FabSwingers.com forum: What tips would you give newbies on here?

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
18 weeks ago

North West

Something I've just thought about.

I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away.

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By *uchessdoeWoman
18 weeks ago

Northampton

"Something I've just thought about.

I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away. "

And don't message repeatedly if your first one isn't responded to!

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
18 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Use more words.

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By *eroLondonMan
18 weeks ago

Mayfair

Don't send any introductory messages or - at the very least - limit them to a dozen per year if you feel compelled.

Instead, wait for them to message you first.

That approach has served me well.

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By *abluesbabyMan
18 weeks ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

Read profiles.

In fact I'd offer that advice for many veterans too!

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
18 weeks ago

Durham

Read people's profiles. If you don't even remotely match what they're looking for, don't message them

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By *an8iMan
18 weeks ago

Bilston

A no reply is a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Not too bother!

Seriously though, to not be desperate and stick to their self worth. Don't pander to people, if they want face pics, phone number, snapchat etc and you don't want to give it out the don't.

But just have a wank, its far easier, less hassle and the end result is the same - you cum!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
18 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Look around at profiles of singles who are well verified and see what’s required to sell yourself.

Don’t start messaging people until you’ve got a good shop window.

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
18 weeks ago

Durham

"Not too bother!

Seriously though, to not be desperate and stick to their self worth. Don't pander to people, if they want face pics, phone number, snapchat etc and you don't want to give it out the don't.

But just have a wank, its far easier, less hassle and the end result is the same - you cum!"

Having a wank before you hit send should be a site rule. If you'd still hit send in that moment of post-nut clarity then go for it, otherwise delete the draft

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Grow a thick skin

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"A no reply is a reply "

It makes me laugh when I read this. Acutally, it isn't. Imagine trying to get away with that at work when your manager sends you an email and you don't reply, try and claim not replying was a reply. Its not, its ignoring the message or email in my example.

However, it should of course be interpreted as not interested. This is whether the message shows as read by the recipient and they choose not to reply, or it stays in their Inbox and remains unread.

But a reply it ain't!

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
18 weeks ago

Northampton

Use this site for 2 things; identify socials/club nights. Then to stay in touch with people you’ve met.

Identify what you add to the lifestyle and put this ahead of what you want out of it

Put in the leg work at socials/clubs and be known for being a decent player

That’s it. We’ve met some great people who employ this approach. Met zero people who take a ‘fancy a fuck’ approach

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By *EAT..85Woman
18 weeks ago

Nottingham

"Don't send any introductory messages or - at the very least - limit them to a dozen per year if you feel compelled.

Instead, wait for them to message you first.

That approach has served me well."

Do you just bread crumb them in the forums instead?

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By *ad NannaWoman
18 weeks ago

East London

Do it your way.

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By *eoBloomsMan
18 weeks ago

Springfield

Get out while you still can !

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By *TRAY-CATMan
18 weeks ago

Can't give advice to the women on here ,BUT ..

Guys , firstly take your right hand and feel your testicle roll it around a little when you realise you have a full set ...stop asking your wife if you h can buy stuff ....

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
18 weeks ago

North West

Being patient is another tip I'd give. People have lives, jobs, kids etc. So just be patient and understanding.

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By *oeBeansMan
18 weeks ago

Derby

Take a few good photos, not necessarily naked, but good lighting, teasing poses etc. and make sure you know what you want from the site and reflect that in your bio. Focus on whether your own profile is the best it can be before you even consider sending any messages out

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Don’t expect any messages or reply’s.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
18 weeks ago

North West

"Get out while you still can !

That is the spirit 😂

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By *ellhungvweMan
18 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Be yourself and behave as you would normally. What works in real life works here too.

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By *eroLondonMan
18 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Don't send any introductory messages or - at the very least - limit them to a dozen per year if you feel compelled.

Instead, wait for them to message you first.

That approach has served me well.

Do you just bread crumb them in the forums instead? "

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PM me and I shall tell you. ❣️💐

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By *cLovin2Man
18 weeks ago

West Drayton

Don't expect to meet any ladies if you're a guy. You're better off going to the club scene

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By *layfullsamMan
18 weeks ago

Solihull

Bugger helping the competition to improve

lol

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By *amantha_NiteTV/TS
18 weeks ago

The Lake District

Read your own profile and any messages you send out loud to yourself,see if what you write actually sounds like it makes sense and wasnt written by Yoda

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
18 weeks ago

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Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

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By *rettydevouringnotesWoman
18 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode."

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

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By *for77Man
18 weeks ago

Adlington

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”

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By *eroLondonMan
18 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Account ➡️ Privacy Settings ➡️ "Hide on looked at me". ✖️

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By *oeBeansMan
18 weeks ago

Derby

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”"

Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen

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By *for77Man
18 weeks ago

Adlington

Firstly, be yourself.

