FabSwingers.com forum: Are you an every day kinda messager?

By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I like to keep in touch. But I am also up for chatting away…

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
16 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I'm happy to message short message daily but long indepth messages would just be to much and drain me

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By *exyScientistsCouple
16 weeks ago

Castlebar

No not anymore.

Every couple of days have a conversation, messages or phone call. Make some plans, have a laugh. That's good enough.

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By *eoBloomsMan
16 weeks ago

Springfield

Jeebus, no-one is that interesting and I'm certainly not.🤣

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By *hunky GentMan
16 weeks ago

north of Peterborough

If I'm close to someone then we'd chat daily,

Buy some mates are once a month.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
16 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

It really depends. What else have I got going on? Is parenting more intense right now? Do i have a lot of pressure at work? Am I oversaturated by too many people messaging me all the time?

In general though, if a new person then every day is probably a bit much for me UNLESS they a) have something really interesting to say or b) it's a continuation of the same conversation.

If you mean daily "hey hun how ru" messages then for gods sake, no, no, no, no.

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By *sWyldWoman
16 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Not really. I want some obvious excitement on the lead up to meeting them and I don't like silence straight after but other than that it's fine.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
16 weeks ago

North West

Partners yes, and a certain friend group on most days as life is lifeing hard for them right now. Other people I could be every few days or even once a week in short bursts and would still feel that connection.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester

Depends on the person, our relationship and what we have both got going on. Some people it feels entirely natural to talk casually every day. Other people it is natural to talk sporadically.

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By *elloWoman
16 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you "

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
16 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

As long as we've got something to chat about, otherwise it can feel a bit stale after a while

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By *ansoffateMan
16 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Varies from relationship to relationship and stages of the relationship.

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By *atte Lover 82Man
16 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Always happy to chat. Some people it's daily sometimes it can be more sporadic. People have lives outside fab so just take each as they come

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
16 weeks ago

Bristol

Not necessarily the need to message every day, nor receive a reply. When I see a message from someone I’m talking to, if I have the time I’ll reply to it..

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By *uriousscouserWoman
16 weeks ago

Wirral

Depends how interesting the conversation is. There are people I WhatsApp every day, there are people I chat to once in a blue moon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily "

The thought of talking to my mum everyday makes me want to play on the train tracks. I do love her very much she’s just such a yapper. And she texts like such a boomer.

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By *urvelover87Man
16 weeks ago

London

Varies from person to person. I have some friends that I exchange messages with basically every hour, some other it becomes a montly occurrence.

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By *inxy777Woman
16 weeks ago

essex

Daily would be nice, but I just go with the flow x

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By *estructionDollyWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester

I have some friends that I send about 100 memes/reels a day to on Instagram 😅

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By *hil most chillMan
16 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

I try and ration out the chat if it will be a week or 2 before meeting. You don't want it to fizzle out half way. Conversely, you don't want to seem uninterested. It's a fine balance and different for everybody. I have chats where we can easily pick up again after nothing for weeks, and I've had chats where I've been accused of ghosting because I was busy at work and couldn't reply for a few hours

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By *elloWoman
16 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily

The thought of talking to my mum everyday makes me want to play on the train tracks. I do love her very much she’s just such a yapper. And she texts like such a boomer. "

You see the 'mum is typing' and then you go off pop to the loo, make a cuppa a sandwich and when you return it still says 'mum is typing' lol

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By *uchessdoeWoman
16 weeks ago

Northampton

For potential partners and FWBs, if I'm in the 'I like you and I want to get to know you' then yes, I'm into it. Then it moves into something more familiar and less regular.

I don't message my friends or family every day though; priorities

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Jeebus, no-one is that interesting and I'm certainly not.🤣"

Best answer

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By *uriousscouserWoman
16 weeks ago

Wirral

"I have some friends that I send about 100 memes/reels a day to on Instagram 😅 "

I have a couple of mates who will message me "saw this and thought of you" and attached will be the maddest unhinged nightmare-fuel of a meme.

Not sure what to make of it but it's nice they're thinking of me.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
16 weeks ago

kent

Not really. It’s been a long time since I was glued to my phone in that way. However, I do so love hearing from a few people x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily

The thought of talking to my mum everyday makes me want to play on the train tracks. I do love her very much she’s just such a yapper. And she texts like such a boomer.

You see the 'mum is typing' and then you go off pop to the loo, make a cuppa a sandwich and when you return it still says 'mum is typing' lol "
And then all you get is

‘Hi Stephen… yes I’m ok… how are you?’

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By *urvelover87Man
16 weeks ago

London

You see the 'mum is typing' and then you go off pop to the loo, make a cuppa a sandwich and when you return it still says 'mum is typing' lol "

That is so accurate

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
16 weeks ago

Voldsøy

I do like it. I don't see or chat to my (non fab) friends nearly as much as I'd like. There's only 1 of my close friends that will message me throughout the day, everyday. I enjoy that she likes to share the little and big things with me 🫶

A fwb? I'm loving the everyday chats, even just sharing silly things we know eachother would enjoy etc.

