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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just awkward as fuck generally and I feel very sorry for anyone interacting with me

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
over a year ago

Always on the move

50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.

I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope "

To both bits?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am just awkward as fuck generally and I feel very sorry for anyone interacting with me "

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By *llie AssMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

On here? No, constantly reaching for the moon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.

I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore."

Hope your friendship remains strong ❤️

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?

On here? No, constantly reaching for the moon!"

Shoot for the stars so if you fall you land on a cloud

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes"
how many times

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
over a year ago

Always on the move


"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.

I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore.

Hope your friendship remains strong ❤️"

So far it has. Never easy putting yourself out there like that. But hey ho. We only get one trip don't we.

Fab world. I'm usually fancied back once I'm given the chance of a social weirdly. It's getting to the social first is the issue 😂

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.

I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore.

Hope your friendship remains strong ❤️

So far it has. Never easy putting yourself out there like that. But hey ho. We only get one trip don't we.

Fab world. I'm usually fancied back once I'm given the chance of a social weirdly. It's getting to the social first is the issue 😂"

Getting initial interest is hard but it’s so good that you’re easily liked by others in person

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.

I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.

I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of "

Real.

This is your year though.

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By *uchessdoeWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I don't think I've ever fancied a friend like that!

As to whether people I fancy always fancy me back...eh, but we always live in hope

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think I've ever fancied a friend like that!

As to whether people I fancy always fancy me back...eh, but we always live in hope "

It’s the hope that kills us

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By *uchessdoeWoman
over a year ago

Northampton


"I don't think I've ever fancied a friend like that!

As to whether people I fancy always fancy me back...eh, but we always live in hope

It’s the hope that kills us "

Oh THANKS Pickle 😭

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes how many times"

Not sure because I can be a bit shy so don't always make an approach. When I do it's maybe 50/50

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Nope lol

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Nope, I'm usually so off on picking up cues and vibes. So I just ignore it now and assume they don't. Until it's blatant attention I'm oblivious cos I used to read too much into it

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Who knows, I’ve never made the first move due to the crippling fear of rejection.

I’m also not very good at telling when people are interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think I've ever fancied a friend like that!

As to whether people I fancy always fancy me back...eh, but we always live in hope

It’s the hope that kills us

Oh THANKS Pickle 😭"

Happy to help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes how many times

Not sure because I can be a bit shy so don't always make an approach. When I do it's maybe 50/50"
that’s good bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty akward in general so no lol

A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope lol"
lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope, I'm usually so off on picking up cues and vibes. So I just ignore it now and assume they don't. Until it's blatant attention I'm oblivious cos I used to read too much into it "
very interesting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who knows, I’ve never made the first move due to the crippling fear of rejection.

I’m also not very good at telling when people are interested. "
hear that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m pretty akward in general so no lol

A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it "
agree about the friends bit. But it’s not always that easy to lose friendships.

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By *ice guy finishes lastMan
over a year ago

scunthorpe

To be honest I think most ignore as they get swamped with same old compliments and then some just can't take a compliment for what it is

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I dont make the first approach so usually if they have contacted me first then I assume at least some interest unless it's a forum person then I dont assume that.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It's different for me because I'm reciprosexual. So that removes the element of rejection from my side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's different for me because I'm reciprosexual. So that removes the element of rejection from my side. "
it’s really interesting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I think most ignore as they get swamped with same old compliments and then some just can't take a compliment for what it is "

I think compliments simply just don’t mean much to some people.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"It's different for me because I'm reciprosexual. So that removes the element of rejection from my side. it’s really interesting"

Working just from the miniscule pool of people that might find me sexually attractive ... it is rare that I fancy them back

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby


"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.

I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of

Real.

This is your year though. "

I've said that for the last few years too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's different for me because I'm reciprosexual. So that removes the element of rejection from my side. it’s really interesting

Working just from the miniscule pool of people that might find me sexually attractive ... it is rare that I fancy them back "

I find a lot of people sexually attractive and it’s rare that they fancy me back.

But it is what it is

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By *estructionDollyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I never approach people first so I don't have this awkward situation 😅 I was friendzoned so many times in my 20s I gave up. If someone is interested in me they can come tell me, otherwise I am happy living my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.

I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of

Real.

This is your year though.

