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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had 2 complaints from my neighbours about my noisy sex. Last night it kicked off when I went around and asked what their problem is and actually ended up being assaulted by him!

What is the law on sex noise?

Its annoyed the hell out of me because I obviously can't accommodate now

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Well I suspect any noise late at night would be subject to certain rules. Best to be considerate of others really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn't you call the police if you have been assaulted by him ??

Does the neighbour have children ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe there just jealous

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

If he assaulted you call the police x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no excuse whatsoever for him assaulting you! Does he have kids? Maybe he doesn't want them listening to noisy sex next door when they are trying to sleep?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I've had 2 complaints from my neighbours about my noisy sex. Last night it kicked off when I went around and asked what their problem is and actually ended up being assaulted by him!

What is the law on sex noise?

Its annoyed the hell out of me because I obviously can't accommodate now "

Sorry but you can accommodate, you just have to be considerate of your neighbours.

If you seriously were assaulted then call the police but as for the complaint if being noisy just a bit of consideration on your part is needed.....for a gag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ball gag's all round methinks.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Shouldn't you call the police if you have been assaulted by him ??

Does the neighbour have children ??

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What does having kids have to do with it? I wouldn't want my evening interrupted by hearing the neighbours at it

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well I suspect any noise late at night would be subject to certain rules. Best to be considerate of others really."

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

A bit of consideration goes a long way. They are within their rights to ask you to keep it down.

However, IF he did assault you, then you should probably mention that to the police.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes he did assault me but what would the police do?? And yes they have children but they would have been asleep as this was gone 11pm. I was considerate because I admit I was too vocal last time. And I apologised for that. The bed was hitting the wall and I did make a little noise yes but no way over the top.

Ive heard them have sex once in 7 yrs....maybe I should be just like them and lie there going ooh ahh.....like a good girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they complain to the right people. You could be hit with a noise abatement order.

The fact he assaulted you is not good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe there just jealous"

or maybe they just don't want their kids listening to the women next door shagging all night

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"maybe there just jealous"

Doubt it! Other peoples noise is annoying, nothing to be jealous about I'd have thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had 2 complaints from my neighbours about my noisy sex. Last night it kicked off when I went around and asked what their problem is and actually ended up being assaulted by him!

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you do realise that because you went to his house your classed as the aggressor

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Yes he did assault me but what would the police do?? And yes they have children but they would have been asleep as this was gone 11pm. I was considerate because I admit I was too vocal last time. And I apologised for that. The bed was hitting the wall and I did make a little noise yes but no way over the top.

Ive heard them have sex once in 7 yrs....maybe I should be just like them and lie there going ooh ahh.....like a good girl "

Kids can wake up...However he should of not gone at it like he did... If you are doing it on a regular basis people can get pissed off....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I would be seriously pissed off at having to listen to banging on walls, moans and groans, and maybe the kids were woken up.

I don't agree with him assaulting you, but its amazing what lack of sleep can cause. Move the bed away from the wall, or play in a different room.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was for 15 minutes

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes he did assault me but what would the police do?? And yes they have children but they would have been asleep as this was gone 11pm. I was considerate because I admit I was too vocal last time. And I apologised for that. The bed was hitting the wall and I did make a little noise yes but no way over the top.

Ive heard them have sex once in 7 yrs....maybe I should be just like them and lie there going ooh ahh.....like a good girl "

No one has the right to touch you. They have kids so obviously have a sex life, just not selfish and inconsiderate in involving their neighbours.

Could it be their children were awoken by your noise?!!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Yes he did assault me but what would the police do?? And yes they have children but they would have been asleep as this was gone 11pm. I was considerate because I admit I was too vocal last time. And I apologised for that. The bed was hitting the wall and I did make a little noise yes but no way over the top.

Ive heard them have sex once in 7 yrs....maybe I should be just like them and lie there going ooh ahh.....like a good girl "

You are being a tad obtuse i think. How they have sex isn't really the point. They might be enjoying themselves, but clearly don't make enough NOISE to be a problem.