Secondly, treat others how you expect to be treated.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
18 weeks ago

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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

It is invaluable! 😄 Go to Account ➡️ Privacy Settings ➡️ Hide on looked at me

Then you won’t get endless messages saying ‘Not your type?’ when you have noseyed on their profile 😂

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By *ellhungvweMan
18 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Read your own profile and any messages you send out loud to yourself,see if what you write actually sounds like it makes sense and wasnt written by Yoda

Read aloud your words must you, or like mine, sound they will.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
18 weeks ago

East Sussex

Women - set message filters to block everyone and search for profiles you feel you're compatible with. Be clear in your intentions and unambiguous but polite in rejection.

Men - only message profiles you're sure you're compatible with. Be clear in your intentions and polite if rejected.

Couples - see above.

Everyone - don't be an arse.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
18 weeks ago

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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”

Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
18 weeks ago

North West

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode."

When someone first mentioned Ninja mode on here, I thought they were on about the Ninja Warrior show 😂😂

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By *for77Man
18 weeks ago

Adlington

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”

Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen

Ha ha ha!!

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
18 weeks ago

Watermouth

Don't send the same message to us every month, read our profile before writing.

Don't get blocked.

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By *rettydevouringnotesWoman
18 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”

Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen

Abso-freaking-lutely

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
18 weeks ago

Hatfield

Don’t expect too much …. Have a sense of humour.. be kind

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By *teveanddebsCouple
18 weeks ago

Norwich

To sum up:

Don't be a cunt!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
18 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Something I've just thought about.

I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away. "

Noted

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By *eoBloomsMan
18 weeks ago

Springfield

A serious reply. Value yourself, your energy and time highly and invest them carefully. Many people here will waste your time and energy - don't let them. Don't ever lower your standards, and if it's really not working for you, move on.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
18 weeks ago

North West

"Something I've just thought about.

I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away.

Noted

😂😂😂😂

Pester away

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By *ilverfox for youMan
18 weeks ago

Hull

Patience

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By *naswingdressWoman
18 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Keep your expectations low, and your risks minimal. I don't mean like, risk of being hurt, although that too.

If I agree to meet X in a pub and they don't show up, I'll have agreed to a pub local to me, so that I don't waste a lot of time.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
18 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Something I've just thought about.

I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away.

Noted

😂😂😂😂

Pester away "

If you insist

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Women get loads of messages so sending the same message 20+ times ensures yours is far more likely to be seen !

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By *eliWoman
18 weeks ago

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By *eliWoman
18 weeks ago

Don't get angry when someone doesn't want to see your dick pic. It doesn't make them suddenly unattractive/not poly.

Actually, don't send nudes out unless you're certain the other ones to see it. Far easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Go UNLOS before you get pulled in for good.

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By *for77Man
18 weeks ago

Adlington

"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.

How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel

Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”

Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen

Abso-freaking-lutely

brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

If she messages you first, RUN.

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By *EAT..85Woman
18 weeks ago

Nottingham

"If she messages you first, RUN. "

Really?!

I love being predator over prey.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"If she messages you first, RUN.

Really?!

I love being predator over prey. "

So.. I can’t eat you?

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Guys -

Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣

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By *EAT..85Woman
18 weeks ago

Nottingham

"If she messages you first, RUN.

Really?!

I love being predator over prey.

So.. I can’t eat you?"

Dammit. You've got me there

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By *ife NinjaMan
18 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Be respectful. Have some style. Listen. If messaging, and no response, don't turn into a raging nut job. This is meant to be fun 👍

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Guys -

Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣"
hgfdssdcbh

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Guys -

Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣 hgfdssdcbh "
i just typed that with my penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"If she messages you first, RUN.

Really?!

I love being predator over prey.

So.. I can’t eat you?

Dammit. You've got me there

How do you like to be … nvm nvm

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Guys -

Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣 hgfdssdcbh i just typed that with my penis. "

I’m surprised the keyboard survived

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Guys -

Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣 hgfdssdcbh i just typed that with my penis.

I’m surprised the keyboard survived

you’re such a flirt

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By *iaisonseekerMan
18 weeks ago

Liverpool

Main tips for blokes:

- Get circumcised

- Don't get circumcised

- Get a gym bod

- Get a dad bod

- Be well-hung

- Be averagely-hung

- Have dick pics

- Don't have dick pics

The blueprint is infallible.

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By *ase4122Man
18 weeks ago

Lancashire

Ask for their money back

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By *aveyougotmymarblesMan
18 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Delete your account and don't look back

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By *herrybakewellCouple
18 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Be yourself and not who you think others want you to be.

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By *ympho6969Woman
18 weeks ago

glasgow

Shouldn't have to say this. But no means no.

