FabSwingers.com forum: How do you feel about winks?

By *hampersDarling OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Norwich

I would much prefer to get a message. Do people find it intimidating to message? Or is it laziness or am I missing something?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
15 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I used to just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

If the profile is largely empty and there isn't even enough detail to use a name in a greeting then sometimes a wink is all that remains.

No one winks me though, but then my profile is long winded.

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By *layfullsamMan
15 weeks ago

Solihull

I’ve tried as an initial show of interest followed up by a message but don’t think they work sadly

I’d love to receive an initial wink

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By *sWyldWoman
15 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I never look at them or send them

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By *haiababeWoman
15 weeks ago

North devon

I think they are pointless

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By *avexxMan
15 weeks ago

cheshire

ive never had a wink

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By *elloWoman
15 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I love forty winks, I've had 2 naps today, I think I'm part cat

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
15 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Winks have worked for me tbh. When we first joined, I was too shy to just message 🫣

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By *hampersDarling OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Norwich

So I'm getting the vibe from the comments so far that most people don't really pay them much heed. Which is what I had been doing too tbf.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
15 weeks ago

North East / London

I think they have their place. When you are not quite a match and you want to see if there is any interest.

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By *olden PoleMan
15 weeks ago

Bromley

I’ve tried sending the odd wink but never had a reply but get some from time to time and find then a hassle free way for other to reach out.

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By *ansoffateMan
15 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think it's fine. Quite often initial contact 😊 starts with eyes, before words so I don't see an issue with an online representation of that.

I love a little corner of the eye glance, cheeky smile or wink. A stare and an eyebrow raise or a finger beckoning can be pretty sexy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

"I think they are pointless "

It's a wink not a finger

Being serious though. For a single man messaging a women and with the knowledge said lady receives so much mail, the likelihood his message (that he's put effort into) will get bulk deleted. Sometimes a wink while they're online and reciprocated. A follow up message will then be looked for and read? That's my logic anyway.

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By *hampersDarling OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Norwich

"I think it's fine. Quite often initial contact 😊 starts with eyes, before words so I don't see an issue with an online representation of that.

I love a little corner of the eye glance, cheeky smile or wink. A stare and an eyebrow raise or a finger beckoning can be pretty sexy too."

I understand where you're coming from but I see it as a bit half hearted and think if they're interested they'll message.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
15 weeks ago

Cannock

I never think to check them. What are they even supposed to mean?

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By *obilebottomMan
15 weeks ago

All over

I like them but don't always notice them straight away

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
15 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

I don’t get them especially when someone lives so far away 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

They seem a bit pointless. I'd prefer a message. I also suspect that some people just send out 100 winks and make it a numbers game

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
15 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

I mean I don’t know what they supposed to mean from people (mostly guys) that live far away

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By *orny PTMan
15 weeks ago

Peterborough

"I would much prefer to get a message. Do people find it intimidating to message? Or is it laziness or am I missing something?

It's hard work writing something original and getting rejected. Just like job application form: it's mentally draining.

Some of us don't have enough resilience, but in a club we can shine.

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By *andadbodMan
15 weeks ago

Liverpool

I use winks just to try and attract attention, i stopped sending out messages years back as this site was increasingly getting saturated with single males. Not everyone uses this function or even looks at them, but it has had positive outcomes for me in the past.

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By *lubchuckerMan
15 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

I don't mind either winks or messages are fine by me

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By *ire_thornMan
15 weeks ago

Sol The Narion system

Winks are fine . It shows interest

Generally I wink if I seen something I like. And sometimes I'll message of the profile text is really good ..

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
15 weeks ago

Worcestershire

We don't mind a wink

It's the friend requests without them sending a message that we don't like

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
15 weeks ago

Yorkshire

We don’t mind a wink - if I like what I see I’ll wink back. I don’t get it though when they wink, you wink back then tumble…

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By *hampersDarling OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Norwich

"We don't mind a wink

It's the friend requests without them sending a message that we don't like "

Agreed.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
15 weeks ago

Brum - ish

We don’t mind them but if someone else initiates and we wink back, we’ll leave it to them to start any messaging - as we do if we wink first.

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By *ansoffateMan
15 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"I think it's fine. Quite often initial contact 😊 starts with eyes, before words so I don't see an issue with an online representation of that.

I love a little corner of the eye glance, cheeky smile or wink. A stare and an eyebrow raise or a finger beckoning can be pretty sexy too.

I understand where you're coming from but I see it as a bit half hearted and think if they're interested they'll message. "

That'll surface in the first few exchanges anyway, I reckon.

I'm probably going to wink back, as invitation for that message.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
15 weeks ago

Holibobs

I see winks as likes. I can check them out then, to see if I like them

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By *oeBeansMan
15 weeks ago

Derby

I ask on my profile to send a wink if they're interested. I find women and couples may not like making the first move so by winking, it shows me that there's interest in me so I can then go ahead and send the first message.

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By *xfordjohnMan
15 weeks ago

Oxford

I don't takes winks very seriously although I'll always check themn out just to be sure I don't miss the perfect match.