And others? I give what I get because I understand that some people just aren't as waffley as me and don't wanna seem too much 😅

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By *uchessdoeWoman
16 weeks ago

Northampton

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily

The thought of talking to my mum everyday makes me want to play on the train tracks. I do love her very much she’s just such a yapper. And she texts like such a boomer.

You see the 'mum is typing' and then you go off pop to the loo, make a cuppa a sandwich and when you return it still says 'mum is typing' lol "

Oh god, my best friend messages like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily

The thought of talking to my mum everyday makes me want to play on the train tracks. I do love her very much she’s just such a yapper. And she texts like such a boomer.

You see the 'mum is typing' and then you go off pop to the loo, make a cuppa a sandwich and when you return it still says 'mum is typing' lol

Oh god, my best friend messages like this

God forbid a friend messages like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"… And then all you get is

‘Hi Stephen… yes I’m ok… how are you?’

Just from reading this I can tell she holds her phone and types like my mum

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By *uchessdoeWoman
16 weeks ago

Northampton

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you

The only person I message every day is my mum, don't have the patience to cope with others daily

The thought of talking to my mum everyday makes me want to play on the train tracks. I do love her very much she’s just such a yapper. And she texts like such a boomer.

You see the 'mum is typing' and then you go off pop to the loo, make a cuppa a sandwich and when you return it still says 'mum is typing' lol

Oh god, my best friend messages like this

God forbid a friend messages like that. "

She is a mum, just not mine

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
16 weeks ago

Swansea

I no longer enjoy online chatting as it always ends up with me friend zoning people. I am bored of the same cyclical messaging effort and ultimate result. So I have stepped back from online chatting, and I feel better for it.

If and when we feel that someone is suitable for us to meet I prefer to suggest an in person social or to meet up at an organised social event.

So in answer to the OP, back and forth constant or even fairly regular messaging really doesn't suit me.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

It varies with each person and depends on the relationship, but generally, I’m not someone who messages every day. That said, every so often, someone comes into my life where daily conversation just feels natural and effortless.

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By *midnight-Woman
16 weeks ago

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I am a sporadic texter with bouts of intense contact ...a bit like the rain in the desert 😆😆

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By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

"I am a sporadic texter with bouts of intense contact ...a bit like the rain in the desert 😆😆"
does it rain in vegas?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
16 weeks ago

North West

I don't mind, whatever suits the other person.

There's no-one who messages me every day, bar the people I have to communicate with for work, Mon-Fri.

There's no family members who check in with me daily. My Dad still attempts email with the support of nurses. Mr KC WhatsApps me most mornings with exciting information about what he's put in the car (but not all) and my brother sends requests for financial bail outs fortnightly at least. My son contacts me either when he's sad, run out of money or possibly might want to see me about something.

No-one WANTS to talk to me everyday anyway

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By *aindog300Man
16 weeks ago

Liverpool

Depends on the person

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I just have “Every Day People” running round my head as an earworm now.

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By *eliWoman
16 weeks ago

I'm quite good at giving nothing and then an overload of waffle, well versed in it.

I like the excitement, NRE sometimes of the early stages of messaging. I like the easy, comfortable familiarity of later, but that flirting flurry and the little hints of desire and all the questions? That's a very fun time.

I'd rather someone messaged me once a week if daily was mundane. Situational isn't it?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
16 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Do you like to message someone you’re talking to everyday or is that too intense for you "
nope. Except Mr. X not even every week even with friends

If it's someone on here.

Probably very infrequently

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

My friends and I can go months without talking or all day every day. I live that we are flexible like that. Like life happens but we still have each other's backs.

There are a couple of lovely people on here with whom I talk with regularly, but not everyday.

I'm lucky enough to have found three people on here that I can, and have, messaged all day everyday for periods of time without losing interest.

So I guess it depends on the person and your level of friendship

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By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

"I just have “Every Day People” running round my head as an earworm now."
Ofc you do

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By *auraLoves2020TV/TS
16 weeks ago

Didcot

everyday too intense. Although sometime a few days in a row is nice. But got to be able to come back to it later. Rest of life gets in the way too often to keep that sort of intensity.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
16 weeks ago

Reading

I am very intense. But I cater my messages to the same energy as who I'm messaging. If the other person engages with it then full steam ahead. If not, I tailor it more to that person.

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By *ucka39Man
16 weeks ago

Newcastle

Given amount of friends I have beyond this yes daily at times we bounce off each other and humour each other but there for each other

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By *B..Woman
16 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Probably more weekly than daily away from here but I do have one friend that I have messaged everyday since we first started messaging, it would feel odd now if we didn’t have that daily communication.

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By *punk n gushCouple
16 weeks ago

deal

Like to stay in touch on here if they can't be bothered to chat between meets then why would we bother to meet them

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