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By *ust a nice genuine guy OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Gloucester

This is not a whinging post about meets, replys or lack of as it may help others guys out.

Do you Lady's prefer to receive a nice polite message, with a little description of the person sending it or something a bit more naughty or even a lot more naughty and descriptive.

Just interested that's all.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
22 weeks ago

North West

I mainly check out a profile before deciding whether to open the message. People won't know that I've done this as I use 'ninja' mode. If they don't seem compatible it's an instant delete. A 'naughty' message is also a instant delete.

Messages that catch my eye use my name and mention an important part of my profile.

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By *ust a nice genuine guy OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Gloucester


"I mainly check out a profile before deciding whether to open the message. People won't know that I've done this as I use 'ninja' mode. If they don't seem compatible it's an instant delete. A 'naughty' message is also a instant delete.

Messages that catch my eye use my name and mention an important part of my profile. "

Thanks Ninja Julie. Didn't know there was such a mode.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
22 weeks ago

North West

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
22 weeks ago

North West

Account - Privacy Settings - Hide on looked at me

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By *bitofaslutWoman
22 weeks ago

Cannock


"I mainly check out a profile before deciding whether to open the message. People won't know that I've done this as I use 'ninja' mode. If they don't seem compatible it's an instant delete. A 'naughty' message is also a instant delete.

Messages that catch my eye use my name and mention an important part of my profile. "

This.

Prove you've read my profile and you can be as naughty as you like.

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
22 weeks ago

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Naughty messages from random fab strangers tend to turn me off

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By *viatrixWoman
22 weeks ago

Redhill

Most “naughty” messages end in an instant block from me nowadays 😂😂😂

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By *avidldnMan
22 weeks ago

Warwickshire

Makes sense why I get no replys

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By *ustforfun1759Couple
22 weeks ago

IRVINE

I like a little more naughy message after all we are trying to escape the real world for a few hours.just my thoughts Mrs

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By *riar BelisseWoman
22 weeks ago

Holibobs

I like both, with a clear recent face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Hardly matters imo women tend to go on verifications and as mine is a new account as deleted my old 1 its like talking to a wall tbh! Lol!

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By *ffortthatchickWoman
22 weeks ago

HEATHFIELD

Personally I prefer a nice polite message, using my name. Going straight in with naughty leaves an element of drier than the Sahara. I always check out the person's profile in ninja and always reply. Even if it's to say no thanks

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By *anWoman555Couple
22 weeks ago

Birmingham/London


"I mainly check out a profile before deciding whether to open the message. People won't know that I've done this as I use 'ninja' mode. If they don't seem compatible it's an instant delete. A 'naughty' message is also a instant delete.

Messages that catch my eye use my name and mention an important part of my profile. "

Okay fair enough on the rest however if I may argue what exactly would eye catching be, surely eye catching is a subjective requirement. Isn’t just a polite hello how are you doing a nice way to start the conversation in a polite way?

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
22 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Polite and funny are better the messages I get are pure filth which normally.put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Naughty messages from a random stranger puts me off, the message will be deleted and the sender usually blocked

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By *uacksplat.Woman
22 weeks ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

generally, i like the funny, interesting, thoughtful messages.

one you can tell has taken more than 1 brain cell to put together.

they normally catch my eye more than the 'im going to put you in 837 positions and make you cum harder than you ever have' type of rubbish Px

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By *leasinglipznhipsWoman
22 weeks ago

Polite message with a verified profile (by other humans)

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By *ust a nice genuine guy OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Gloucester

Thanks for all the comments so far.

Politeness with the odd compliment made costs nothing and can make another person feel good.

It won't always get you anywhere, but personally I wouldn't have it any other way.

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By *ellinever70Woman
22 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I can work with a hi, how are you if I'm on the prowl

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
22 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"I mainly check out a profile before deciding whether to open the message. People won't know that I've done this as I use 'ninja' mode. If they don't seem compatible it's an instant delete. A 'naughty' message is also a instant delete.

Messages that catch my eye use my name and mention an important part of my profile. "

This ... I'm really not a fan of opening messages that include dick pics either lol

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
22 weeks ago

Bristol

It's on our profile (not that some take notice) but launching in with dick pics, dirty messages or just lazy ones generally gets a block from us

We like to build up a bit of a connection first.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
22 weeks ago

North West

A message from someone that has read my profile and obliges my requests will always be opened/read. I tend to respond to those that have been verified, have sent a nice message, meet my own personal requirements from a look at their profile and have a face I would consider kissing. I don’t mind a cheeky message or a joke as long as they are not referring to themself as “Daddy” and haven’t thrown in a multitude of dick pics or videos of them balls deep in someone else.

Always exceptions to my own rules if the profile is exceptional/they are really hot. Then it’s down to whether they have a good personality/it matches mine to keep any conversation going.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

I’d rather something polite or funny as a first message. Naughty messages tend to just get deleted, they’re usually a turn off for me from a stranger. Explicitly detailed naughty messages get blocked instantly.

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By *edusaxxxWoman
22 weeks ago

london

everyone who sent naughty messages are in my block list

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By *rsTrellisWoman
22 weeks ago

Cambridge

I prefer a really well-put-together profile (lots of pics ideally including smiling face pics, visible veris, profile text including what they’re into and something about them as a person).

