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how long does it take for you before you feel comfortable meeting in person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
23 weeks ago

depends with me

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By *issmorganWoman
23 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

There isn't a set time for me, the answer is just till I am.

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By *atte Lover 82Man
23 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Would all depend on things such as distance as I'd need to plan and how we are getting along via messaging. Suppose it could also depend on what some expect from meeting in person. For me it would probably be a social a nice beverage of some kind of a walk and with no expectations of anything else.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
23 weeks ago

Glasgow

We once messaged a guy on a Friday and then drive from Glasgow to Manchester on Saturday to meet him 🫣☺️

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By *bitofaslutWoman
23 weeks ago

Cannock

If it's at a club, I'm already comfortable - and in my underwear

From messages, they'd have to prove they're actually into me, within reachable distance and we're on the same wavelength.

I'm very hard to convince though.

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By *andaloriansCouple
23 weeks ago

Malvern

We like to create a chat, so were on the same page and everyone feels involved, before moving to a social

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By *an8iMan
23 weeks ago

Bilston

I usually go to clubs and go with no expectations so if anything happens then it does and for private meets we've normally chatted for abit first

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By *oughmanMan
23 weeks ago

Sunderland

I don't think you can put a timer on it. It's going to depend on the person. But then what do I know.

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By *es not the MessiahMan
23 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

13.2 year's

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

All depends on the person I'm talking to and the vibe I get off them.

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By *ady_LindaTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

I avoid chats. They don't prove anything. We are hard wired to meet in my opinion.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
22 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Of course it depends on loads of variables including distance, availability, attraction etc. Also totally different circumstances in a club than online.

But if I'm interested in someone generally I prefer to meet sooner rather than later to guage if the chemistry is there in real life. But not the same day etc. I like a good chat first to build interest and chemistry. Just not six months down the line.

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By *im le2Man
21 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

Depends on what your after but we are after sex so why waste time chatting.

Look at the local updates most ppl want to meet NOW.

Hang on , I've got an erection and leaking precum can we meet next week I think it will last until then.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Depends. Probably a couple of days chatting.

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By *ulie.your. bottom. slutTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Near Glasgow


"13.2 year's "

Your slut

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By *bi HaiveMan
21 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Depends on what your after but we are after sex so why waste time chatting.

Look at the local updates most ppl want to meet NOW.

Hang on , I've got an erection and leaking precum can we meet next week I think it will last until then.

"

Not everyone wants to meet now. It does seem to be the preferred option particularly for men, but many people actually prefer to chat for a while first, maybe have a social coffee or drink and see if the online person is the same as in real life.

For some there never a rush. 🤷‍♂️

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By *eliWoman
21 weeks ago

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It takes me some time. I've never been one for clubs, NSA and similar. Leaves me almost painfully dry.

And I like a friendship. Then I realise I fancy them. I'd say probably at least a few months of sporadic talking? One of my favourite people from this site, it took us eight years (with a hefty gap) from first talking to finally blush at each other in real life.

I don't really do the whole meet someone and fuck on the same day thing either. Thank fuck Fab isn't just for swingers.

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By *ulie.your. bottom. slutTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Near Glasgow


"It takes me some time. I've never been one for clubs, NSA and similar. Leaves me almost painfully dry.

And I like a friendship. Then I realise I fancy them. I'd say probably at least a few months of sporadic talking? One of my favourite people from this site, it took us eight years (with a hefty gap) from first talking to finally blush at each other in real life.

I don't really do the whole meet someone and fuck on the same day thing either. Thank fuck Fab isn't just for swingers. "

People get married, have children, have an affair and get divorced. Then remarried in less time

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By *oughmanMan
21 weeks ago

Sunderland


"Depends on what your after but we are after sex so why waste time chatting.

Look at the local updates most ppl want to meet NOW.

Hang on , I've got an erection and leaking precum can we meet next week I think it will last until then.

Not everyone wants to meet now. It does seem to be the preferred option particularly for men, but many people actually prefer to chat for a while first, maybe have a social coffee or drink and see if the online person is the same as in real life.

For some there never a rush. 🤷‍♂️"

I have to agree with this 👆. I'm a nervous person as is, so I can do without immediate pressure most of the time. I don't feel the need to rush and not know what I'm walking into.

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By *ee69Man
21 weeks ago

glasgow

Depends on who person is and how u chat a prefer to meet even just for a chat , sooner rather than later if time allows it’s so much easier to see how u get on in person, obviously public place etc

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think everyone is going to reply with some version of 'depends'

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By *acchus LyaeosMan
21 weeks ago

London

I'd be happy to meet pretty soon (within a few days) for a social, given that the person seems interesting enough that we could actually have a conversation.

If it turns out we're not compatible, it's not much of a loss and it saves having to go through a 'talking phase'.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
21 weeks ago

Reading

It depends on the person. I've met next day after first chatting. Usually several days-several weeks. Sometimes things go on for months before schedules align. I don't always love it when things go on for a long time especially if you get into that making small talk to force the conversation going. That makes me cringe and I lose all excitement for meeting.

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