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First time nerves!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
23 weeks ago

Going to our first ever club night tonight!!

Any advice?

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By *urls and DressesWoman
23 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

Remember everyone had a first time

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By *andadbodMan
23 weeks ago

Liverpool

Just be yourselves.

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By *issLickalottapusWoman
23 weeks ago

La La Land

Don't be pushy

If someone says no, it means NO

Don't walk around with your cock in your hand tugging away, not sexy

Don't go in with expectations you're going to get your willy wet, unless they have a hot tub of course

In a nutshell don't be a dick

As others have said, everyone has their first club visit nerves, just be yourself and enjoy!

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By *ellhungvweMan
23 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Don’t over think it. Be your normal selves and take it at your pace. It’s perfectly acceptable to just take your time and absorb the surroundings - you don’t have to play if you don’t want.

Relax and enjoy.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
23 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Think of it as a good night out where you can socialise and make connections. If one of those connections turns into something on the night, bonus.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
23 weeks ago

Altrincham


"Going to our first ever club night tonight!!

Any advice?"

Try to be as relaxed as possible but definitely don't get d*unk, you want to enjoy your experience, talk with your partner and don't expect too much. You'll love it!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
23 weeks ago

Lincs

Just see it as going to a bar and everyone is there for a nice night.

Go at your own pace - the club owners/organiser will show you around.

Chat to people and get to know them.

Then if the mood takes you can progress into the playrooms.

Don’t do anything you don’t want to.

K

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By *uxurycollectionCouple
23 weeks ago

Port Talbot

Don’t get too d*unk!!

I (mr) done that on our first club night through nerves, we got into a foursome with another couple and I couldn’t perform. Disaster!

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By *elix SightedMan
23 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"Going to our first ever club night tonight!!

Any advice?"

You will inevitably see a couple you like, but don’t ruin it by approaching them and showing your nerves. Instead, make eye contact and don’t break it. Stare. You need them to know you’re interested. This technique will cause them to walk away in a move which will, ostensibly, look like avoidance but they’re leading you somewhere. Wherever they go, follow them and maintain eye contact but DON’T approach. Start touching your special places so they know you find them sexually attractive.

Report back tomorrow with how well it worked.

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By *ittyNCremeCouple
23 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Go with no other expectations other than to meet other like minded people and to have a great time anything else is a bonus

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
23 weeks ago

Worcestershire

Enjoy the experience and don't overthink it

Go with no expectations of anything other than a good laugh

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Go with no expectations and treat it just the same as you would people in a regular pub, chat, have fun.

Mrs

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By *bi HaiveMan
23 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Going to our first ever club night tonight!!

Any advice?"

Aside from all of the advice already given, which is spot on, have you checked out the logistics of the night?

Mainly details of the club itself. Where best to park, dress code rules/guidance, the clubs facilities, whether there's a bar or is it BYO?

Club websites are a great source of info and the review section on here can also be useful to read. And possibly a bit late but many events run off site chat groups to give attendees the chance to 'mingle' online before an event so you'll have an idea of who's going and can introduce yourselves in advance - really useful especially for first timers as there's usually someone willing to give you a tour and help settle any nerves.

Most of all....have fun. And if for any reason you don't, don't let it put you off clubs. One bad night doesn't represent all clubs or all nights.

Enjoy! 😁

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By *utterfly64Woman
23 weeks ago

Raynes Park

Enjoy it. Be yourself. Chat and interact with people as if you were in any pub or club. Don’t presume you will get any action. Be lucky!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
23 weeks ago

Yes, have checked out all the logistics.

Tired starting a forum chat for those attending but not nothing in response. This just added to the uncertainty 🤣.

I think the ‘no expectations’ seems a common thread. I think ‘L’ is keen for something to happen and probably better that she pursue it rather than me. There seems to be a lot on forums concerning pushy males and I absolutely don’t want that label.

Just want it to be a positive experience

For the both of us.

Thank you all

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By *im le2Man
22 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

I've been holding group meets for over ten years and I still get nervous well until the first guest arrives.

Just come in strip off and grab the nearest cock it's that easy.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
22 weeks ago

Trowbridge

How was it & where did you go?

I’m new round these parts & l’d like to find a regular club to goto

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By *estructionDollyWoman
22 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I hope you had a fun time, I love the club scene but it's not for everyone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Central

Take it the same as going to a bar and expect no more

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