Also you underestimate how much noise a rhythmic banging of a headboard against a wall makes.

Get something to act as a buffer between the wall and your bed.. And invest in a ball gag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all replies. Gonna take my part of the responsibility, take heed and move on. Cheers again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put a cushion or pillow between headboard and wall, works for me

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Yes he did assault me but what would the police do?? And yes they have children but they would have been asleep as this was gone 11pm. I was considerate because I admit I was too vocal last time. And I apologised for that. The bed was hitting the wall and I did make a little noise yes but no way over the top.

Ive heard them have sex once in 7 yrs....maybe I should be just like them and lie there going ooh ahh.....like a good girl "

Have you considered moving the bed away from the wall?

I'd be annoyed at my neighbours if their bed was banging the walls too. Although as they're both OAPs I'd also be impressed that they're still at it at their age!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"It was for 15 minutes "

Precisely??? Lol

That doesn't mean their disruption was only 15 mins. If the kids woke up they would need settling again, if it annoyed them they would have possibly stayed awake.

The only issue here is the assault but as you feel the police can't do anything then there is no point going on about it really.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Thanks for all replies. Gonna take my part of the responsibility, take heed and move on. Cheers again"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe there just jealous

or maybe they just don't want their kids listening to the women next door shagging all night "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blackshadow7

I hear you!

I must admit I have gotten on my high horse..

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

use the bed the other way, had 3 meets at home I'm renting and am conscious of any noise,so use the bed sideways

that's to have sex, not have sex with the bed

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"use the bed the other way, had 3 meets at home I'm renting and am conscious of any noise,so use the bed sideways

that's to have sex, not have sex with the bed

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Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could accom, you'd just have to be gagged.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

This is when I'm so glad I'm in a detached house

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is when I'm so glad I'm in a detached house "

Yeah I'm starting to wish I lived in a detached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of a couple that got an ASBO for noisy sex. Honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home?

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the head board bangs on the wall just get some big sponges that's used to wash cars and stick them to the back of it. That's what we did when the neighbour complained about the banging and it doesn't make a sound now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reminds me of a couple that got an ASBO for noisy sex. Honest!"

Seriously I'm not that bad...and thats not me with my head up my ass.

He's never liked me....ive had problems with them for yrs.

Anyway.... I've learnt my lesson...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home?

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action. "

Eh?? Seriously??

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Assault ?

What assault ?

What did he do to you ?

You went to his home.

If he used just sufficient force to protect himself from you i'd say it wasn't assault.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home? He hates me. I've had problems with them for years. Them drilling and banging (diy obviously) till nearly 11 at night. And the parking too close to his house...well he just blocks me in....several occasions I've had to beg ( yes really) to get him to move it. I know what Ive posted on this forum and its far from clean cut. I'm quite upset about the whole thing actually. I am not an inconsiderate neighbour. I have children myself. And have agood friendship with everyone in the street. ...well I did...

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home?

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action. "

What EXACTLY did he do ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home?

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action. "

So now he is a child beating racist as well

OP have you reported any of the issues you have with him to the relevant authorities?

Again, if you have done nothing either formal or otherwise how can you use that against him?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks "

She Said IF. You gave no facts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home?

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action.

What EXACTLY did he do ?

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Hes obviously a psycho! Who in their right mind doesn't want their children listening to loud sex and headboards banging off walls!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So asking to borrow a cup of sugar is out the window now

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Racist?"

Was in response to another post. Not yours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So asking to borrow a cup of sugar is out the window now "

One lump or two?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Racist?

Was in response to another post. Not yours x "

Ok x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Situation aside (as you've already acknowledged that the noise and banging was a problem) he has no right to lay a hand on you.

If he did assault you it SHOULD be reported. x

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Situation aside (as you've already acknowledged that the noise and banging was a problem) he has no right to lay a hand on you.