I've said that for the last few years too "

About United. Not about yourself

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

People I am friends with first I don’t tend to expect anything more from. I wouldn’t want to change the friendship if they didn’t feel the same way so they would need to very direct that they fancied me for me to do anything about it.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m pretty akward in general so no lol

A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it agree about the friends bit. But it’s not always that easy to lose friendships. "

Depends better friendless than the guy living in friend zone

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By *herry.bombWoman
over a year ago

basingstoke

I’m not afraid to make the first move, but it’s rarely been reciprocated. It did make a few work friendships awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life or on fab? I’m fab hot ao on fab it’s usually reciprocated. In real life not so much

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

usually if its a woman I fins the reply is ,, I like you as and you are pretty but I just couldn't date a trans person .

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Not always. I'm a doubly acquired taste.

1, they have to be into Tgirls

2, they have to be into Tgirls with reasonable sized boobs

Not for everyone

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby


"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.

I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of

Real.

This is your year though.

I've said that for the last few years too

About United. Not about yourself "

Mate, 3 good signings and we're there. I swear!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People I am friends with first I don’t tend to expect anything more from. I wouldn’t want to change the friendship if they didn’t feel the same way so they would need to very direct that they fancied me for me to do anything about it.

Kx"

Makes sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m pretty akward in general so no lol

A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it agree about the friends bit. But it’s not always that easy to lose friendships.

Depends better friendless than the guy living in friend zone"

It’s only a friend zone if you don’t imagine yourself ever being nothing more than friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m not afraid to make the first move, but it’s rarely been reciprocated. It did make a few work friendships awkward "
work crushes are the worst in that sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In real life or on fab? I’m fab hot ao on fab it’s usually reciprocated. In real life not so much "

They’re both just as real.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?

usually if its a woman I fins the reply is ,, I like you as and you are pretty but I just couldn't date a trans person . "

So that’s a bit shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not always. I'm a doubly acquired taste.

1, they have to be into Tgirls

2, they have to be into Tgirls with reasonable sized boobs

Not for everyone "

Reasonable sized

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.

I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of

Real.

This is your year though.

I've said that for the last few years too

About United. Not about yourself

Mate, 3 good signings and we're there. I swear!"

😜

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By *uacksplat.Woman
over a year ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

i don't tell them 🙂 Px

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

I've stopped.... And winks be gone too 🤣

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Is a 50-50 situation OP but just for your peace of mind and you will get that urge someday. So say what you have to say it’s better in the long run for you

By all means it’s not easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i don't tell them 🙂 Px "

Well that’s no good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've stopped.... And winks be gone too 🤣"
stopped what?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is a 50-50 situation OP but just for your peace of mind and you will get that urge someday. So say what you have to say it’s better in the long run for you

By all means it’s not easy "

I always tell them if I have feelings❤️

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. This is why I don’t actively pursue anyone. Unless they are clear they are interested in me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. This is why I don’t actively pursue anyone. Unless they are clear they are interested in me.

"

I’m clearly interested in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. This is why I don’t actively pursue anyone. Unless they are clear they are interested in me.

I’m clearly interested in you "

💋

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

It's very rare that I'm actively into someone who isn't into me 💜

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's very rare that I'm actively into someone who isn't into me 💜"

Must be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I tell 'em.

Sometimes they reciprocate, sometimes they don't. I've usually met them in person at a social event or for a coffee before I know if I fancy them, though. I don't send any first messages knowing that I fancy anybody.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I tell them. It's rarely positive 🙄

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

Usually yes.

If I have a friendship or something already, I think I would’ve made it a little bit obvious from the beginning.

I think if you have a platonic friend and then all of a sudden you tell them you fancy them, that would be seen as a red flag either you’re playing games with that person or not being honest. Of course occasionally attraction it slowly overtime, but you can still be transparent about that as it’s happening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tell them. It's rarely positive 🙄"

I usually don’t mind. Today is just a bad day.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Gosh no. It's hardly ever reciprocated.

I don't tell someone I fancy them but I'm not a subtle person so it's usually fairly obvious!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I tell them. It's rarely positive 🙄

I usually don’t mind. Today is just a bad day. "

Hugs for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re a Good looking guy! I’d keep that friendship strong. If you were going to make a move it should’ve been done at the beginning, because once you’re in the friend zone it’s very hard to get out!

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By *inkShyWoman
over a year ago

near Windsor

I don't tend to step and tell them, I'm shy and worried I'll be rejected. I fancied a colleague from afar, after 10 years, failed marriages and relationships, he told me he fancied me 🤣

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

Yes. I've never really been turned down. That's not because I'm truly stunning or anything like that, I just don't usually say anything unless I'm fairly certain it'll be reciprocated to some extent.

