingcarefullyCouple
20 weeks ago

Birminghan

Oh and one liners with “Hi” then if you’re bothered to look at their profile it’s either blank or hidden… that’s a no no too!

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By *rdere OpusCouple
20 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Message people whose preferences you meet. Explain what you’re looking for, what you offer them and what caught your eye about their profile. If it’s a couple, talk to both. And don’t be thirsty!

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By *ikesEmBigMan
20 weeks ago

Herts

Offer free cake

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By *layfullsamMan
20 weeks ago

Solihull

Offer free cake"

I’ve tried offering free cake, Prosecco but to no avail

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By *allySlinkyWoman
20 weeks ago

Leeds

If you message with a different profile picture they might not realise you had messaged before

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By *ellhungvweMan
20 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"If you message with a different profile picture they might not realise you had messaged before"

Have you got a bet with someone to see how many profile pics will be changed in the next 10 minutes?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Step 1 : Be what they're looking for.

Step 2 : Don't be boring or a dickhead.

💜

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By *ikesEmBigMan
20 weeks ago

Herts

Offer free cake

I’ve tried offering free cake, Prosecco but to no avail

Depends on the brand

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By *eyond PurityCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Step 1 : Be what they're looking for.

Step 2 : Don't be boring or a dickhead "

This!

The good thing about messages now is that you can read the first couple of lines, you can see their profile pic, you can go into their profile and view, all without opening the message.

We delete a lot of messages without opening as we’ve already confirmed that there’s no compatibility.

A message is an invitation to your profile - if the profile/pics don’t intrigue then what you put in a message is irrelevant.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
20 weeks ago

North West

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By *exxyyDy11Man
20 weeks ago

North West

If your message is deleted, then no harm in messaging again later. Saying hi messaged before, not sure if you saw my message etc etc. If read and deleted, then I wouldn't bother again. No one likes a pest.

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By *electableicecreamMan
20 weeks ago

The West

You really have nothing to lose by sending a follow up message

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"Hi

Sup

Wana chat

U ok

Night

Morning

Ignorant bitch

U ok"

Hahaha was there a flyer handed out telling some guys to do this, because it is sadly very accurately showing some people's technique

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Offer free cake

I’ve tried offering free cake, Prosecco but to no avail

Glass or a whole bottle.

Slice or whole cake.

We do like a whole to fill our hole (the hole in our tummy, don't know what you was thinking about)

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By *ikesEmBigMan
20 weeks ago

Herts

Offer free cake

I’ve tried offering free cake, Prosecco but to no avail

Glass or a whole bottle.

Slice or whole cake.

We do like a whole to fill our hole (the hole in our tummy, don't know what you was thinking about)"
and I can still claim the Nectar points

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