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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington

So 98% of messages either deleted or left on read, just wondering from women n couples if I'm worthy of meeting you etc.. if u don't wanna reply here DM please

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sure you are. You're not bad looking

Are you sending messages based on the profile you've read?

How's your profile? Is it the best advertisement of you that you can create?

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham

Your profile bio starts off quite negatively where you out yourself down for not being attractive. People will see that instant negativity and it will put them off - you need to be more upbeat and sell yourself positively.

But it's also not true - you're not a bad looking bloke at all!

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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington

Sometimes I ask how they are, send a face pic, see if there intrested in meeting at all, sometimes I asking if there just upnfor meetingnm and having fun. Some are rude and call me ugly etc, and thanks for saying I'm not bad looking 👌

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By *parkle1974Woman
22 weeks ago

Leeds

Tbh OP you aren't my cup of tea (mainly because you are outside of my preferred age range)

Your profile is quite bland and basic which wouldn't hold my attention.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
22 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane


"So 98% of messages either deleted or left on read, just wondering from women n couples if I'm worthy of meeting you etc.. if u don't wanna reply here DM please"
we’ll your verifications suggest otherwise op just keep on what your doing & just use this site to see what’s happening in around your local area

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By *orthern StarsCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham

You've had 8 meets so you must be doing something right

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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington

Yea i never know how to sell myself ha! Or socially awkward 😅😅 and thanks love the photos on ur profile

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
22 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane


"Your profile bio starts off quite negatively where you out yourself down for not being attractive. People will see that instant negativity and it will put them off - you need to be more upbeat and sell yourself positively.

But it's also not true - you're not a bad looking bloke at all! "
also this don’t put yourself down!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Sometimes I ask how they are, send a face pic, see if there intrested in meeting at all, sometimes I asking if there just upnfor meetingnm and having fun. Some are rude and call me ugly etc, and thanks for saying I'm not bad looking 👌"

Keep in mind that many women get many, many messages. "How are you" is polite, but when you're being bombarded, it's also... I want to describe it as benign spam.

Ignore anyone who's rude to you. Says much more about them than you. I've seen some people whose faces I'm not sure a mother could love (I say in the abstract, about no one in particular), and there's no need to tell anyone that.

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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington

Yea had a few, just keep getting rejected hard 😅😅😅 so makes me think to not bother with the site half the time,

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yea had a few, just keep getting rejected hard 😅😅😅 so makes me think to not bother with the site half the time, "

The site can be tough going

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham


"Yea had a few, just keep getting rejected hard 😅😅😅 so makes me think to not bother with the site half the time, "

You're not on your own there fella. But as someone pointed out earlier, you've got a decent number of veris and have a telly met people. You're already doing much better than half the men on here.

You seem like a really good guy, don't let the rejections affect you adversely cos it's absolutely not just you it happens to

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

As others have said, don't be negative in your profile

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham


"Yea had a few, just keep getting rejected hard 😅😅😅 so makes me think to not bother with the site half the time,

You're not on your own there fella. But as someone pointed out earlier, you've got a decent number of veris and have a telly met people. You're already doing much better than half the men on here.

You seem like a really good guy, don't let the rejections affect you adversely cos it's absolutely not just you it happens to "

*Actually met people. Fecking typos

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
22 weeks ago

Always on the move

You're better looking than me OP and had more meets. I wouldn't worry.

Maybe have a Fab break if it's getting to you. I take regular breaks to save my own sanity

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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington

Yea i know I've had a few meets would love tontry a few more and have a regular 1 or 2 I could meet ha! Duno think low self esteem lately from it all!

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By *upanovaMan
22 weeks ago

Sheffield

It is like cold call sales, at best a 5% sell/meet rate for single guys.

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By *upanovaMan
22 weeks ago

Sheffield

Improve your profile bio. Lose the dick pick and get creative with your photos. Can't believe I am offering advice as you are in my catchment area lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yea i know I've had a few meets would love tontry a few more and have a regular 1 or 2 I could meet ha! Duno think low self esteem lately from it all! "

Use the reply+quote button (below the post you're replying to, on the right hand side) so we know who you're talking to.

You're doing ok as it goes, here, it seems. Try not to take it personally

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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington


"

You're doing ok as it goes, here, it seems. Try not to take it personally"

Will try not too ha!

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By *upanovaMan
22 weeks ago

Sheffield


"

You're doing ok as it goes, here, it seems. Try not to take it personally

Will try not too ha! "

Appreciate it's easier said than done. You can always take a break, and come back fresher.

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

You're doing ok as it goes, here, it seems. Try not to take it personally

Will try not too ha!

Appreciate it's easier said than done. You can always take a break, and come back fresher. "

Yes, my messages are meant to be encouraging, here

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By *inamic-MinxyCouple
22 weeks ago

Blackpool

Try not to be too negative and put yourself down and build up some self confidence. Nothing wrong with you at all.

Got to remember on this site that guys outnumber the rest last time I saw at about 100-1. My advice work on your bio and add what you're looking for and after and make it a fun read for interested people. Main one confidence is key people really are intuitive and pick up on it.

I've been here myself and just took sometime and now I'm in a swingers relationship, so things do change.

I got myself to swingers clubs and started to interact with those with similar interests. Always try make a good first Impression when you send that first message again make you stand out in it.

If it can happen for me then you have nothing to worry about try relax and let it come naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

You should worry?!

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By *unchy2016 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Castle Donnington


"You should worry?! "

Why should I worry? 😅

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By *orthern StarsCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham


"You should worry?! "

Why should he?

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By *ympho6969Woman
22 weeks ago

glasgow

Since you don't accom and neither do I, it would be an instant ignore from me. I also check the smoking one.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
22 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Worthy of meeting you sounds pretty pedestally.

Most people aren't attracted to most people.

You look fine. Probably above average, definitely better than the endless sea of profiles with only penis pictures.

As has been mentioned, a negative profile won't help your case. Generally women like to see some idea of what someone wants and offers, and get a general idea of compatibility from a profile. Not many want to connect with undefined negativity.

Good luck OP 💜

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By *eyond PurityCouple
22 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I don’t think all face pics work and especially ones that are more book of face pics. That last pic you look angry and/or d*unk.

You need to show your body too.

You haven’t put a lot in your profile wording so basically all people have to go off is your 4 face pics which clearly aren’t taken when in a sexy mood.

K

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By *eyond PurityCouple
22 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

This site can make everyone feel bad at times too.

You’ve got meets so clearly you aren’t as bad as you think.

Get your headspace right and make your profile less negative.

Good luck

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