FabSwingers.com forum: Temper

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Leeds

If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
22 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Very good. Wasn't so good when I was younger but I mellowed with age

I wouldn't be happy being around someone who couldn't control theres

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

(Mr) here was quick tempered in my 20s but much more relaxed now I think most people relax with age especially people who have kids

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By *oeBeansMan
22 weeks ago

Derby

It's something I'm trying to be better at. Especially with things that don't really matter all that much long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Fiery for life 🔥

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By *elix SightedMan
22 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I’ve done hardly any unplanned murdering in the past few months. Therapy does work!

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

I used to have one. Now I try to be a bit more zen about life. Can't change to so why get angry.

And it also irritates the shit out of those who get angry with you!

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By *bitofaslutWoman
22 weeks ago

Cannock

I saw the temper I could have inherited when I was little and have spent 40 years desperately trying not to be that person. I'm far from placid and I do get angry, but not physically.

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By *k_123Man
22 weeks ago

the north

I don’t have a temper anymore at all after reading ‘chimp paradox’

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
22 weeks ago

North West

I have definitely mellowed with age but flick the switch, then best leave me alone 😬 #feistyfucker

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
22 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I’ve done hardly any unplanned murdering in the past few months. Therapy does work!"

Not working for me as I feel more middle aged perimenopausal Karen rage every day. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
22 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

never had a temper until.....my 40s. Lol! It's getting worse and I now realise I'm in my Karen era.

Hormones, BPD and autism do not go well together. short of avoiding people and popping a sedative not much else I can do. luckily I live alone and am now off sick from work so I don't need to see people when I'm feeling grateful.

If you are eligible for HRT take it. I'm too young to receive it on the NHS...estrogen still too high and periods still too regular. So I just have to suffer...and anyone around me. Lol!

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
22 weeks ago

Edinburgh

A little better now I have a very short fuse but have learnt to control it a bit in more recent years

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By *eyond PurityCouple
22 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I’ve always been level headed and not react so fast. Even watching football doesn’t get me angry now.

I just let things go now and I can honestly say that my life is better for it.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
22 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper??

never had a temper until.....my 40s. Lol! It's getting worse and I now realise I'm in my Karen era.

If you are eligible for HRT take it. I'm too young to receive it on the NHS...estrogen still too high and periods still too regular. So I just have to suffer...and anyone around me. Lol!"

should read rageful....not grateful..what in the autocorrect anger...Lol!

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
22 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

With people; it takes ALOT to push me to lose my cool. I don't deal with confrontation very well.

With inanimate objects; I can smash things to pieces at the slightest inconvenience 🤬😤

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By *exyScientistsCouple
22 weeks ago

Castlebar

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

I never really lost my temper. I guess I never had one?

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By *_Doe2024Man
22 weeks ago

Middle of nowhere, the centre of everywhere

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

Yes I'm fiery and have a temper, and an extremely short fuse.

However,I let a lot of shit go as it's not worth being in poor form as a result of it.

Now I don't get anger or bothered, I'm just done.

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By *riendly BiMan
22 weeks ago

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

Seeing as you're a redhead, I'd always make sure to never let you lose yours

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
22 weeks ago

from mars

Depends

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By *empest2KMan
22 weeks ago

Derby

I'm generally good at controlling my temper, a bit like how Bruce Banner learned to control when he turns into The Hulk in Marvel's Avengers... I'm always angry! 😜 The only difference is that I don't become green and muscle-bound... 🤣

Also, there's nothing a good pillow scream can't usually fix 😉😜

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By *oeBeansMan
22 weeks ago

Derby

"Depends "

Would it make you lose your temper if I asked how the fuck that profile photo was approved? Were the photo mods on something? 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Very good at controlling it. But it’s something that needed to be taught, and fast!

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
22 weeks ago

from mars

"Depends

Would it make you lose your temper if I asked how the fuck that profile photo was approved? Were the photo mods on something? 😂"

😂😂 ……. Probably 💨

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
22 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

I have a temper, just as everyone has, I don’t loose control of it, anyone or anything that feels the full force of the wrong side of it will be doing so under complete control and will have fully deserved it.

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By *ansoffateMan
22 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes, I can become emotionally dysregulated but the majority of the time that is hypoarousal rather than hyperarousal.

I guess it depends on what you mean by control, I am very aware of my emotional state. I accept that I am entering into dissociative states. That's probably appears to be control, as in I am not acting out behaviourally - expressing anger etc. I can't control it though, I've just got accustomed to it and accept it.

