FabSwingers.com forum: A Question Of Confidence

By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Good folks:

How confident would you rate yourself to be?

For elucidation purposes, I refer to general confidence as opposed to confidence in sexual matters/procuring sexual partners.

I realise that the above question is somewhat ambiguous, as one can be highly confident in some areas of life yet sorely wanting in others, but indulge me nonetheless because I’m offering biscuits 👍🏻

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By *erryDelightsCouple
over a year ago

Derry

In this arena on a score out of 10? I'd confidently say -2. 😔

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By *ictotine DollWoman
over a year ago

1315 Mockingbird Lane

For me now very confident in myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Highly confident in my work place and field of expertise, low confidence in social situations and negative sexual confidence. That about covers it.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Quietly confident in almost all areas of life, partly because at my age I’m long past caring what other people might think, and partly because I’ve made peace with all my flaws and foibles. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of biscuits?

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"What sort of biscuits? "

Ginger Nuts AND Chocolate Digestives; it’s a prize of some fine note 😜

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By *exyScientistsCouple
over a year ago

Castlebar

"What sort of biscuits?

Ginger Nuts AND Chocolate Digestives; it’s a prize of some fine note 😜"

Ooh OK then...

I'd say it depends on the day. Can range from a 3 to a 6. But I can fake an 8 or even a 9 when required

Mrs

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

People think I’m confident. A lot say “cocky”.

I’m not. I just don’t give a f**k 🤷🏽‍♂️

But deep down, I have no self-belief & am a total pessimist

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By *uacksplat.Woman
over a year ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

generally, i am not a confident person in the slightest.

please may i have a digestive now? 🙂 Px

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I must regretfully admit that confidence on the whole, is a trait I sorely lack ☹️

….Now, for those biscuits… 😜

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

Erm...... in everyday life and swinging aside.....

A good comfortable, 3!😫

But I give off 9 vibes,

Fake it till ya make it and all of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very partial to a ginger nut, partial to a bit of biccy bribery too, so…

I’ve gotten more confident since hitting my 50s. I’ve found myself asserting my self interest in environments where I would have just kept quiet, tbh I suprised myself.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

In general? Probably about 4/10. Any higher than that makes me think I'll get ideas above my station and something will inevitably make it all come crashing down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7.5

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Probably a strong 8 if you take an average score across all situations and abilities.

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By *eeshellsCouple
over a year ago

Reading

We're both low in confidence but our recent exploits and the feedback we're getting on Fab have probably pushed us up to a 6 (and climbing)

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Uh. For things I know I'm good at, ten.

For things I know I'm bad at, less 💜

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As someone already said, quietly confident is how I would describe myself.

I don't like being the centre of attention but I don't struggle to talk to people or in most situations.

I have met people though who are enormously confident in their chosen career but their private life is an absolute shambles.

In public they are in charge while in private they have zero control.

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

A solid 10, I'm a classic over achiever, frequently to my detriment, In all aspects of my life. I find it really hard not to be one. That was from being told I am 'not good enough' every damn day. so I strive everyday to have the attitue of 'yes I am'

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
over a year ago

someplace

A good 5

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Ill go for 6

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Thank you for your answers everyone 😃

Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)

For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?

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By *bitofaslutWoman
over a year ago

Cannock

My confidence comes from a general "fuck it" approach to life - and from transitioning and finally being able to be the real me.

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By *inxy777Woman
over a year ago

essex

Work definitely at 8. Anywhere else a 5 or lower depends on the day. X.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃

Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)

For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?

Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?

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By *exyScientistsCouple
over a year ago

Castlebar

"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃

Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)

For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?

Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?

Yeah I'm out

Gonna have to do better 😪

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃

Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)

For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?

Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?

😂😂 Wait to witness my next ingenious stratagem of rolling out the big guns: Jammy Dodgers.… 😜👍🏻

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃

Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)

For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?

Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?

Yeah I'm out

Gonna have to do better 😪 "

☹️ *Searching cupboard in desperation for more enticing confectionery ammo* 😜

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By *bitofaslutWoman
over a year ago

Cannock

☹️ *Searching cupboard in desperation for more enticing confectionery ammo* 😜"

Pink wafers. The things I'd do for pink wafers.