If he did assault you it SHOULD be reported. x"

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro


"So asking to borrow a cup of sugar is out the window now

One lump or two? "

Shouldn't that be "one thump or two?" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to report the assault as if some noise has the effect of making him lay hands on you, I would ask the question what does noise from his children make him do to them?

What will he do to you next time you park too near your house? You have someone of the wrong racial background in your home?

We all live in a society that has rules and he overstepped that last night. and all you are doing is letting him do is think that there are no consequences to that action.

Eh?? Seriously?? "

I second that "seriously??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So asking to borrow a cup of sugar is out the window now

One lump or two?

Shouldn't that be "one thump or two?" ?"

Yeah, but the lumps come after the thumps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are laws etc re eccessive noise, and people in rented properties have been evicted for such things, including noise as a result of sex.

If your house is owned by you, you could still have a noise abatement/anti socail order placed against you,if they were to make official complaints and it was upheld.

As for him assaulting you, there is absolutely no excuse for that. If you choose to do nothing about it, that is your choice, but if it were me, what ever the reason you were assaulted for, I would report it to the police.

It may be embarrassing on your part to explain the reason why he may have done it, but still against the law. Or he may get the idea that every time he hears you, that will be reason enough to take the law into his own hands!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our elderly neighbour came round and asked very politely...." Do you mind moving your headboard away from the wall please?" Bless him

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"use the bed the other way, had 3 meets at home I'm renting and am conscious of any noise,so use the bed sideways

that's to have sex, not have sex with the bed

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lol , I rent privately and has made me more aware of my neighbours

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So asking to borrow a cup of sugar is out the window now

One lump or two?

Shouldn't that be "one thump or two?" ?"

That's a good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

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I fail to see the correlation between being grumpy to a neighbour when tired and woken by noise from them then having them coming to my door in the night, and assaulting one's own children!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

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And couldn't this guy just be thinking about his childrens well being? Would YOU like your children listening to loud sex? Of course he shouldn't have reacted in the way he did! But, we are being told ONE SIDE of the story here! We have no idea how long these noises have been happening, maybe he eventually reached breaking point due to his kids afing woken up constantly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose I'm hoping he is worried I will go to the police and then realise I haven't and feel lucky I didnt. I dunno. I'm on my own and don't really know what to do. It was ok before my hubby left. Now its a case of most things he'll do to remind me he's better than me. I really got on well with her before he moved in and only recently helped her to get back into their house when she was locked out. I don't want drama...far from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

And couldn't this guy just be thinking about his childrens well being? Would YOU like your children listening to loud sex? Of course he shouldn't have reacted in the way he did! But, we are being told ONE SIDE of the story here! We have no idea how long these noises have been happening, maybe he eventually reached breaking point due to his kids afing woken up constantly! "

I hear what your saying and yeah it is just one side of the story but I assure you I am not a pain in the ass neighbour. I told her last night that I'm actually gutted that we (me and her) don't spk anymore. Our kids are of the same age...went baby groups together etc. Anyway like I've said in another post, I've taken heed and am gonna just be quiet/not accommodate. Thanks for everyones input, I do appreciate it!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

report to the police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

I fail to see the correlation between being grumpy to a neighbour when tired and woken by noise from them then having them coming to my door in the night, and assaulting one's own children! "

OP has said she was assaulted, so not just a case of a grumpy neighbour.

The neighbour did this right by his house. Kids pick up on everything that happens in their house and it affects them. They could be upstairs listening or even hanging out the windows. OP has already said that her children do not now play with her neighbours children? They will want to know why.

Kids need a safe environment to grow up in, which includes emotional stability from their parents.

Any person who grew up with parents who argued either with each other or were argumentative with other people will tell you its not nice being upstairs wondering whats going to happen next. This can do real emotional damage to a childs development, and all because the neighbour couldn't be bothered to maybe ask OP if she would consider not making noise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move to a detached house and make as much noise as you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe there just jealous

Doubt it! Other peoples noise is annoying, nothing to be jealous about I'd have thought. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people have kids then I would keep the noise down especially if it was late and the kids were asleep. I know some really don't care about neighbors and giving them a little respect but it just comes across as being a little selfish to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

I fail to see the correlation between being grumpy to a neighbour when tired and woken by noise from them then having them coming to my door in the night, and assaulting one's own children!

