FabSwingers.com forum: Dementia

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and my hubby look after an elderly couple who live about a mile away from us,do there shopping,gardening,and usual chores they cant manage.The lady is 81 and an amputee,and her hubby is 84 and has bad dementia.The dementia side of things is really hard but last night hubby took the old lady to Bingo,and put the tv on for hubby to watch the Chelsea game.when he took the old lady back home,Bill was watching the match and it was 0-0,,before hubby left home Chelsea were winning 2-1.the old guy had watched the first half,then during the break thought I was watching a match,flicked through to find the game and ended up with itv + 1,then proceeded to watch the first half all over again,,,i know its not funny and we do help him with going to the centre and stuff but we did have a little giggle about it on the way home

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Me and my hubby look after an elderly couple who live about a mile away from us,do there shopping,gardening,and usual chores they cant manage.The lady is 81 and an amputee,and her hubby is 84 and has bad dementia.The dementia side of things is really hard but last night hubby took the old lady to Bingo,and put the tv on for hubby to watch the Chelsea game.when he took the old lady back home,Bill was watching the match and it was 0-0,,before hubby left home Chelsea were winning 2-1.the old guy had watched the first half,then during the break thought I was watching a match,flicked through to find the game and ended up with itv + 1,then proceeded to watch the first half all over again,,,i know its not funny and we do help him with going to the centre and stuff but we did have a little giggle about it on the way home

Not a game of two halves then, it could have been worst and made him watch the wolves

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Dementia is a horrible illness. We lost my nan last year who I was really close to. She had dementia for the last 6 years of her life and in the last 2, didn't even know who I was, despite the fact she'd practically raised me.

What was really sad was that she'd said all she wanted to see was me settled, married and happy. She never saw that

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get what u mean...my nan has dementia..and i love her too bits. Can be stressful but u have to laugh about things that happen..its not ment in a bad way though.

My nan repeats herself and forgets things she says..when we in the car..i look at her and say.."if u carry on im gonna stick you in the boot" when i say that she laughs her head off. I have to remember how she was before gettting Dementia..but she still my nan and i love her to bits and we have a good laugh..just in a different way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that's the most hurtful thing about it in our opinion, we do allsorts to help them out then some days we go he wont even let us in the house as he dosn't know who we are.Sorry for your loss

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

My mother was diagnosed with alzhiemers aged 59, she's now 63. I grieve for her every time I see her, she can barely speak these days, well nothing coherent anyway.

Its awful watching someone you love slowly disappear but you're right & sometimes you have to laugh at the silly things, if you don't laugh you'll cry.

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