That might be the diet speaking though...

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

☹️ *Searching cupboard in desperation for more enticing confectionery ammo* 😜

Pink wafers. The things I'd do for pink wafers.

That might be the diet speaking though..."

Ah ha! I have some of those 😃😃

Side story: I tried to dunk one in my coffee once….

It did not end well… 😵‍💫😵‍💫😜

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

In my line of work, I'm very confident... I have to be...so a 10

Can I have a ginger nut please??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence generally good a long as in shape if I lose a bit weight and look small it all goes to utter shit haha

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

I’m a solid 9.

Have to be in what I do for work.

Not sure where Becky would put herself but she’s confident at work.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

"I’m a solid 9.

Have to be in what I do for work.

Not sure where Becky would put herself but she’s confident at work. "

Can Becky put herself on my lap please?

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By *ery Norty but NiceMan
over a year ago

Felixstowe

Think I'm a 6 lack confidence but getting there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a confident person at all, so I would say 3/10

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By *ildoshagginsWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Confidence in terms of believing in myself is 100%. Well, what I mean is, I know if I put my mind to something I can achieve it (within reason).

I couldn't walk on water though, and neither could Jesus..or could he??

Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes.

Does it mean, I'm always attractive, all the time, to all the people? Coz that's a bit weird to me to feel that. Although its not far off 😉😆

Sexy for me, is a state of mind rather than appearance.

Although, if I try, I can appear sexy.

Does that answer the question?

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"In my line of work, I'm very confident... I have to be...so a 10

Can I have a ginger nut please??"

You may indeed 😜😍

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

In normal life, maybe about a 5 out of 10. But with sex it's a good 8.5

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Confidence in terms of believing in myself is 100%. Well, what I mean is, I know if I put my mind to something I can achieve it (within reason).

I couldn't walk on water though, and neither could Jesus..or could he??

Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes.

Does it mean, I'm always attractive, all the time, to all the people? Coz that's a bit weird to me to feel that. Although its not far off 😉😆

Sexy for me, is a state of mind rather than appearance.

Although, if I try, I can appear sexy.

Does that answer the question?"

It’s a very good answer in fact 👍🏻😃😃

Self belief is a truly wonderful thing to hold.

….Jesus flew didn’t he? Or was that Kal-El? 😜

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am generally happy to back myself. I also know when I am getting out of my depth and have no issue calling for backup - this means I am generally more confident to start something because I know have a plan B if it is wrong.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
over a year ago

Cannock

Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes. "

Yeah, I can FEEL sexy. Do other people fancy me? They have every reason not to.

It's hard for me to convert other people's attraction into believing they might actually take it further. To that point my confidence is very low.

I've had hands between my legs - consensually - and still found myself assuming they're not interested.

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By *ojangles69Woman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Confidence in terms of believing in myself is 100%. Well, what I mean is, I know if I put my mind to something I can achieve it (within reason).

I couldn't walk on water though, and neither could Jesus..or could he??

Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes.

Does it mean, I'm always attractive, all the time, to all the people? Coz that's a bit weird to me to feel that. Although its not far off 😉😆

Sexy for me, is a state of mind rather than appearance.

Although, if I try, I can appear sexy.

Does that answer the question?"

This for sure!!! I'm much more confident now. Life is too short worrying about other people opinion etc.

I am who I am if you don't like my unquieish step aside for the others who will be in stitches of laughter.

Now please can I have a chocolate covered ginger biscuits. Yum yummy!! 😀

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

….And yet another question (for a glorious Hob Nob this time)

At what point does confidence transmogrify into arrogance?

Certainly, whilst I am very much allured by the former, the latter is most repellent.

So many questions….so few biscuits left 😜

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hob nob you say…

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Hob nob you say… "

They’re depleting really fast though (I was feeling a bit peckish…) 😜

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hob nob you say…

They’re depleting really fast though (I was feeling a bit peckish…) 😜"

Ok I answered but accidentally deleted my answer.But it deserves a hob nob right? Surrrrreeeeely. .