OP has said she was assaulted, so not just a case of a grumpy neighbour.

The neighbour did this right by his house. Kids pick up on everything that happens in their house and it affects them. They could be upstairs listening or even hanging out the windows. OP has already said that her children do not now play with her neighbours children? They will want to know why.

Kids need a safe environment to grow up in, which includes emotional stability from their parents.

Any person who grew up with parents who argued either with each other or were argumentative with other people will tell you its not nice being upstairs wondering whats going to happen next. This can do real emotional damage to a childs development, and all because the neighbour couldn't be bothered to maybe ask OP if she would consider not making noise?

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You got all that from a one sided story!! My god your good! You've hung, drawn and quartered the guy without a moments pause to consider if maybe he HAS asked her to tone down the noise! Perhaps numerous times!

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Wow, there's some scary bullshit here.

If you go round to someone's house to speak to them they have the right to defend themselves with violence? What the actual fuck?

There's no excuse for using violence just because someone has done something that annoys you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't you accommodate now, just have some consideration for you neighbours, regardless of there ages or weather or not they have kids, and don't go to theirs shouting the odds, some might see this as being aggressive and if so they have a right to defend themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was for 15 minutes "

Premature ejaculation ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

I fail to see the correlation between being grumpy to a neighbour when tired and woken by noise from them then having them coming to my door in the night, and assaulting one's own children! "

Couldn't link the two either!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

I fail to see the correlation between being grumpy to a neighbour when tired and woken by noise from them then having them coming to my door in the night, and assaulting one's own children!

OP has said she was assaulted, so not just a case of a grumpy neighbour.

The neighbour did this right by his house. Kids pick up on everything that happens in their house and it affects them. They could be upstairs listening or even hanging out the windows. OP has already said that her children do not now play with her neighbours children? They will want to know why.

Kids need a safe environment to grow up in, which includes emotional stability from their parents.

Any person who grew up with parents who argued either with each other or were argumentative with other people will tell you its not nice being upstairs wondering whats going to happen next. This can do real emotional damage to a childs development, and all because the neighbour couldn't be bothered to maybe ask OP if she would consider not making noise?

You got all that from a one sided story!! My god your good! You've hung, drawn and quartered the guy without a moments pause to consider if maybe he HAS asked her to tone down the noise! Perhaps numerous times!"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Wow, there's some scary bullshit here.

If you go round to someone's house to speak to them they have the right to defend themselves with violence? What the actual fuck?

There's no excuse for using violence just because someone has done something that annoys you.

"

You must be reading something different to me! I haven't seen any post suggesting assault is right, most posts are encouraging the op to report her neighbour.

What the majority are in agreement about is the ops selfishness in disturbing her neighbours!

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I suppose I'm hoping he is worried I will go to the police and then realise I haven't and feel lucky I didnt. I dunno. I'm on my own and don't really know what to do. It was ok before my hubby left. Now its a case of most things he'll do to remind me he's better than me. I really got on well with her before he moved in and only recently helped her to get back into their house when she was locked out. I don't want drama...far from it."

Or it could go the complete other way and he could think he's got you scared and under the thumb?... Which may lead to more trouble if he thinks he can get away with it.

Just saying. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't say he was a child beating racist, I used examples to demonstrate what the risk could be to people living around this neighbour and my words are being taken out of context.

If the OP feels that she has been assaulted, then she needs to report this to the authority. Having worked in child protection makes me think about what the risk to the child/children as violence is not just people being punched or beaten to an inch of their life.

I fail to see the correlation between being grumpy to a neighbour when tired and woken by noise from them then having them coming to my door in the night, and assaulting one's own children!

OP has said she was assaulted, so not just a case of a grumpy neighbour.