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By *ebauchayMan
15 weeks ago

swindon south

I’ve rarely sent them. Only in response to a wink I’ve received to say “yes- I like the look of you as well”.

I suspect though that some people deploy them with gay abandon because they can’t be arsed to construct an interesting message

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

West Drayton

Am I the only person who read the title as

"How do you feel about wanks?"

I'll get my coat...

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By *tr8MrEMan
15 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Depends if you mistake them for something else.....thank you security guard at Asda, how was I to know the lady at the salad bar had a nervous tick

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
15 weeks ago

Reading

I don't really look at mine. Just go in and delete them all mostly. I don't really get the point of them.

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By *umagain58Man
15 weeks ago

London

I don’t mind at all. Have had some fun from winks as led to interesting chat and in some cases meets

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By *tsJustKateWoman
15 weeks ago

London

"I would much prefer to get a message. Do people find it intimidating to message? Or is it laziness or am I missing something?

I ignore them!

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By *ottsbluesMan
15 weeks ago

Nottingham

I politely reply to every single one I receive!

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By *onnachakeaneMan
15 weeks ago

Dundrum

I rarely wink but sometimes I may see a profile that may not necessarily be seeking the dreaded “solo guy” and I understand I’m stuck in the sausage fest crowd in the corner that no one wants so sometimes I’ll see a profile which is really really really fucking hot and I can’t walkt by it and it says something like

“Single guys were not seeking right now and don’t message us but when I/we do we will seek you out….. so rather than annoy the individual with a message a wink indicates I’m here, I’m willing and when you are looking hopefully you’ll hear me in me along with the other 10,000+ horned up cocks in your category….. 😉😆

So for me it’s actually etiquette rather than leaving a long winded message… starting with “Hey”

Hasn’t worked yet mind but the intention was right…. For any women or couples seeking men I definitely take time to read the profile and send a bespoke funny message of I can x - I’ll send you one next 😉😋😈

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By *ohntall123Man
15 weeks ago

Biggleswade

"I would much prefer to get a message. Do people find it intimidating to message? Or is it laziness or am I missing something?

Agreed

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By *reason69Couple
15 weeks ago

Blackburn

We find it shows interest in having fun with people , if they wink back gives us a better direction .we don't copy and paste ,90% of the information is on the profile , cant see the scence in going over it again . If you wink back we will always be in touch xx

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By *onnachakeaneMan
15 weeks ago

Dundrum

Not to create a rift…… but based on the replies above… couple of facts….

This site is a Sausage fest…. So the “no solo guys” brigade is perfectly fine as I’m sure ladies and couples are inundated with guys etc….

But having said that as a newbie decent normal guy who’s recently joined I find some of the tone from ladies accounts borderline arrogant ie a list of DOs/Donts

Even this question…. Women/Couples getting pissed off or annoyed that someone has the audacity to wink at them…. Seriously? It’s a statement of affection…. Maybe the winners are trying to be subtle as they are conscious it’s an unbalanced pudding fest

I just think it’s an imbalance of genders which potentially over powers or overwhelms women/couples who hold all the cards here….. which is fine but let’s remain civil……

Plus if you don’t want solo males winning then filter them all out and problem solved………

Sorry but as a decent, normal sound “solo guy” I feel like I’m some inferior sex fiend who shouldn’t have the audacity to wink at someone you fancy…. Like seriously it’s a harmless expression of endearment….

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By *ewboy50Man
15 weeks ago

Carlisle

I don’t mind a wink some people are quite shy so I message back saying thank you and gets them talking

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By *ustforfun456Couple
15 weeks ago

Devon, south West

We don't mind Winks, but do prefer a decent message xx

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By *irestone123Man
15 weeks ago

A wink is a nice ice breaker, if its reciprocated then a message needs to follow in short order

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
15 weeks ago

Behind the bike shed!

Winks are ok. We’ve occasionally sent a message in the back of a wink received. Personally I don’t get bothered by them, but both of us are fairly chilled out about things. I’d rather a wink than an unsolicited dick pic.

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By *ustincider888Man
15 weeks ago

Preston Ish

As a single male I love receiving them as it shows there's an initial interest and the person sending maybe a little shy on first contact at that moment, likewise with me sending.

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By *he Gentleman 4uMan
15 weeks ago

aston

Always happy to receive a wink and a message also I will always reply to them.

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By *ustforfun1759Couple
15 weeks ago

IRVINE

Never look at them mrs

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By *uy-diamondMan
15 weeks ago

aberdeen

No issues wth them at all

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By *akingtheplungeMan
15 weeks ago

kent

I like giving and receiving, I like that it shows an initial interest i do believe they have a place here, sorry if it's an unpopular opinion

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

West Drayton

I'm happy to receive a wink from a woman, solo or attached. It shows someone finds me attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

I'm not sure my winks work if some1 could test it and send me 1 please 😬

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

West Drayton

"I'm not sure my winks work if some1 could test it and send me 1 please 😬"

Please also send your vagina through the post

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

"I'm not sure my winks work if some1 could test it and send me 1 please 😬

Please also send your vagina through the post

Yes this 😬🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

The amount of times you try and type an interesting introduction then does get read

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By *unkym34Man
15 weeks ago

London

I think there fine.

