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By (user no longer on site) OP   
21 weeks ago

I'm sorry for clogging the forum with this, and I realise it's not the airport, there's no need to announce your departure. But I feel I need to write something just to get it clear in my head why I'm doing this. It's accountability more than anything. I've said I'm going now so I have to. This isn't self pity, it's to explain it to myself that I have to do this.

I've been on fab I think six years now. Perhaps longer? I joined when my ex was cheating on me with someone from here and they created a couples profile together. After I got out of that one I came back as it seemed quite fun, I was single again, let's see what happens, right? Managed to meet two people which I guess is more than some. But that was almost five years ago. I've had a few months off and thought I'd come back and see if I could still hack this place. And I can't. Almost six years single now. At some point you realise that you're not anyone's bargain.

My problem is a crushing lack of self esteem. Not helped by six years of online dating, being ghosted, being cheated on (again), almost ending up in another abusive relationship. I'm a decent guy, I'm funny, I have a good job, I'm fit, but I'm never enough. Or at least this is the story I tell myself. I need to work on that rather than hope that someone will prove me wrong.

I've realised that this place is tremendously bad for me. At least on regular dating sites you don't see who they chose over you. It's just swipe and forget. You get the ghosting instead I suppose. But this place seems to reinforce every single thing I feel about myself. It's destructive. It makes me feel even more lonely than I already am. I could have been good for someone but that someone isn't here.

I've sort of drafted and redrafted this a few times just so I can get it straight. I don't want to go, there's that feeling of just one more message, just one more and maybe everything falls into place. But I think that's the wrong approach. At least for me. If I stay here I'll end up worse than I already am and I don't know if I can handle that.

Already said thanks to Minxy for at least remembering me. Don't think anyone else does. I really do wish everyone on here the best of luck. Hey, one less guy is a good thing for everyone, right?

So long fabbers.

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By *eroLondonMan
21 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I remember your "Testosterone Replacement TRT" threads, which were interesting, useful, educating and informative.

You made an impact with me.

I wish you all the best and hope for better things for you away from the spectre of Fab. ☮️

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By *bi HaiveMan
21 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Good luck TrooperRed.

I've always said that if someone isn't enjoying their time on here then maybe a break is wise. Whether thats just hiding your profile or deleting.

The door is always open to return at any time after all. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
21 weeks ago

your head

Good luck OP, hope you find what you're looking for ❤️

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Central

Definitely it's right to not be here, should you realise that it's not positive or healthy for you! Wishing you well OP

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By *eedsmale36Man
21 weeks ago

Leeds

Will keep checking back to make sure he’s gone UNLOS.

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
21 weeks ago

Staines

Never met you, but you look and sound like a decent guy so I wish you all the best.

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By *ynamicnatureMan
21 weeks ago

Doncaster

Hi Trooper,

It really sounds like you've being doing tuff, and so a break from here might just be what you need to kick back into gear?

I have no idea if you're personal situation? But if you're able too, I can't recommend enough to just sling a backpack over your shoulder , get a ticket to anywhere and chuck a left/ right when you arrive.

It sounds corny, but it's good for your soul and it might help you reset so to speak,✈️🌈

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago


"Hi Trooper,

It really sounds like you've being doing tuff, and so a break from here might just be what you need to kick back into gear?

I have no idea if you're personal situation? But if you're able too, I can't recommend enough to just sling a backpack over your shoulder , get a ticket to anywhere and chuck a left/ right when you arrive.

It sounds corny, but it's good for your soul and it might help you reset so to speak,✈️🌈"

Brilliant suggestion, but I think he has child responsibilities if I remember rightly ?

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By *obilebottomMan
21 weeks ago

All over

Always do what is right for you. The option to be back is there. You take your time and look after no 1. We all need that from time to time. People are here for lots of different reasons. Obviously sometimes works out sometimes not. All the very best of luck to you. As was said above, time for some self healing. You take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I remember you. And I’ve got a shocking memory.

Best of luck. I wish I had your resolve and self awareness. I very often think it would be healthier to leave here. But I don’t.

I genuinely hope you find your super dooper starship trooper

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
21 weeks ago

North West

I remember you too. You are a good looking man and this place can be crushing for self esteem.

I think a break sounds like a sensible decision for where you are right now. If hiding your profile won't work to keep you away (this place is addictive like that) then unlos makes sense.

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By *AYENCouple
21 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I think this site works for very few (and I don't mean just single men) so get yourself out and meet the wonderful, sexy women that hang out in real life. Good luck.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Good luck for the future

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By *issmorganWoman
21 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry you've had those experiences. Wishing you well, take care and come back in the future if you ever feel you want to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
21 weeks ago

Thanks all. Took myself down to the gym so just read all these. Decided I'm going to join a different type of sausage fest and go to Andy's Man Club. Before I do something silly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
21 weeks ago

And with that I'm going to delete myself now.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
21 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Best of luck for the future x

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By *mmaleiaWoman
21 weeks ago

Trowbridge


"Andy's Man Club."

Great place to start, good luck OP

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By *a LunaWoman
21 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Funnily enough I saw you post on another thread earlier and thought you were an old forum face. Nice to see you back, but understand your reluctance to linger.

Hope you find what you’re looking for. 🙌

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
21 weeks ago

If I can remember my password.

Reset! Adios!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
21 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"If I can remember my password.

Reset! Adios!"
. 😘

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
21 weeks ago

neath

Hi , I've been on here on and off for a very long long time

I'm sorry you've had so much bad stuff and tbh without going into details my life was very bleak , beaten left to die the lot , but I'm here now stronger than ever before

You need to take time to heal and never ever think you were the problem for anything , trust me you need to go on a journey of self love and exploration of yourself , what you want in life and go for it

Once you have found yourself and love and know your worth you will truly get every thing in life you deserve

Rule number one ... never make do !

Rule number two ... it's very okay to be selfish

Rule number three ... never change for anyone

Rule number four .... Go live the life , explore and push your boundaries

Best of luck in your new journey

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By *inxy777Woman
21 weeks ago

essex

Take care trooper 🤗 x.

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