The neighbour did this right by his house. Kids pick up on everything that happens in their house and it affects them. They could be upstairs listening or even hanging out the windows. OP has already said that her children do not now play with her neighbours children? They will want to know why.

Kids need a safe environment to grow up in, which includes emotional stability from their parents.

Any person who grew up with parents who argued either with each other or were argumentative with other people will tell you its not nice being upstairs wondering whats going to happen next. This can do real emotional damage to a childs development, and all because the neighbour couldn't be bothered to maybe ask OP if she would consider not making noise?

You got all that from a one sided story!! My god your good! You've hung, drawn and quartered the guy without a moments pause to consider if maybe he HAS asked her to tone down the noise! Perhaps numerous times!"

Well fuck me jesus!! Yeah I'm a serial offender and I've pushed my neighbour to the limit.....

Sorta getting the feeling I've been hung drawn and quarter....

Another lesson learned here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suppose I'm hoping he is worried I will go to the police and then realise I haven't and feel lucky I didnt. I dunno. I'm on my own and don't really know what to do. It was ok before my hubby left. Now its a case of most things he'll do to remind me he's better than me. I really got on well with her before he moved in and only recently helped her to get back into their house when she was locked out. I don't want drama...far from it.

Or it could go the complete other way and he could think he's got you scared and under the thumb?... Which may lead to more trouble if he thinks he can get away with it.

Just saying. x"

Probably but hey I know the guy...I now know what he's capable of so what's the best thing to do???.....don't get up his nose again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if you step back and look at his side, you may think slightly different.

Your headboard is pounding on his wall at 11pm for 15mins solid, your making all the usual noises as well.

He bangs on the wall.

You suddenly turn up at his door asking what his problem is.

Maybe he wasnt justified pushing you, but he was upset and annoyed and then had you face to face to put up with as well.

6 of 1 and half a dozen of the other maybe ????

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Regardless of whether you fuck noisy or not no fella has the right to touch you in that way or any other way that's not appropriate

Were there any witnesses to the assault? If there was I would visit the police station explain the situation and ask an officer even a pco to pay a visit to give him a warning, there will also be a log number and if he does it again this will back you up.

If hes got away with touching you in this way once he will think its ok to do it again because you wont do anything about it.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Probably but hey I know the guy...I now know what he's capable of so what's the best thing to do???.....don't get up his nose again"

All the more reason to report him in my opinion. If he does then do something else in future the police will have a record of his previous behaviour.

If you're not sure about reporting it RIGHT now, at least take pictures of your wounds while you've still got them.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably but hey I know the guy...I now know what he's capable of so what's the best thing to do???.....don't get up his nose again

All the more reason to report him in my opinion. If he does then do something else in future the police will have a record of his previous behaviour.

If you're not sure about reporting it RIGHT now, at least take pictures of your wounds while you've still got them.

- Amy. x"

Good idea Amy...thanks x

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By *ex4unowCouple
over a year ago

near you

A cut is abh not gbh so hospital required and they will contact police abh usualy carries a custodial sentence you need to go through these processes to validate your claim if he has done this now he will most certainly have done it before and the responsibility of future assults on anyone falls at your feet xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"A cut is abh not gbh so hospital required and they will contact police abh usualy carries a custodial sentence you need to go through these processes to validate your claim if he has done this now he will most certainly have done it before and the responsibility of future assults on anyone falls at your feet xx"

like the little 'xx's' at the end to make it a nice thing you say haha

it is unfair to say a man we dont know has done it before, she says he shoved her, not punched her etc

it is also unfair to lay his behaviour at her feet

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

we don't know the full facts so laying the blame on him is not really fair.. to suggest further attacks (if any) are going to be her fault is unfair also..She went to his house and unless I am mystic Meg we don't know what happened when she did..

*disclaimer I am not mystic Meg...