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By *alkingbobMan
15 weeks ago

Hamilton

Like winks can be a forerunner to pm

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
15 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

Like winks, tells us someone is interested

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By *otsossieMan
15 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Love getting winks. Don’t usually give them.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester

I largely ignore them. I have always felt like a wink is when people aren't 100% sure if they are interested yet and want to test the waters. I've had people wink, I've winked back and then nothing else. If you'd like to interact with me you're better off sending a message I'll more likely take notice.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
15 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

I quite like them, I'll send them as a way to let them know I'm interested..

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By *entlemanFoxMan
15 weeks ago

North East / London

"I largely ignore them. I have always felt like a wink is when people aren't 100% sure if they are interested yet and want to test the waters. I've had people wink, I've winked back and then nothing else. If you'd like to interact with me you're better off sending a message I'll more likely take notice. "

I would say it is the other way round: when I am not 100% sure YOU are interested and want to test the waters.

I do agree if you wink back then the onus is on the original person to message.

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By *oney HoneyWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester

I will occasionally wink men if I feel they might be of interest to me, this then allows them to look at my profile and reach out if they are interested.

I only check my received winks rarely… if someone who has winked looks or sounds appealing to me I will wink back.

I rarely send a first message unless someone really catches my eye, so it’s a way to show I might be interested

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By *hiversMan
15 weeks ago

Dinas Powys

"I quite like them, I'll send them as a way to let them know I'm interested.."

This ☝

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By *estructionDollyWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester

I will say, I prefer a wink to an unsolicited friend request

if I get one of those there's a 99% change I won't respond to you at all because you obviously haven't read my profile.

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By *ob_1984Man
15 weeks ago

Newcastle

I appreciate any interaction lol

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By *reat Guy BazMan
15 weeks ago

Rustington

Don’t know…never got one!

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By *hrills and adventureMan
15 weeks ago

Winchester

I see the wink as a show of interest in someone. If they then wink back you know they will be receptive to receiving a message from you, because sometimes you are just not sure if you fit what they are looking for.

Surely a wink to test the water is better than a cut and paste message.

The problem is that everybody views winks in a different way. If there were a prescribed use for what they are to be used for, maybe they would be more useful.

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By *olarbear73Man
15 weeks ago

Glasgow

Dot mind, it’s an icebreaker

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By *oingMan
15 weeks ago

Co. Antrim

I enjoy a good wink

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Winks are pointless we much prefer a message. At the very bottom of our profile we have written that a wink is a good way of letting us know that you haven’t read our profile

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By *ellhungvweMan
15 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Winks are fine. They indicate interest. If I am interested in them then I can take it forward if I want.

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By *ave WolvesMan
15 weeks ago

Wolves

I dont get enough

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By *J swingCouple
15 weeks ago

North

We just tend to ignore them , we know it's a way of showing an interest but prefer to read a message .

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
15 weeks ago

Always on the move

I always thought it was a nice way of letting somebody know you're interested, if it's reciprocated then that opens dialogue...but evidently they're seen by a lot of people as pointless.

I suppose if you get 100s/1000s it can become tedious. But if you only get 1 a month like I do, it can be quite exciting 😂

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By *eyond PurityCouple
15 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Since we’ve put in our profile that we straight delete messages that have a blank avatar/cock pic/action shots, the amount of winks we’ve had from those profiles have gone up

We do look at winks but 99.9% of them are ignored as they don’t fit our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

"I always thought it was a nice way of letting somebody know you're interested, if it's reciprocated then that opens dialogue...but evidently they're seen by a lot of people as pointless.

I suppose if you get 100s/1000s it can become tedious. But if you only get 1 a month like I do, it can be quite exciting 😂"

We get a lot and most of them lead to nothing so we don’t even look at them now

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By *enuine MikeMan
15 weeks ago

Guildford

The Wink function isn't lazy, it's a simple "I like your profile and if you like mine wink or message back".

I always respond to winks. What's annoying though is when you message a profile that's winked at you, for them to totally blank you.

People have all sorts of agendas on this site and nobody quite knows; how many are genuine profiles compared to the fakers 🤷‍♂️

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
15 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't feel anything about them.

I'll open them once it goes into 4 digits because I don't like the way the button looks once it's over 1000.

But I don't look at who's winked. I don't acknowledge or recognise them as anything of value or purpose 💜

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
15 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Thought there was a woman winking at me in the pub the other night, I was just about to saunter over and make my move, when she produced a hanky from her handbag and wiped something out of her eye

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By *hampersDarling OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Norwich

Hello

Thanks for all the replies they on the whole have been really useful! 🤣

I think there's some lost in translation when it comes to communication between men and couples or single women.

From the replies it seems on the whole that single men think it's a way to show initial interest whereas couples or single women think it's much nicer to get a message.

You must do whatever you feel is best for you on here. However if you have read someone's profile and you think you fit their preferences then I would say maybe just send them a message.

Btw I only ignore messages where the person has clearly not read my profile or ignores my clearly stated preference.

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