FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

West Bromwich

Hi folks of fab ...

Do u read people's veris and if u do how much of it do u believe?

If they are to be believed every guys a stud and every women is a porn star ...or do u just use them as a guide to prove their real ..

Thoughts ....x

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By *erbyRam92Man
2 days ago

derby

Decent way to get a rough gist of a person or couple. Of course the problem is getting the first one

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By *midnight-Woman
2 days ago

...

I like reading them -i prefer humourous ones

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By *ympho6969Woman
2 days ago

glasgow

I'll glance at them. Mostly to see if it's someone just looking for another notch. Each to their own and no judgement here but I'm looking for a regular thing.

So if I see a new veri every week, then we won't be looking for the same thing.

It's not like someone is going to be honest with a very if the sex is shit. Even if they did, the profile would just hide it

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
2 days ago

kent

I enjoy writing them, and reading them on the rare occasions we get them. It’s not often I worry about reading other peoples. Just knowing people have received a couple and are real is enough x

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By *arker secrets 321 OP Man
2 days ago

West Bromwich

Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
2 days ago

Hoddesdon

We’ve got a few verifications from the same people, can really see the development in the friendship lol xx I love reading verifications x

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By *ynamicnatureMan
2 days ago

Doncaster

I love having a good nosey at people's verie's it just adds another layer of interest to their profile.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
2 days ago

Bliss

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"

No. Because people would use them untruthfully to smear against innocent people...

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
2 days ago

Hoddesdon

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"

That’s an interesting point, it could definitely be used as a weapon in a negative way but you can choose which verifications are published, a rating system would be more fair but would probably look ridiculous lol x

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By *assySirenWoman
2 days ago

Dublin

I like reading them. Generally when I'm looking it's to see if it goes beyond the usual "genuine guy, cheeky glint in his eye" type ones

I like the details, I want to know if he's a good kisser things like that and I like when it ends with wanting to see them again

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By *sWyldWoman
2 days ago

Edinburgh

Sometimes I read them, Sometimes I even click on the profile as the trail can be amusing.

However given you chose what you display, they aren't really worth much more than some indication the person is real.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 days ago

Brum - ish

I like to read the veris potential meets have left for others - I think you can tell a lot about them from what’s important enough for them to comment on, what they enjoyed and how they express themselves.

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By *sWyldWoman
2 days ago

Edinburgh

It's also a useful way of working out if they have a 'type'

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 days ago

Belfast

For me, content is irrelevant. I'm more interested in who wrote them.

I certainly don't take them at face value because I've seen glowing reviews given to some by people who just a few weeks earlier were discussing those same fabbers in private and telling me they were dangerous, hideous, fat, ugly, deranged and should have their kids taken away by social services.

It's all smoke and mirrors.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
2 days ago

cardiff

No, don't like them, never have. It's just like being 'rated'. I have no interest in what someone thinks of someone they have slept with. It's weird.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
2 days ago

Manchester

I always read them, particularly if I have an interest in potentially meeting the person. Not to assess their skills but just that they are real and genuine, and the type of people they have met before.

If I get a message off a guy who only has verifications off size 8 blonde models for instance it would put me off because I wouldn't understand why he was messaging me (it has happened).

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 days ago

A den in the Glen

I love to read a good verification and usually leave 2 for people. A completely mentalist one full of quirks of our meet that will generally not be fit to display and of course a sincere one.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 days ago

Castlebar

"I always read them, particularly if I have an interest in potentially meeting the person. Not to assess their skills but just that they are real and genuine, and the type of people they have met before.

If I get a message off a guy who only has verifications off size 8 blonde models for instance it would put me off because I wouldn't understand why he was messaging me (it has happened). "

Yes this. Love a good nosey through verifications. And will avoid people that clearly have a "type" even if they say they don't.

I would take any generous praise on their skills with a pinch of salt. Its very subjective.

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
2 days ago

London

We look at them but if I'm honest don't really read them, it's more looking at the people they've met

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By *eroLondonMan
2 days ago

Mayfair

I enjoy reading verifications, and I enjoy writing them for others because I like to bestow praises and honorific platitudes to those I have met. I like the unconventional ones, injected with humour and quirky musings.

I enjoy reading the ones I've received and I'm also intrigued about the ones I didn't receive; they can be more telling.

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By *ympho6969Woman
2 days ago

glasgow

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"

If i guy is pushy or didn't respect wishes, you use the report then block function. People like that don't belong here.

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By *ost-girlWoman
2 days ago

lost in Edinburgh somewhere

If I remember about them, I'll glance at verifications to make sure the person I'm interested in is genuine.