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By *ex4unowCouple
over a year ago

near you

All agression if unchaenged has a possibility to escelate we all have to take responsibility for our actions or inactions xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A cut is abh not gbh so hospital required and they will contact police abh usualy carries a custodial sentence you need to go through these processes to validate your claim if he has done this now he will most certainly have done it before and the responsibility of future assults on anyone falls at your feet xx"

I'd just like to know where this 'cut' has suddenly sprung from? AND how you know he's done this before? AND how you come to the conclusion that any 'future assaults' are the gals resposibility?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"we don't know the full facts so laying the blame on him is not really fair.. to suggest further attacks (if any) are going to be her fault is unfair also..She went to his house and unless I am mystic Meg we don't know what happened when she did..

*disclaimer I am not mystic Meg... "
That made the most sense to me so far. We dont know all the facts and if we did, we still would not know what both sides saw and felt at the time. Difficult to comment and impossible to pass judgment IMHO.

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By *ex4unowCouple
over a year ago

near you


"Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks "

As she said cut hence abh was defining logical possibilities i personaly believe xx

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By *ex4unowCouple
over a year ago

near you

Also old quote. Bad things happen when good people do nothing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks "

If you've gone round with the same attitude as you've displayed here towards someone asking what you meant by assault then I would say the situation was already pretty volatile to begin with - not excusing his actions in any way shape or form as if he has pushed you several times that is out of order, but to be honest if you were on my doorstep with the same kind of attitude I can't guarantee my response would be much better. If you feel you were assaulted I would advise ringing 101 (the non emergency number) and reporting the incident.

As for the noise, if you have disturbed him/her/the kids so late at night (I think most noise laws have restrictions between 11pm and 7am) then that is a bit unfair so I would suggest, like others, that you maybe move the bed to a different wall, or do something to protect it from repeated banging. You say you've only heard them once - that could be because when they do have sex they have to keep the noise down to prevent waking the kids rather than them not having sex at all. The time you heard them the kids might have been staying out!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks

If you've gone round with the same attitude as you've displayed here towards someone asking what you meant by assault then I would say the situation was already pretty volatile to begin with - not excusing his actions in any way shape or form as if he has pushed you several times that is out of order, but to be honest if you were on my doorstep with the same kind of attitude I can't guarantee my response would be much better. If you feel you were assaulted I would advise ringing 101 (the non emergency number) and reporting the incident.

As for the noise, if you have disturbed him/her/the kids so late at night (I think most noise laws have restrictions between 11pm and 7am) then that is a bit unfair so I would suggest, like others, that you maybe move the bed to a different wall, or do something to protect it from repeated banging. You say you've only heard them once - that could be because when they do have sex they have to keep the noise down to prevent waking the kids rather than them not having sex at all. The time you heard them the kids might have been staying out!"
That makes a lot of sense to me, too!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Whatever happened to people contacting the police without first seeking advice from total strangers on a swingers website about an assault?

Doesn't anybody ever think for themselves anymore?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks

If you've gone round with the same attitude as you've displayed here towards someone asking what you meant by assault then I would say the situation was already pretty volatile to begin with - not excusing his actions in any way shape or form as if he has pushed you several times that is out of order, but to be honest if you were on my doorstep with the same kind of attitude I can't guarantee my response would be much better. If you feel you were assaulted I would advise ringing 101 (the non emergency number) and reporting the incident.

As for the noise, if you have disturbed him/her/the kids so late at night (I think most noise laws have restrictions between 11pm and 7am) then that is a bit unfair so I would suggest, like others, that you maybe move the bed to a different wall, or do something to protect it from repeated banging. You say you've only heard them once - that could be because when they do have sex they have to keep the noise down to prevent waking the kids rather than them not having sex at all. The time you heard them the kids might have been staying out!"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Whatever happened to people contacting the police without first seeking advice from total strangers on a swingers website about an assault?

Doesn't anybody ever think for themselves anymore?"

What shall I say to that Jane ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"A cut is abh not gbh so hospital required and they will contact police abh usualy carries a custodial sentence you need to go through these processes to validate your claim if he has done this now he will most certainly have done it before and the responsibility of future assults on anyone falls at your feet xx

I'd just like to know where this 'cut' has suddenly sprung from? AND how you know he's done this before? AND how you come to the conclusion that any 'future assaults' are the gals resposibility? "

Aww leave em alone, their imagination is amusing me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sufficient force to protect himself......