If I don't want to chat, or decide to end a chat, accept it. It's not a tactic for you to convince me. All that will do is convince me more never to be alone with you. It's not cute, or endearing, or sexy. It's crazy, it's manipulative and it's creepy

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By *riar BelisseWoman
18 weeks ago

Holibobs

Always send a clear recent face pic

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By *ark.aitkenMan
18 weeks ago

Newcastle

Run! Run now. As fast as you can. As far as you can......

Its more addictive than crack. Don't start. Not one single drop.

Remember Zammo?

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By *naVibeCouple
6 weeks ago

norwich

As newcomers, we find pressure quite off-putting. We understand that everyone is at different stages, but at this stage, slow and steady wins the race for us.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
6 weeks ago

West Suffolk

It’s hard to pick just one thing, so I’m gonna go with my top 2….

Read profiles fully

Don’t leave your profile blank, fill in later is not an appealing tagline and not having pics on display means people will just ask for them.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

Don’t expect the sex straight away this isn’t instashag

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
6 weeks ago

from mars

Always smell the milk before you drink it ….

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

"Always smell the milk before you drink it …."

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich

Always do the sniff test before going down on anybody.

Not going there is a lot less embarrassing for both than recoiling in horror.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich

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By *errybishop2Man
6 weeks ago

widnes

As a woman what would be the ideal message because I’ve tried pick up lines, I’ve tried making a joke, being nice being rude, I’ve tried it all and nothing works, I send a face pic every time and honestly I am an attractive man, but I’m not arrogant about it either

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Just shoot your shot

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By *sStephenPickleMan
6 weeks ago

Ends

French tips are my favourites. 💅🏾

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By *illybeachboyMan
6 weeks ago

Guernsey

Don't expect to be swamped with offers.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

"As a woman what would be the ideal message because I’ve tried pick up lines, I’ve tried making a joke, being nice being rude, I’ve tried it all and nothing works, I send a face pic every time and honestly I am an attractive man, but I’m not arrogant about it either "
maybe make your profile more interesting & add a profile pic no one takes no notice of a silhouette profile 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *errybishop2Man
6 weeks ago

widnes

Thankyou, I’ll get that done x

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

"Thankyou, I’ll get that done x"

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By *NormalMan01Man
6 weeks ago

Harrogate

The same tip that applies to the not so newbies in here…

People are odd and can be rude. Instant blocks after sending face pictures can be hurtful. Treat people how you’d like to be treated

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By *ewryswingerMan
6 weeks ago

newry

Don't get your hopes up, you'll just end up disappointed.

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By *ella_and_FellaCouple
6 weeks ago

Somewhere

Don't be a dick.

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By *r SensualMan
6 weeks ago

London

Women and couples: use the filter to block men and search for them yourselves if they’re who you’re looking for. Moaning about crap messages is futile when there’s tools to use to prevent getting them.

Men: Set your expectations VERY low in terms of responses to your messages. Combine going out to clubs, parties and socials with messaging if you want to meet people.

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By *ideshaft1971Man
6 weeks ago

Midlands

Just make sure you read profiles and ensure you make some effort in your messages and get to know people not just thier bodies

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By *egasus NobMan
6 weeks ago

Wandsworth

Go to club or social huge success rate online is low success rate

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By *and12Couple
6 weeks ago

flint

If your genuine get yourself to a fab social so people can meet you

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By *utterfly1983Woman
6 weeks ago

widnes

Take the time to put some information on your profile. Knowing a little about your wants/needs/desires could be key into seeing if someone will message..

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"Take the time to put some information on your profile. Knowing a little about your wants/needs/desires could be key into seeing if someone will message.. "

Agreed

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"Women and couples: use the filter to block men and search for them yourselves if they’re who you’re looking for. Moaning about crap messages is futile when there’s tools to use to prevent getting them.

Men: Set your expectations VERY low in terms of responses to your messages. Combine going out to clubs, parties and socials with messaging if you want to meet people. "

Great advice mate

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

Leave while you can.

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By *randMrsShebaCouple
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

I would tell single men not to put all their eggs in this basket and use other methods of meeting women.

I'd tell them if they have negative experiences or feel ignored that this website isn't a mark or you're true value offline.

So don't get upset about it because if women here aren't into you it's because of ratios rather than you personally.

It's not the best place to be a single man so don't take it to heart.

You would get more luck on dating sites or offline by joining things like community charity groups and martial arts.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
6 weeks ago

Stockton

"Something I've just thought about.

I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away. "

Put that your a lioness looking for your young prey! It works ... apparently 🤣🤷‍♀️

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By *layfullsamMan
6 weeks ago

Solihull

Do the opposite of what I’m doing because I’m in no position to give tips lol

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