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Bringing in a friend , pitfalls/benefits

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By *urious married40 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Current long time friend has expressed an interest in joining us . She is someone we are both comfortable with .

What is peoples experiences of this ? What are the pitfalls and what have people found to be any benefits ?

Thanks

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By *appyhitsMan
2 weeks ago

Midlands

The friendship will never be the same, there will be a sexual dynamic from then on

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By *midnight-Woman
2 weeks ago

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It could make or break it... I guess you need to ask yourselves (all of you) if it went sour, and you lost the friendship, would it be worth it xx

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By *urious married40 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Leicestershire

I think , to answer both of those we are comfortable that it could be a one off or maybe more but with the type of people we are it wouldn’t ruin it and could go back and be written off as a bit of fun . Guess the question is more around longer term and feelings ?

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By *midnight-Woman
2 weeks ago

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"I think , to answer both of those we are comfortable that it could be a one off or maybe more but with the type of people we are it wouldn’t ruin it and could go back and be written off as a bit of fun . Guess the question is more around longer term and feelings ? "

In honestly that sounds like you are wearing rose tinted glasses .. without doubt it will change

Feelings, jealousies and resentment in some form, at some stage are almost inevitable

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Most relationships and and when this one does, it will be weird for you and your friend, is it rarely worth losing a friendship?

I would never invite friends again to threesomes with people I cared about. I did it twice when I was younger both ended badly/weirdly.

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By *ooBulMan
2 weeks ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

She will drive you both home?

Logically thinking don't do the sex thing with her but take her to a club & intoduce her to couples? Kinda off loading the problem...?

You can talk to the couples. Couples can talk to her? You can big her up Winner, winner chicken dinner! You get to keep a friend & she's widened her contact circle.

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By *rLicksMan
2 weeks ago

Worcester

One of our golden rules (between me and wife) is NO play with friends.

More than happy to discuss the lifestyle and our experiences etc with friends but not to play directly with them.

If a friend wanted to try a club and asked us if they could tag along for ‘support’ or what not then yes of course no problem, however there would be no playing.

The relationship/friendship would change and could be damaging to that friendship or indeed our own relationship - we are solid but like they say don’t play with fire if your don’t want your fingers burnt.

That’s our view on it but everyone is different

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By *ewboy50Man
2 weeks ago

Carlisle

She might not like it so end of friendship because she will be embarrassed around you’s

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

On a relationship basis like polyamory or just sex?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

I think it depends on the freind. Some people are very pessimistic about if it doesn't work. But depending on the characters in question if it doesn't work out exactly it doesn't need to be awkward or change anything. I think what it boils down to is your assessment of your freind. Are they able to just mess about and have care free fun with no strings? Are they open with their communication of what they want and how things are going? Because the most important factor for having a friend join you is that they feel completely comfortable in openly expressing themselves with you. I would say it's not so much should you invite a friend and more about inviting the right friend.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
2 weeks ago

London

What they said. 🙄

It very depends on personalities.

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By *enk15Man
2 weeks ago

Evesham

Depends how emotionally mature you all are.

If you are, shouldn't be a problem at all.

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By *ansoffateMan
2 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I find those experiences can be very positive, some people have a far more compartmentalised approach to sex and friendship though, I can see how that could be an issue if that's the case.

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