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By *an8iMan
22 weeks ago

Bilston

I used to have a short temper when I was younger but I've chilled out now and don't loose it so much, I'm abit like Bruce Banner and the Hulk it's still there but doesn't come out to play now.

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By *obilebottomMan
22 weeks ago

All over

I am so good with it that can be rather disarming. There is nothing to be gained by having a temper. Sometimes to the annoyance of others I am sure. I always speak and respond to any situatios calmly. Best way imo.

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By *punk n gushCouple
22 weeks ago

deal

Used to have a bad temperature in last couple of years have mellowed alot i put it down to starting hrt or maybe it was disowning all my family finally that helped my temperature disappear

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
22 weeks ago

Reading

In a lot of situations - with my children, at work, just generally I am very quick to anger.

Where I struggle is being sensitive with people closest to me. And when things set me off and my first reaction can sometimes be to see red and lose my shit. It's usually brief and some (because of distance etc) aren't even aware that I'm having this reaction.

I do generally calm down and talk to them about it (or apologise) fairly quickly though. And I feel like I'm getting better at it. Dealing with it after and also better communicating things to help prevent those trigger points.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

I can control my temper, but if you piss me off, you will know about it.

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By *es not the MessiahMan
22 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Normally yes

You don't want to be the one recieving when my fuse finally goes

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By *herrybakewellCouple
22 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Easily triggered is how I'd describe my temper. Not prepared to take anyone's bullshit.

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By *loth280Man
22 weeks ago

Caversham

I am far too laid back for my own good.....until I get to the banger track and I become an angry shite!

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By *igad999Man
22 weeks ago

wolverhampton

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

When I was young temper was bad would fly off at slightest thing

Over years learnt to control it well and be the better person

Now I’m as laid back as that but if and when I go I go but that’s once in a decade

When you lose your head you’ve lost the fight

As for the wife we dont argue much we tend to sort things quick

If we argue she just takes her bra off and its game over she’s won 😂

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By *eoBloomsMan
22 weeks ago

Springfield

None of your bloody business! 😡

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By *obilebottomMan
22 weeks ago

All over

"None of your bloody business! 😡"

You don't strike me like a man with temper

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By *estructionDollyWoman
22 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

In the kitchen I'm the female Gordon Ramsay. My family call me the angry chef

In other aspects of life I'm pretty level headed 😅

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By *eoBloomsMan
22 weeks ago

Springfield

"None of your bloody business! 😡

You don't strike me like a man with temper

Don't you start ! 🤬🤣

Thanks and I'm not really, occasional road rage notwithstanding.

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By *obilebottomMan
22 weeks ago

All over

"None of your bloody business! 😡

You don't strike me like a man with temper

Don't you start ! 🤬🤣

Thanks and I'm not really, occasional road rage notwithstanding.

Oh I call them names too

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Younger I used to but I grew up and am pretty chill on the whole. I’m lucky with the family I have and the advice I was given. The more you fly off the handle and can’t regulate your emotions the easier it is to fall into unhealthy patterns and relationships. If your emotions are high and predictable it’s easy to exploit. I feel a lot more in control now I’ve got a handle on it

Unless I’m driving of course. Zero chill, only rage

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
22 weeks ago

kent

I’m a calm person, and it takes an awful lot for me to lose my cool. I did a lot of martial arts when I was young, and I learned to control my temper. It was a good lesson to learn early.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

"I’m a calm person, and it takes an awful lot for me to lose my cool. I did a lot of martial arts when I was young, and I learned to control my temper. It was a good lesson to learn early. "

Maybe all I need is a bit of that!!🤭

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By *acchus LyaeosMan
22 weeks ago

London

"In the kitchen I'm the female Gordon Ramsay. My family call me the angry chef

In other aspects of life I'm pretty level headed 😅"

Apparently, he's actually a nice guy. He's crazy on Hell's Kitchen but that's because they're providing a professional service. On the kids' show, however, he's really nice to the kids. And there used to be a TV show about him and his family and he seemed pretty chill on that, too.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
22 weeks ago

kent

"I’m a calm person, and it takes an awful lot for me to lose my cool. I did a lot of martial arts when I was young, and I learned to control my temper. It was a good lesson to learn early.

Maybe all I need is a bit of that!!🤭 "

It’s never too late, and I would recommend it for most people. Self discipline, self control, and hard work. Our little one is going to start at 5 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

"I’m a calm person, and it takes an awful lot for me to lose my cool. I did a lot of martial arts when I was young, and I learned to control my temper. It was a good lesson to learn early.

