FabSwingers.com forum: Fab Standard

By *udie Nudie OP Man
18 weeks ago

Newcastle NE3

The couple wink you first.

They message you first.

You message back.

It's all polite & cosy.

They're looking for a meet.

You're looking for a meet.

You both know this.

Then

They ghost.

The Fab-Standard approach to swinging.

Spleen suitably vented.

I'm off to the pub.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
18 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Do you mean they are no longer interested in messaging you. That is NOT ghosting. Ghosting is when you are in a relationship with someone and they dissappear into thin air. Not someone stop replying otherwise where all guilty of ghosting

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By *udie Nudie OP Man
18 weeks ago

Newcastle NE3

"Do you mean they are no longer interested in messaging you. That is NOT ghosting. Ghosting is when you are in a relationship with someone and they dissappear into thin air. Not someone stop replying otherwise where all guilty of ghosting"

My point exactly: The Fab-Standard

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By *elloWoman
18 weeks ago

alpha centauri

You're off to the pub and they're off to bed to roleplay what would have happened if they had met you

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By *ife NinjaMan
18 weeks ago

Dunfermline

There are always going to be dreamers and fantasists. Or, they just changed their mind. Worry not. Have a good session. Others will follow fella 👍

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By *udie Nudie OP Man
18 weeks ago

Newcastle NE3

"There are always going to be dreamers and fantasists. Or, they just changed their mind. Worry not. Have a good session. Others will follow fella 👍"

The notes section on here is perfect for recounting who are the 'dreamers and fantasists'

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
18 weeks ago

Norwich

This happens to everyone. Just get used to it and move on or in your case go to the pub!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
18 weeks ago

Central

You are always going to have more people showing potential interest than there are people who are fully mutually compatible with each other.

If people never started to explore just who might be right for them, nobody would ever engage, if a wink or a message = 100% definitely guaranteed sex etc.

You are helped, if you have realistic expectations here. And to understand that no reply is not rude, ghosting, etc but is thanks, but no thanks. This is standard Fab.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
18 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

"The couple wink you first.

They message you first.

You message back.

It's all polite & cosy.

They're looking for a meet.

You're looking for a meet.

You both know this.

Then

They ghost.

The Fab-Standard approach to swinging.

Spleen suitably vented.

I'm off to the pub."
Hope you pull in the pub 🤞🏻

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By *eoBloomsMan
18 weeks ago

Springfield

Not ghosting at all. Just a dialogue they didn't want to continue.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
18 weeks ago

Leeds

OP maybe your last message said something they didn't like

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
18 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"The couple wink you first.

They message you first.

You message back.

It's all polite & cosy.

They're looking for a meet.

You're looking for a meet.

You both know this.

Then

They ghost.

The Fab-Standard approach to swinging.

Spleen suitably vented.

I'm off to the pub."

If all contact prior to any meet is via words on a screen then this will always be a risk.

There's so many variables to consider?

How long had the profile been on site? Was it verified (recently)? Did they dive straight into sex chat - usually an immediate red flag? Did the language used sound like it was a guy, not a couple?

Unfortunately if you look to meet with little to go on bar the content of a message or two then you're doing yourself no favours.

Maybe adjust the approach used to incorporate actual real conversation on the phone or via video? Maybe look to have a face to face social? Maybe slow things down?

It's everyone's choice how they approach setting up a meet, but there are definitely ways to minimise let downs and disappointment. 🤷‍♂️

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