Hmmmm ok

So if I have someone come to my house and I i feel threatened I can run at them as soon as I answer the door and push them repeatedly so that they don't have time to get back up and cut and briuse their arm.

Ok...I'll remember that..thanks "

If you are going to quote me use ALL of my quote.

You're quite the little victim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A cut is abh not gbh so hospital required and they will contact police abh usualy carries a custodial sentence you need to go through these processes to validate your claim if he has done this now he will most certainly have done it before and the responsibility of future assults on anyone falls at your feet xx

I'd just like to know where this 'cut' has suddenly sprung from? AND how you know he's done this before? AND how you come to the conclusion that any 'future assaults' are the gals resposibility?

Aww leave em alone, their imagination is amusing me. "

Lol. From one gals side of the story, we've went from a guy who 'pushed' her for coming to his door after he complained about HER noisy sex, to, a racist child beater who could also be a serial offender thats committed abh!! Who needs judges and juries when you got fab eh!! Lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Whatever happened to people contacting the police without first seeking advice from total strangers on a swingers website about an assault?

Doesn't anybody ever think for themselves anymore?"

I've said before I expect to read on here, "I can smell smoke, the fire alarms are going like the clappers and the mercury is bubbling in the thermometer: what do forumites suggest I do?!!"

Some can't take a dump without running it past the forums first!

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows


"I've had 2 complaints from my neighbours about my noisy sex. Last night it kicked off when I went around and asked what their problem is and actually ended up being assaulted by him!

What is the law on sex noise?

Its annoyed the hell out of me because I obviously can't accommodate now "

Tell ya what... I`ll come round to your place with my sound meter, take some readings while you`re bang at it (or at it banging) and pass the results to your neighbour.... Hows about that xx

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Whatever happened to people contacting the police without first seeking advice from total strangers on a swingers website about an assault?

Doesn't anybody ever think for themselves anymore?

I've said before I expect to read on here, "I can smell smoke, the fire alarms are going like the clappers and the mercury is bubbling in the thermometer: what do forumites suggest I do?!!"

Some can't take a dump without running it past the forums first! "

Couldn't agree more to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we don't know the full facts so laying the blame on him is not really fair.. to suggest further attacks (if any) are going to be her fault is unfair also..She went to his house and unless I am mystic Meg we don't know what happened when she did..

*disclaimer I am not mystic Meg... "
true that they say, there is 3 sides to ever story, Hers, His and the TRUTH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had the misfortune to live next to a nasty little chav who was in the habit of entertaining 'guests' at odd hours, and despite complaining to her face and to enviromental,nothing was resolved until it reached fisticuffs stage.

There's nothing worse than your children,your visitors and yourself, having to listen to squeals, grunts, and groans coming through the walls and out of the windows.

It's embarrassing, and just downright nasty, and frankly who really wants their neighbours hearing their most intimate moments and then telling the rest of the neighbourhood about it..???

Not only that, but when children go to school tired the next day and their teacher asks them why, is it fair that they have to say they were kept awake by some maniac who has no consideration or decorum?

I wouldn't tolerate it then and I won't tolerate it now and it has nothing to do

with jealousy...quite the opposite lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Whatever happened to people contacting the police without first seeking advice from total strangers on a swingers website about an assault?

Doesn't anybody ever think for themselves anymore?"

I noticed the phrase 'lesson learnt' a few times.... though I feel it is unlikely. Sadly some people get through life without learning any lessons whatsoever.

The title of the thread alone is an insight. Going around to ask "what their problem is" sounds more like looking for a confrontation.

The vagueness followed by "what can the police do"....... then later the claim of cuts and bruises....hmmmmm.

Even more insightful, the assumption about how the neighbours have sex. And to top it all off the lack of sense to just move the bed a couple of inch.