Maybe all I need is a bit of that!!🤭

It’s never too late, and I would recommend it for most people. Self discipline, self control, and hard work. Our little one is going to start at 5 😂"

Might end up being a lethal weapon in a fiery little shits logbook.. meaning me.. not the five year old🤣

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
22 weeks ago

kent

"I’m a calm person, and it takes an awful lot for me to lose my cool. I did a lot of martial arts when I was young, and I learned to control my temper. It was a good lesson to learn early.

Maybe all I need is a bit of that!!🤭

It’s never too late, and I would recommend it for most people. Self discipline, self control, and hard work. Our little one is going to start at 5 😂

Might end up being a lethal weapon in a fiery little shits logbook.. meaning me.. not the five year old🤣"

🤣🤣

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By *ndycoinsMan
22 weeks ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

Very good.Especially on Bonfire Night.No one can hear the screams for the fireworks.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
22 weeks ago

Holibobs

Yep, I'm pretty chilled all the time...apart from when the cockwomble road users act like complete bellends, then I've a potty mouth, but the flash of rage disappears pretty quickly

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By *idssissyTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Unfortunately at times have let rip at people, often people who didn't deserve. Usually down to holding so much in, and something acts as the straw to break the camel back.

Physically only person in danger is myself

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By *B..Woman
21 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I don’t really have a temper, I’m too laid back and happy to walk away from confrontation.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
21 weeks ago

Bedfuck

August 1981 a Michael Jackson song came on the radio in my car, the DJ went on and on how great the song was and how great Michael Jackson was. I saw red, I pulled over and kicked the radio in the dash to smithereens with my high heel boot. My mate just looked at me stunned.

Now I just change channels.

Still have a bad temper but depends who or what I'm dealing with.

Something inanimate usually gets the physical damage, verbally I don't hesitate to speak my mind, my cussing goes to whole other level.

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By *rickie-dickieMan
21 weeks ago

South Durham

It depends on the level of stupid I'm dealing with, this includes myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Yes iv a bad temper at times

Iv learned to control it but sometimes it's hard when ppl keep doing the same petty shit months later!

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Really bad temper.

Crushed 3 grapes tonight.

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By *otsossieMan
21 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I sometimes get a bit frustrated but I don’t really get angry.

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By *enuine MikeMan
21 weeks ago

Guildford

I pick and choose when to vent but sometimes I do lose my shit at work, due to the incompetence of others

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By *carlettsWoman
21 weeks ago

Harpenden

I rarely lose my temper but has happened if I get pushed too far. We all have a breaking point. One of my best friends said she had never seen me angry maybe I just do that in private lol

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

"I saw the temper I could have inherited when I was little and have spent 40 years desperately trying not to be that person"

Same here. Growing up around someone who could explode over the smallest thing was horrible. It takes a lot to really rile me up, and even when I do get angry, I’m pretty good at regulating my emotions and expressing them in a way that doesn’t hurt or distress anyone.

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By *tickler2000Man
21 weeks ago

St Agnes

My temper is very bad. I try an stay the hell away from it.

It's a dark place.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I have seen people lose their rag as they call it over the years, yes st times I get pissed off at things but it's just a waste of negative energy, especially if you have no control over it

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By *urry BlokeMan
21 weeks ago

I rage a lot internally

My poker face is strong though

A smile has very often hidden the attempted assassination going on in my head

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
21 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Fiery for life 🔥 "

Is that a good thing ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
21 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
21 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Reading many of the posts here and I mean MANY

There is a threat of violence ( not clear if it's verbal or physical or both ) that people seem to wear as a badge of honour.

Your anger is yours. It's an emotional tool and you summon it at will.

No one is angry. You have to decide to use that tool.

And if anger is all you have or is your first port of call....... you must be HORRIBLE to be with and live with.

I wouldn't listen to a domestic abuser say they were pushed to far and I'm not prepared to take it here either.

And that was said without one ounce of anger or temper.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
21 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

I don’t have a temper nor do I get angry. It’s a wasted energy that’s contagious, and would never get what you want or have a coherence to it. When others around me display anger or a temper I tense up and really hate the feeling, it takes me a few days to shake it off - and that’s just as a bystander.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
21 weeks ago

Peterborough

"If you have one, are you good at controlling your temper?? "

Do not have a temper. Quite chilled and do not dwell on things. Helps a lot.

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