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Hob nob you say…

They’re depleting really fast though (I was feeling a bit peckish…) 😜

Ok I answered but accidentally deleted my answer.But it deserves a hob nob right? Surrrrreeeeely. . "

😂 Of course; I received your well thought out answer via my psychical abilities/spidey-biscuit sense 😜

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm fairly confident throughout most areas of my life. But I attract even more confident people than myself as friends and lovers.

You can keep the rich tea though, you've truly disappointed me there SL

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I'm fairly confident throughout most areas of my life. But I attract even more confident people than myself as friends and lovers.

You can keep the rich tea though, you've truly disappointed me there SL

🙁🙁 Even my trusty pooch looks decidedly indignant whenever I offer her one as a treat 😵‍💫😵‍💫😜

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I appear confident. I am not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been told I seemed confident today but I never have been and possibly I never will be.

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By *yresMan
over a year ago

Midland town

Confidence is absolutely zero, prefer the distance and in the shadows to observe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a front man people think I'm a 10, in reality I'm a solid 3

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Any more biccies left?

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Any more biccies left?"

Let me see…..

Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Any more biccies left?

Let me see…..

Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻"

Now you're talking!

I'm generally very confident. Unless it's about how I look.

Now, about the custard creams....

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Any more biccies left?

Let me see…..

Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻

Now you're talking!

I'm generally very confident. Unless it's about how I look.

Now, about the custard creams....

Let’s prolong the pleasure with my exclusive, patented technique of taking off the top layer and licking the cream before gormandising both biscuits 😜👍🏻

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Any more biccies left?

Let me see…..

Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻

Now you're talking!

I'm generally very confident. Unless it's about how I look.

Now, about the custard creams....

Let’s prolong the pleasure with my exclusive, patented technique of taking off the top layer and licking the cream before gormandising both biscuits 😜👍🏻"

It's certainly special, but not exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.

Work wise I was very confident untill i took a drastic change in career path. Suddenly saw myself making mistakes and needing help from others a lot more than I was used to. That certainly took its toll on me. 3yrs in now and only just starting to get that confidence back to an extent.

Any hob nobs on offer?

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.

Any hob nobs on offer?

Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️

But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.

Any hob nobs on offer?

Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️

But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃"

Any tunnocks caramel logs?

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.

Any hob nobs on offer?

Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️

But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃

Any tunnocks caramel logs? "

Sadly not….but Tunnocks Tea Cakes - I can supply 👍🏻👍🏻😃😃

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.

Any hob nobs on offer?

Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️

But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃

Any tunnocks caramel logs?

Sadly not….but Tunnocks Tea Cakes - I can supply 👍🏻👍🏻😃😃"

Buggers can't be choosers i suppose. Pass one over please

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

It changes all the time based on company activity location if i was to give an average id say around 7 or 8 now

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By *ynamicnatureMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

I would describe myself as being quite upbeat and confident in general life, even if I have to fake it until I make it sometimes. Being positive never does anyone any harm.

There are certain situations that make all my confidence instantly evaporate though, one of them being public speaking. Posting on these forums sort of feels like that sometimes.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Surrey

I'm very confident and can talk to anybody sbout sex, swinging and ,sensuality

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By *ornyman34Man
over a year ago

ipswich

Snap

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By *ojanMan
over a year ago

Bedford

I think I used to be as i get older now I tend to think before I talk but chatting on here sometimes feels like a one way conversation so it’s deflating sometimes but you still gotta keep going

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I am very confident. I can chat to most people and years of professional networking has left me with no fear of working a room full of strangers to find the people on my wavelength.

Work-wise I'm confident though my imposter syndrome does a number on me at times. I have to remind myself that ex-bosses have tried to poach me several times, so I must be OK at the job if they know my performance level and still want to hire me!

Sexually... nope. Very little confidence. Otherwise yes, I know who I am and I'm confident in myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no confidence atall in pretty much anything.

If you imagine in Forumla 1, the teams are the back are just there to make up the numbers. They've not going to win, they just exist. This is me entirely.

I even had a co-worker female tell me should could smell my lack of confidence!

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By *xbabyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

-0

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