It can be a good insight into what someone is like in general.

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By *oeBeansMan
2 days ago

Derby

I'll probably read them because even if they are all positive, there might be something mentioned that isn't for me. I also just take a look to see what type of guy they would be into and whether or not I fit into that.

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By *ripfillMan
2 days ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

In my view, verifications are important in a number of ways it gives the reader an insight and feel. ( if they are authentic ) to the person,

It gives an opinion and perspective, but it also gives an acknowledgment to that person’s attitude, skills and to some extent their persona.

It’s good to read them, to build a picture, that includes their profile which can make a statement.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
2 days ago

Merseyside

We look to see if they are very sexually active and don’t really believe superstud porno style stuff - looking for more substance

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By *ikesEmBigMan
2 days ago

Herts

I've had to hide my veris otherwise I'd be so busy, I'd never get anything done

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By *fffunCouple
2 days ago

Never you mind

We look at them to see if they are real people

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By *each needs some creamWoman
2 days ago

Ilfracombe

I look to see if they meet up for sex and not just socials. If I see loads of social meets then I pass on by. After all swinging is meeting up for sex not sitting around talking about sex.

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By *educing_EmCouple
2 days ago

Tipperary

I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 days ago

Leeds

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"

Guys already get a rough time on here without shit verifications being left....probably wouldn't be very many guys left on the site if they had to be shown.....and who's to say that what was written was actually true??.

Would you like a bad verification shown on your profile OP??

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 days ago

Leeds

"I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢"

I've had that happen...or they've asked someone to message me because they couldn't....plus it's really no-ones business who I've met and what I've gotten up to with x

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By *oeBeansMan
2 days ago

Derby

"I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢"

So when the police do it, it's gathering intel but when I do it, it's "creepy" and "invading boundaries"

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
2 days ago

ilkley

"I like reading them -i prefer humourous ones "

I like writing them - I prefer to do humourous ones

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By *educing_EmCouple
2 days ago

Tipperary

"I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢

I've had that happen...or they've asked someone to message me because they couldn't....plus it's really no-ones business who I've met and what I've gotten up to with x"

If veris are displayed then it's fair game, knock yourself out, read them.

Messaging people for a review of me feels a bit gross and weird.

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By *educing_EmCouple
2 days ago

Tipperary

"I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢

So when the police do it, it's gathering intel but when I do it, it's "creepy" and "invading boundaries"

I'm onto you beans

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 days ago

Leeds

"I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢

I've had that happen...or they've asked someone to message me because they couldn't....plus it's really no-ones business who I've met and what I've gotten up to with x

If veris are displayed then it's fair game, knock yourself out, read them.

Messaging people for a review of me feels a bit gross and weird."

They were swiftly blocked

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
2 days ago

Hoddesdon

Am I the only one that takes a verification personally lol, I wait for one and feel nervous if they don’t write one straight away lol, I love to know what they enjoyed and what was memorable to them x

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By *oeBeansMan
2 days ago

Derby

"I'm nosey so I like to read them.

I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.

I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢

So when the police do it, it's gathering intel but when I do it, it's "creepy" and "invading boundaries"

I'm onto you beans"

I wish you were

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By *cottish guy 555Man
1 day ago

London

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x

5 stars. Would shag again.

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By *myKnightCouple
1 day ago

London

Quote proud of mine! I definitely use them to see that others are real and reliable

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By *quirtyandflirty73Couple
1 day ago

hebden bridge

A good indicator in general but nothing beats a face to face

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
1 day ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Yes and I enjoy writing them, especially if the person has told me they're happy for me to make it silly, such as the lady whom I verified as being exactly as in her pics and nice to chat to, albeit plotting world domination through something particularly unlikely

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By *ympho6969Woman
1 day ago

glasgow

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x

Would you like a bad verification shown on your profile OP??"

You think it's fine to be pushy or ignore boundaries? And do nothing...

Those are the types of guys we supposedly want here? I don't think so...

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 day ago

Leeds

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x

Would you like a bad verification shown on your profile OP??

You think it's fine to be pushy or ignore boundaries? And do nothing...

Those are the types of guys we supposedly want here? I don't think so..."

Where have I said it's fine??

Ofcourse guys like that shouldn't be on here but as I DID say....

How true do you know that verification is?

Could it be someone just trying to cause drama etc...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 day ago

Reading

If they are very generic then that's the kind of person they meet. I like the ones that are a little different.

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By *ustincider888Man
1 day ago

Preston Ish

I very rarely bother reading them.

