FabSwingers.com forum: desperate..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what makes people desperate to want sex..or why does it change people sometimes..after all its only about getting ur hole/cock yet they can revert to childlike behaviour

just wondering why, especially if its not about finding 'love'(or a regular partner)..is sex the best thing ever???

cant say Ive ever felt desperate for sex, I was a late 20 year old starter..in fact after my first cherrytaking I never had a shag in a few years... and never felt desperate

I wouldnt even pay for sex if I hadnt had it in agggggges and certainly have never had aching balls from not sowing the oats...have a wank at least

final bit:

those who find themselves desperate for sex and no intamacy(relationship wise) must have something wrong with them...IMO

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I need to think about this Mr Keenfucktographer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of fulfilment in other aspects of one's life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never felt desperate for sex ive been very eager to have it if someone has wound me up.

For me i like sex and i like the build up to it and such and i like the whole flirty banter but i don't have to answer to anyone and think about someone elses feelings all the time,and that's what comes from a relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

sex is a massive driving force, its why they use it to sell everything from cars to shampoo. Some people mistake sex for intimacy and therefore crave what they perceive it to bring.

That's what I think anyway

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I agree! I have been in sexless relationships in the past as I have also been in an obligated sexual relationship, I have also gone 2 years without, due to circumstances, I might feel horny at times, but I am selective who I have sex with, therefore I do have my toys to relieve those times of need, so whilst I may feel frustrated at times I have never been in the desperate scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free websites attract desparate people...

Sex can be the last thing on the list..

Intimacy and a connection are essential for me..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks aboves ... well I suppose Ive always found it strange..suppose I just dont understand stroppiness from a lack of basic fucks with people that arent likely to feature heavily in ur life

I used to be quite impulsive..still am at times..but it never felt like desperateness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Free websites attract desparate people...

Sex can be the last thing on the list..

Intimacy and a connection are essential for me..

STALKERALERT!!!!!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

those who find themselves desperate for sex and no intamacy(relationship wise) must have something wrong with them...IMO"

If intimacy is defined as a momentary sense of closeness, a brief form of relationship I would completely agree with that.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would rather have a cup of tea...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of self-worth perhaps?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I felt desperate for sex in my marriage only because I wanted it to work... in the end the sexual chemistry went which was very very sad..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why U wrote stalker alert on my post..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

those who find themselves desperate for sex and no intamacy(relationship wise) must have something wrong with them...IMO

If intimacy is defined as a momentary sense of closeness, a brief form of relationship I would completely agree with that. "

and of course I'm meaning this about all sexes...I pretty much understand ratios of men to women and understand possibly a few differences in how we act sexually to get 'meets'

but I definitely have seen some desperate people...and its ONLY for the small sexual element

I remembering being pestered by a guy to join me on meets..and after successfully engaging with a hottie woman(that I was dying to meet(not desperately lol), she had preliminary agreed to meet...him,me and HER!!!..she said she's make no promise of any sex..I was cool with that..guess what?

he thought that wasnt worth his while

I tried explaining to think about having the future possibility of meeting her again, and of course..thre could be a nice verify even socially based

totally unreasonable in my thinking to be honest, and if I have party invites here n there I just fail to engage with him..no point if he cant act un-desperate to get his hole

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure why U wrote stalker alert on my post..

I was joking ffs lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I would rather have a cup of tea...

Yeah, but it burns ya cock, mate!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It is, and always will be a biological urge.

The body and brain are conditioned that way, especially once you've enjoyed the endorphins released during sex, your brain will always associate that pleasure with the act of sex.

In people who aren't fully in control of themselves for whatever reason, or lack something in their lives, pleasurable activities are used to fill the void and make themselves happy. These can easily lead to desperation or addiction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think though opinions will vary between a man and a woman, as woman tend to _iew sex as an emotional thing over a physical need.

I for one it has and always be an emotional connection, one where in a relationship is intense and finding a match will not dissipate.

I think many people don't realise that sexually in an emotional sense not many people match or are perfect for each other...hence they are disappointed.

In a swinging sense, I can't speak as a single...but couple wise the emotional attachment between that couple and whoever you are with generally then is shared/projected on to the third party and that is my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is, and always will be a biological urge.

The body and brain are conditioned that way, especially once you've enjoyed the endorphins released during sex, your brain will always associate that pleasure with the act of sex.

shame for 'common people' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its never just been about filling a physical need for me. The simple mechanical act of sex does very little for me, it has to have an intimate component to it that comes from at least having a mental connection with the other party.

You know, everytime I type that it makes me realise just a little bit more that this lifestyle choice is, quite possibly, not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its never just been about filling a physical need for me. The simple mechanical act of sex does very little for me, it has to have an intimate component to it that comes from at least having a mental connection with the other party.

You know, everytime I type that it makes me realise just a little bit more that this lifestyle choice is, quite possibly, not for me. "

this lifestyle choice..I think u have that wrong ....

now if u are wanting to attend gangbangs,dogging and instant sexmeets..yes retract the statement lol

if not...use the scene how u are using it...

personally I'm adaptable..mostly

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By *avindaWoman
over a year ago

North Wales

I agree with that. All for no strings but the A should stand for attraction otherwise it is mechanical as you say.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've never understood how some people on here can get so blinkered in their pursuit of a wet cock/fanny that all sense of proportion and manners fly out of the window. We've all seen the posts asking 'why won't anyone meet me/us?' and when given advice, nine times out of ten it is rejected as they believe that they should be able to make the minimum amount of effort, or even no effort, to get shags fall into their laps. And if they don't get those shags, they come across as a bit, well, cross about it.

Not sure about anyone else but I find that sort of attitude incredibly unappealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I have really come across someone who is desperate for sex in the way I understand the word desperate. Intense desire yes fire in the loins that too but not desperate.

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