It's never made a friendship awkward. I normally don't find people attractive unless there's a friendship already there so... it works for me. Actually no, it's ruined a friendship a couple of times after it's gone tits up and that's awkward. Not for me so much

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By *r_Mrs.DSCouple
over a year ago

Anglesey

Nope. I wait to see if they like me, before I let slip that I'm attracted to them 🫣 Probably not the best approach, but it's working for us 🤣 Tbf, on here, everyone I've liked (and messaged with) have liked me back. Idk if it'd be the same meeting someone away from Fab 🤷‍♀️

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?

Yes. I've never really been turned down. That's not because I'm truly stunning or anything like that, I just don't usually say anything unless I'm fairly certain it'll be reciprocated to some extent.

It's never made a friendship awkward. I normally don't find people attractive unless there's a friendship already there so... it works for me. Actually no, it's ruined a friendship a couple of times after it's gone tits up and that's awkward. Not for me so much

"

lol

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sometimes they have and Sometimes they haven't.

Sometimes they lose interest before I do .

Sometimes, I'm so convinced I'd be rejected, I don't even shoot my shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually yes actually… surprisingly never really been turned down especially in person x

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By *r_Mrs.DSCouple
over a year ago

Anglesey


"...Sometimes, I'm so convinced I'd be rejected, I don't even shoot my shot."

Yeah, if I don't get even a hint, I won't embarrass us 🤭🤣

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By *pace cowboy05Man
over a year ago

wales/london/ southwest

I only ask if I am 99% confident too old nowadays to deal with the rejection and embarrassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never make first move so never know

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By *IXEN200Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

I've come to the conclusion I'm highly unfanciable so I don't tell anyone if I fancy them now, my heart is total ice and very cold

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By *uicy_peach79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Very rarely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally never get to the point of plucking up the courage to ask 🤣🤣

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By *ne.eyed.willyMan
over a year ago

Ammanford

Sometimes yes more than most no.

Hay ho, life goes on

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Fancied? Sometimes

Loved? The love is always unrequited

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By *vaRoseWoman
over a year ago

Ankh-Morpork

I’m terrible at flirting and I’m learning to be more guarded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never have the courage to do that. Ever.

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By *inxy777Woman
over a year ago

essex

I don’t tell them! 🙈😂

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"I've come to the conclusion I'm highly unfanciable so I don't tell anyone if I fancy them now, my heart is total ice and very cold"

Snap xx

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'd say no they don't, more than yes they do. But I don't have the personality to spend forever messaging people, I'd rather meet them and let them judge me in person. People that meet me generally want to see me again. People that I message are hit and miss because I don't want to spend my life on my phone building an online connection.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting that women are generally saying they wouldn’t admit feelings because of fear of rejection. But like whoever admits it to you has to face that fear of rejection too?

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Interesting that women are generally saying they wouldn’t admit feelings because of fear of rejection. But like whoever admits it to you has to face that fear of rejection too?"

Women are notoriously shit and reserved in this area. But then take umbrage when the wrong men make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they reciprocate. Have you seen me!???

😝

Friends on the other hand would normally remain that. If my feelings towards them changed I'm sure i would say something. It doesn't need to be awkward as I wouldn't expect them to feel the same way, but I'd feel awkward if I wasn't honest with them. I think.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

SW1A1AA

I've never really said it or had it said to me unless it's when seeing someone.

I've never just walked up to someone and told them I fancy them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course they reciprocate. Have you seen me!???

😝

Friends on the other hand would normally remain that. If my feelings towards them changed I'm sure i would say something. It doesn't need to be awkward as I wouldn't expect them to feel the same way, but I'd feel awkward if I wasn't honest with them. I think. "

I’ve seen a picture of you yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say no they don't, more than yes they do. But I don't have the personality to spend forever messaging people, I'd rather meet them and let them judge me in person. People that meet me generally want to see me again. People that I message are hit and miss because I don't want to spend my life on my phone building an online connection. "

Ok so meet me then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting that women are generally saying they wouldn’t admit feelings because of fear of rejection. But like whoever admits it to you has to face that fear of rejection too?

Women are notoriously shit and reserved in this area. But then take umbrage when the wrong men make the first move "

I’m not gonna lie, I agree on this.

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By *etwife8230Couple
over a year ago

Newport

No idea ,never really tell anyone I fancy them x

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
over a year ago

someplace

I always tell but if I don't I make it quite obvious

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
over a year ago

here there and everywhere

I can’t remember ever making the first move and telling someone I fancy them… I don’t like the idea of being rejected/hurt so I’m quite reserved

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By *lroticWoman
over a year ago

Close

Yes very awkward unless it’s done in the correct way. It’s okay if done in the right circumstances as light hearted as possible.

Just my opinion on it.

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

UK

if a women ends a sentence to a bloke on here with a X , the bloke thinks she fancies him.

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

In a nutshell, no they don’t.