Only on the odd occasion have I read through someone's verifications.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
1 day ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I like reading verifications others have left and like to leave them when I have really enjoyed someone's cam.

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By *ealitybitesMan
1 day ago

Belfast

"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"

No I don't because as others have said it's too easily abused.

Over the years I've received a verification from someone I hadn't met and one from someone I passed in a hallway at a social who made it sound as though we had spent the night together.

Both of those were complete fabrications so if I have to display all verifications those would give a false impression.

I have also met people who turned out to be extremely nasty and vindictive after we had met. I had the option to hide their verifications because I didn't want anyone to know I had met them.

If all verifications had to be shown including negative ones, there would have been nothing stopping someone with an agenda from writing a follow up just because they didn't get their way the first time. They wouldn't be breaking fab rules because they had met in person, but the verification would be weaponised.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
24 hours ago

London

I like reading them as it, in most cases, gives you an idea of who they are and what they are like. It also shows who they have met which will tell you something aswell, be it for good or ill.

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By *naswingdressWoman
24 hours ago

Manchester (she/her)

I believe it very generally. A pattern of verifications might indicate whether someone is polite, not pushy, etc. I don't look for sexual prowess, I don't look for specifics. (Although sometimes you also look for what's not said, in a pattern of verifications)

It's secondary to my own observations.

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By *urnedoutniceagainMan
24 hours ago

louth

The problem with verifications is that if someone were to leave a bad one the receiver would just choose not to show it. Verifications are helpful but more a part of the bigger picture than the be all and end all

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
24 hours ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Hi folks of fab ...

Do u read people's veris and if u do how much of it do u believe?

If they are to be believed every guys a stud and every women is a porn star ...or do u just use them as a guide to prove their real ..

Thoughts ....x"

I don't pay any heed to claims of sexual prowess. The people they've met aren't me and I'm not them - nothing that happened between them would reflect on any potential meet with me.

Veris are useful from several perspectives. They can confirm or contradict what's written on someone's profile in terms of clearly stated preferences, tastes and interests. They can back up claims to be as equally interested in the social side as the naked. They can often be hilarious, entertaining and boost your interest, whilst equally being cringeworthy, OTT and reinforce any notions that someone definitely isn't for you.

Add in other factors such as the length of time since the last one, the number of repeat veris and the genders they're from, and there's a lot of potentially useful info there.

Volume has never bothered me. Nobody knows when someone joined and if you think a veri summary is an accurate record of all of someone's sexual interactions in their life then I have a bridge to sell you. 😉😂

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By *eekingFun84Man
14 hours ago

Dorking

Hi all, new to fab,

I see the benefits of them and the reads are great for extra ideas, but as an average single guy, trying to get those first few verifications from genuine women and couples is a struggle.

I think good photos also help, but to get good pictures and videos, you need meets, and you can’t get good meets without some nice verifications. If I was a company I could offer a good service at a good price to get the good reviews.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 hours ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Hi all, new to fab,

I see the benefits of them and the reads are great for extra ideas, but as an average single guy, trying to get those first few verifications from genuine women and couples is a struggle.

You don't need meets to get good pictures though.

Most women and couples probably prefer to see you, rather than those you've met in photos. Seeing an image where it's 90% a random woman and 10% the hand or dick of the profile owner isn't the best marketing strategy, trust me.

There's no end of creative ideas to take images of yourself.

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By *ingle thick cockMan
6 hours ago

garston

Getting one is the problem. I have arranged multiple meets with women and then cancelled because I dint have a veri. Difficult when you’re new to the site.

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By *carlettsWoman
6 hours ago

Harpenden

Not all as some people on here fake verify people so hard to know what's true and what's not these days sadly.

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 hours ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hi all, new to fab,

I see the benefits of them and the reads are great for extra ideas, but as an average single guy, trying to get those first few verifications from genuine women and couples is a struggle.

Prop up your phone using a book or similar. Take lots of photos using the timer function. Pose. It's very silly, and 90% of the pictures will be unusable, but it's how a lot of people do it.

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
5 hours ago

Scarborogh

We read them, for two reason.

We like to see if it’s casual meet ups or see people regularly.

Plus if it’s full of just men or 90% men and the odd couple it shows their primary play dynamics.

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By *ecky and justCouple
5 hours ago

Godalming

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By *ecky and justCouple
5 hours ago

Godalming

We read all veri’s of people we’re looking to meet.

It gives a good understanding of what they’re like and how they like to play.

We cherish all of ours as they show our journey through this lifestyle. Good memories of parties we’ve hosted and people we’ve met.

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