It all speaks volumes....much like the OP during sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nice to see people are still taking time out of their lives to comment on my post......quite unbelievable....

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Nice to see people are still taking time out of their lives to comment on my post......quite unbelievable...."

With all due respect, you made the thread and shared your situation with complete strangers on the internet.

Not sure what you expected to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

genius looney thread - made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In 2009 a woman had a banning order put on her about noisy sex.

She then tried to use article 8 of the "Human Rights" act to get the ruling overturned, she lost.

All I can say & point out is;

"Love thy neighbour & respect & treat those as you wish to be respected & treated yourself"

All have a great day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No neither did I...bit naive or stupid

Really don't think the personality analysis is far or the assumption that I have wild sex

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Nice to see people are still taking time out of their lives to comment on my post......quite unbelievable...."

And yet it could have died 3 hours ago! Hmmm

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"No neither did I...bit naive or stupid

Really don't think the personality analysis is far or the assumption that I have wild sex "

Don't strategically bump the thread.

Ignore the responses if you "learnt a lesson"

Ask admin to lock the thread.

All these are options. Have a good day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice to see people are still taking time out of their lives to comment on my post......quite unbelievable....

With all due respect, you made the thread and shared your situation with complete strangers on the internet.

Not sure what you expected to be honest."

Haven't you got some inner thighs to make tingle or something?

Really? I use a forum ( for the first time and never will again), to ask for advice....quite straight forward I think....but there's always gotta be some hot shot or 4/5 in this case with such clever sarcastic skills......and love to pick people to pieces

My bad for being stupid enough to come here.

Now do I hang on and wait for you to post this quote with your remarks....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Asking for advice will get different answers.....you don't have to take the advice but you can't really complain if people give advice that you don't like or question what you have written.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Asking for advice will get different answers.....you don't have to take the advice but you can't really complain if people give advice that you don't like or question what you have written.

"

True.

And I'm off now.......everyone...it was ermmmm..interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a saying:

"If you want to know an answer then ask the question. "

"If you do not want to know the answer, then don't ask the question"

If the answer is what you expected, then the expected isn't the answer.

All enjoy the day

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No neither did I...bit naive or stupid

Really don't think the personality analysis is far or the assumption that I have wild sex "

You don't need to be having wild sex for a headboard to sound like it's going to come through the walls. You're neighbours have complained more than once so you have disturbed them more than once. Instead of taking on board advice about moving the bed and ringing the police you have chosen to take the thread as a personal insult...guess it's easier to be the victim than take responsibility for your actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ball gag's all round methinks. "
Or sound proof your bedroom. Poppyxx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"No neither did I...bit naive or stupid

Really don't think the personality analysis is far or the assumption that I have wild sex "

Yet you think it's fair to comment on how your neighbours have sex: oh the irony!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say they have complained TWICE about your noisy sex, and then last night you went to ask them " what their problem" was.

Well in all honesty YOU come accross as very aggressive.

You KNEW what their problem was, your noisy sex! so what exactly did you hope to achieve by going round there?

I doubt VERY much they are jealous of you, more likel;y they are jealous of people who have considerate neighbours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HA HA ITS SO FUNNY ! last summer i had a vocal girlie round , and had left the bedroom windows open , OMG , ALL the mums taking there kids home from school , however , a few weeks later one of the mums mentioned it to me , SO ! every cloud has a silver lining xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes he did assault me but what would the police do?? And yes they have children but they would have been asleep as this was gone 11pm. I was considerate because I admit I was too vocal last time. And I apologised for that. The bed was hitting the wall and I did make a little noise yes but no way over the top.

Ive heard them have sex once in 7 yrs....maybe I should be just like them and lie there going ooh ahh.....like a good girl "

O p this is said with best intention you should report to cops if assaulted how can cops do owt if not reported i find it ridiculous to ask folk about the law on fab when cops would sort it.

Clearly neighbour is violent should have reported what if someone else is assaulted and by you failing to report it he gets worse.

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