Then a short message, showing they’ve read my profile, saying something like “I saw your profile and thought we might have something in common because we both… [like this thing or go to this place or whatever]. Would you like to have a look at my profile and drop me a line back if you’d like to chat?”

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
22 weeks ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

As others have said I check out the profile first, if it's obvious they haven't read my profile then I delete/block, I prefer opening messages that say about the person and why they have messaged me, dirty/rude/naughty opening messages put me off and I block/delete

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By *ust a nice genuine guy OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Gloucester

Thankyou ladies for all your comments,

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By *estructionDollyWoman
22 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Absolutely no to boring "naughty" copy and paste messages 👎🥱

Talk to me like a human being, like we are having a chat down the pub. Humour is good, talking about something on my profile to show me you've read it even better 👍

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By *issmorganWoman
22 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Any naughty or graphic messages, are deleted. They do nothing for me, from people I've never spoken to.

I prefer one that shows they've read my bio, with a little reference to something in it.

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By *G74Woman
22 weeks ago

Blackburn

I get so many messages off guys telling me what they are on Fab for and what they are looking for and what they want from me ... without reading my profile and looking at what I want. Throw in so Dom/Daddy comments and dick pics and they wonder why I just delete 🤷‍♀️

Like them I'm here for what I want and when I want it i'll go looking. Randoms who think they are the ones who can change my mind on what I'm searching for don't really do it for me I'm afraid. 😅

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By *rincipessaWoman
22 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

Polite = dull

Cheeky/naughty = fuck off

One word = dull fuck off

A joke = thinks they’re funny but not

An icebreaker question = thinks they’re interesting but not

Be naturally funny and interesting

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By *ust a nice genuine guy OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Gloucester


"Polite = dull

Cheeky/naughty = fuck off

One word = dull fuck off

A joke = thinks they’re funny but not

An icebreaker question = thinks they’re interesting but not

Be naturally funny and interesting"

Interesting you think polite is dull. The rest I can understand as fuck off

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

A lot of men think that there are three approaches.

1. "Oh please my delicate lady, can I please trouble you for a moment of your time? I am so very polite and boring, please may I beg for your attention"

2. "Oi slut I'm gonna break your shit hole"

3. "When I take you into my arms you're going to melt, and when you feel my gorgeous throbbing man meat, you'll lose control. Then you'll scream for me as I thrust into you, and you'll squirt so hard you'll flood all of Lancashire"

Of these three options, I'll choose scrubbing the toilet.

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By *ust a nice genuine guy OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Gloucester


"A lot of men think that there are three approaches.

1. "Oh please my delicate lady, can I please trouble you for a moment of your time? I am so very polite and boring, please may I beg for your attention"

2. "Oi slut I'm gonna break your shit hole"

3. "When I take you into my arms you're going to melt, and when you feel my gorgeous throbbing man meat, you'll lose control. Then you'll scream for me as I thrust into you, and you'll squirt so hard you'll flood all of Lancashire"

Of these three options, I'll choose scrubbing the toilet."

Jees, you must of had some awful messages.

1.Being polite doesn't mean your boring. You can easily be polite and a sexual animal in the bedroom.being polite doesn't mean your begging for attention, it's means your a gentleman, seems a rare thing nowadays to be honest.

2. Some women ask for there holes to be broken. NOT just a male thing!!!

3.ive been to Lancashire, it was lovely, sunny and dry so must have been on the occasion you were cleaning the toilet.

Please dont judge every male the same as the ones that have maybe messaged you. Some of us are genuine guys but also nice naughty guys.

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By *midnight-Woman
22 weeks ago

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I'd prefer to get a message acknowledging that I'm a human being

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By *a LunaWoman
22 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Just keep it short and sweet.

Keep the smutty banter for after face pics have been exchanged and you know you both fancy each other.

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"A lot of men think that there are three approaches.

1. "Oh please my delicate lady, can I please trouble you for a moment of your time? I am so very polite and boring, please may I beg for your attention"

2. "Oi slut I'm gonna break your shit hole"

3. "When I take you into my arms you're going to melt, and when you feel my gorgeous throbbing man meat, you'll lose control. Then you'll scream for me as I thrust into you, and you'll squirt so hard you'll flood all of Lancashire"

Of these three options, I'll choose scrubbing the toilet.

Jees, you must of had some awful messages.

1.Being polite doesn't mean your boring. You can easily be polite and a sexual animal in the bedroom.being polite doesn't mean your begging for attention, it's means your a gentleman, seems a rare thing nowadays to be honest.

2. Some women ask for there holes to be broken. NOT just a male thing!!!

3.ive been to Lancashire, it was lovely, sunny and dry so must have been on the occasion you were cleaning the toilet.

Please dont judge every male the same as the ones that have maybe messaged you. Some of us are genuine guys but also nice naughty guys. "

Mate, I've been here years

And you're coming across as entirely within my paradigm. Either obsequious, rude, or a poor excuse for erotica. It's in the way you've written the question.

Also, people who declare themselves gentlemen are suspicious. Self praise is no recommendation.

I said "a lot of" guys. I've met plenty. Ones who don't fall into those categories.

What does "genuine" mean anyway? Not a moth eaten GI Joe?

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'd prefer to get a message acknowledging that I'm a human being"

Yup.

Acknowledging I'm more than some convenient holes with optional pulse is a very good start

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