If they are already a friend I don’t say anything to avoid it becoming awkward

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'll answer this from within the confines of Fab, as opposed to real life.

It's not easy because the majority of people I chat to are so geographically dispersed that it's nigh on impossible to just come out and tell them that I fancy them across the ether. A perfectly harmonious conversation can go horribly wrong if I'm upfront about my attractions towards them.

Instead I rely on wordplay, textual nuances and ruffling of my plumage to see if they pick up on my roundabout way of telling them that — "y'know, I quite fancy you..." sort of thing.

And if they don't fancy me back...I just whitewash the messaging until the conversation becomes just friendly. It's a wonderfully spineless way of testing the waters of acceptance and rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I only approach them face to face, and I'm pretty good at reading body language. Yes.

Online I have a literal mind and often misread a situation, so its easier if I like him, to arrange a social asap to gauge his attraction to me.

With friends it's normally been a testing snog, sometimes the chemistry is there, sometimes it's not, I've never lost a friendship from that though

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By *upanovaMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I am just awkward as fuck generally and I feel very sorry for anyone interacting with me "

But you take amazing photos 😁

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm - chances being probably not. But that’s ok!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

London

Some do, some don’t.

🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *oveandfastWoman
over a year ago

Bromsgrove


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

I’ve only made my feelings known a couple of times and I’ve always been rejected so never really bother now 😂

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By *zChiefWoman
over a year ago

middle of somewhere

I am really shy ...so rarely get to that point x

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri


"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?

If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "

People fancy my friends not me, however in the past when I left a company I told two staff members 'goodbye and I really fancied you' and apparently if they had known then they would have done something about it.

So me and my low self-esteem reckons this means I'm not fanciable but they'll take one for the team of they know I'm a dead cert.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As I only approach them face to face, and I'm pretty good at reading body language. Yes.

Online I have a literal mind and often misread a situation, so its easier if I like him, to arrange a social asap to gauge his attraction to me.

With friends it's normally been a testing snog, sometimes the chemistry is there, sometimes it's not, I've never lost a friendship from that though "

When do I get a testing snog

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By *he Old School RockersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Wouldn’t know as I’ve never been brave enough to tell anyone

Kink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve told people I fancy them it’s not been a mutual thing. I don’t mind, I’m not naive enough to think that everyone I fancy will fancy me in return.

Those that do, result.

Those that don’t, no drama.

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By *urry BlokeMan
over a year ago

I don't message people first

Damage limitation

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I don't really reach out or message

My overthinking head can't deal with it

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

no.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
over a year ago

North West

There haven't been many occasions when my interest hasn't been reciprocated. Crikey. I guess I'm better than I thought at picking up signals and shooting my shot. 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of past rejection on here. Recently less so but that's mainly because we've not bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of past rejection on here. Recently less so but that's mainly because we've not bothered

"

Pressed send too soon.

Recent compatibility has been limited to me and one person.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Sometimes they claim to, string me along then just ghost me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes they claim to, string me along then just ghost me "

This sounds awful.

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

Used to a few years back but now less so as an old guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure I understand the question?

Of course they fancy me. Who **doesnt**

🤣🤣🤣

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Not usually. Certainly not these days. Maybe when you’re more active on the forums it’s a different story. 🤷

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually in the past. Not been messaging anyone this time round so not tested it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m not sure I understand the question?

Of course they fancy me. Who **doesnt**

🤣🤣🤣"

Sexy and you know it yeah?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not usually. Certainly not these days. Maybe when you’re more active on the forums it’s a different story. 🤷"

I’m active in this bastard place- still nobody fancies me.

‘I like you, just not in THAT way’

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
over a year ago

North West

Me & the Mrs are always casually looking for talent when we are out & about & we reckon we are only attracted to a maximum of about 5% of people that we see.

So if this is typical, you can see how hard it is for two couples to match up.

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
over a year ago

North West

Sorry not sure if that answers the OPs question, more of a general musing!

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By *TWboyMan
over a year ago

kings Lynn


"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.

I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore."

Let it go matey - I’ve been there and it never ends well. 🙁

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No typically they don't unfortunately

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By *TWboyMan
over a year ago

kings Lynn

Ridiculous…. You look fantastic

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

About 5 years ago it was like that i was unstoppable but now i stay out of that kind of nonesense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something that ever happens to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not usually. Certainly not these days. Maybe when you’re more active on the forums it’s a different story. 🤷

I’m active in this bastard place- still nobody fancies me.

‘I like you, just not in THAT way’"

I think some people fancy you. Dunno who though 🤔

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boyfriend has trouble attracting other females I would love another woman to come on to him it would be so hot

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